Yadoctora:
Trying not to generalise. But you'd agree with me that this seems like it in the typical/traditional Nigerian setting.

TooNoisy:


Another polimonikering whoore of babyosisi. Bloody imbeciles. I know who you really are and I will soon expose you. Bloody person. Why don't you reveal who you are are? Biatch!

SirShymexx:


Well, keep ad hominems away from me next time. Not cocky, but I lead my life as an original black man, and I don't pander to no one's ego, like the emasculated lot.

Anyway, I explained that in my first post...and alluded to the fact that whatever image you have in ya head must be a depiction of ya background. Never in history have black men been an appendage to black women.

Also, Nigerian homes of modern times are the way they're due to the excessive westernisation/bastardisation of a lot of values - and that started during the colonial era. Ditto the innate barbaric violence and savagely behavioural patterns a lot of folks exhibit these days. Yes, there were a few primitive tribes in Africa who probably existed the way ya picture is. However, traditional African (Nigerian) families were never like that. At least I can speak for my own ethnic group and how women have always been put on a pedestal, adored, celebrated, catered to, provided for, and protected.

Perhaps, when folks start taking time out to read/learn their own history/values - and how they should lead their lives to represent who they're - things might get better. Till then, leave the black man alone. The black man has more than enough to deal with already.

babyosisi:


Anyone who has an issue discussing this picture is someone who came from that sort of family and a discussion of it perhaps is a reminder of the pains of their childhood with a lazy father.I wonder the reason why a bare naked truth would hurt anyone's feelings.
Efulefu drunkards that will beat up the women and collect the proceeds from her labour plenty for Awa kontri,no doubt abourrit.
That picture is a common one in Nigeria and here in America, no denying that it is not uncommon to see Nigerian households where the woman is the main breadwinner.Many Nigerian nurses in the USA earn more than their husbands and work harder too.There are many who have their regular jobs and run or work for agencies on the side,some run group homes and get their husbands to work for them..There are Nigerian women who are proprietors of day care centers and restaurants and are the major or sole breadwinners.
I have a friend that gave her husband an ultimatum to either get a job or ship out after he sent 5k of her hard labor to his family in Ijebuode for Christmas as per big boy.She couldn't support his lazy behind any longer and read him the riot act.The man eventually went to nursing school at her insistence and is now pulling his weight.
Many women take on roles they shouldn't out of "love" and become superwoman while she is working her fingers to the bone,he is watching TV and eating goat meat.
So nne that picture is on point.

aderonila18:
By Nigerian standards Good wife = Sufferhead/ Mumu

Don't forget to add to your list that she's expected to pack condoms in his suitcase when he is traveling and then do fasting and prayer against those jezebels tempting her first child since the Nigerian man is never to be held accountable for his actions When she catches him cheating she must give him more sex, cook his favorite meals, make herself look pretty and never dare to nag him

She should submit her salary to him and even if she earns more and contributes largely financially she's never to ask questions about how and what he intends to spend the household money on otherwise she will be labelled an evil woman who arrogant because she has money

Everyone loves a Mugu, who wouldn't like a "good Nigerian wife"

Yadoctora:


Are women not expected to pamper their husbands?
cook his food, wash his clothes, clean after him.

In fact, some people call their husbands 'big babies'
He is their first child.

SirShymexx:
Lol.

That looks like ya family portrait, and an isolated case, only peculiar to ya family. Not shocking to know that also influenced ya thought process. However, I've got news for you: everyone else was raised differently.

Real images of the traditional African family and good wives right here;

Idowuogbo:

Yes my oga is my big baby and my first child. you have a problem with that? See me see something ke....Oshisko of the highest order.

Yadoctora:


The op depicts your life. Why would that be a problem? You just added credence to the whole story.

Idowuogbo:

Oh plueasee! That's you up there,mate. Internet warriors like yourself only speak up online and act like y'all run shyte in your households but we all know y'all are single mothers producing men haters.

slimyem:
Why does anyone have a problem with the original picture.It's not like it is too far from the truth. That's what our men of today expect a wife should be. A do-it-all woman.Gender equality proponents have also not made the struggle any better IMO.
It is left for every woman to know her limits and know when to say it's just enough.

Yadoctora:


Ojo lo ko eyele po mo adiye. Internet troll lasan lasan.

Why should I care about your depiction of whom I am? O mo eni to n ba soro.

You've been better dignified than your mates.
Now sun segbe ki awon eyan to gidi raye comment.

*ignored henceforth*

Idowuogbo:
catering to my man automatically means I do it all and he does nada? I can see you have defo chosen stupidity as your talent.

Idowuogbo:

Oh plueasee! That's you up there,mate. Internet warriors like yourself only speak up online and act like y'all run shyte in your households but we all know y'all are single mothers producing men haters

SirShymexx:

At least I can speak for my own ethnic group and how women have always been put on a pedestal, adored, celebrated, catered to, provided for, and protected.

freecocoa:
Just wow! Very soon no thread will be left in the family section as you people will succeed in getting them all locked.

Unu Weldone.

Ewuro4:


Ndoo cocoa.. Some thread shouldn't be left alone to thrive on this section.

So so so sorry.

Ewuro4:


Nigba ti olori nyan kadara.... Ohun shoshi kiri bi eran ishewo... I wonder why she's seeking online validation for the picture?

Oh well, misery loves company I guess.

DollyParton1:

never knew a day like this would come......

Chillis:
Wow. Perfect description !

Suffer heads.

See the ogogoro man face sef.

lolababe331e:
They love suffering and smiling jare, anything to be called a good woman. At the end of the day that is why most of the hem end up looking old and haggard a lot of Nigerian women look like their husbands mother after they have suffered themselves finished and they look like fossils the men will start chasing young girls and justify it that she has let herself go

bamidele029:
Unfortunately the picture is very reflective of our society

I think some people have gotten the OP wrong or maybe they just want to pick a fight Clearly there is nothing wrong with a woman pampering her husband and vice versa but what is in that picture is slavery in a good marriage the man will be walking beside his wife helping her carrying the load or maybe one of the kids instead of adding to her burden by being a child she has to also cater to.

Yadoctora:

That is easy for me to do. Btw, u started it by referring to my family even when you know nothing about whom I am and where I am from.


Now I see that the problem lies in your perception of the picture which is quite different from mine. I am a Yoruba girl. Traditionally, the man is seen as the head of the home. That he is the head makes every other person cater for him and do his bidding. Watch Nollywood traditional movies and see how a man is fed. He sits as the wife kneels to serve his food, gives him water to wash his hands, watches him eat while even keeping the children away. When satisfied, she cleans up. She takes care of the children as well and is expected to have a trade at least. That is how I see this picture. It depicts a big baby, who should be tenderly taken care of.


But are these women expected to cook, wash and clean after their husbands? If husband's mother comes visiting and finds her son cooking, what would her reaction be in a traditional setting?


I know many black men. I spent most of my time in Africa. Our men are awesome but many need to change their attitude towards gender roles.