I heard Nigerian men rarely help their ex wives especially when he married again
because his new wife will be jealous

My father still takes care of my mother even tho they have been divorced like for ever
at the moment, my mother is helping my father do one of his site business in another state

pple always praise my father
and say what hes doing is rare

even tho he married again

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Am here to learn

okay, thanks for the added information after your question
very educative

[s]I send money to my broke Ex boyfriend once in a while, I feel indebted sort of cos he was nice but I still broke up with him.[/s]

Onila hope this adds value to your thread

firstEVA:
I send money to my broke Ex boyfriend once in a while, I feel indebted sort of cos he was nice but I still broke up with him.

Onila hope this adds value to your thread

Confirm mbeke girl.

Allureoftheseas:



Confirm mbeke girl.

believe the story at your own risk, mgbeke boy

I don't see anything wrong with giving a helping hand when it is needed and this is irrespective of the person in need. I will gladly render any assistance I can offer if she needs it and come to think about it, it takes alot of courage and humility for an ex to come back to you asking for help. If you don't help, what are you?

Your case is an exception. So yes it's true, they rarely help their exes.

Besides,
Licking your own vomit is not an easy pill to swallow esp in Nigerian society, the man is already moved on and the woman, bitter and angry for the most part. And the concubines ? Another drama chapter entirely

But yes for the sake of the kids, you gotta do what you gotta do. it's alright I guess. Things are changing.

My Caucasian friend have shared custody with her ex , even though she hates his guts and cusses him out every now & then . they are in good terms and always on same page when it comes to their kids.

This is actually a good topic to discuss OP.

Onila he's only doing what the law would require him to do if it were a working system.
Are you guys not kids afterall?

cococandy:
Onila he's only doing what the law would require him to do if it were a working system.
Are you guys not kids afterall?

in Nigeria

nothing like child support
nothing like divorce settlement in Naija

I know many Nigerian women who are stranded because of this
they have no choice to stand by their feet without their husband
despite being married to a rich man before

its sad, something has to be done

yeah
women should stop f..king depending on the man to foot all the bills
shey the woman no go school nii?
her certificate na for decoration
she no get business sense nii?
make she start up a business
because she born pikin for the man and then they divorce mean say the man go turn father christmas on top her matter?
if she no fit train the kid/s make she hand am over to the man
case closed

henribj:
yeah
women should stop f..king depending on the man to foot all the bills
shey the woman no go school nii?
her certificate na for decoration
she no get business sense nii?
make she start up a business
because she born pikin for the man and then they divorce mean say the man go turn father christmas on top her matter?
if she no fit train the kid/s make she hand am over to the man
case closed

will you give her divorce settlement
or dump her without nothing, like most Nigerian men

onila:


will you give her divorce settlement
or dump her without nothing, like most Nigerian men

would you advise i give her divorce settlement if she is guilty and her actions are the reason for the divorce?

henribj:


would you advise i give her divorce settlement if she is guilty and her actions are the reason for the divorce?

Seconded. He should just support his kids. He owes his ex wife nothing!

onila:

I heard Nigerian men rarely help their ex wives especially when he married again
because his new wife will be jealous

My father still takes care of my mother even tho they have been divorced like for ever
at the moment, my mother is helping my father do one of his site business in another state

pple always praise my father
and say what hes doing is rare

even tho he married again

he helps your mother because of you & your siblings. even though they are separated, he would always be involved in what would benefit you & his other kids with your mother.


he's doing what every sensible father does - i don't think it's rare.

We are talking about supporting your kids and you're saying spending on the man.
Depending on him for what?
To take care of his kids?
Is he doing the woman a favor by helping to provide for the kids they birthed equally?

henribj:
yeah
women should stop f..king depending on the man to foot all the bills
shey the woman no go school nii?
her certificate na for decoration
she no get business sense nii?
make she start up a business
because she born pikin for the man and then they divorce mean say the man go turn father christmas on top her matter?
if she no fit train the kid/s make she hand am over to the man
case closed

cococandy:
We are talking about supporting your kids and you're saying spending on the man.
Depending on him for what?
To take care of his kids?
Is he doing the woman a favor by helping to provide for the kids they birthed equally?

I think you're getting it wrong.

OP isn't talking about child support but providing for the woman personal needs after separation ( Alimony)

Read the OP again.

#Deadbeats only ignore their kids wellbeing after divorce. Nigerian men are in minority.

ireneidiva:

Seconded. He should just support his kids. He owes his ex wife nothing!

thank you ja re
na wa o, so if na say the woman use love portion hold me for work, and my eyes come clear later on after which i decide to divorce am, make i still give am divorce settlement join? no nah, that one mean say i dey encourage am for job well done, the love portion never clear completely for my eyes be that.

cococandy:
We are talking about supporting your kids and you're saying spending on the man.
Depending on him for what?
To take care of his kids?
Is he doing the woman a favor by helping to provide for the kids they birthed equally?

please calm down, its too early in the morning to get worked up
yeah sure i will support and provide for my kids
but what i will not tolerate is for the ex wife to sit back, fold her arms, cross her legs, and just be depending on me cos of say she born pikin for me
na im be say she just chook pipe/hose for my a..hole and just dey suck out all my brain matter

henribj:


please calm down, its too early in the morning to get worked up
yeah sure i will support and provide for my kids
but what i will not tolerate is for the ex wife to sit back, fold her arms, cross her legs, and just be depending on me cos of say she born pikin for me
na im be say she just chook pipe/hose for my a..hole and just dey suck out all my brain matter

My mother is doing a manz job @ the moment
shes sand filling a whole river

shes the only woman on that site, standing under hot sun everyday
she is not siting down chopping money

My father wld never give his current wife that kind of job

onila:


My mother is doing a manz job @ the moment
shes sand filling a whole river

shes the only woman on that site, standing under hot sun everyday
she is not siting down chopping money

My father wld never give his current wife that kind of job

hold on a minute lemme understand your comment
are you saying your mom is supervising the site?
or your mom is a laborer at the site?

henribj:


hold on a minute lemme understand your comment
are you saying your mom is supervising the site?
or your mom is a laborer at the site?

supervising lol

henribj:


please calm down, its too early in the morning to get worked up
yeah sure i will support and provide for my kids
but what i will not tolerate is for the ex wife to sit back, fold her arms, cross her legs, and just be depending on me cos of say she born pikin for me
na im be say she just chook pipe/hose for my a..hole and just dey suck out all my brain matter

I'm very calm mister.

onila:
supervising lol

does your dad not pay your mom for the supervising job?
besides he no fit use him current wife run this package nah
a lot of 9ja men don't want their wife knowing the amount/quantity of assets they own

cococandy:


I'm very calm mister.

alright young lady
now your calm, what was your question again?

Ok

Ewuro4:


I think you're getting it wrong.

OP isn't talking about child support but providing for the woman personal needs after separation ( Alimony)

Read the OP again.

#Deadbeats only ignore their kids wellbeing after divorce. Nigerian men are in minority.

henribj:


alright young lady
now your calm, what was your question again?

No question

henribj:


would you advise i give her divorce settlement if she is guilty and her actions are the reason for the divorce?

you have too

thats how it shld be

u Nigerian men can get away with child support, divorce settlement in Naija

abroad, its a must whether shes guilty or not

cococandy:


No question

were you able to get a conclusive line on the spirit world thingy?
am a bit curious about it as well

onila:
you have too

thats how it shld be

u Nigerian men can get away with child support, divorce settlement in Naija

abroad, its a must whether shes guilty or not

if i hear say a guilty woman for abroad will get away with divorce settlement
are you telling me that if my wife cheats on me, and i am able to provide conclusive evidence of her cheating/adultery, that the court will go ahead to ask me to provide her divorce settlement?
that is impossicant

henribj:


does your dad not pay your mom for the supervising job?
besides he no fit use him current wife run this package nah
a lot of 9ja men don't want their wife knowing the amount/quantity of assets they own

his wife knows his assets naa, igbo woman cant dull like that
my step mother is igbo

my mother gives him all the money, she gets from the job
my father gives her enough chopping money already

my father is happy, he can finally do business with someone who wldnt cheat him
when my father does business with pple, they usually dupe him
he has suffered for years

my mother started working for my father of recent, for like 4 years now
before she was doing nothing but he still took care of her

if my mother shld eventually cheat on him, at least the money enter his children hand
so its not that bad
it stays in my family

but I know, she wldnt do that
she loves him and will want his business to do well

henribj:


were you able to get a conclusive line on the spirit world thingy?
am a bit curious about it as well

Not at all.
You know how it is.
All conjecture no proof.