Being in a relationship isn’t easy, but
healthy couples know how to take the ups
and downs; how to weather the storm.
Learn from the experts, with these ten
ways to keep your relationship happy and
healthy. (And yes, you should be having
s*x every day!)
1. COMMUNICATE OPENLY
Research shows that communication style
is more important than commitment
levels, personality traits or stress in
predicting which couples will stay happy.
Healthy couples don’t avoid conflict, but
they do know how to keep the lines of
communication open. Happy couples know
that the best conversations happen
without the distraction of phones, tablets
and laptops.
2. DON’T FORGET THE SMALL THINGS
Saying please and thank you shouldn’t be
reserved for the company. Manners are
important – even with the person you’ve
been with for 20 years. Extend the same
respect to your spouse as you would to a
visiting guest. Say please and thank you,
make polite conversation and why not
offer your partner a drink? A few manners
and niceties will go a long way to
maintaining a culture of mutual respect.
3. EXERCISE TOGETHER
Studies show that couples who exercise
together are not only healthier, but more
satisfied with their marriage. Psychology
Today cites several studies that report
that the symptoms of physiological arousal
(the type of high you get from exercise)
mimic the effects of s*xual and romantic
arousal. If you work out together, you will
feel s*xy, and in love!
4. GO ON VACATION
A couple’s retreat can be energizing for a
relationship, but so can traveling
separately! Many happy, healthy couples
take their own short vacations, or have
regular trips away with a social group.
Being alone, meeting new friends, or
enjoying adventures without your partner
can be very empowering. Ultimately, you
will return to your partner energized,
enthusiastic- and more in love than ever.
5. LAUGH
Laughter relaxes the whole body, boosts
the immune system and releases
endorphins. Laughter expert, Lesley Lyle,
author of the book Laugh Your Way To
Happiness, says that smiling and laughing
will make you feel better -even if it is
forced! So, even if you and your loved one
are both having a hard day, try smiling
and laughing for no reason at all. The
physical act of laughing will make you
happier and healthier.
6. EAT TOGETHER
Families that eat together, stay together.
The supper table is a place for couples and
their family members to connect and to
receive nourishment – both physical and
spiritual. Eating healthy food together at a
table will not only encourage good family
nutrition, but provides a regular, sacred
space for conversation and laughter.
7. HAVE S*X EVERY DAY
Having s*x every day removes the anxiety
that some couples feel when it comes time
to “perform”. In his book, How One Couple
Turned Off the TV and Turned On Their
Sex Lives for 101 Days (No Excuses!),
author Douglas Brown claims that having
s*x every day not only reduced this
tension, but brought him and his wife
closer together, after 14 years of
marriage. Plus, s*x itself can lower blood
pressure, improve sleep, reduce stress
and even prevent prostate cancer!
Couples who have s*x every day, claim
that it not only strengthens their
relationship, but improves their health.
8. SWITCH ROLES ONCE IN A WHILE
Boredom and routine can make a
relationship stagnant. If hubby always
drives, why not switch it up next week, so
she can take the wheel? Or if she always
cooks, why not suggest a few meals
prepared by him? Switching roles will not
only mix things up a little- it may make
you appreciate things from your partner’s
perspective. It goes without saying that
switching roles in the bedroom can spice
up a relationship. If your partner usually
initiates s*x, maybe it’s your turn!
9. NEVER GO TO BED ANGRY (BUT DO
SLEEP ON AN ARGUMENT)
There is an old saying, “never go to bed
angry”. But is half-past midnight really the
time to discuss a problem? If you have a
disagreement in the evening, do not
discuss things if you are both tired. Set a
time to talk the following day, say
goodnight, and sleep on it. Things will be
much clearer in the morning.
10. BE TOLERANT OF PHYSICAL
CHANGE
As your partner and you grow old
together, you will both mature and change
– and because you have grown so
comfortable together, you may be quick to
point out flaws in each other. But, if you
want your happy relationship to last, you
should never mention the the stretch
marks, the beer belly or the bald spot! No
matter how old and wrinkly you both get,
the answer to “How do I look?” is always:
“You look beautiful (and I love you)”.

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Luvly post op. Dis post should b meant strictly 4 d married folks. Wil keep these points in mind 4 d future. Tnx op

Great!