SmartFaces:
I got a call from my mum this morning informing of the death of my aunt's adopted son who ran out of the house for one month now.

Many years back, before i was, my aunt's had two biological kids, a boy and a girl. Unfortunately the boy died in his school leaving behind his sisters. That incident affected my aunt that she could no longer bear children which made her resolved to adoption. On the count, they has adopted 3kids all boys.

When they made the first move, family members objected saying no one knows what blood runs in them and all that so the child doesn't grow up and starts giving you headache. The second and the last had been good boys, exception of the fist that has been trouble in one way or the other.

A month ago, the first of 22years of age ran out of the house to an unknown destination, reports has been placed in different police stations and the motherless home where he was adopted just for a team of police investigator to call in two days ago from one of the southern states, saying they found his corpse somewhere there.

The whole thing has badly affected my aunt that she is loosing her mind to a point of insanity.

While lots of people are sympathizing with us, other are in a way blaming us for adopting a children from an orphanage home. A man even said it clearly that "adopted kids always bring shame, disgrace and pains to the home go into because they have bad blood running in them"

Even though i have not had any encounter with anybody adopted because most times they don't know they were adopted, but my experience with one of my adopted cousins is forcing me to believe what that man said.

Secondly, even though the other two are younger now, we fear when they start growing older, they might just cause us another pain... but
God forbid. My hearts is really heavy... What do you think about adopted kids or individuals

Caracta:
Adoption is not bad. So unfortunate your aunt had a bad experience. So sad. The boy needed help. There is no bad child, something triggers bad events.

I would adopt 100 times over if I had the chance.

dont8:
I so much love this your comment, I've never for one day regretted e-knowing you, all a kid needs sometime is love which is usually absent in their life. Show a child love and see him/her blossom.

Btw, how have you been?

@OP, it's unfortunate your aunt has to pass through all this tragic events, God will console her but I must add, nothing is wrong with adoption, cheers.

crackhaus:
A child running away has nothing to do with him/her being adopted, some biological children run away too.

cococandy:
Adoption is a good thing. It helps provide homes for homeless kids.
Any child can misbehave

Daresh:


You sound uneducated. Dont our own kids drive us crazy? You must think you are special because you know your parents so you think there is something wrong with adopted kids. Do they have two heads?

Steve Jobs was adopted, Bill Clinton was adopted you were not what special thing have you done?

dont8:
I so much love this your comment, I've never for one day regretted e-knowing you, all a kid needs sometime is love which is usually absent in their life. Show a child love and see him/her blossom.

Btw, how have you been?

@OP, it's unfortunate your aunt has to pass through all this tragic events, God will console her but I must add, nothing is wrong with adoption, cheers.

Daresh:


You sound uneducated. Dont our own kids drive us crazy? You must think you are special because you know your parents so you think there is something wrong with adopted kids. Do they have two heads?

Steve Jobs was adopted, Bill Clinton was adopted you were not what special thing have you done?

Caracta:


Fine. Haven't been seeing you around lately. You good?

SmartFaces:


Thanks dear, kids whether adopted or biological needs love.

Hope you doing great?

TheSonOfMark:



You obviously seem pained by the posts assertion. It opened up old wounds, didn't it?

STOP DIRECTING YOUR FRUSTRATIONS AT PEOPLE WHO AREN'T RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR PREDICAMENT.

SmartFaces:


You have a point and i also know that Bill was adopted too but in cases like this one maybe pushed to have negative thoughts about the whole thing. Hope you are good?

Daresh:


You sound uneducated. Dont our own kids drive us crazy? You must think you are special because you know your parents so you think there is something wrong with adopted kids. Do they have two heads?

Steve Jobs was adopted, Bill Clinton was adopted you were not what special thing have you done?

Daresh:


Look raising kids is a giant gamble. Its God who raises them and we pray everyday that our kids, biological or adopted turn out right. I have 2 biological kids and I pray one day to adopt another one and bring hope into someone else's life. And I'm good thank you. You?

KanwuliaJara:
Only if it a very UGLY one!

Ewuro4:


OP almost drove me into tears reading those harsh words... Ignorance is an incorrigible mental disability. So not worth fighting over..
It is well.

SmartFaces:


Lol!!! you are not serious. so if it is ugly, you won't adopt it? what if it's fine but gives you hell of problems, what will you do?

You are funny Allah. Good morning.

Raymie:
Let's not be too harsh on the OP. She's expressing her fears in the light of the circumstance befalling her at the moment. @OP, a bad child is a bad child, adopted or not. So do not (and advise yhur family not to as well) look at the other two boys with too much circumspect, else they may become detached. Its haunting for them as they are already. I'm an advocate for adoption cause IMHO 1adopted child = 1 chance of better living= 1 less burden/menace to society.

EnlightenedSoul:
"adopted kids always bring shame, disgrace and pains to the home go into because they have bad blood running in them"

The man who said that had complete control over the fact that he had [a] fortunate/responsible parent(s), I'm sure.

zeb04:
Adoption isn't a bad idea.
It is a way of helping humanity also I don't believe in superstition although sceientifically,I know many things are inscripted into a child dna through birth but I firmly believe,Nuture trumps Nature.

Will I adopt ....Yes

KanwuliaJara:


You wan me to use my money to purchase WORWORITY?
Tufiakwa ooooooooh!