bukatyne:


It will depend on the degree of not getting along.

KanwuliaJara:


Na only me WAKA KAM?
I don't see any WAHALA here o!
The mother-in-law should be BANNED for eternity from the house!
I can NEVER side ANY MIL against any DIL!

Case dismissed!

babyosisi:


You are speaking grammar
The man is now single
It will now be someone else's wahala


Damned if you dump a disastrous MIL waiting to happen,damned if you don't

babyosisi:


Do you realize this OP is not as mad as this
He's not even mad
He could actually be incubating his wife this very second and sowing a male seed

moca:
@crackhaus, listen.
Some mothers in law have actually told their daughters in law that"u are not the one I want my son to marry on her first visit".

If u take a poll here and post on front page, u will be so shocked.

My nebor presently for 6yrs of marriage,mil hates her b4 seeing her.
Reason,she had wanted her son to marry her friends daughter.
The wife has tried and tried.
Told her not to come to her place.
First kid,mama didn't show,2nd kid,d same thing. She made all the other siblings hate the lady.
D good new was that d son is well made. Wife and her people are loaded. So the family has to depend on d son somehow.
Now,some family members are turning around.

Marriage has many faces. Judge each one independent of others.

Sophyrocks:


A grown a$$ man who has gotten to the age where he should have goals, dreams, plans to execute, on how to run his fiances has no business making his mother his financial advisor/manager. Such a man needs a lot of growing up to do and should stay away from marriage till he is an ADULT psychologically. If you need a financial manager since you are not good with money, it must not be your mother.

bukatyne:


Please don't be

If they do not get along, she should seat her butt in her home till the issues are resolved.

You want to compare her son coming to the home he grew up in to Mama visiting the son and wife in his home? Please please

My mother is like a MIL to my cousin's wife because my aunt is dead and she 'handed' over her kids to my mum.

Just see my cousin as my brother if it helps.

freecocoa:
The story only said, they don't get along, it didn't say MIL has been harassing DIL, how does taking pics of her granchild make her controlling?

I go take things from my family without asking but letting them know I took it, all the time, yet we've never had to fight because of this.

Why can't I compare it with your mum? Haven't you had altercations with your mum before? Has she ever tried to hit you? Has she ever insisted she was right even when you feel it in your guts that you are the one who's right? What will you do in this instance?

If you think you shouldn't love your MIL like you would your mother, then ignore my post.

babyosisi:


We don't know that
We only know this is the first time she fought back

donedy:


You just went all over the places just to give an answer to a simple place. Why would he hire a financial manager, while he thinks his mother is a much better, professional financial manager for the job.

Just accept that you made the statement without thinking most into it. I have a co-worker whose mother is his financial manager. Why? This is because his mother is a highly regarded financial advisor at Chase bank.

Shollypopzz:
Well, I also believe the DIL shouldn't have retaliated by getting into a physical fight with her MIL.

Not because she respects her MIL, but because she respects herself. At the end of the day, the DIL appears like an agbero.

On a serious note, what grown woman physically fights with anyone? So immature, and so animalistic.

The op needs to tell us why his wife wouldn't give his mother those pictures. I know my mum wouldn't, I just don't know if the op's wife denied her MIL those pictures for the same reasons my mum would.

justwise:


When you talked about my mum...you are talking about blood, somebody who carried me for 9 months and brought me up, it's never the same as MIL and DIL relationship, the bound is never the same.
Yes slapping her because she refused to give her the picture is a sign of a control freak. They are not best friends before so she knew exactly what she is doing.

BABE3:


I was going to add that. You beat me to it.

All these drama between in-laws and wives can be avoided. I dunno how people gather strength to constantly deal with bad in-laws. Stay away from them in the first place; especially if the husband is #teamMum or #I'mNeutral.

I mean, there are too many families available to settle for a hostile one.

But some people love drama though. They love the constant power struggle.

freecocoa:
If there had been any hitting before, the OP won't be this confused and would have mentioned it.

crackhaus:

If I replaced 'cvnt' with 'women', would that be better?
Okay edited, because you protest

But of course that will still leave us with local, toutish, disrespectful, and dumb...
Glad to know you have no problem with these words, because that's exactly what the behaviour of both women portray.

babyosisi:


That's not true
He has carefully,like a good son chosen not to cast his mom in a bad light
He summarized precious effects by by telling us they didn't get along
That statement is pregnant with twins
I wish he could talk more but then I understand why he wouldn't
After does his mom and he loves her

freecocoa:
So you are basically saying that, MIL and DIL not getting along means, somethingg's wrong with MIL? DIL can't be the reason why they don't get along?

bestestgirl:

I like to visualize such scenarios na, and that was how this particular one played out in my head

babyosisi:


The OP needs to shed more light on the previous issues between his wife and mother
No love lost is what he called it,my suspicion is that his wife has seen pepper at the hands of his mother

Chillis:


still doesnt sound right, you know why?
Because if you said it in OPs presence, you may have some missing teeth before you could finish speaking.
Disrespectful could serve in this.

change is here

freecocoa:
Now I see why you are sounding this way, if you can't take the woman who contributed to the DNA of your wife and children like your mum, you will never be able to give her the respect she deserves.

Shollypopzz:


My late paternal grandma gave my mother hell because she had all girls. I don't enjoy typing long stories, so I would leave it at that.

I know for a fact my mom would never give our pictures to anybody from my father's side. Why do want the pictures of children you never accepted? I strongly believe the wife has a legitimate reason for denying her MIL those pictures.

babyosisi:


I am talking about this event
You always come up with this always and never stories and scenarios of woulda coulda shoulda
Don't take me there
Focus on this very one,that's where we are

Shollypopzz:


My late paternal grandma gave my mother hell because she had all girls. I don't enjoy typing long stories, so I would leave it at that.

I know for a fact my mom would never give our pictures to anybody from my father's side. Why do want the pictures of children you never accepted? I strongly believe the wife has a legitimate reason for denying her MIL those pictures.

bukatyne:


It will depend on the degree of not getting along.

justwise:


She will get one when she earned it, people deserve respect they earned. Hitting your DIL is hardly the best way to go about it.

crackhaus:
I don't understand why a woman would even get married to a man whose mother she doesn't get along with, I mean the first person a woman should become close to in her prospective husband's family should be his mother - they should bond and relate well with each other during the courting period.

This is what happens when women rush into marriage for some silly materialistic & vain reason without first knowing and bonding with the prospective husband's family, especially the mother.
Once a woman is able to win over her intended MIL and relate with her like her own biological mother before the wedding, it would take a really big fvck up to make that MIL turn against her later.


Both mother and wife deserve each other, bunch of local toutish disrespectful dumb women with no self-respect whatsoever.
Fighting over pictures, who does that...

Shollypopzz:


My late paternal grandma gave my mother hell because she had all girls. I don't enjoy typing long stories, so I would leave it at that.

freecocoa:
You keep missing the point, who doesn't know that hitting a DIL is not the way to go? The issue is, what do you do if you are hit?

freecocoa:
You keep missing the point, who doesn't know that hitting a DIL is not the way to go? The issue is, what do you do if you are hit?

Shollypopzz:


My late paternal grandma gave my mother hell because she had all girls. I don't enjoy typing long stories, so I would leave it at that.

I know for a fact my mom would never give our pictures to anybody from my father's side. Why do want the pictures of children you never accepted? I strongly believe the wife has a legitimate reason for denying her MIL those pictures.