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Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 12:37am On Mar 29, 2015
Vyolet:
I do not believe anyone was born gay. You are what you feel you are.

The good thing is,you have a sense of guilt already,just try and mingle more with women. Pick one from the numerous around you,study her and get involved with her sexually if she is willing. You will get used to it with time.
being gay doesn't start one-day... if u dnt blieve its from birth, then make some researches...

sex can't solve it, just 5minutes pleasure.... @op if u don't like it again, i suggest u meet a pastor....

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Re: Gay And Depressed. by Kentrasso(f): 12:38am On Mar 29, 2015
alberto2k:
Taa! Goan cut that your abuna! angry

Or what other help do u need?

Oh oh.... sorry, you need a knife? undecided
idiat!

Nigerian mentality. So barbaric

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Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 12:39am On Mar 29, 2015
Depressedguy I just rejoined Nairaland, right now, because of you smiley.

so..How to advice fellow gay guy without sounding like a terrible snob:

1) Focus on his story and how cliche it is. Stress that it is only your opinion that the story is the usual attention seeking depression narrative, so that everyone realizes that you do not appreciate self loathing closet gays, and that this is your fault only.

2) Explain (gently and calmly) that being gay is not a sufficient reason to be depressed, and it is very irritating to happy, non-self loathing gay men to see their sexuality being used as a reason to be depressed.

3) Also, mention valid reasons people have to be depressed: Death of loved ones, unfair persecution, loss of life's savings, death of an expected child et al. Crack joke about the successful 26 year old banker that is depressed while the female beggar on the street I tip once in a while has things to laugh about, and hope he doesn't hate me for it.

4) Do not criticize the budding narcissism seen in the story because you are not in a position to understand how a guy who regrets being gay and says he has everything he needs to get women, including demigod looks, cannot see the irony in his own words.

5) Do not say that his desperate attempt to change his REAL self in boarding school due to RIDICULE and PEER PRESSURE was very sad to read indeed.

6) However, do say that maybe he needs to accept who he is before he makes any further decisions, and share with him the words of Rita Mae Brown.

“I think the reward for conformity is that everyone likes you except yourself.”
― Rita Mae Brown

From a very happy, non-loathing, God Loving gay bro wink

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Re: Gay And Depressed. by ikombe: 12:39am On Mar 29, 2015
first of all

Ramsey noah aint cute angry

















solution to ya probss















watch more oral bf grin
Re: Gay And Depressed. by repogirl(f): 12:39am On Mar 29, 2015
Depressedguy:



Wow, the best advice so far. Thanks bro
I suppose it would be the best advice to you because he told you lies!


nobilis:
OP, first and foremost, thanks for being so frank. Very few people can summon such courage.

Being gay is not evil. Yes. You read me right. Being gay is not evil. Even the bible never condemned being gay. What the bible talked about was having sex with someone of the same gender. But that will be talk for another day.

Secondly, you have prayed and prayed and nothing seems to work. Does it mean God doesn't answer your prayers? No. It means that there is nothing wrong with you.

yeah right! OP there is something most definitely wrong.... I am not here to judge or insult but to tell you the truth and not lies. You were right in saying homosexuality is just like any other sin out there, and like any other sin you have got to rise above it. It is a temptation that you have got to rise above and not give into it because it is wrong. I never saw anywhere in the bible where it was okay to have relations with the same sex except for SODOMY and Gomorrah and we all know how that ended.

Sorry about your depression but a lot of us get depressed by a lot of issues in our lives, I pray about my issues, and I am thankful whether there is an answer from God or not (there usually is though) and finally, I man up and face life. It's good you still have your conscience, some have thrown there's aside and bought the lies in order to make themselves feel better.

Keep praying and do what you know is right, man up and give not into temptation!
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Kentrasso(f): 12:40am On Mar 29, 2015
Guy I feel your pain.
But there is nothing God cannot do. Pray and sincerely ask for God's help.
Secondly I don't believe you can't change. If you make up your mind about liking girls it will happen
Re: Gay And Depressed. by XBLadez: 12:40am On Mar 29, 2015
Op, force yourself to have a gf even though it irritates you. And stop eyeing men's assholes! It's wrong!
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 12:41am On Mar 29, 2015
missclasssy:


Your write -up brought me to tears, really!
why??

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Re: Gay And Depressed. by Raymie(m): 12:44am On Mar 29, 2015
@OP, are yhu Catholic, if yes, become a priest. If no, become one and become a priest. Then yhu wouldn't need to marry. Marriage will not guarantee a change in yhur sexuality. And if yhur wife finds out, we will certainly then know who yhu are offline. Inasmuch as I'm not a gay advocate, its foolishness to hate them either. Afterall, their maker hates the Sin and not the sinner. As long as yhu don't try molesting young boys, or are caught with a man, yhu may as well keep yhur secret till yhu die. I'm only being realistic in a country where homosexuality is more criminal than armed robbery or murder.

Don't be depressed. Take yhur mind off yhur sexuality and focus those energies into more positive ends like hanging out more, or playing a sport. If it is God's will, the lady who will win yhur heart and activate yhur loins will come. And all others will be automatic. Stay positive.

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Re: Gay And Depressed. by redcliff: 12:45am On Mar 29, 2015
ronald4lif:
Accept who you are and be happy. Don't let the society opinion of you and your sexuality define you. You are gay and that's it. Nothing can change that, except you want to keep living in self deceit and in a depressed state of mind. That's my advise.

In your bid to try to look liberal and just postabout, rubbish just keep spewing as i read further on every word you type. Repugnant.
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 12:47am On Mar 29, 2015
Vyolet:
I do not believe anyone was born gay. You are what you feel you are.

The good thing is,you have a sense of guilt already,just try and mingle more with women. Pick one from the numerous around you,study her and get involved with her sexually if she is willing. You will get used to it with time.
People are born with such normal traits of gay, hence they develop in that aspect. People are actually born with gay tendencies

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Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 12:48am On Mar 29, 2015
Ekiseme:
Make FG catch you


ewu!
He came here, stating his problems and you are calling him ewu? It's pple like you that brings Nigeria sooooo down.

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Re: Gay And Depressed. by wiegraf: 12:51am On Mar 29, 2015
Op, it seems to me like you support bigotry even against your own kind. Therefore, it follows that you well deserve your depression.
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Dolemite(f): 12:52am On Mar 29, 2015
Seek asylum in more developed countries, let these religious animals keep killing themselves with religion. grin

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Re: Gay And Depressed. by Dindera(m): 12:52am On Mar 29, 2015
pTomz:
kill urself na n meet ETERNAL depression simple


You are wicked n evil! sad


To OP...U need to believe that anything is possible when God is involved. Your life will totally and completely change when you believe and trust in Him. U weren't born that way, to me, I think it's how u view ur self that matters. U see ur self as one that's gay? Then that's what u will be. U have to change urself by Changing what u think u are! God will see you through. I advice you to read ur bible more often than you used to do, Hangout with friends and REMOVE ur mind from whatever that wants to keep you in bondage. Just be Happy but always pray cos that's the Key.

Remain blessed.

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Re: Gay And Depressed. by SELENAqueensy(f): 12:54am On Mar 29, 2015
Depressedguy:


Dude, in as much as I have thought of this, it simply cant work for me. All my elder siblings are married and I am next in line, so I have got no excuse whatsoever. You guys don't get it, I am a complete man from the outside, good looking, good car and good job, so as far as my mum is concerned, marriage is next for me. So that's why am seriously worried, because I need to start liking a woman as soon as possible; the hardest thing for me to do.

Do u want to change because your family or the society doesn't accept it?
If so, then don't bother cause you will end up hurting the lady.

If you really hate it as you said, and want to change
1) Pray to God, he can help
2) Start an intimate relationship with a girl and see how things goes from there
3) If you start feeling something 4 her, make sure its sincere and strong before you can start thinking of marriage so it won't result in regret.

Success!
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Almightyperes: 12:55am On Mar 29, 2015
Depressedguy:
Being gay is my life regret, i have questioned God and myself how i got to this stage. I just feel like commiting suicide.

Here is my story, my name is Frank, 26, a banker. I am the envy of most women, because am 6.2" tall, fair and very handsome. My nickname is Ramsey Noah, this is to tell you how good looking i am. But i have a very BIG problem, i am attracted to the same sex.

This is a problem i have come to notice at teen, i love girls company more than guys, i play all the girl plays and hate football, am guessing that could be where my formation was transposed. I ended up liking what girls like when am not one. But i have come to change a few things becuase i went to a boarding house and was always ridiculed for that. So i changed so many things there, the way i talk, the way i walk, and my gestures, also i love football now more than anything, but my sexuality has refused to change.

I have all it takes to get a woman, i have a good job, a car, and live alone. But at this age, i have not seen a womans pants not to talk of getting in between. But i have so many female friends, so many that the always take me for a player. Am jovial with them, buy them gifts and treat them well, but am not sexually attracted to any of them and have no feelings whatsoever. Am just a good guy, i know that, because that is the best i can do to cover up my little secret. And they(ladies) love me too and many are dying for my attention. I have been asked out so many times by ladies. One even offered to pay all the bills just for us to get intimate, but i declined, lying that i have a girlfriend i dont want to cheat on.

To make matters worse, i hate being gay, sometimes i go celibate for as long as six(6) months simply because i hate my life and my sexuality. Am always alone, indoors all through the weekend, because going out with guys will result to girl talk and i have nothing to contribute, me of all persons, so hard to believe. I also hate gay companies, so many regrets afterwards as to why i am this way. I envy straight guys to the core, i so much wish i am one. When i see a guy and a girl holding hands and taking a walk, i have this feeling of giult amd hatred for myself that i quickly get depressed.

Here is the problem, i want to marry early, at least before 28 or max 30. I need to connect to a woman and force myself into a relationship. I need to get attracted to a womans body, and get turned on by that. And finally, i need to learn how to tolerate a woman, and live with thier baggage. Am comfortable as a single man, i dont mind living alone till i die, i can cook well and am not a sex freak, i can live for years without it. But i want kids, i love them and cant wait to have a daughter. I have once told myself that once i get married and have kids, i will divoorce my wife and live alone then the kids can stay anywhere. But this idea is pure foolishness.

I am very religious, as a matter if fact, this conditionn is the only sin i battle with, i know we all have one. I hardly commit any other sin. But i know that just this one is very mortal, but we are all strugglling because we are all flesh. It takes the grace of God to overcome sin generally.(Please dont come and critisize, we are all going to the same hell: homosexual, hetrosexual; and no sin is worse than the other.)

This my condition is getting me more depressed by the day and sometimes i wish to end my life. But i like my life more than anything, so am thinking of patronising prostitutes at least to get feel of what it takes like. But am afriad of STIs.

Please help a brother...
the truth is this only God can be able to save you from this, just look for a church with the gift of deliverance to deliver you from the habit of gay..

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Re: Gay And Depressed. by mralabs(m): 12:56am On Mar 29, 2015
pTomz:
kill urself na n meet ETERNAL depression simple


angry angry angry angry
Re: Gay And Depressed. by keat: 12:56am On Mar 29, 2015
Seek serious deliverance from strong man of God it is evil demonic power operation and occupy yourself with tangible things all the time and stop watching porn

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Re: Gay And Depressed. by naijaboiy: 12:56am On Mar 29, 2015
ronald4lif:
Accept who you are and be happy. Don't let the society opinion of you and your sexuality define you. You are gay and that's it. Nothing can change that, except you want to keep living in self deceit and in a depressed state of mind. That's my advise.
Seriously? undecided
Re: Gay And Depressed. by EroticDesigner: 12:57am On Mar 29, 2015
Depressedguy:
Being gay is my life regret, i have questioned God and myself how i got to this stage. I just feel like commiting suicide.

Here is my story, my name is Frank, 26, a banker. I am the envy of most women, because am 6.2" tall, fair and very handsome. My nickname is Ramsey Noah, this is to tell you how good looking i am. But i have a very BIG problem, i am attracted to the same sex.

This is a problem i have come to notice at teen, i love girls company more than guys, i play all the girl plays and hate football, am guessing that could be where my formation was transposed. I ended up liking what girls like when am not one. But i have come to change a few things becuase i went to a boarding house and was always ridiculed for that. So i changed so many things there, the way i talk, the way i walk, and my gestures, also i love football now more than anything, but my sexuality has refused to change.

I have all it takes to get a woman, i have a good job, a car, and live alone. But at this age, i have not seen a womans pants not to talk of getting in between. But i have so many female friends, so many that the always take me for a player. Am jovial with them, buy them gifts and treat them well, but am not sexually attracted to any of them and have no feelings whatsoever. Am just a good guy, i know that, because that is the best i can do to cover up my little secret. And they(ladies) love me too and many are dying for my attention. I have been asked out so many times by ladies. One even offered to pay all the bills just for us to get intimate, but i declined, lying that i have a girlfriend i dont want to cheat on.

To make matters worse, i hate being gay, sometimes i go celibate for as long as six(6) months simply because i hate my life and my sexuality. Am always alone, indoors all through the weekend, because going out with guys will result to girl talk and i have nothing to contribute, me of all persons, so hard to believe. I also hate gay companies, so many regrets afterwards as to why i am this way. I envy straight guys to the core, i so much wish i am one. When i see a guy and a girl holding hands and taking a walk, i have this feeling of giult amd hatred for myself that i quickly get depressed.

Here is the problem, i want to marry early, at least before 28 or max 30. I need to connect to a woman and force myself into a relationship. I need to get attracted to a womans body, and get turned on by that. And finally, i need to learn how to tolerate a woman, and live with thier baggage. Am comfortable as a single man, i dont mind living alone till i die, i can cook well and am not a sex freak, i can live for years without it. But i want kids, i love them and cant wait to have a daughter. I have once told myself that once i get married and have kids, i will divoorce my wife and live alone then the kids can stay anywhere. But this idea is pure foolishness.

I am very religious, as a matter if fact, this conditionn is the only sin i battle with, i know we all have one. I hardly commit any other sin. But i know that just this one is very mortal, but we are all strugglling because we are all flesh. It takes the grace of God to overcome sin generally.(Please dont come and critisize, we are all going to the same hell: homosexual, hetrosexual; and no sin is worse than the other.)

This my condition is getting me more depressed by the day and sometimes i wish to end my life. But i like my life more than anything, so am thinking of patronising prostitutes at least to get feel of what it takes like. But am afriad of STIs.

Please help a brother...








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Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 1:02am On Mar 29, 2015
Depressedguy:


Dude, in as much as I have thought of this, it simply cant work for me. All my elder siblings are married and I am next in line, so I have got no excuse whatsoever. You guys don't get it, I am a complete man from the outside, good looking, good car and good job, so as far as my mum is concerned, marriage is next for me. So that's why am seriously worried, because I need to start liking a woman as soon as possible; the hardest thing for me to do.
I still stand by what I said earlier.

Whatever you decide just do your best not to marry a lady unsuspecting of your sexuality?Its not healthy,I don't encourage it,everyone deserves a life,even if yours is denied,don't denie another person theirs.

I hope you make the best decision.
Re: Gay And Depressed. by ronald4lif(m): 1:02am On Mar 29, 2015
naijaboiy:

Seriously? undecided

Yes boss. That's my opinion and I stand by it.

But for the fact that I'm dealing with an overly religious people I'll have to modify that post. Not because I have a different view but coz no one has reacted to the comment with counter- facts except religious sentiments and resorting to verbal attack.

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Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 1:03am On Mar 29, 2015
repogirl:
I suppose it would be the best advice to you because he told you lies!




yeah right! OP there is something most definitely wrong.... I am not here to judge or insult but to tell you the truth and not lies. You were right in saying homosexuality is just like any other sin out there, and like any other sin you have got to rise above it. It is a temptation that you have got to rise above and not give into it because it is wrong. I never saw anywhere in the bible where it was okay to have relations with the same sex except for SODOMY and Gomorrah and we all know how that ended.

Sorry about your depression but a lot of us get depressed by a lot of issues in our lives, I pray about my issues, and I am thankful whether there is an answer from God or not (there usually is though) and finally, I man up and face life. It's good you still have your conscience, some have thrown there's aside and bought the lies in order to make themselves feel better.

Keep praying and do what you know is right, man up and give not into temptation!
You are ignorant of the truth. You need to start reading the bible yourself rather what pure being told. Read the bible yourself and tell where it is written that Christ destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah cos of homosexuality?

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Re: Gay And Depressed. by somegirl1: 1:03am On Mar 29, 2015
Identify what it is that attracts you to men (apart from the male organ), then look for a woman who has the same qualities - a physically, emotionally and psychologically masculine woman. There are many out there.
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 1:04am On Mar 29, 2015
ronald4lif:


Yes boss. That's my opinion and I stand by it.

But for the fact that I'm dealing with an overly religious people I'll have to modify that post. Not because I have a different view but coz no one has reacted to the comment with counter- facts except religious sentiments and resorting to verbal attack.
You are right brother. Ignorance everywhere. They would not accept your views.

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Re: Gay And Depressed. by chingydaboss(m): 1:04am On Mar 29, 2015
Com to The Lord's Chosen..
God will Giv u d heart to hate dat evil( homosexuality)..
Many hv been healed frm dat sickness..yes it is a sickness..
God bless you as u com..
Depressedguy:
Being gay is my life regret, i have questioned God and myself how i got to this stage. I just feel like commiting suicide.

Here is my story, my name is Frank, 26, a banker. I am the envy of most women, because am 6.2" tall, fair and very handsome. My nickname is Ramsey Noah, this is to tell you how good looking i am. But i have a very BIG problem, i am attracted to the same sex.

This is a problem i have come to notice at teen, i love girls company more than guys, i play all the girl plays and hate football, am guessing that could be where my formation was transposed. I ended up liking what girls like when am not one. But i have come to change a few things becuase i went to a boarding house and was always ridiculed for that. So i changed so many things there, the way i talk, the way i walk, and my gestures, also i love football now more than anything, but my sexuality has refused to change.

I have all it takes to get a woman, i have a good job, a car, and live alone. But at this age, i have not seen a womans pants not to talk of getting in between. But i have so many female friends, so many that the always take me for a player. Am jovial with them, buy them gifts and treat them well, but am not sexually attracted to any of them and have no feelings whatsoever. Am just a good guy, i know that, because that is the best i can do to cover up my little secret. And they(ladies) love me too and many are dying for my attention. I have been asked out so many times by ladies. One even offered to pay all the bills just for us to get intimate, but i declined, lying that i have a girlfriend i dont want to cheat on.

To make matters worse, i hate being gay, sometimes i go celibate for as long as six(6) months simply because i hate my life and my sexuality. Am always alone, indoors all through the weekend, because going out with guys will result to girl talk and i have nothing to contribute, me of all persons, so hard to believe. I also hate gay companies, so many regrets afterwards as to why i am this way. I envy straight guys to the core, i so much wish i am one. When i see a guy and a girl holding hands and taking a walk, i have this feeling of giult amd hatred for myself that i quickly get depressed.

Here is the problem, i want to marry early, at least before 28 or max 30. I need to connect to a woman and force myself into a relationship. I need to get attracted to a womans body, and get turned on by that. And finally, i need to learn how to tolerate a woman, and live with thier baggage. Am comfortable as a single man, i dont mind living alone till i die, i can cook well and am not a sex freak, i can live for years without it. But i want kids, i love them and cant wait to have a daughter. I have once told myself that once i get married and have kids, i will divoorce my wife and live alone then the kids can stay anywhere. But this idea is pure foolishness.

I am very religious, as a matter if fact, this conditionn is the only sin i battle with, i know we all have one. I hardly commit any other sin. But i know that just this one is very mortal, but we are all strugglling because we are all flesh. It takes the grace of God to overcome sin generally.(Please dont come and critisize, we are all going to the same hell: homosexual, hetrosexual; and no sin is worse than the other.)

This my condition is getting me more depressed by the day and sometimes i wish to end my life. But i like my life more than anything, so am thinking of patronising prostitutes at least to get feel of what it takes like. But am afriad of STIs.

Please help a brother...
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 1:06am On Mar 29, 2015
SELENAqueensy:


Do u want to change because your family or the society doesn't accept it?
If so, then don't bother cause you will end up hurting the lady.

If you really hate it as you said, and want to change
1) Pray to God, he can help
2) Start an intimate relationship with a girl and see how things goes from there
3) If you start feeling something 4 her, make sure its sincere and strong before you can start thinking of marriage so it won't result in regret.

Success!
Why does he need to pray to God, that he is gay? What happens to being gay?

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Re: Gay And Depressed. by denedene(m): 1:06am On Mar 29, 2015
op do u v male friends?
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 1:08am On Mar 29, 2015
Nigerians use prayers as the solution to everything... That's why they never get things solved.

OP, good you've acknowledged who you are now it's either you learn to embrace it or deal with depression. Good luck.

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