This post is for those raised in a single parent home.in other words raised by either their father or mother alone. This could be as a result of parents being divorced, widowed or unmarried.
My own parents r divorced nd I was raised by my mother and below is a list of what coming from a single parent home has taught me
_ to be independent
_ to not be too crazy in loving
_to learn how to think like an adult at an early age
_ to not feel too pained by insults and stereotypes from pple around
_to plan a better marriage.
Feel free to share urs, nairalanders.

My parents are divorced too (separated since before I was born) and I think it had made me more independent. I don't rely on men or consider females the weaker gender.

Same as urx at Op.With lots of chalenges

qbd2:
This post is for those raised in a single parent home.in other words raised by either their father or mother alone. This could be as a result of parents being divorced, widowed or unmarried.
My own parents r divorced nd I was raised by my mother and below is a list of what coming from a single parent home has taught me
_ to be independent
_ to not be too crazy in loving
_to learn how to think like an adult at an early age
_ to not feel too pained by insults and stereotypes from pple around
_to plan a better marriage.
Feel free to share urs, nairalanders.

How can you plan for a better marriage yet neither be loving and/or (inter)dependent

pickabeau1:


How can you plan for a better marriage yet neither be loving and/or (inter)dependent

Hmm,Did u notice the part ' too crazy' and when did independent becone a negative word?

qbd2:

Hmm,Did u notice the part ' too crazy' and when did independent becone a negative word?

so you plan to be independent, love your hubby but not too much YET hope tp have a great marriage

OwKAY

pickabeau1:


so you plan to be independent, love your hubby but not too much YET hope tp have a great marriage

OwKAY

won de o.won tunde.instead of facing issues they are looking for loopholes to pick and start bout of argument






owalara e.shiooorrr.grow up!

SAMBARRY:
[s]won de o.won tunde.instead of facing issues they are looking for loopholes to pick and start bout of argument

owalara e.shiooorrr.grow up[/s]!

stop stalking me and face your life
are u frustrated

pickabeau1:


stop stalking me and face your life
are u frustrated

I should be asking you if you are frustrated? And did I just read stalking?




some people will have the body of rokozuna and have the brain of a 3year old cat Oniranu. The bottom line is stop picking on posts unnecessarily especially where there's no reason to. Old fool

SAMBARRY:
[s] I should be asking you if you are frustrated? And did I just read stalking?




some people will have the body of rokozuna and have the brain of a 3year old cat Oniranu. The bottom line is stop picking on posts unnecessarily especially where there's no reason to. Old fool [/s]

See the degenerate arsewipe talking
Your thirst to just jump on my posts across this forum is really astounding
No wonder you talk in pictures up and down cos u know once you post in words...it is akin to crap

Crapbarry

o ti dun pa




I have made my point. That's the most important

pickabeau1:



See the degenerate arsewipe talking
Your thirst to just jump on my posts across this forum is really astounding
No wonder you talk in pictures up and down cos u know once you post in words...it is akin to crap

Crapbarry

pickabeau1:


so you plan to be independent, love your hubby but not too much YET hope tp have a great marriage

OwKAY

Yep, u gerrit. My own opinion though, everyone choose how they want to b differently

qbd2:

Yep, u gerrit. My own opinion though, everyone choose how they want to b differently

OK...wish u d best in your marriage of convenience
Your line of thinking is why some say they don't want to marry ladies from broken homea

pickabeau1:


OK...wish u d best in your marriage of convenience
Your line of thinking is why some say they don't want to marry ladies from broken homea

U may have noticed I didn't use the word 'broken' , I said single parent home/ divorced home. That's one of the stereotypes pple lash out without knowing, not all single homes are necessarily broken'. If I think in dat line, well u can't really blame me cos its what I've learnt overtime. Hmm as to those that don't want to marry pple from single parent homes, well dats up to them.
My question for u, what exacvtly do u find bad about such line of thinking?

TheRealStuff:


To use my head in "love"

Can u pls expantiate on this part?

Cos my friend here pickabeau1 has some issues with that. I also don't get ur use of head.

qbd2:

U may have noticed I didn't use the word 'broken' , I said single parent home/ divorced home. That's one of the stereotypes pple lash out without knowing, not all single homes are necessarily broken'. If I think in dat line, well u can't really blame me cos its what I've learnt overtime. Hmm as to those that don't want to marry pple from single parent homes, well dats up to them.
My question for u, what exacvtly do u find bad about such line of thinking?

A single parent home is a function of many things agreed however broken has roots in the manner of the particular genesis

I like your open questioning nature and will answer you what i felt about ur thinking

Marriage by definition means that one has to submit his will or desires to that of the other.

The man makes decisions for the betterment of the family ditto the mother

There should be no 'I' or me in it
You sink or swim together

That's why the choice of a partner is really one of the most important decisions one can make

A woman more so must take care as she has to submit to the headship of her husband

So love but not love sounds weird to .me
But heck..its your opinion

I probably should have used brain or something in place of head. Not letting my "feelings" (for lack of a better word) overcloud my sense of reasoning or better put, not taking my heart on a journey without my brain. Better now?

pickabeau1:


A single parent home is a function of many things agreed however broken has roots in the manner of the particular genesis

I like your open questioning nature and will answer you what i felt about ur thinking

Marriage by definition means that one has to submit his will or desires to that of the other.

The man makes decisions for the betterment of the family ditto the mother

There should be no 'I' or me in it
You sink or swim together

That's why the choice of a partner is really one of the most important decisions one can make

A woman more so must take care as she has to submit to the headship of her husband

So love but not love sounds weird to .me
But heck..its your opinion

I dint say love but not love oh. Bsds my idea of indepence sure takes into account the fact datd husband is d head. Its just something like for example, aving my own job, savings e.t.c.

qbd2:

I dint say love but not love oh. Bsds my idea of indepence sure takes into account the fact datd husband is d head. Its just something like for example, aving my own job, savings e.t.c.

Then u need to explain your own concept of independence

Of course having a job and a measure of financial independence is good n a given in modern days

So what do u mean by love but not crazy love

What do u mean by independence in a marriage

pickabeau1:


Then u need to explain your own concept of independence

Of course having a job and a measure of financial independence is good n a given in modern days

So what do u mean by love but not crazy love

What do u mean by independence in a marriage

And why you sounding like u don't understand exactly what she means

Pls stop this
Just stop

U married that I think
Ur wife earning one way or the other?
Innit?
She loves u. Yes u know but sometimes she overlooks just to keep the house going that's the love she's talking about

Dyt:


And why you sounding like u don't understand exactly what she means

Pls stop this
Just stop

U married that I think
Ur wife earning one way or the other?
Innit?
She loves u. Yes u know but sometimes she overlooks just to keep the house going that's the love she's talking about

Ermm....

Why don't u let her explain what she means
Rather than assuming for her

TheRealStuff:
I probably should have used brain or something in place of head. Not letting my "feelings" (for lack of a better word) overcloud my sense of reasoning or better put, not taking my heart on a journey without my brain. Better now?

Yep, I understand now.

pickabeau1:



Ermm....

Why don't u let her explain what she means
Rather than assuming for her

U be wetin yoruba pple call ' onijogbon' I.e. Pain in d neck

qbd2:

Blah blah blah

This is what I don't understand about you people on this forum

To answer a simple question...what does independence in a marriage mean?

yet u start abusing

Ok

pickabeau1:


This is what I don't understand about you people on this forum

To answer a simple question...what does independence in a marriage mean?

yet u start abusing

Ok

they never give a general perspective about this independence thing. Each to her own. being "independent" kills the idea of a "family" I think they need to come up wIth another term. Nice questions

pickabeau1:


This is what I don't understand about you people on this forum

To answer a simple question...what does independence in a marriage mean?

yet u start abusing

Ok

Well u can take take as ur midterm homework since nobody here seems to b able to answer d question in ur own terms.
When u get ur answer post it here.

Owliver:
they never give a general perspective about this independence thing. Each to her own. being "independent" kills the idea of a "family" I think they need to come up wIth another term. Nice questions

I've given pickabeau1 d assignment topic, u can copy from her

qbd2:
This post is for those raised in a single parent home.in other words raised by either their father or mother alone. This could be as a result of parents being divorced, widowed or unmarried.
My own parents r divorced nd I was raised by my mother and below is a list of what coming from a single parent home has taught me
_ to be independent
_ to not be too crazy in loving
_to learn how to think like an adult at an early age
_ to not feel too pained by insults and stereotypes from pple around
_to plan a better marriage.

In other words you matured early and lost a large part of your childhood

qbd2:

I've given pickabeau1 d assignment topic, u can copy from her

lol. Have a great day.

Owliver:
lol. Have a great day.

Wish u d same.

5minsmadness:

In other words you matured early and lost a large part of your childhood

Haha, what made u arrive at such conclusion?