I have this uncle, he is a pastor. last year November I lend him #5000 he promised to pay the evening of that same day,but he didn't pay as promised. we did anniversary in our church and I asked him to pay my own quota of money shared which was #1000 he said he did. another day I was going to make a journey so I collected 1k from him. so I have been asking him for the remaining 3k but he didn't even make attempt to pay. fast forward to January he said I lend him 2k and till date he hasn't paid. so it means he is now owing me 5k. just this evening again he came around and said I should lend him 5k that he promised to pay back on Saturday and should he fail to do so I should ceased his suit ...I was wtf what will I use his suit for ? well o blatantly told him I don't have money and told him even if I had I won't give me because he has failed to pay off his debt since last year November.
my question now is I'm I been wicked ? truly I have the money but I am worried he won't pay back then I will be a fool for the fourth time .
he is a pastor do you think God will be angry with me ? I already have plans for the money so taking from it with no hope of getting it back is risky . should I give him ? he said is important and it might make him go to jail.

The girl who played expensive joke on her boyfriend abroad...

This story does not add up.
Pastor and jail!

ohaleoghene:
I have this uncle, he is a pastor. last year November I lend him #5000 he promised to pay the evening of that same day,but he didn't pay as promised. we did anniversary in our church and I asked him to pay my own quota of money shared which was #1000 he said he did. another day I was going to make a journey so I collected 1k from him. so I have been asking him for the remaining 3k but he didn't even make attempt to pay. fast forward to January he said I lend him 2k and till date he hasn't paid. so it means he is now owing me 5k. just this evening again he came around and said I should lend him 5k that he promised to pay back on Saturday and should he fail to do so I should ceased his suit ...I was wtf what will I use his suit for ? well o blatantly told him I don't have money and told him even if I had I won't give me because he has failed to pay off his debt since last year November.
my question now is I'm I been wicked ? truly I have the money but I am worried he won't pay back then I will be a fool for the fourth time .
he is a pastor do you think God will be angry with me ? I already have plans for the money so taking from it with no hope of getting it back is risky . should I give him ? he said is important and it might make him go to jail.

If you are convinced he doesn't have money and he needs the money badly, you can give him. He is probably not earning much.

He is your uncle after all. Imagine what your life would be if he is Dangote.

don't give him a dime, he's only taking advantage of u.

Beamborla:
The girl who played expensive joke on her boyfriend abroad...

This story does not add up.
Pastor and jail!

he said he was suppose to have deliver a job to a customer since last year ,but he did not so the owner of the job threatened to take him to police ...note this was the same story he told me the first time .

yea my boyfriend and I have settled ...he laughed so hard when I told him it was April fool...he said he couldn't believe himself to have acted the way he did.

You are not wicked at all. Once bitten, twice shy.

That's why one's antecedents matters in almost everything in this life.
That's the price to pay for not having integrity.
My personal opinion, please.



And BTW, op, change that "I'm" to "Am" in your title.
Thanks.

[quote author=greatgod2012 post=32284991]You are not wicked at all. Once bitten,

thanks for the correction ...was just so confuse while typing

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you're welcome!
No one knows it all and besides, nobody is above mistake.

the part that got me laughing @op's post is " he is a pastor do you think God will be angry
with me ? " why will God be angry with you is that what your uncle is telling you my question to you @op is, what kind of pastor owes money and refuses to pay back? apart from that, your uncle is a pastor that does not keep to his words, is it good? you should point these things out to him. There is no crime if he asks you for money but using the word 'lend me' on his part is highly deceitful. I don't borrow people money, I give. In other words, if you have give him the little you have

a pastor who lies & cheats pple, doesn't keep his word... hmm ok . he keeps coming back to u 'cus u keep giving him , free money.. y won't he come back?

this's why many pastors are rich and the congregation's poor. he's only taking advantage of u. just sidon there n keep giving him ur money, u won't get back a kobo, shebi u'r the one going broke while u'r making him rich

Most family members don't pay back loans.

Just forget the one you loaned him. That one don turn to gift.

Only give you if you can afford to give it as gift.
But as a loan, if you can't afford to part with the money Permanently, just maintain your stance and not give.

He won't pay you back.
And trying to get it back from him can sour your relationship.

So gift or nothing.

He's your uncle and clearly broke now. I'll sound naive now, but do you believe God truly blesses a cheerful giver? That's your offering right there. I advice you to give him provided you have and stop dangling a juicy carrot in front of a hungry bunny.

cococandy:
Most family members don't pay back loans.

Just forget the one you loaned him. That one don turn to gift.

Only give you if you can afford to give it as gift.
But as a loan, if you can't afford to part with the money Permanently, just maintain your stance and not give.

He won't pay you back.
And trying to get it back from him can sour your relationship.

So gift or nothing.

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op what part of urhobo are u from?

Alezy:
op what part of urhobo are u from?

I'm isoko

ohaleoghene:



I'm isoko

oh, OK. am urhobo. hope u gud

Your uncle is clearly taking advantage of you.
He knows he can get money from you whenever and is really utilising the opportunity.
He says if he doesn't get the money he'll go to jail abi?
Ask him if you weren't there wouldn't he have sourced for the money another way.
Please keep your cash away from him and make him realise you are doing so because he's not honest.
Who knows, God may even be using you to help him work on his bad character.

Alezy:
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