You need to beat her.Now I am not talking about beating her for her bad behaviour and all that just come home and beat her for no reason. If she does not talk to you the next day beat her some more..
If you search your conscience and you cannot do this then I am sorry you are not the right match.Do not let anyone deceive you with that modern man nonsense and for god's sake stop doing house chores.what is that?
Don't mistake me when I say beat,do not use your fists go out and get several durable canes and the next time she misbehaves give her full body head to toe trashing.Trash her until she confesses you are lord,show no mercy. Next beat her for no reason so she does not know what is coming I suggest at least 3 times a week but you can increase the dose depending on tolerance and response.

All this attitudes she must have exhibited during your courting years. How did you manage them? Did you condone them @ the time? Are you now complaining about attitudes you were happy to accept pre-marriage? What you would not accept has a rich man, you start rejecting them while poor!!!
Speak to her about her attitudes and the eventual consequences of her actions.
Hopefully, she would realise the emotional pain she is causing to your fragile heart!!!!

prayer is the key you know...

I've been married for five years, what you're going through is not out of place. My wife had similar traits in the first few months, many days of keeping malice and then graduated to not cooking food to further show her protest. It became tougher when we had our first child, she will nag at every little thing and even disrespect me by calling me names. Although I called her names back, but never laid my hands on her, calling her names didn't change her behaviour, then I switched to ignoring her when she starts her silly attitude, that worked for a while until she grew a tougher skin and acts like she couldn't be bothered. From my observations, the new age working class wife can't condone being submissive to their husband, the ego sets in and want to assume a parallel role of wife playing husband, that's the root of the problem. However, these were the few steps I took to sustain the marriage this long;

1) Get closer to God, pray and spend more time going to church, I'm Catholic, so I doubled up going for evening mass and try not to miss Sunday mass.

2) Socialise more with friends, spend time having fun and give her space.

3) Work hard and pay up bills, try not to ever ask her for money or worry about her earnings.

4) Ignore, ignore, ignore her when she starts ranting.

5) Surprise her by taking her out every now and then or buy gifts for her when there's no occasion.

6) Learn how to bang her brains out.

7) Cheat wisely to gain sanity

I bet you she will love and respect you more. NB be careful with number 7, don't act stupid and start to fall in love with the side chick. Papi4money say so!

You need to stop giving her attention, if she becomes overbearing.... Disappear for a few days, and when she complains; let her know she took you for granted and is gradually pushing you to the hands of girls outside....

Let her know if you can't have peace in your house, you will get it else where....

I will tell u to b patient with her,is not easy staying with one person,i mean now that u are married. Just that she is feeling the boriness about marriage, I will advice u show her more love, make ur lives lively lik travely, washing movies aving fun. And most especially endurance. Happy blessed marriage life

You and your wife need a therapist. My advice is that she loves you, study her properly, you will surely win her heart. It's not advisable for married couple to be around each other all the time, take vacation, visit your family/inlaw for couple of days or weeks, let her miss you for these period that you've gone and back home you will turn a new look. Try it, you will comment good about it.

multicast:
we dated for 2 years, from mid 2000, then we parted for some reason and we kept in touch again and married after 3 years so all together we have been together like 5 years 2 years straight and 2 years 8month thorough daily conversation and few months togetherness before we decided to settle down. so by not marrying a stranger i meant that its not a case whereby you dont really know ur woman, i knew her to be a temperamental person but very minimal which you would agree to be a part of every woman, but now that u r married, malice is a useless thing in marriage and u must learn to discard whatever u find soothing while courting but is detrimental to the marriage

The more I read you the more I am saying to myself in my biggest igbotic accent
buttu wai ?
Eh
Buttu why?
Why did you go along with this
You knew this girl well
Nna buttu why?

omonnakoda:
You need to beat her.Now I am not talking about bating her for her bad behaviour and all that just come home and beat her for no reason. If she does not talk to you the next day beat her some more..
If you search your conscience and you cannot do this then I am sorry you are not the right match.Do mot let anyone deceive you with that modern man nonsense and for god's sake stop doing house chores.what is that?
Don't mistake me when I say beat,do not use your fists go out and get several durable canes and the next time she misbehaves give her full body head to toe trashing.Trash her until she confesses you are lord,show no mercy. Next beat her for no reason so she does not know what is coming I suggest at least 3 times a week but you an increase the dose depending on tolerance and response

beat her dude like seriously? smh

jauntty:
Keeping Malice is a "Lagoon Spirit".

u don start abi?

initialize:



Stubborn Geh

lol,no be my 4lt na...that's just some people's nature and it can't be changed

OP, are you sure your wife is not pregnant with her first child? These could explain the change in mood and hostility towards you her sweetheart?

Get a to do a pregnancy test.

Its obvious you love her, and you must remain loving.

Don't try to prove you are the man of the house by saying so. Let your actions do that.

It seems to me that some external influence is involved. Let her know that she would be the one to smart for it. Reinforce the trust issue that someone mentioned.

There is time for everything under the sun, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing. Like its been said severally, you need to learn to ignore some of her actions. It may be difficult cos you may feel like your love for her is going down, but NO, its not. In ignoring, you will not get into malice with her at all, just ignore some actions and words that are getting you down and talk about other things as if there is no issue.

In subsequent communications, let her know she's trying and frustrating you but that you intend

@ multicast

ever heard the story of the native doctor that advised a woman that came to him for help about her insultive husband?
he gave her a stick and told her that anytime the guys is abusing her, she should just chew it without talking
..it worked

dont bother sitting her down to yarn anything. ignore her like shes a baby or be the first to throw tantrums at any small thing
..na she go run

thank me later

Buy enough Viagra and dealt with her mercilessly for good three hours, repeat it like thrice a week and thank me later. :oBuy enough Viagra and dealt with her mercilessly for good three hours, repeat it like thrice a week and thank me later.

He should leave a two month marriage for one month


that will drive sense to any sensible human, next option is living on his knees. action speaks louder, if he grooms dis am sorry relation, he will be finished in the nearest future. he should stop postponing the evil day. if talk aint doing the magic then act

multicast:
sam thanks a lot, points well made, this is why i came to NL, people with real experience and who are you to say u r wise when u havent seen the real experience, you have some points there but i am doing my best, one thing i did not add to my story is that she isnt based in the country, though she comes home and i dont want people here thinking its the distance, its obviously not. when we were together for over 3 months, she exhibit the same attributes. on point sam

Ha
You broke up
She went abroad
Clock ticking
She reconnects and you marry her
Am I right?

maclatunji:
OP, are you sure your wife is not pregnant with her first child? These could explain the change in mood and hostility towards you her sweetheart?

Get a to do a pregnancy test.

Read his posts
The woman didn't change

From your write up,i can see you want your marriage to work.but quick question.
Did you guys had any honey moon?
its not an easy transition on her side,thats why honey moon comes into place,which normally ease her to her new role.
To me prayer is not the solution,
You are going through the normal phase of a modern marriage what i mean is gender equility.
Some give her time, And continue to be the loving and understanding husband that you are and continue to accept her apology.
Remember its not easy for 1+1=1

slickyb:

beat her dude like seriously? smh

Seriously my sister this is important especially in a young marriage. Some women do not understand diplomacy so you need to trash them soundly

Its obvious you love her, and you must remain loving.

Don't try to prove you are the man of the house by saying so. Let your actions do that. Like dont just apologise anyhow, but do when you are wrong.

It seems to me that some external influence is involved. Let her know that she would be the one to smart for it. Reinforce the trust issue that someone mentioned.

There is time for everything under the sun, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing. Like its been said severally, you need to learn to ignore some of her actions. It may be difficult cos you may feel like your love for her is going down, but NO, its not. In ignoring, you will not get into malice with her at all, just ignore some actions and words that are getting you down and talk about other things as if there is no issue. You will also mature along.

In subsequent communications, let her know she's trying and frustrating you but that you intend to enjoy your home and marriage. So when she starts such behaviour, you could excuse her or if possible take a walk.

As much as possible, don't involve third parties. Also don't get physical.

Lastly, your marriage is not crashing and will not crash. Some have gone through worse and have overcome. You also will.

hmmmm

MARKone:
OP, I have to confess, I have experienced what you've just narrated, maybe even worse, some wives are just naturally stubborn and disrespectful, which might be attributed to their upbringing, bad friends and what have you. You see your marriage is still young, so don't despair, but the sooner you make her realise that you are the man of the house, the better for you. If you do not handle it well, it might lead to another thing, too much thinking, fear of coming home, hate and depression as the case is now. Oga you need to man up, if you want to save your marriage, be aggressive, am not saying you should beat her, if she doesn't talk to you, don't talk to her, if she doesn't serve you food, go to the kitchen and prepare food for yourself, Infact learn to ignore her, enough of the sorry sorry, it makes you look weak in front of her, abi is not you that married her

As you make your bed so you lie my brother. Anybody that tells you that, you can make a stubborn lady less stubborn by showing her more love, is not telling you the truth. Your union is still budding, you deserve a life time of happiness so does your wife, this, you need to make her understand.

Op. Just got with this advice. The best so far!!! My opinion

MARKone:
OP, I have to confess, I have experienced what you've just narrated, maybe even worse, some wives are just naturally stubborn and disrespectful, which might be attributed to their upbringing, bad friends and what have you. You see your marriage is still young, so don't despair, but the sooner you make her realise that you are the man of the house, the better for you. If you do not handle it well, it might lead to another thing, too much thinking, fear of coming home, hate and depression as the case is now. Oga you need to man up, if you want to save your marriage, be aggressive, am not saying you should beat her, if she doesn't talk to you, don't talk to her, if she doesn't serve you food, go to the kitchen and prepare food for yourself, Infact learn to ignore her, enough of the sorry sorry, it makes you look weak in front of her, abi is not you that married her

As you make your bed so you lie my brother. Anybody that tells you that, you can make a stubborn lady less stubborn by showing her more love, is not telling you the truth. Your union is still budding, you deserve a life time of happiness so does your wife, this, you need to make her understand.

What you are suggesting could actually be the end of the marriage, two wrong can't make a right in this situation, if he should tow the line you are suggesting, it will drive them apart further, before you know it, they won't miss each other again, small small, na to seek emotional comfort outside and they will start eyeing divorce court without thinking twice cos all feeling of love has been lost.

Moana:
Tell us more about your bbm chats

i don't need to check ur profile bfre I know sey u be woman, women will always act up after marriage or child birth but dey will later change cos my wife did same, pls madam what abt the BBM chat? He said he is not a cheat ma

kpolli:
You need to stop giving her attention, if she becomes overbearing.... Disappear for a few days, and when she complains; let her know she took you for granted and is gradually pushing you to the hands of girls outside....

Let her know if you can't have peace in your house, you will get it else where....

plain & simple u took d words right out of my brain. Then her brains would reset 2 their default setting.

Is ur wife from ondo state?cos dos ondo ladies are so STUBBORN!!!!

Bros u don marry be dat she no fit marry u, na u marry am, it's just a stage u will definitely pass through , don't worry she will be fine soon, if u change ur attitude toward her , u will be paying in regrets cos all the blames will be on u at the end, keep calm and try to calm her when she's angry, laugh with her play and tease her when she's angry, I went tru dis same stage, wish u #Godwin

Moana:
Tell us more about your bbm chats

pls tell him to give his life to chrust .....i smell sth fishy , women are smarter than wat he just posted

Honestly I don't see problem here, the @OP definitely knew his wife to be had temperament issue and yet went ahead with it, due to his own definition of love, not knowing that it takes more than love to have a successful and happy marriage.

Where is the understanding, Where is the respect from the wife to the husband and vice versa.

This should be a lesson to all unmarried guys out there, don't marry because of BEAUTY or OUT OF PITY, you will only find yourself to blame, the @Op knew the wife-to-be has temperament issues but decides to ignore it, probably because the lady is cute and good in bed just like he mentioned.

So @Op try to enjoy the good side of you wife bro, and learn to cope with this her bad side.

Cheers

spyg1:
It could be that she is pregnant, pregnancy makes a wife to hate her husband sometimes.

Huh?