Sex is a thing of joy; which should be enjoyed
and not endured. There is nothing that can be
compared with sexual satisfaction and there is
this thought in some quarters that a woman
who is sexually satisfied is a happy one who
glows and exhibits positive temperament. A
woman who is deprived of sexual satisfaction,
however could be bitch and hard to please.
The issue of sex and sexual satisfaction is
however not peculiar to women alone as men
too desire to be sexually fulfilled and they also
enjoy sex. This is why Abiola Ajaguna, a
teacher, stated that when there is incessant
quarrels in a home and you take pains to find
out why, you are likely to discover lack of sex
or sexual satisfaction as the reason which the
couple are not ready to talk about.
Zara, in her own case, spoke out and asked
her friends for help. According to her, her
husband of few months ago has a small-sized
penis and whenever they made love she
doesn’t get the desired sexual satisfaction.
Because of her husband’s type of person, she
finds it difficult to speak with him about this
issue. She is quite unhappy about it, and
desire a solution.
In the same vein, Jumoke, a mother of two,
jokingly stated that the issue being discussed
is an issue of different strokes for different
folks. According to her, even after having two
children, she sometimes feels uncomfortable
with her husband’s size because he is
positively endowed and according to her, she
is gradually becoming a sex hater as she
sometimes dread bed time, especially on days
she really doesn’t feel like having sex and she
is not mentally prepared, her husband, who
however, loves sex would insist. When this
happens, she ends being bruised and not
satisfied.
The question then came up; does a man’s
penis size matter when it comes to sexual
satisfaction? Hersay asked readers opinion.
Excerpts:
Bolanle Adelusi, Trader: I really can’t say,
because my husband satisfies me sexually. I
can’t even say if he is big or small, but I am
okay with his size.
I feel sexual satisfaction transcends the issue
of size. No matter how small a man’s penis
size is, if the chemistry between him and his
wife is right, she will be satisfied sexually. In
my own view, the totality of sexual
satisfaction transcends physical penetration.
Blessing Adie, Nurse: sexual satisfaction is
relative! This depends on the couple. It is not
all about the man’s size. Even if the man has
a big penis, and he doesn’t know how to
handle his woman she still won’t be sexually
satisfied.
Both of them need to know what they want
even in bed. It is also not all about the
woman getting all the satisfaction alone. She
also must be able to give her husband
pleasure as the more of this she gives, the
more she receives too.
Somto Chidiebere, businesswoman: sex is sex
and it is not what you discuss like you are
asking me to. I don’t know about sexual
pleasure and I cannot discuss my husband’s
manhood here. This is something that we do
in our bedroom. It is between my husband and
I. Thank you.
Linus Okey, Businesswoman: Ha! Do not be
deceived o. The bigger the man’s penis, the
better because a lot of women like it that way.
Some of them will not talk, but I can assure
you that is what women want.
If a woman has dated a man who is endowed
and she then dates another man with small
size, definitely, he cannot satisfy her sexually.
In this type of situation, the woman will either
be having an affair with a man with a big size
organ or she will not respect her man.
Idiat Hafiz: I don’t feel comfortable discussing
this, but what I know is that either big or
small one has to appreciate how God has
created him or her.
Satisfaction in everything is relative, whatever
is good enough for A, might not be okay with
B. If as a couple a wife discovers that her
husband’s organ is small, both of them must
make it work and make sure satisfaction is
attained and if it is the other way round, they
must work at it to make a success out of their
sex life.
Afam Okereke: Size matters and even at that,
you also must be equipped with the knowhow.
Knowing what to do, where to touch and how
to touch to give your partner satisfaction is
very important. Size is just a plus, it is good
but what is a big penis if you don’t know what
to do with it?
Apart from the know how, romance matters a
lot in and outside the bedroom. Another
important factor is that of erection. If you are
able to have good erection and maintain it,
even a small size feels big.
Toyin Oladipo, Lecturer: what most people fail
to understand is that there is more to sexual
satisfaction than physical penetration. If a
man has a small size organ, he can actually
make up for his size deficiency by employing
romance.
Nigerians generally, not men alone do not
understand the place of romance and pre-intimacy
in sex. If we as couple become conscious of
this fact and desist from making sex an issue
restricted to the bedroom alone, then we will
stop to see sex as physical penetration alone.
Another issue, I see here is that of the man’s
libido. Once he can sustain his erection, then
there are several positions both of them can
employ to enjoy sex. As far as I am concerned,
sexual satisfaction transcends the man’s
penis size. What if he is large and big, but
can’t have an erection? It’s not all about size.
Cossy Diala, self employed: Sincerely, a man’s
size defines who he is. I can remember when
we were in school, although, it is borne more
out of youthful excesses, we used to measure
and check out our sizes.
Apart from this, the man should also be able
to know what makes his woman tick, where to
touch and what to do so as to give her the
best. Either we like it or not, sex is all about
give and take, the more pleasure you give your
partner, the more you receive too.
Big or large size penis, is a pulse, but you
must know how to really use it to give your
partner sexual satisfaction and receive such
too?
Dr Adeyinka Griffin, a Consultant Gynecologist
and Medical Director, Teju Specialist Hospital
spoke from a medical point of view. According
to him, the penis size should be the least of
the couple’s worry. Once the man can have an
erection and also maintain it, then he can
penetrate.
“What is the use of a large/ big organ without
the ability to have an erection or sustain it?”
Sustainable erection is the most important
issue when it comes to physical penetration.
We should also be able to understand that
when it comes to sexual satisfaction, a lot of
other things are involved not only the penis.
For instance, the man should be able identify
his partners erogenous spot or her center of gravity.
When this is rightly stimulated and she is
lying in a good position, at this point of
physical penetration, the man’s size will no
longer matter. She is well stimulated and the
positioning will help. The vagina is also
elastic to accommodate any size of penis, we
should know this. The level of arousal is what
matters most.
“The sexual position also matters here,
because either we like it or not, our sex life is
affected by our environment, sex orientation,
norms and belief system. A woman or man
who has been acculturated to believe that the
“woman-down and man-up” is the normal sex
position will find it awkward to try other sex
positions.
“There are different sex positions couples can
adopt, either with a small or big size penis
that can help improve sex life and enhance
sexual satisfaction for both.
“We must also not forget the place of romance
and pre-intimacy which is useful to both partners.
Sex shouldn’t be all about physical
penetration alone”, Griffin added.
As for medical help to elongate and enlarge
the penis, the Consultant Gynecologist said
there are several artificial ways people talk
about, once a man can identify one that is
useful for him.” I don’t know of any surgical or
medical way around this, I won’t do it, as I am
a gynecologist, but if it is the crème and stuffs
like that which would not lead to physical
injury for both partners and they believe it
works, it is okay. But people should be
careful.”
“What I would be worried about is if the man
cannot have an erection or when he finds it
difficult to sustain his erection. pre-intimacy,
romance MouthAction and physical penetration
make up for sexual satisfaction, not just an
aspect of it”, he concluded.
HER SAY

Can't read all but I think I doesn't matter if ur joy stick is big or small but your technical know how

No matter how small a joy.joy is, it should be able to give any woman satisfaction except in a case where the woman has already donated her ministry enough to make it wider than necessary so that no matter the level of contraction to hold d perceived small joy.joy, it won't still derive the needed satisfaction

The woman always has the problem. If you doubt think again but in line with what I have stated above. Thank you

Ask Cossy Orjiakor

SIZE DON'T MATTER - that's what girls say to make boys happy...... but the truth lies within

Any guy who says it doesn't matter must hav a small preek...

Fundamentally, size doesn't matter at all tho I don't get trouble having 8inches. You always hear these girls talking about loving guys with a big package, But in actuality, If it were too big it would just hurt, because you would be hitting the cervix. Just don't worry about the size. To satisfy most women focus on your movements, her body language and clit stimulation.

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Weren't you taught summary in Sec School? Thought I was reading an epistle.

If you are good on bed and can make your woman orgasm, then size does not matter. But if both are bad on bed, that's when it becomes a problem. A woman with good pelvic or vagina muscle should be able to hold a pencil with d vagina without it falling out

asadike:
If you are good on bed and can make your woman orgasm, then size does not matter. But if both are bad on bed, that's when it becomes a problem. A woman with good pelvic or vagina muscle should be able to hold a pencil with d vagina without it falling out

a love you because you are real! spoken like a very matured igbo lady. don't mind those kids fantasizing about big woods.

Have asked Maheeda yet?

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Know how to lick plate, and use your tool adequately, and size wouldn't matter.

Some ladies don't like it big. At least, I've met quite a few.

asadike:
If you are good on bed and can make your woman orgasm, then size does not matter. But if both are bad on bed, that's when it becomes a problem. A woman with good pelvic or vagina muscle should be able to hold a pencil with d vagina without it falling out

if a woman's hole can tight a pencil together trully then size doesnt matter.