MizMyColi:
Well personally, I stopped uploading my DP on NL because I found that I kept visiting my profile.
Checking out the number of likes, and if I found that the likes weren't as forthcoming, I'd take it down and change to another.
It even got more annoying when my "hard earned" likes got subtracted as a result of the new picture.

I told myself the hard truth, that in addition to people's general approval of my comments, I wanted them to approve my face too.
And with each picture I uploaded, I somehow felt inadequate.
Those times turned out to be my first real practical lessons on self acceptance/approval.


Second and most important.....despite my openness as an individual, I am not always comfortable with the fact that my face is out there.
The longest lasting DP I ever used on this forum was one where I had my face downwards, staring right into my bag.

So, yes, I think that most times...when we upload and upload different styles and pictures of ourselves, we trying to fill a void.... #HardTruthThough

That said, my thoughts aren't an absolute.
Different strokes, Different folks.

MizMyColi:


Well, I just gotta admit that the more we are think we know, the more we don't.

I'm at that phase where I am learning (kai! It's hard ehn) how to be wholly accepting of self, whether I wear fine clothings or not. Whether I make up or not.

More important I am learning how to ask, will I like him/them?
Instead of the stereotypical "will he/they like me?"

Phinalphantasy:


such a truthful and objective analysis of self. a critic at the image in d mirror. the funny thing is such action is a step towards self strength. you don't need my approval. you're self approved

Thanks Bro.
I appreciate

Phinalphantasy:

a philosopher you are. someone who says it as it is. it Appears you are uncovering every aspect of your emotional intelligence. from all your post, I envy you. just because I am as well in that situation phase. gosh, it's so hard with your peeps not letting the new you survive

mentorandfriend:
I'm very careful about faceless people on a faceless forum. Here on nairaland, I observe that it is usually faceless people without display pictures that are the most vulgar, most insultive, lacking any sense of decorum. Some even hide behind pics of celebrities or outright cartoon images while they unleash their sauciness, cockiness and hatred on every meaningful thread.

So what do I do? Here on nairaland, when a person quotes me with an intention to brew up an e-brawl, I immediately check his/her dp. Once that person is not represented on his/her dp, I ignore the hater/pretender. I only engage people who are bold enough to show me what they look like. To me, nothing beats seeing who I'm communicating with.

I apply the same rule on facebook where I have a large number of facebook friends. I will never accept a friend request from anyone who has no profile picture, because they are the ones who bash your updates, bash your pictures uploads. They do it wearing the mask of no profile picture. They never have a kind word for you. Once you receive notification that such a person commented on any of your post, your heart skips a beat first.

So I see nothing wrong in someone having his/her picture on display, and I also cant say that those who change their dps often are immature. I only know a mature person when he/she talks/comments or when we engage in a discourse.

Shikena!

VickyRotex:
I dont think the number of times people change their dp's should be attached to their level of maturity.

Better word to use is idleness or boredom.

My facebook profile pix: October last year
My Twitter: October last year
WhatsApp: February
BBM: I can go a week without changing it. (I have personal reasons for that, cos most time, I hardly reply my chats on time, could take 2 to 3days, most times, it's cos I'm busy,and at times intentionally) And when I do, it's usually an art work/letter inscribed.

Now, this doesn't make me look more matured than than a lady that changes her dp everyday.

There are people that claims to matured by pretending to be busy, whereas they are not.

And meanwhile some frequent dp changer got productive things they engage in.

It's just like saying, someone always online on NL is jobless, lol, you know it's not always so.

I'll just say it's personal preference for individuals.

To me I get to know a matured person by the way he/she talks and acts

Just like MizMyColi stated, different strokes for different folks.

But then again , Modesty should be the key

MizMyColi, God bless you. Such a rare gem

Awwwmmm
Hi Vicky!
Thanks.
Good Morning

Yeah, I believe that modesty is key...
Then again, with what parameter do we define/measure modesty.
It therefore adds that modesty is a relative word.

I think people should be free to do whatever they like with their lives. We either accept them as such or leave them.

While I agree that it is inherent in humans to be meddlesome, rubbing it all over the faces of the "meddlees " is in itself, an act of immaturity.

I forgot to add that some of us are social recluses and hence socially awkward.
We envy those with energy to be snapping pictures during different occasions....
We secretly want to be like them.
Lols.

With a little modification to my words, as stated above...
The same applies to the hyper active users of NL & other social media.

Now, this is another angle.

This is just to buttress my point - Different Strokes, Different folks.

MizMyColi:



Awwwmmm
Hi Vicky!
Thanks.
Good Morning

Yeah, I believe that modesty is key...
Then again, with what parameter do we define/measure modesty.
It therefore adds that modesty is a relative word.

I think people should be free to do whatever they like with their lives. We either accept them as such or leave them.


While I agree that it is inherent in humans to be meddlesome, rubbing it all over the faces of the "meddlees " is in itself, an act of immaturity.

I forgot to add that some of us are social recluses and hence socially awkward.
We envy those with energy to be snapping pictures during different occasions....
We secretly want to be like them.
Lols.

With a little modification to my words, as stated above...
The same applies to the hyper active users of NL & other social media.

Now, this is another angle.

This is just to buttress my point - Different Strokes, Different folks.

VickyRotex:


Morning

You are welcome Miz.

Oh yea, you nailed it again.

Modesty is a relative word.

@bolded, you just brought out the thoughts in my mind.

Lots of us(people) would love to be like them, if we(they) could.

If frequent changing of dp's is termed immaturity, then meddling/ counting the number of times another person changes his or her dp, should be termed immaturity aswel.

Miz, Remain Blessed and do have a beautiful day.

Cheers

You too Hannie

VickyRotex:
I dont think the number of times people change their dp's should be attached to their level of maturity.

Better word to use is idleness or boredom.

My facebook profile pix: October last year
My Twitter: October last year
WhatsApp: February
BBM: I can go a week without changing it. (I have personal reasons for that, cos most time, I hardly reply my chats on time, could take 2 to 3days, most times, it's cos I'm busy,and at times intentionally) And when I do, it's usually an art work/letter inscribed.

Now, this doesn't make me look more matured than than a lady that changes her dp everyday.

There are people that claims to matured by pretending to be busy, whereas they are not.

And meanwhile some frequent dp changer got productive things they engage in.

It's just like saying, someone always online on NL is jobless, lol, you know it's not always so.

I'll just say it's personal preference for individuals.

To me I get to know a matured person by the way he/she talks and acts

Just like MizMyColi stated, different strokes for different folks.

But then again , Modesty should be the key

MizMyColi, God bless you. Such a rare gem

An0nimus:


Except the persons work resolves around the internet but always always online? there's a 99.9% chance the person is jobless.

nuelski10:
dem never finish the anime ohh,i still dey wait before i download the remaining episodes frm ep400

MizMyColi:


Well, I just gotta admit that the more we are think we know, the more we don't.

I'm at that phase where I am learning (kai! It's hard ehn) how to be wholly accepting of self, whether I wear fine clothings or not. Whether I make up or not.

More important I am learning how to ask, will I like him/them?
Instead of the stereotypical "will he/they like me?"

bukatyne:


The research doesn't include those who do not have a DP?

I guess they'd fall into the category of the busy ones.

No DP is actually a DP...in some sense.

InZA:
A lady that changes dp regularly wouldn't make a good wife... Honestly, there's are many things I find unsettling about a lady that changes her dp every 30mins. One of such is the suggestion that she's a noise maker in real life.... and I can't stand a woman who makes noise. There's this drop living gorgeous lady on my bbm, I had been nursing the idea of sending her my application (if you think I'm talking about a job you're on a long thing). But I noticed this lady changes dp like every 30mins, I thought it was a one off thing so I was ready to let it slide, but later on I realized it was a habit.... Suffice to say, I used the application paper to wrap akara


At the very basic level excessive dp changing reeks of inferiority complex, I can say so because I used to deal with it too but mine was not dp changing, rather it was putting my "bbm songs" on so that my contacts could see what I was playing because I wanted them to validate my taste in good songs, more so because I played only christian songs. But later on, I just had to be truthful to myself.


MizMyColi.... Your honesty is a virtue worth celebrating... and as it's said in my church- I celebrate you

softysparky:

You might actually lose a good woman meant for you because of flimsy things like this.
You don't judge people by how often they change their dp, I'd rather be concerned about the dp content.
I go through my pictures anytime I am in the toilet, that's even when it normally occurs to me to use certain pics as dp.

tosyne2much:
Oooooooh my God !!!

You are an intelligent young man

MizMyColi:


I asked google...here's what she told me.

The frequent DP changers

"People who keep on changing their profile pictures are insecure, lack in confidence and are often very flippant in their decisions. Such people are also found to be suspicious and don't trust others easily. Some even show traits of split personality and always remain dissatisfied with their decisions," said psychologist Amool Ranjan. "This trait shows that a person is suffering from identity crisis and actually wants to explore himself in the views of others. They are also attention seekers," said another psychologist Kaptan Singh Sengar.

Those with pictures of celebrities

Said Ranjan, "It shows that the person is carefree. Such people like to idolize others and are not too successful in life. They are not confident and often seek other's opinions. They are introvert and are hesitant in disclosing their personal matters." Sengar added, "Usually such individuals' world is very limited. Their desire and wishes remain hidden somewhere deep within. By uploading someone else's picture, they feel projected. They are dreamers and like to remain in the fantasy world."

Those who upload intimate photos

"Such people are usually attention seekers and are insecure in their relationships. They suffer from inferiority complex. To conceal it, they try and be more expressive," shared Ranjan. Said Sengar, "This behaviour shows sheer immaturity and urge to seek attention. Such people lack in self esteem and can hardly be trustworthy in relationships. It also shows that they have suffered setback in relationships at some point of their lives."

Users of slang in status messages

Said Ranjan, "They are frustrated souls who have faced lots of failures and criticism in life. So to compensate that they hurt others by being offensive. They might be weak in their communication skills. They try and make it up by being offensive." Another psychologist, Suprakash Chaudhary said, "It shows the amount of failure they have faced in life. To make up for it, they use social media as the medium to abuse masses at one go without being subjected to legal proceedings."

Frequent status message changers

"In a bid to sound expressive and extrovert, people keep on updating their status messages. Sometimes they even end up revealing their private lives. But it just shows how much of an inferiority complex the person has. In such a case, the views of others matter more and that shows a lack of self-confidence. Such people are weak in their judgmental abilities. They can never stick to their decisions," said Ranjan. Chaudhary said this trait can be seen as part of being defensive. "Such people believe in saying more but end up doing little. They are bad adjudicators," he said.

Those always on busy mode

Said Ranjan, "Some people do it purposely. But when it becomes a habit, it shows a person's social withdrawal symptoms. They don't want to interact with people or are only concerned about their own interests." On this trait, Chaudhary said, "Such netizens don't need society's approval. They are not bothered about rules and regulation and live life on their terms. But sometimes the continued ignorance may lead to depression."

Gothic art as DP

Said Ranjan, "Such people are complex and mysterious. It's very difficult to understand them and that's what they enjoy. They are reserved and don't share too much with people. They try to solve their problems themselves." Sengar agreed, saying, "Though the person might be perfectly alright, they always feel they aren't well. These people are concerned about their physical appearances. That's the reason they often find faults with their health."

MizMyColi:


@ your last statement, I think I can relate.

Well, like the saying goes, where there's a will, there's a way. You just keep on.
Let his sovereign hand be your guide.

Phinalphantasy:

Was just going tru this. A lot has happened..We created a kind of confidence group..looking at it from a very unusual and uncommon neutral angle...It's been wow cos during discussion even life gets redefined

I like that.
Keep on

MizMyColi:
Well personally, I stopped uploading my DP on NL because I found that I kept visiting my profile.
Checking out the number of likes, and if I found that the likes weren't as forthcoming, I'd take it down and change to another.
It even got more annoying when my "hard earned" likes got subtracted as a result of the new picture.

I told myself the hard truth, that in addition to people's general approval of my comments, I wanted them to approve my face too.
And with each picture I uploaded, I somehow felt inadequate.
Those times turned out to be my first real practical lessons on self acceptance/approval.


Second and most important.....despite my openness as an individual, I am not always comfortable with the fact that my face is out there.
The longest lasting DP I ever used on this forum was one where I had my face downwards, staring right into my bag.

So, yes, I think that most times...when we upload and upload different styles and pictures of ourselves, we trying to fill a void.... #HardTruthThough

That said, my thoughts aren't an absolute.
Different strokes, Different folks.

dechandel:
I do not see how often one changes his/her profile picture should be tagged as an immature move!!
But then again with what i see on my bbm?? Dinner in a five star finds its way on my bbm..
Look of the day finds its way on my bbm
Being in a taxi finds its way on my bbm..
Haba!!
Makes me wonder if they use this to get validation or what!? From who?
And i also think one has to be a picture freak for him/her to be dishing out the pics like its hot..
And also less busy like someone above said..

I even had to remind one that she was still in Ghana when she uploaded a pics of her putting on a hood and saying cant wait for summer"!
Abi i no do well?? If you will keep on blasting my feeds with your updates, get ready for my sweet observations!!