KanwuliaJara:
All of them like wahala sha!
Too much baggage to go around I swia!
I really do not understand why women with UNRESOLVED issues choose to get married, instead of joining convents!
Do they expect the men to play LIFE-THERAPISTS?

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Well you are called a "winner", if you SUCCESFULLY TRIED to have your cake, just after "eating" the same cake!

Its possible though very difficult but the annoying part is when you blame someone else, [b]when you fail in the effort!


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BTW: I noticed that ALL women commentators somehow "deliberately" missed the part where the man though having "low sperm count" is NOT responsible for the barrenness of the marriage[b] rather it has to be the woman[/b], ......afterall, the guy has PROVED his fertility beyond doubt!

suggyspic:
They meet 9yrs ago through a friend while he was developing his property. Initially he wanted a fling with her but as the relationship progressed, he saw the gentle and unique person in her. she confided in him how she was raped by 3 boys in the community and how her family could not follow up the case at the station because they were poor. The police was demanding so much from her poor parents to prosecute the boys. The families of the boys threatened to deal with her family if they are jailed. Her family been strangers had no choice but to close the case at the station. she forgive the boys and left it to God to judge.

Nonso listened as glory amidst tear was narrating her past. He promise not to ever hurt her, while the relationship lasted. One thing lead to the other and eventually Nonso married glory in 2009 when she was 3months pregnant. The marriage was the talk of the town as the community (were she was raped) never believed she would ever get married. Nonso and glory lived within the same community.

Five years in the marriage she could not get pregnant again after she lost her initial pregnancy. Nonso became a laughing stock from his friends who knows her story and advise him not to marry her. He tried all he could medically for her to get pregnant but non was forth coming. The lab result reveal he had low sperm count while his wife had some infection and hormonal imbalance. Nonso did not believe the lab test. He went out and cheated on his wife. The lady (outside) got pregnant and told Nonso. Nonso did not believe her, but told her to abort the baby if it was true. The lady informed Nonso's sister, who advise her to keep the baby that she would take care of her and the baby.

She gave birth in January this year. (beautiful baby girl) and Nonso learnt about it in March. Nonso could not believe the conspiracy, he accuse his sister of deliberately trying to brake his home, he vowed not to have anything to do with the lady and his child. Nonso's wife heard about it (God knows who told her), she confronted Nonso who did not deny or accept but told her the hold truth. Rather than stand by her husband, she dropped her wedding ring and parked out of the house.

I have deliberately changed names to cover identity. Please advise.
Is nonso under a spell?
would you advise the lady to abort the girl considering the yrs of searching for a child?
Now that the child is born, is nonso action still logical?
if you are the wife, would you end your marriage?
is there a way out? No insult Please, the deed has been done.

suggyspic:


I can give you her Phone number if it would make u believe that not every story is like saharareporters story.

Notyourb1tch:
Am so sick and tired of all these c.o..ck and bull stories

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Good Post.... but l have a few "issues" to raise.

1.) You said "that child" should not be brought into the house! Except "madam" permits, ......which is like asking Jesus to marry devil!

Questions:
*Was it the child's fault to be born by a married man called Nonso? NO.
* Does that child not have a right, l mean 100% right to be in HIS FATHER"S HOUSE? YES!
* Do we realize that just as Glory (wife) has a right in her husband's house, so does that Child has right in his Father's (Nonso) house? TRUE!!
*Are we aware that the law has abolished the word "illegal / Bastard" Child? TRUE!
A child, simply because he was born out of wedlock, is still no less than any other child born within wedlock!
*Do you know that such Child does not need anyone's permission, to "be with" ...and to enjoy the "full care and presence" of his Father (Nonso)? TRUE
*Should the Child be PUNISHED for the indiscretion of his father? NO
*Is it right to suffer that innocent child, from that early age, for the transgression of an adult(s)? NOT RIGHT

As for the Nonso and his wife, there are "moral" issues to be raised but they are just "moral" ....and not legal, therefore not binding!
*Does Nonso not have a right to fuflil his marital desires of having children?
*If one spouse is barren/infertile and incapable of having children, does that mean the other spouse MUST suffer the same fate, through no fault of theirs?
*Since Nonso was able to withstand all the insults, pressures and shame of marrying an "ex-victim" in a community that views such with dishonor, do we not think Glory (wife) should have shown the same level of "solidarity" with Nonso, whe he also mis-step?
*Should Glory not even be happy that finally, their lineage will not be "cut-off" permanently, as her husband now has a heir? But l guess like all women, pettiness, jealousy and spite would set-in once their initial problem is over, just ;like Sarah in the Bible made a U-turn about haggai her maid which she "recommended" to Abraham, when she was childless only to wickedly mock and thrash her once she had her own son!
Women sha!

What is good for the Geese, should be good enough for the Gander


Finally, if l were Nonso, l will simply say good riddance to bad rubbish! I will legally divorce the Glory and marry the lady that bore thee child for me.
That way, we would be able to give that Child (and probably other siblings of his that may come later), the deserved love of BOTH parents that they deserve.
Glory can go and marry one of her rapist! Who be the loser?

Wisdom is for the wise but the foolish one with its own hand, destroys her home.


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pcguru1:
[size=18pt]am curious there's no correlation between the story and her rape issue, other than to paint her character different [/size] .

Lanadelrey:
This story doesn't ring true. But if it is, the lady in question has the right to decide not to forgive her husband's infidelity and leave the marriage afterall marriage is the union of 2, even the bible in corinthians says divorce is wrong except for the sin of adultery. So before god and man she is allowed to decide if she can forgive this and as it seems she can't, she's allowed to move on with her life. And to the person who said she should be lucky a man married her after being a victim of rape, you're absolutely vile and disgusting for that statement. This woman has been through a traumatic experience already and knowing this country she didn't get any counseling or psychological rehabilitation after the incident and from what you say she didn't get justice either, she worked through this entirely on her own strength and willpower and knowing the stigmatization in Nigeria she must have endured her fair share of mockery but she decided to be strong and she got married in hopes of a happy life full of love with her real life Prince Charming, since this man can't be that for her, she should leave and go find happiness alone or with someone else. The man is an absolute douchebag and the only spell he's under is that of his utter selfishness. You find a broken person trying to heal, make them love and trust you, then break them even further. Humans are poison!!!

suggyspic:
They meet 9yrs ago through a friend while he was developing his property. Initially he wanted a fling with her but as the relationship progressed, he saw the gentle and unique person in her. she confided in him how she was raped by 3 boys in the community and how her family could not follow up the case at the station because they were poor. The police was demanding so much from her poor parents to prosecute the boys. The families of the boys threatened to deal with her family if they are jailed. Her family been strangers had no choice but to close the case at the station. she forgive the boys and left it to God to judge.

Nonso listened as glory amidst tear was narrating her past. He promise not to ever hurt her, while the relationship lasted. One thing lead to the other and eventually Nonso married glory in 2009 when she was 3months pregnant. The marriage was the talk of the town as the community (were she was raped) never believed she would ever get married. Nonso and glory lived within the same community.

Five years in the marriage she could not get pregnant again after she lost her initial pregnancy. Nonso became a laughing stock from his friends who knows her story and advise him not to marry her. He tried all he could medically for her to get pregnant but non was forth coming. The lab result reveal he had low sperm count while his wife had some infection and hormonal imbalance. Nonso did not believe the lab test. He went out and cheated on his wife. The lady (outside) got pregnant and told Nonso. Nonso did not believe her, but told her to abort the baby if it was true. The lady informed Nonso's sister, who advise her to keep the baby that she would take care of her and the baby.

She gave birth in January this year. (beautiful baby girl) and Nonso learnt about it in March. Nonso could not believe the conspiracy, he accuse his sister of deliberately trying to brake his home, he vowed not to have anything to do with the lady and his child. Nonso's wife heard about it (God knows who told her), she confronted Nonso who did not deny or accept but told her the hold truth. Rather than stand by her husband, she dropped her wedding ring and parked out of the house.

I have deliberately changed names to cover identity. Please advise.
Is nonso under a spell?
would you advise the lady to abort the girl considering the yrs of searching for a child?
Now that the child is born, is nonso action still logical?
if you are the wife, would you end your marriage?
is there a way out? No insult Please, the deed has been done.

suggyspic:
They meet 9yrs ago through a friend while he was developing his property. Initially he wanted a fling with her but as the relationship progressed, he saw the gentle and unique person in her. she confided in him how she was raped by 3 boys in the community and how her family could not follow up the case at the station because they were poor. The police was demanding so much from her poor parents to prosecute the boys. The families of the boys threatened to deal with her family if they are jailed. Her family been strangers had no choice but to close the case at the station. she forgive the boys and left it to God to judge.

Nonso listened as glory amidst tear was narrating her past. He promise not to ever hurt her, while the relationship lasted. One thing lead to the other and eventually Nonso married glory in 2009 when she was 3months pregnant. The marriage was the talk of the town as the community (were she was raped) never believed she would ever get married. Nonso and glory lived within the same community.

Five years in the marriage she could not get pregnant again after she lost her initial pregnancy. Nonso became a laughing stock from his friends who knows her story and advise him not to marry her. He tried all he could medically for her to get pregnant but non was forth coming. The lab result reveal he had low sperm count while his wife had some infection and hormonal imbalance. Nonso did not believe the lab test. He went out and cheated on his wife. The lady (outside) got pregnant and told Nonso. Nonso did not believe her, but told her to abort the baby if it was true. The lady informed Nonso's sister, who advise her to keep the baby that she would take care of her and the baby.

She gave birth in January this year. (beautiful baby girl) and Nonso learnt about it in March. Nonso could not believe the conspiracy, he accuse his sister of deliberately trying to brake his home, he vowed not to have anything to do with the lady and his child. Nonso's wife heard about it (God knows who told her), she confronted Nonso who did not deny or accept but told her the hold truth. Rather than stand by her husband, she dropped her wedding ring and parked out of the house.

I have deliberately changed names to cover identity. Please advise.
Is nonso under a spell?
would you advise the lady to abort the girl considering the yrs of searching for a child?
Now that the child is born, is nonso action still logical?
if you are the wife, would you end your marriage?
is there a way out? No insult Please, the deed has been done.

kaima1984:
if am d wife, I wunt leave my home for any reason,wat Nonso did ws annoying n betraying BT d deed has been done and forgiveness will b d right thing t do instead of leaving home

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Good Post.... but l have a few "issues" to raise.

1.) You said "that child" should not be brought into the house! Except "madam" permits, ......which is like asking Jesus to marry devil!

Questions:
*Was it the child's fault to be born by a married man called Nonso? NO.
* Does that child not have a right, l mean 100% right to be in HIS FATHER"S HOUSE? YES!
* Do we realize that just as Glory (wife) has a right in her husband's house, so does that Child has right in his Father's (Nonso) house? TRUE!!
*Are we aware that the law has abolished the word "illegal / Bastard" Child? TRUE!
A child, simply because he was born out of wedlock, is still no less than any other child born within wedlock!
*Do you know that such Child does not need anyone's permission, to "be with" ...and to enjoy the "full care and presence" of his Father (Nonso)? TRUE
*Should the Child be PUNISHED for the indiscretion of his father? NO
*Is it right to suffer that innocent child, from that early age, for the transgression of an adult(s)? NOT RIGHT

As for the Nonso and his wife, there are "moral" issues to be raised but they are just "moral" ....and not legal, therefore not binding!
*Does Nonso not have a right to fuflil his marital desires of having children?
*If one spouse is barren/infertile and incapable of having children, does that mean the other spouse MUST suffer the same fate, through no fault of theirs?
*Since Nonso was able to withstand all the insults, pressures and shame of marrying an "ex-victim" in a community that views such with dishonor, do we not think Glory (wife) should have shown the same level of "solidarity" with Nonso, whe he also mis-step?
*Should Glory not even be happy that finally, their lineage will not be "cut-off" permanently, as her husband now has a heir? But l guess like all women, pettiness, jealousy and spite would set-in once their initial problem is over, just ;like Sarah in the Bible made a U-turn about haggai her maid which she "recommended" to Abraham, when she was childless only to wickedly mock and thrash her once she had her own son!
Women sha!

What is good for the Geese, should be good enough for the Gander


Finally, if l were Nonso, l will simply say good riddance to bad rubbish! I will legally divorce the Glory and marry the lady that bore thee child for me.
That way, we would be able to give that Child (and probably other siblings of his that may come later), the deserved love of BOTH parents that they deserve.
Glory can go and marry one of her rapist! Who be the loser?

Wisdom is for the wise but the foolish one with its own hand, destroys her home.


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