We all make mistakes but the people who thrive from
their mistakes are the successful ones.
Dr. Henry Cloud
“Never go back.” What does that mean? From
observations of successful people, clinical psychologist
and author of Never Go Back: 10 Things You'll Never Do
Again (Howard Books, June 2014), Dr. Henry Cloud has
discovered certain “awakenings” that people have—in life
and in business—that once they have them, they never go
back to the old way of doing things. And when that
happens, they are never the same. In short, they got it.
“Years ago, a bad business decision of mine led to an
interesting discussion with my mentor,” Dr. Cloud says. “I
had learned a valuable lesson the hard way, and he
reassured me: ‘The good thing is once you learn that
lesson, you never go back. You never do it again.’
“I wondered, what are the key awakenings that successful
people go through that forever change how they do
things, which propel them to succeed in business,
relationships, and life? I began to study these awakenings,
researching them over the years.”
Although life and business have many lessons to teach us,
Dr. Cloud observed 10 “doorways” of learning that high
performers go through, never to return again.
Successful people never again…

1. Return to what hasn’t worked. Whether a job, or a
broken relationship that was ended for a good reason, we
should never go back to the same thing, expecting
different results, without something being different.

2. Do anything that requires them to be someone they
are not. In everything we do, we have to ask ourselves,
“Why am I doing this? Am I suited for it? Does it fit me? Is
it sustainable?” If the answer is no to any of these
questions, you better have a very good reason to
proceed.

3. Try to change another person. When you realize that
you cannot force someone into doing something, you give
him or her freedom and allow them to experience the
consequences. In doing so, you find your own freedom as
well.

4. Believe they can please everyone. Once you get that
it truly is impossible to please everyone, you begin to live
purposefully, trying to please the right people.

5. Choose short-term comfort over long-term benefit.
Once successful people know they want something that
requires a painful, time-limited step, they do not mind the
painful step because it gets them to a long-term benefit.
Living out this principle is one of the most fundamental
differences between successful and unsuccessful people,
both personally and professionally.

6. Trust someone or something that appears flawless.
It’s natural for us to be drawn to things and people that
appear "incredible." We love excellence and should
always be looking for it. We should pursue people who
are great at what they do, employees who are high
performers, dates who are exceptional people, friends
who have stellar character, and companies that excel. But
when someone or something looks too good to be true,
he, she, or it is. The world is imperfect. Period. No one
and no thing is without flaw, and if they appear that way,
hit pause.

7. Take their eyes off the big picture. We function
better emotionally and perform better in our lives when
we can see the big picture. For successful people, no one
event is ever the whole story. Winners remember that –
each and every day.

8. Neglect to do due diligence. No matter how good
something looks on the outside, it is only by taking a
deeper, diligent, and honest look that we will find out
what we truly need to know: the reality that we owe
ourselves.

9. Fail to ask why they are where they find
themselves. One of the biggest differences between
successful people and others is that in love and in life, in
relationships and in business, successful people always
ask themselves, what part am I playing in this situation?
Said another way, they do not see themselves only as
victims, even when they are.

10. Forget that their inner life determines their outer
success. The good life sometimes has little to do with
outside circumstances. We are happy and fulfilled mostly
by who we are on the inside. Research validates that. And
our internal lives largely contribute to producing many of
our external circumstances.
And, the converse is true: people who are still trying to
find success in various areas of life can almost always
point to one or more of these patterns as a reason they
are repeating the same mistakes.
Everyone makes mistakes…even the most successful
people out there. But, what achievers do better than
others is recognize the patterns that are causing those
mistakes and never repeat them again. In short, they
learn from pain—their own and the pain of others.
A good thing to remember is this: pain is unavoidable, but
repeating the same pain twice, when we could choose to
learn and do something different, is certainly avoidable. I
like to say, “we don’t need new ways to fail….the old ones
are working just fine!” Our task, in business and in life, is
to observe what they are, and never go back to doing
them again.



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