sinaj:
dnt break up wid her ...

perhaps itz circumstance that pushed her to that ungodly act


The important thing there is dat she showed remorse

hahaha

hazydon:
Take her for deliverance. Bro even if u forgive her 2day i tell yhu d truth she will not change. The only solution is DELIVERANCE...

she's delivered,so stop pushing the guy hard.

Pls note: there is a difference btw a bisexual and a lesbian. If she is a true lesbo, she will never marry. But if some circumstances forced her to marry, you will never have sexual satisfaction together becs she will never really be unto you. Its not wickedness on her part but forces beyond her power. If, however, she is kinky, by which I mean if she is bisexual, she may or may never leave her way. She may even fall in love with you but that will not stop her desire to have flings with other women once there is such opportunities. It all depends on whether you can bear it when she decides to let loose.
Mind you, most women are kinky in one form or the other. Go and read a book written by one Nancy titled "Woman on Top"

oyin17:
see as them dey advice the op to stand by her. Op don't marry her if you're not going accept her past
(though I don't believe it's her past). It is hard to let go cos its in u.

You are the only realistic person here...others Na text book advice...

@Op, Are you saying people's advice is what you need to make such a critical Decision ?

Op don't break with lady as everyone has a past though some are more despicable, the most important thing is to be sure that it has truly become her past and not that she's pretending. Make all the necessary findings you can about her present life to ascertain she's no longer into act and if your proves it has become a past please her past be and help her to move forward.

Lordave:
Nobody will kill you if you write in your local dialect

are you crazy. check the correction. it's as a result of rush mistake and phone typing change if words. corrected.

Bro!,I kno you definitely loved her, bc if not you wont have asked for help.
But let me tell you,all women are Natural lesbians,and at least 60percent of women are either actively practicing lesbianism,or have done it once in their lifetime.So your girl once a Lesbian is not a problem it's natural for women,But I will advice you to check the website to see hw active your woman is,if she is very very active a lesbian,then you have to look for love elsewhere,immediately she marries you and have kids,she will start it again,an the shame will be on you when people finds out,mayb she wants to hide under you.and why is she communicating with the guy trying to blackmail her?

pukena:
........

Your woman is a runs girl. She's a liar and a cheater. Dump her a*ss real fast, or else she'll ruin your life. She's a lesbian (not her fault, she didn't create herself). It can't be cured, in as much as you can't cure being straight. She will always like women and she'll always have sex with women, and there's absolutely nothing you can do about it.

Any lesbian or gay who's in a romantic relationship with the opposite sex, does so due to society pressure. Being a lesbian or gay in Nigeria is a punishable crime. Which I believe government should stop. You can't punish people for what they didn't create and can't control.

I don't even mind having one as a girlfriend (not wife) because it may result into a hot three*some. I'm just kidding guys!

Seriously, what upsets me is that she's a runs girl and she didn't plan telling you any damn thing about her runs life. If she actually wanted, she would have told you about it earlier or immediately when that call came. Even when you asked her about the call, she sat there and lied to you in your face! That's not the kind of behavior of someone who really wanted to tell you anything. If not for your persistence and the call you made to the guy, you wouldn't have known her runs life.

If you truly want to be with someone for the rest of your life, the person deserves to know both your past and present life.

By the way, how the hell did you meet her in December and engaged her already in January? What the hell is wrong with you? Why are you in a hurry to marry this woman? Did she push you into it? It's never a good idea to marry someone you just met so quickly.

What you just found out about her is a good proof that should discourage men like you against jumping into marraige after you just met someone. Pipe down a bit and think! Nobody was meant for anyone. You can still get a better girl who doesnt have a nasty skeleton in her cupboard, a girl who's compatible with you and one you can still love.

Don't listen to people on NL telling you to forgive and take her back. Don't forget that some of them here may be runs girls and boys or may have friends or siblings who do runs. They will naturally defend and support runs people.

You can forgive her but don't marry her because you just dodged a bullet my friend. Go and celebrate.

TheFilmmaker:




*sips petrol*

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Hmmm...

niggas be acting like if 2hot women shows up for 3some in his bed... he wudn't do the dew... its her past which in no way z ya bizzz... u just dey provoke for no cause.... the only probs i see here z the runs man flashing you.... abi him be gay or him get rich man for you?? Warn the murafuka asap to trow ur num in the ocean.

My guy, what she did in her past is past.she realized it was wrong and has moved forward in life.you should let her past be, she was not dating you then, and she did not you.she has confessed to you and has shown her willingness to move ahead with you, encourage her.As for the blackmailer, invite him for drinks with, then get the sss or police to arrest him.blackmail is a serious offence and should not be taken lightly.

Going through the posts here got me scratching my head.

Let me ask, can any of you marry an ashawo?
Because na ashawo she be but into women.

adellam16:
yea right! Men r saints! They don't sleep around or hustle too! Smh!

If women werent so easy to entice men wouldnt patronize we will look for another sport,women are our kryptonite.it takes the grace of God to turn down women advances.if more women decide to work legitimately,more men will respect them and take them serious.

Pukena, try s much as possible to make it work if you still love her. It will certainly be tough. But you should try. But if you are the type of person who find it hard to forget after forgiveness, desist from the relationship and let her go.
But I'll let you know that human beings are no saints and know one is perfect. I believe if you truly love her, you will help her get past through it. Help her believe that despite her past, she can still be a better person. She can still be loved for the person she has become.
If you leave her now, how do you think she will perceive the world afterwards. No one's perfect. And there's no perfection in love.

Most guys neglect a lady with a past only to go for a lady with no future... The truth is that most ladies have in one way or the other engaged in the act of lesbianism especially those who attended all girls school...
Truly I see no wrong in continuing with her... The repentant ones are very awesome.. trust me...
But if you can't handle it, dont even bother trying to manage it... let go!

This is heavy and very dicy, it's easy for everyone here to run their mouths coz most of em haven't experienced what u just did, even I pray neva to. Tasking you to forgive her is easy, but deep down I'm sure that tot will forever haunt u and if I'm not wrong I'm sure one of those sleepless nights you've had u were tempted to click on that link and watch that video, it's human u r bound to succumb to those fears.
No disrespect to the ladies but "all sins are forgivable but not all are forgettable".....if u r sure you'll neva bring this up when u and her have a heated argument, then I think u can still mend this relationship (I really doubt this coz it'll happen like a reflex). But if u will, then bro trust me you'll b doing yourself and her a very big favour by parting ways.
I believe a wife is like your grave, u neva know who you'll eventually settle with, if it's meant to b her, trust me even if u catch her in the act, all you'll do is cry and starve but you'll still take her back.
Deep down I feel there's a part of your heart that's already taken a stand, u r here to know if it's d right one, well that word "empathy" ain't real, no two ppl can react to d same situation, all we'll do is tell u what we would do if we find ourselves in that situation. In summary PRAY AND FOLLOW UR HEART.... ALL THE BEST

Thanks for sharing this. The decision to move on or stay is ultimately with you but here are what I would consider if I were in your shoes:

1. Her honesty in sharing her past with you is commendable considering that you have only known her for a few months. Many are married for years and have never found out about their partner's past. I know of a friend who only discovered his wife had a lesbian sexual experience after they broke off an 11 year marriage. She could have lied to you at that lunch.

2. What is Love: Love is when you have known enough about someone like their history, weaknesses and strengths and you still consciously accept them unconditionally or if you accept someone unconditionally regardless of their history, weaknesses and strengths. Therefore, if you truly love her, her past should not change your acceptance of her.

3. I would get in touch with that guy and get all the information he has. It is essential to get all the facts before you decide no matter how unpleasant they may be.

If you have lived, you will have a past you are not proud of. You can go on to have a honest and secured relationship with her because she has been truthful with her past and desires to put it behind her. I have no objection to all these advise on deliverance but let's be clear that the Bible says FLEE EVIL DESIRES (2Tim2:22). Deliverance is not deliverance if you don't flee that past. Fleeing is a conscious decision to severe/separate from the past and it appears that is what she is trying to do or has done.

Finally, do not let this issue cloud your judgment on all the other good things about her.

she has retired and looking for poor nigga to tie down, this is bulls.hit, and this prove we still have fool in the society

just remind me of escort. find quote below

Australian call girl Gwyneth Montenegro
once charged up to $950 an hour.
A former escort who claims to have slept
with more than 10,000 men has written a
book about how she went from a girl next
door from a religious family to a high-end
escort who binged on cocaine and was
wined and dined by millionaires.
In total, Gwyneth Montenegro slept with
10,091 men during her 12 years in the
industry -- that's about 70 clients a
month.

"Life was a blur of money and drugs and
French champagne," the 36-year-old
Aussie told the Daily News of her exploits,
which included lavish dinners and jet
setting to exotic locations. Her book,
"10,000 Men and Counting," was recently
published.

"I've had the out-there clients. The funny
ones. The one that flashed himself in front
of a lagoon-style pool at a motel,"
Montenegro said. "(In that case) I grabbed
my clothes and I was out the door."
Affluent businessmen, lawyers and
politicians sought out her services. Many
of them were married.

"A lot of the men love to please the
woman," she said. "They want to make
sure you are happy sexually as well."

Namzy:
Don't usually give advice but in this case I'll be making an exception.......... Call the blackmailing dude and request for the site to see her pictures and get that over with, think long and hard and decide if you'll continue. I didn't believe her when she said she came to tell you her past life @lunch the truth i believe is the guy was already blackmailing her and she decided to come forward. You gotta see those pics man then decide. Forgiving her past life esp in this magnitude ain't easy forget all those telling you its in the past most wont marry prostitutes when they find out. Let the nature of those pics decide cos they might surface later and begin another phase

I concord with you completely. She cannot claim it's her past of three (3) years ago and still have contact with her agent (that guy). Assuming it between you and her it would have be easy to deal with but now that it involve another party (the guy blackmailing her) you can't tell what he has in mind. Love is a choice,so you have to decide if you trust her enough to be your wife but you should have this at the back of your mind that you are liable to the consequence of your decision not God! I pray God gives you the wisdom and the ability to stand by your decision.

Joel3:
are you crazy. check the correction. it's as a result of rush mistake and phone typing change if words. corrected.

And you want me to believe you? Your case dey head master's office.


Anyway, we stand to gain almost nothing for typing in correct English on this type of thread, don't take it seriously, was just kidding.

elantraceey:
Like seriously , break up with her?

To me you never loved her, it was just infatuation because if you really did , this will not spoil it, come on who is without mistakes and faults tell me? Is there not something you've done before that you're currently ashamed of? Or have you always being a saint?


Love forgives and forget, if you truly love her you'll forget about it and block that guys number.

Love is also about letting her go to be with somebody who accepts her sexuality and way of life, if you love somebody you want that person to be happy, if this lady is a lesbian for real then forget it, she will always fancy another girl even after marriage.

People are saying forgive her because its her past...no its not her past, For any girl to like women to the point of being an escort and having a love-vendor then that is not just try-sexual, she is into it.

pukena:
I met her in a church program in December last year. I proposed to her in January and she accepted. my life in the past 4 months with her has been a dream come true. I showed her off to family and friends at will even in facebook. We even attended a leadership training program for two weeks where we birthed a business dream we shall go into as a family. In fact there was no doubt she was in love with me. I spent on her within my capacity without feeling regret. giving to her was a delight. Everything was perfect until the phone call....

I was on a lunch date with her during a break from d office when a call came through her phone. Usually I dont pokenose into her calls or chats. she doesnt like it.

however, something was different about this particular call. I noticed she was uneasy and was kind of trying to pacify the caller with some excuses why she didnt pick his/her call ealier. I got more curios and demanded to know who called. she said it a nobody. I insisted in knowing who she was pleading with.

finally she spoke. my whole world came crashing before me. I was speechless for some time trying to understand the words I heard from a lady I have given my heart to.

she told me the call was a bolt from her past. that she has been looking for how to tell me about it. "I was into women untill three years ago. the guy who called has my pics and is threatening to publish them online to punish me. he wants to link me up to a rich woman but I told him I dont want so he is threatening to deal with me".

I was lost for words. was ds my lady? I was confused. I demanded to speak to d guy myself. she refused. I wanted to explode then she gave me d number. I called d guy and introduced myself and inquired of d guy if what my woman said was true. at ds point d guy flared up calling my woman unprintable words. he angrily told me that my woman came to him long ago and asked him to hook her up with a rich woman. that he wants to punish her for being a lesbian. blah blah blah......so many revelations I cant say her for respect to my woman.

well, the lunch date was ruined already. I coolly but sternly asked her to go home from the restaurant. I was boiling inside. she followed me back to my office. I turned to see her following and wanted to blow up when she calmly said " emmanuel, just know that all ds things happened in the past. am not proud of it but I hv moved on. I came to tell u about it today before d call came in". with that she turned and left. ofcourse d rest of the day wad spoiled for me.

for days I didnt call her. she wud call and end the call when I wouldnt talk much. I was still in shock. d best friend called and pleaded. she said my woman hadnt left her room for days. always crying non stop.

I still love her. I called d guy later and he claimed he was just playing around. dat the pictures he claimed to hv hv long been lost. dat I shud not leave my woman becos of that. that what he did dat morning was to check if my woman was still in that game. I didnt believe him.

anyway I tried to move on with my woman. though I must admit that things are not d way it used to be. I hv lost d enthusiasm.

I was watching man u match this afternoon when my phone rang. it was the same guy. I asked him why he called. he said called to know why am not talking to my woman. I got angry andtold him to stay clear of my life. I cut the call. he then sent me a message that he would like t send me a link to a website so I would get to know whovmy woman truely is.

I called my girl and warned her to ask her friend to leave me alone.

I want to break up from her. pls is ds the right thing to do?

pls I typed this with a phone to pardon some of my errors.

your woman's story doesn't add up!!
She wasn't going to tell you that day before the call came in. If she was when you asked who called she would have come clean then and there.

"she followed me back to my office. I turned to see her following and wanted to blow up when she calmly said " emmanuel, just know that all ds things happened in the past. am not proud of it but I hv moved on. I came to tell u about it today before d call came in". with that she turned and left" ... that's just reversed psychology designed to make you feel bad for when you did nothing wrong!!

The guys now wants to "help" your relationship after all he said in the phone? I smell lies!! lies everywhere!!

Nothing wrong with having a past, but lying and hiding it is a problem.

All was fine until the devil came, the devil is labeled the accuser of the brethen b4 God. If u re truly saved let go of the past (phil 3:13 ....forgetting those things that are behind.....) ...If God does not jugde us based on our past, who are we to jugde. A wonderful scripture i read Romans 5:8--But God commendeth is love 2ward us,in that while we were yet sinners,christ died for us..

if the most high shewed so great grace until who are we to hold judgement against our fellow...
2 corin 5:17
If she's renewed she's new.....because christ made us perfect b4 God.... .
FORGIVE THAT YOUR HEAVENLY FATHER MAY FORGIVE YOU....
BE YE PERFECT AS YOUR HEAVEANLY FATHER IS PERFECT

If you know u are not ready to cope with her past life dont even think of accepting her back becos somewhere in the future you will definetly bring that issue up in the heat of a dissagreement and that may cause a rift in ur marriage..
Bros, if u knw wan divorce and u no say u no fit forget, hmmmm better let her go now...

pukena:
I met her in a church program in December last year. I proposed to her in January and she accepted. my life in the past 4 months with her has been a dream come true. I showed her off to family and friends at will even in facebook. We even attended a leadership training program for two weeks where we birthed a business dream we shall go into as a family. In fact there was no doubt she was in love with me. I spent on her within my capacity without feeling regret. giving to her was a delight. Everything was perfect until the phone call....

I was on a lunch date with her during a break from d office when a call came through her phone. Usually I dont pokenose into her calls or chats. she doesnt like it.

however, something was different about this particular call. I noticed she was uneasy and was kind of trying to pacify the caller with some excuses why she didnt pick his/her call ealier. I got more curios and demanded to know who called. she said it a nobody. I insisted in knowing who she was pleading with.

finally she spoke. my whole world came crashing before me. I was speechless for some time trying to understand the words I heard from a lady I have given my heart to.

she told me the call was a bolt from her past. that she has been looking for how to tell me about it. "I was into women untill three years ago. the guy who called has my pics and is threatening to publish them online to punish me. he wants to link me up to a rich woman but I told him I dont want so he is threatening to deal with me".

I was lost for words. was ds my lady? I was confused. I demanded to speak to d guy myself. she refused. I wanted to explode then she gave me d number. I called d guy and introduced myself and inquired of d guy if what my woman said was true. at ds point d guy flared up calling my woman unprintable words. he angrily told me that my woman came to him long ago and asked him to hook her up with a rich woman. that he wants to punish her for being a lesbian. blah blah blah......so many revelations I cant say her for respect to my woman.

well, the lunch date was ruined already. I coolly but sternly asked her to go home from the restaurant. I was boiling inside. she followed me back to my office. I turned to see her following and wanted to blow up when she calmly said " emmanuel, just know that all ds things happened in the past. am not proud of it but I hv moved on. I came to tell u about it today before d call came in". with that she turned and left. ofcourse d rest of the day wad spoiled for me.

for days I didnt call her. she wud call and end the call when I wouldnt talk much. I was still in shock. d best friend called and pleaded. she said my woman hadnt left her room for days. always crying non stop.

I still love her. I called d guy later and he claimed he was just playing around. dat the pictures he claimed to hv hv long been lost. dat I shud not leave my woman becos of that. that what he did dat morning was to check if my woman was still in that game. I didnt believe him.

anyway I tried to move on with my woman. though I must admit that things are not d way it used to be. I hv lost d enthusiasm.

I was watching man u match this afternoon when my phone rang. it was the same guy. I asked him why he called. he said called to know why am not talking to my woman. I got angry andtold him to stay clear of my life. I cut the call. he then sent me a message that he would like t send me a link to a website so I would get to know whovmy woman truely is.

I called my girl and warned her to ask her friend to leave me alone.

I want to break up from her. pls is ds the right thing to do?

pls I typed this with a phone to pardon some of my errors.

1 corinthians 13. Pls you don't know what love is yet. Are u a christian? Yet u go to the gathering of the saints and you can't forgive what is in the past? Let's make a wish that God won't forgive u all ur sins! How will u feel? If God can overlook our trespasses, how much what He required from us to forgive and love one another!! Even, the next person u wanna date, u don't even know what she has done. So, I pray thee: if because of that u lose ur enthusiasm, then you don't love her in the first place; u're simply being infatuated!

You are missing the big picture... You need to investigate the guy, who claimed too have some photo of your lesbian GF.. I promise you, he will surely come back after you both are joined in holy matrimony to screw her badly, over and over again...she is not the devil..love her and take good care of her because she is better than the Angel you don't know...

Wow! You just spoke my mind! The OP should dump her very fast! When things get bad in the marriage, she will revert to her old ways.

NobleG1:


Your woman is a runs girl. She's a liar and a cheater. Dump her a*ss real fast, or else she'll ruin your life. She's a lesbian (not her fault, she didn't create herself). It can't be cured, in as much you can't cure being straight. She will always like women and she'll always have sex with women, and there's absolutely nothing you can do about it.

Any lesbian or gay who's in a romantic relationship with the opposite sex, does so due to society pressure. Being a lesbian or gay in Nigeria is a punishable crime. Which I believe government should stop. You can't punish people for what they didn't create and can't control.

I don't even mind having one as a girlfriend (not wife) because it may result into a hot three*some. I'm just kidding guys!

What upsets me is that she's a runs girl and she didn't plan telling you any damn thing about her runs life. If she actually wanted, she would have told you about it earlier or immediately when that call came. Even when you asked her about the call, she sat there and lied to you in your face! That's not the kind of behavior of someone who really wanted to tell you anything. If not for your persistence and the call you made to the guy, you wouldn't have known her runs life.

If you truly want to be with someone for the rest of your life, the person deserves to know both your past and present life.

By the way, how the hell did you meet her in December and engaged her already in January? What the hell is wrong with you? Why are you in a hurry to marry this woman? Did she push you into it? It's never a good idea to marry someone you just met so quickly.

What you just found out about her is a good proof that should discourage men like you against jumping into marraige after you just met someone. Pipe down a bit and think! Nobody was meant for anyone. You can still get a better girl who doesnt have a nasty skeleton in her cupboard, a girl who's compatible with you and one you can still love.

Don't listen to people on NL telling you to forgive and take her back. Don't forget that some of them here may be runs girls and boys or may have friends or siblings who do runs. They will naturally defend and support runs people.

You can forgive her but don't marry her because you just dodged a bullet my friend. Go and celebrate.

op... all i can say to u about is that... no one is petfect,not even u... we all av our faults in different areas... just know, that trait will always be in her and can come up anytime in the future... u can take for deliverance if you want but it doesnt go away just like that... if u truly love her, just learn to accept whollly as she is... pray for her too.
.wish u d bst man

Hmmnn it is well, but ponder on this

1. Nobody wants to open a new bank salary account with a debit balance of 10m, that's what this baggage (The love-vendor & That Website/Link) will do to your marraige.
2. Some of us here or someone that looks up to u as "egbon" will still stumble upon that link one day
3. She might have changed but how do you want to deal issues when the normal marital fights occur in the future
4. Its not a issue of threat she is still cool with the love-vendor that's why he confidently called you.

To the single guys here you don't need a link or the love-vendor to find out wide this lesbianism has spread

Do this:
1. Go on twitter- See hundreds of ladies who seek other ladies - check their followings & followers and you will be amazed at the number of those that are not even ashamed of it.