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Why Successful Business & Career Women Find It Hard To Settle Down by Teeboy22(m): 7:20am On May 20, 2015
It’s a tough world out there… full of awkward first
dates, bad sex and limited chances at orgasms. Women now associate the dating landscape with
the same risks many face going into the arctic
tundra. It’s cold, uncomfortable and it’s more than likely
that you’ll die before getting that fire lit. After years of bad trips and valuable packing
lessons, we go in a little more prepared each time.
We’ve learned tips, tricks and lessons that could
only be experienced firsthand, quickly learning the
scams, the men who are just trying to swindle you
and certain places we will just never go again. We’ve changed our clothes, hair and grooming
styles to fit the destination, yet there’s something
we can’t seem to change that’s making the journey
a treacherous hike. Something we can’t hide and
something we refuse to keep at home. Something
we won’t check at baggage claim or give up at customs. Unfortunately, for women, intelligence many times
hinders our travels and keeps us from the promise
land. Because, for all you bright and educated
women out there, what you feel is real… intelligent
women are more likely to be single. The popular saying “ignorance is bliss” doesn’t
exactly cover the broad spectrum of woes women
feel as they sit alone Friday nights with no one to
discuss Nietzsche or read lines from Proust with. It doesn’t assuage a woman’s pain as her parents
ask where her boyfriend is and why she can’t find a
nice guy. The saying should be something closer to
“ignorant women get the man and intelligent
women never feel bliss.” But why is this? Why don’t men want women with
whom they can converse and who challenge them?
When did the aversion to strong and intelligent
women become a code orange? When did
everyone just want to go to the Bahamas and lie
around? In an article by “The Wire,” financial reporter, John
Carney, gives one explanation for this
phenomenon, deducing, “successful men date less
successful women not because they want ‘women
to be dumb’ but rather because they want
‘someone who prioritizes their life in a way that’s compatible with how you prioritize yours.’” Basically, they want someone who isn’t ever going
to let her career come before making dinner and
pleasing them first. They want a woman who is dumb enough to make
them a priority and, unfortunately, for all those
sane, rational and intelligent women out there,
there’s a hefty number of these women out there. There are plenty of women who will give up their
lives for men, who will refuse to challenge them,
fight them and refuse to see them as their equals,
but their saviors. Then again, deciding what kind of woman you are
is like choosing between a rock and a hard place. If
you’re stupid, you’re not taken seriously, but if
you’re smart, you’re taken too seriously. Women
everywhere are flailing under this double-edged
sword. A beautiful, attractive female isn’t desirable for her mind, and those with strong characters are
seen as threatening, masculine and undesirable. A study conducted with 121 British participants
reported findings that females with high
intelligence in male/female relationships were seen
as problematic. Their intelligence were predicted to cause problems
in the relationships. Whereas, high intelligence in
the male partner was not seen as problematic, but
desirable. These cultural stereotypes and gender biases are
inhibiting women from being seen as equals.
Rational and educated women are being ignored
and chastised for their intelligence. Those women who teach you, show you and help
you grow are being picked over, combed through
and dumped for girls with shirts that show a little
too much skin and platform heels. Of course there are plenty of women out there with
boyfriends who are intelligent. This is not to come
at women with boyfriends, but to assuage that
nagging, pestering pain all intelligent women feel
as men continually take them out to dinner, have a
great time then decide they’re not worth the work. First really is the worst There’s an epidemic of settling in this generation.
Women everywhere are dipping far below their
standards just to find men who appreciate them.
They are giving up things they thought they
wanted for nothing more than a simple “he’s good
to me.” Where’s the man who was supposed to challenge
you and understand you? Where’s the man who
was supposed to shock you and support you? In an article by “The Daily Mail,” Minister of
Universities David Willetts asserts, “Successful
women will have to ‘marry down’ by choosing
partners less qualified than them – and may
increasingly select men based on how supportive
they might be to their careers, rather than whether they can support them financially.” Judging from the notion that male egos aren’t
deflating at the same rate at which women are
increasing their education, there’s an uneven scale
here. Women are getting smarter, but men aren’t
getting more supportive. Most people like to be the better one in the
relationship. Men have been taught or conditioned
to believe they are superior, when a woman shows
a competitive edge, he becomes threatened. The number of college-educated women now
outweighs the number of college-educated men,
which in turn has diminished options in the dating
pool. Men aren’t ready to accept being second in
the bread-winning competition and this is causing
women to either settle or stay single. You forget to eat the whole cake Intelligence breeds ambition, which breeds neglect.
Neglect for love, boyfriends and years spent
pursuing that MRS Degree. Neglect in college,
focusing on studies rather than finding a man and
neglect at work, refusing to spend nights out at
bars and clubs. Unfortunately, for all those women who thought a
man would come later, other women capitalized on
their youth, snatching up all the boyfriends and
husbands while they focused on building their
careers. Women went into college with an intent to come
out wives, slowly but steadily snatching up the
number of available men for all those women who
chose to attack their professional dreams. This phenomenon only increases as women leave
college. Becoming frustrated with their lack of love
and work harder in achieving professional success
to fill the void. Dr. Alex Banner of “The Huffington
Post” explains that women are compensating for
their unsuccessful dating careers with successful professional careers, and it’s only widening the
gap.
Big minds are like big balls You may be sensitive, sweet and insecure, but your
intelligence makes you threatening. You may not
have muscles and a big d*ck, but men will look at
you as competition. You are intimidating and emasculating. While most
intelligent women aren’t pompous or arrogant
about it, many times men assume they are. They
assume the woman is going to correct them,
upstage them or, God-forbid, make them feel
worthless. In an article published by “The Daily Beast,” Dr.
Eileen Pollack explains, “There are all these
contradictions that are propagated in our culture
that make it seem like you can’t be smart and sexy.
I don’t think most of us challenge the paradigms,
we just absorb them.” If a woman seems too smart or accomplished, she’s
typecast as “non-dating material.” If she’s witty and
competitive, she’s viewed as challenging and
overbearing. Society has come to teach women that being funny
and smart won’t get you dates, but empty heads
and shallow hearts

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Re: Why Successful Business & Career Women Find It Hard To Settle Down by Ezedon(m): 7:40am On May 20, 2015
God made women to be under a man, not on the other way round, no man will enjoy being under the control of a man

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