Someone told me that "a woman cannot change a man
because she loves him, but a man can change himself
because he loves her."

This may be true and false at the same time...

But do you know that if he doesn't know what you want
from him he may not change?

And by showing him what you want, what are you
doing?
You are changing him alread!

You can't change a man in the sense that a man that
really loves a woman will definitely want to do what the
woman wants so as to always be favoured by her.

In a case whereby the woman doesn't like some of the
behaviours of the man, the man might change because
the happiness he wants from the woman has to do with
him adjusting some of the characters that is not in line
with the desires of the woman.

What i have said above will only work when a man is
just about approaching a woman to declare to her his
intentions.

Definitely, someone whose some or all of his characters
are not good knows, so, for you to win a particular
woman whose way of life isn't in agreement with yours
you have to adjust.

Many men out there will be ready to change quickly
because they want a woman, but after the woman
agrees will the man retain that good habit he portrayed
when he was still proposing?

He can only retain those characters for a while, but
because whatever you borrow you have to return it, your
own real behaviors will start roaring its ugly head, this is
why you should be yourself when you want to be with a
woman for a very long time.

When you pretend you will definitely unknowingly show
your real colour one day. If the woman gives you a Yes,
good for you, and if it is a No, good for you at the same
time.

One thing i want you to know is that no matter how bad
a man or woman may be, there is a man or woman for
every man or woman. You will never be happy if you
pretend when you are dealing with a woman, so also a
woman, you don't need to pretend to your possible
man.

When you are open and you let him or her know who
you are from the beginning then your problem is solved.
This is for him or her to know where to touch so as to
get the best of you.

A woman can change a man and a man can also change
a woman.

Courtship is meant for knowing each other and making
each other to be compatible.

During this period the two intending couple are to make
themselves open for correction because marriage is not
something you can just venture into without proper
compatibility.

There are so many ways a woman can change a man
without being rude or harsh about it. In a real
relationship, a woman has power over the man so also
does the man have power over the woman but it takes
wisdom to utilize the power.

When you say a woman cannot change a man or vise
versa then there is no need for courtship.

Before marriage, you have to know yourselves and
blend yourselves to your taste and it is the result of this
blending that you reap in your marriage life. You have to
show yourselves some things you don't want in your
partner and the possible lasting solution.

Nobody is perfect but there is still personal perfection
which you gain as a result of your influence on
someone.... Read on




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Criticism of the write-up is allowed but getting to the right person(those with the same thought) is my motive behind posting it here... Everyone should know the role they play for a relationship or marriage to last