Former musician Etcetera is out with a new article
and this week he talks on how to please a
Nigerian man.
Read his post below:
“
Is something wrong with the Nigerian
woman? Has she lost her beauty and power
of seduction? How come Nigerian billionaires
and politicians are all of a sudden having
preference for foreign women? Or has the
money syndrome finally caught up with
them?…… Oops! Did you say it’s about time?
Hmmm maybe Nigerian men are difficult to
satisfy like some of our ladies have claimed.
But is that the appropriate excuse? Well, for
any woman who truly knows her onions,
pleasing a man (whether a Nigerian or not) is
never a difficult feat. So ladies, here are
some insights to a Nigerian man’s heart that
will guide you to becoming the right woman
in his eyes.
Submission has got a bad rap in recent
years. The feminist movement has even
made matters worse. Women are forgetting
that submission wasn’t your man’s idea, it
was God’s. “Wives, submit yourselves unto
your own husbands, as unto the
Lord.” (Ephesians 5:22) Again the Word says,
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own
husbands, as it is fitting in the
Lord.” (Colossians 3:18). Men should also
know that submission does not mean
subjection to abuse. Submission simply
implies respect for another’s authority.
Ok sweerie, the premiership ends this
weekend. You can now have the remote
control from Monday morning. Watch as
much telemundo and your Nollywood
movies as you can from now till August.
Nigerian ladies should understand that the
key to a harmonious family life is finding that
balance. Your man may not be a professional
footballer and probably may not go to the
field and play every Saturday, but if you don’t
disturb him whenever he is watching his
favourite team play on TV, he will love you
more. Remember that by learning to love
and support his team, you are creating a
deeper bond between the two of you. Be on
his side, root for his team, celebrate his
victories, mourn his defeats. Even the Bible
commands us to “Rejoice with them that do
rejoice, and weep with them that
weep.” (Romans 12:15) lol…
Every Nigerian man loves food. I mean the
actual food. There’s no such thing as a
modern or old fashion way. A way is a way
and the only way to a typical African man’s
heart has always been through his stomach.
Coming home from a long day’s work, we
enjoy nothing better than a well cooked
meal. Remember the story of Esau in the
Bible? He was so hungry and was practically
shaking after working in the fields that he
was willing to sell his birthright to his brother
Jacob for a hot bowl of soup! (Genesis
25:29-34). Ladies, when a Nigerian man is not
properly fed, he becomes irrational, irritable
and vulnerable to temptation. Feed us well
not just for anything else, but so you may
have peace in the house…. lol
Now ladies, ask any Nigerian man to choose
between a delicious plate of soup and no sex
or a tasteless meal and a mind-blowing sex,
he will prefer to drink garri without sugar and
have that mind-blowing encounter with you
in bed. Does that tell you something? Babes,
you may be everything from smart, charming
with long pretty legs and even God-fearing
but if your husband doesn’t find you sexually
attractive, SHIKENA. A Nigerian man always
wants that thing. So, stop holding back
whenever he wants it. Adopt the Boy Scout
motto that says “always be prepared.” Stop
using your sexuality to manipulate or punish
him. Our greatest vulnerability is our
sexuality, so don’t just go there – No games
with that please. Give yourself to him freely
every time, every way and everywhere.
The Bible commands you, “Deprive not one
the other, except it be with consent for a
time, that you may give yourselves to fasting
and prayer; and come together again, that
Satan tempt you not for your lack of self-
control.” (1 Corinthians 7:5). Did you hear
that? It says even after fasting, you should
still give it to him…. Hmmmmm! I love the
Bible. No wonder they call it the “perfect
book.”
All men want to be successful. But it is so
unfortunate that most Nigerian women
measure success by what a man has
accomplished and not by who he is as a
person. It is the role of the woman to help
her man see the big picture in life, not
through the eyes of someone who wants to
purchase every latest trend in fashion,
mobile phones and cars. The good book of
the lord says, “Better is the poor (man) who
walks in his integrity than one perverse in his
ways, though he be rich.” (Proverbs 28:6). So,
ladies, always let your man know when he is
doing a good job. Praise him for his patience
with words like, “I really appreciate that you
helped me with the dishes today.” “Thanks so
much for emptying the dustbin; I appreciate
you honey, even in the small things.” Note
that a little compliment to a Nigerian man
every now and again works like magic.
Nigerian men are driven by the need for
significance. We often ask ourselves this
question, “Do I really matter to her?” A man’s
thirst for significance can only be quenched
in knowing how important he is. That is why
we will chase after every vain pursuit only to
hear the words, “You matter. You are
important. You are appreciated. You are
significant.” If a man never heard these
words or sensed this approval from his
woman, he can spend his whole life chasing
someone else who will value his identity.
Support your man at every turn. Be there for
him to guide him. This is God’s command for
you as the woman. God said, “It is not good
that the man should be alone; I will make
him a helper suitable for him.” (Genesis 2:18)
. A man needs help in the small things like
finding our car keys or in bigger things like
building a business. It has become one of the
most popular sayings that “behind every
great man is a far greater woman.”
With men, two plus two is always four. We
are a straight-jacket mind species. Maybe it
is so because we have always found solace in
being logical. And it has proved to be a sure
way one can maintain stability in the home,
especially in times of uncertainty or danger.
But it is clear that men most times lack that
natural intuitiveness found in women. Which
makes it important, that whenever your man
is about to strike a business deal, he needs
your input because he might not understand
that deep gut feeling you have that
something is not right. For a man, if it looks
good “on paper,” it is good even when in your
heart of hearts, you can smell something foul
brewing. Your man needs your intuitive,
instinctive, perceptive and discerning insights
when making decisions. But as his woman,
you should be careful so as not to bruise his
ego.
A man is not molded to understand the
emotional and dynamics behind the
problems that women face. So it is important
that the woman doesn’t go running and
pouring all her cares, worries, fears,
insecurities and troubles on him all at once, it
can be very overwhelming. If it is your car
that is making that funny noise or something
in the house is broken, YESSSSS! he knows
exactly what to do instantly. Every man
requires that extra training to be a good
listener and you will have to working at it
until he is there. You can simply start by
asking him to listen to you for one minute
without interruption and gradually build up
his tolerance level. If you throw a fifteen-
minute monologue at him, he will freeze up,
walk away or get annoyed. Make things
simple for him. Spell out exactly what you
need, even if it is just a simple hug (and you
may want to also explain to him that a hug
does not mean you want to have sex!)…
because e nor dey hard us to conclude.
lol…
Every man wants to come home to a
peaceful house after a long day at work. But
our women don’t always permit such a
luxury. We want tranquility and control in
every aspect of our lives; that is why we
sometimes do everything possible to create
an atmosphere of peace and serenity. It is
also why every man dreads a nagging
woman. A nagging woman drains us of body
vitamins and morale. If you nag your man,
he will distance himself emotionally and
possibly even physically. The Bible says, “It is
better to dwell in a corner of a housetop,
than in a house shared with a contentious
woman.” (Proverbs 25:24).

Source:Bella Naija

noted

Summarize.

Most Nigerian women only care about the financial status of a man regardless of his reckless lifestyles and non chalant attitude he possess. And at such, these desperate women who will do anything to seduce the high profile men end up losing the value of their womanliness.
In addition, women should value men with potentials and not his bank account. Submissive, respect, supportive and other qualities of a virtuous woman are bonues if she understand her man better. Most foreign ladies value men for who they are and not what they have.

Too long

Ok, noted...

Unto the next list.... abi list don finish? ?

Op, you should have used paragraphs to make your write up lucid...

hope the ladies are listening.

Some ladies are just too stubborn beyond correction. Most of them go into a relationship prepared like it's a war zone.

wys to make your man find you interesting and get his mind off sex

Nigerian ladies should understand that the
key to a harmonious family life is finding that
balance. Your man may not be a professional
footballer and probably may not go to the
field and play every Saturday, but if you don’t
disturb him whenever he is watching his
favourite team play on TV, he will love you
more. Remember that by learning to love
and support his team, you are creating a
deeper bond between the two of you. Be on
his side, root for his team, celebrate his
victories, mourn his defeats. Even the Bible
commands us to “Rejoice with them that do
rejoice, and weep with them that
weep.” (Romans 12:15) lol…

this is the best piece of advice i have read from a nigerian in about 20 years. let's just hope obnoxious stubborn women like sambarry would digest this & take this advice instead of party-hopping from one owambe to another.

coogar:


this is the best piece of advice i have read from a nigerian in about 20 years. let's just hope obnoxious stubborn women like sambarry would digest this & take this advice instead of party-hopping from one owambe to another.

Mr coogar or whatever your name is


what rocks every body's boat is different

as our faces are different so are our ways of reasoning, modus operandi, priorities and lifestyle. If you expect me to share in your sentiments and school of thoughts you will have to wait till obasanjo becomes America's next president



so therefore the way everyone decides to live his or her life is completely up to them. If you find it stubborn and obnoxious then be my guest




next

So dear coogar today's another owanmbe I have to attend. It's happening on the island so would you mind driving me there. Don't worry about what you will eat. I'll take care of that. Just be my driver for today and we can negotiate on your charges

And family section women see this as "work " so their husbands have to pay them before they do the job

...'Sighs'..Oshiomole marries a Foreigner,all of a sudden,Nigerian women seems to have lost their 'beauty' and all that blabs according to a certain Nigerian male artist,necessitating this epistle on how to please the Nigerian man as usual...forgeting that there are countless Nigerian males who married foreigners with tales of woes in toe.I am waiting for an epistle on how Foreign women should please our dear brothers some day


..Uche Jumbo married a Foreigner as well(just like many other women i know) but we dont see Nigerian women going on about how men have 'failed' in some one way with thesis and manual on how to please women but simply saw it as a matter of choice,obtainable in other parts of the World as well.

....For the average Nigerian male,it looks like the rule is me,myself and i...'my personal happines to the detriment of others at all cost first'...so unfortunate.

SAMBARRY:
So dear coogar today's another owanmbe I have to attend It's happening on the island so would you mind driving me there. Don't worry about what you will eat. I'll take care of that. Just be my driver for today and we can negotiate on your charges

i hope you cop acute diarrhoea in that owambe of yours.

SAMBARRY:
Mr coogar or whatever your name is
what rocks every body's boat is different
as our faces are different so are our ways of reasoning, modus operandi, priorities and lifestyle. If you expect me to share in your sentiments and school of thoughts you will have to wait till obasanjo becomes America's next president

who doesn't know your ways of reasoning is different? this is why i referenced you cos this article is talking to you. stay @home, take good care of your partner.

so therefore the way everyone decides to live his or her life is completely up to them. If you find it stubborn and obnoxious then be my guest
next

your own way of living your life is reckless. i am starting to think you go to those parties to catch aristos. i hope a housewife who happens to be a former traditional wrestler confronts you one day & beat your ašs to stupor for flirting with her hubby.

I have told you times without number I'm going there to have fun, catch up with my fellow owanmbe friends, jist and talk about the latest jewellery, shoe, baby outfit and dance


meanwhile as per going there because of aristo, it's what you do that you think others will do . I'm not a lagos cougar. You're the one running after middle aged women for money as your name implies. Continue doing sugar sons for women who are old enough to give birth to you




anyway are you still going to drive me there because I don't want to miss out in the dance







the thing wey you sabi chop go belleful you

coogar:


i hope you cop acute diarrhoea in that owambe of yours.



who doesn't know your ways of reasoning is different? this is why i referenced you cos this article is talking to you. stay @home, take good care of your partner.



your own way of living your life is reckless. i am starting to think you go to those parties to catch aristos. i hope a housewife who happens to be a former traditional wrestler confronts you one day & beat your ašs to stupor for flirting with her hubby.

Thank you o




the hypocrisy nor go let them see road

Ngokafor:


...'Sighs'..Oshiomole marries a Foreigner,all of a sudden,Nigerian women seems to have lost their 'beauty' and all that blabs according to a certain Nigerian male artist,necessitating this epistle on how to please the Nigerian man as usual...forgeting that there are countless Nigerian males who married foreigners with tales of woes in toe.I am waiting for an epistle on how Foreign women should please our dear brothers some day


..Uche Jumbo married a Foreigner as well(just like many other women i know) but we dont see Nigerian women going on about how men have 'failed' in some one way with thesis and manual on how to please women but simply saw it as a matter of choice,obtainable in other parts of the World as well.

....For the average Nigerian male,it looks like the rule is me,myself and i...'my personal happines to the detriment of others at all cost first'...so unfortunate.

SAMBARRY:
I have told you times without number I'm going there to have fun, catch up with my fellow owanmbe friends, jist and talk about the latest jewellery, shoe, baby outfit and dance

you are a disgrace to the good nigerian women. aristo chic! they will beat you one day. keep flirting with other people's husbands. your day of reckoning is nearer.

meanwhile as per going there because of aristo, it's what you do that you think others will do . I'm not a lagos cougar. You're the one running after middle aged women for money as your name implies. Continue doing sugar sons for women who are old enough to give birth to you

i never called you a cougar. you run after pot-bellied sugar-daddies. don't worry about what i do. this article is talking to you.

anyway are you still going to drive me there because I don't want to miss out in the dance the thing wey you sabi chop go belleful you

better go & enter your keke napep. drive you? who dash you car?

of course I am a blessing and a virtuous woman


Ok.i get it. You're labelling me aristo chic because our values and ways of seeing things are different. What you see as blue and I see as green, fight dey there?


Anyway sha con drive me. There's petrol scarcity in lagos and other parts of Nigeria. I no see fuel buy yesterday that's why I said you should drive me to the island with your car

coogar:


you are a disgrace to the good nigerian women. aristo chic! they will beat you one day. keep flirting with other people's husbands. your day of reckoning is nearer.



i never called you a cougar. you run after pot-bellied sugar-daddies. don't worry about what i do. this article is talking to you.




better go & enter your keke napep. drive you? who dash you car?

SAMBARRY:
of course I am a blessing and a virtuous woman

yes.....
you are a lady of easy virtue.

Ok.i get it. You're labelling me aristo chic because our values and ways of seeing things are different. What you see as blue and I see as green, fight dey there?

stay @home.
take care of your house & your family.

Anyway sha con drive me. There's petrol scarcity in lagos and other parts of Nigeria. I no see fuel buy yesterday that's why I said you should drive me to the island with your car

buy a business class ticket(BA) for me and i will come and drive you.

Ngokafor:


...'Sighs'..Oshiomole marries a Foreigner,all of a sudden,Nigerian women seems to have lost their 'beauty' and all that blabs according to a certain Nigerian male artist,necessitating this epistle on how to please the Nigerian man as usual...forgeting that there are countless Nigerian males who married foreigners with tales of woes in toe.I am waiting for an epistle on how Foreign women should please our dear brothers some day


..Uche Jumbo married a Foreigner as well(just like many other women i know) but we dont see Nigerian women going on about how men have 'failed' in some one way with thesis and manual on how to please women but simply saw it as a matter of choice,obtainable in other parts of the World as well.

....For the average Nigerian male,it looks like the rule is me,myself and i...'my personal happines to the detriment of others at all cost first'...so unfortunate.

Very well said.
I await the thread on how to please a Nigerian woman.

Yadoctora:


Very well said.
I await the thread on how to please a Nigerian woman.

Gbam. Coogar Oya come and answer this question o.this one you wan die on top my matter this rainy morning

SAMBARRY:
Gbam. Coogar Oya come and answer this question o.this one you wan die on top my matter this rainy morning

go & read what oshiomole's mom said about nigerian women. nigerian women can't be pleased, they cannot even please themselves.

Expensive virtue you mean



going to owanmbe doesn't mean I am not talking care of my family




I have to train wura to be like me that's why I take her with me every where I go so she will continue where her mother stopped . isn't that enough care



Ahen you said I should send your flight ticket to you



you wey dey stay for ojota, wey go leave ojota go price ojuelegba Ashewo na me you dey deceive ;




you wan spend my money on ojuelegba Ashewo abi )

coogar:


yes.....
you are a lady of easy virtue.



stay @home.
take care of your house & your family.



buy a business class ticket(BA) for me and i will come and drive you.

coogar:


go & read what oshiomole's mom said about nigerian women. nigerian women can't be pleased, they cannot even please themselves.

go back to the thread and read my response
Village illiterate woman deceiving herself. Isn't she a product of what she's abusing abi na Oyinbo woman born. Even if she was a half caste oro oba dun lenu e so her own matter no be talk


Benin woman

SAMBARRY:
Expensive virtue you mean

jokes!

going to owanmbe doesn't mean I am not talking care of my family

spend more time with your family.

I have to train wura to be like me that's why I take her with me every where I go so she will continue where her mother stopped . isn't that enough care

that's child abuse!
taking a child to where people smoke & drink alcohol?

Ahen you said I should send your flight ticket to you

yes ke!

you wey dey stay for ojota, wey go leave ojota go price ojuelegba Ashewo na me you dey deceive ;
you wan spend my money on ojuelegba Ashewo abi )

just do as told!
you want me to drive you & you don't want to pay for the service rendered?

SAMBARRY:

go back to the thread and read my response
Village illiterate woman deceiving herself. Isn't she a product of what she's abusing abi na Oyinbo woman born. Even if she was a half caste oro oba dun lenu e so her own matter no be talk
Benin woman

but she's right!
she said nigerian women would destroy the relationship between the governor & her kids and that's the truth. 99% of nigerian women have the wickedness of patience ozokwor in their DNA & you especially are in that category

Is she going to drink or smoke? Even if her mother drinks she will wait till she's 18 but for now she's learning by observation




moreover my family is wura so what other family are you talking about?



if you don't want to drive me just say you don't want to drive me there and I'll get a cab

coogar:


jokes!



spend more time with your family.



that's child abuse!
taking a child to where people smoke & drink alcohol?




yes ke!



just do as told!
you want me to drive you & you don't want to pay for the service rendered?



but she's right!
she said nigerian women would destroy the relationship between the governor & her kids and that's the truth. 99% of nigerian women have the wickedness of patience ozokwor in their DNA & you especially are in that category

Paragraphs would make this nice. To read

Yadoctora:

I await the thread on how to please a Nigerian woman.

No thread needed for that. Have enough money to buy Nigeria and she'll never take offence at even your silliest foibles.

SAMBARRY:
Is she going to drink or smoke? Even if her mother drinks she will wait till she's 18

Tongue-in-cheek? Surely, you don't believe the part in bold!

Timbuktou:

No thread needed for that. Have enough money to buy Nigeria and she'll never take offence at even your silliest foibles.

How many men have that amount of money?
Have women not been marrying men of little means?

Yadoctora:

How many men have that amount of money?
Have women not been marrying men of little means?

Are these women happy? Have we not been inundated with thread upon thread, comment upon comment of the uselesness and bushness of Nigerian men here on nairaland? The only happy women on nairaland are either married to oyinbos or are outside Nigeria and married to western men or westernised Nigerian men.

Timbuktou:


Are these women happy? Have we not been inundated with thread upon thread, comment upon comment of the uselesness and bushness of Nigerian men here on nairaland? The only happy women on nairaland are either married to oyinbos or are outside Nigeria and married to western men or westernised Nigerian men.

How can u tell that they are not happy? And why do u think that the ones outside Nigeria/ married to Oyinbo are the yardstick for happiness?

What I'm driving at is, many Nigerian women have married men who don't have much. It is wrong to judge all of them by the few who married extremely rich men.