Have you ever angrily stuffed the last doughnut down your throat? Have you ever failed a test in school because playing games is much more important than studying? These are signs that your self-control could use a little work.
Self-control is the ability to control the actions you take in your daily life and the decisions you make. A person with self-control is able to meet temptations and distractions calmly but resolutely. Without that feeling of control, you end up feeling depressed, powerless, and weak.
But don't worry. You can take charge of your life. By following these simple steps, you will build, strengthen, and maintain your self-control.

Part 1 of 3: Analyze Your Life

1 Make a list of the positives and negatives in your life.Write down a list of which areas of your life are suffering and which are prospering. Focus on the essentials in order to keep the list brief.
*.Take a look at the areas you suck with. Brainstorm ways to deal with them. If you are failing all of your classes in school, you might need to study! If you are gaining weight at an alarming rate, you may need to sacrifice a few candy bars. Think of causes and solutions to every problem that you write down.
*.Recognize that you are not the only one with this problem. People often refer to poor self-control when they have problems with diet, exercise, work or study habits, addictions, and emotional behavior. These are all parts of life that many people find difficulty regulating.


2 Research the area in which you are lacking control.[/b]Read books or articles about the area you are having difficulty with. Becoming informed makes it much easier to make the right decision when you're tempted to overdo something. For example, if you want to lose weight, taking the time to read about nutrition and healthy dieting will naturally motivate you and make eating right much more enjoyable. In terms of gaining self-control, knowledge really is power!
*.If you have friends with similar problems, ask them about their own experiences. By comparing notes, you might get tips on the coping mechanisms and strategies that they use. It also helps to have reassurance that struggling with self-control does not make you a weak person.

[b]Part 2 of 3: Act On Your Analysis

1 Gradually increase your ability for self-denial.Start small by challenging yourself to control your behavior for a short period of time. For example, if you are addicted to television, try turning it off for one day. Then work up to leaving it off for two days, then longer. If you are struggling with your diet, promise yourself to only eat one dessert item a day. For every decision you make, leave room to gradually increase the level of self-denial.
*.Don't try to break your destructive habit all at once. This is likely to lead to a dramatic "falling off the wagon" that will leave you feeling depressed and hopeless.

2 Enlist your friends and family to help you.[/b]Tell your family to remind you of your goals whenever you fall back into bad behaviors. A friendly reminder is all that's required. Constant nagging will only make you hide and sneak around.
*.Family and friends can also join you in alternative actions when you're having trouble controlling yourself. For example, if your friends are drinking and you're trying to abstain, ask if one of them wouldn't mind joining you in a trip to get some ice cream.

3 [b]Distract yourself.When you feel the urge to lose your self-control, immediately think of something else you could be doing. Go for a walk. Write a thank you card. Drink a glass of water. This will derail the train of thought and give you time to regain your self-discipline.

4 Learn how to relax.Part of self-control is learning how to relax and to ease the tension. Research different methods of relaxing your body and mind and decide which best suits you.
*.Consider meditation. Meditation is all about discipline, and the point of it is to discipline your mind to such a state where it remains clear, while positive energy flows through you. You're meant to not anchor yourself to specific thoughts. Practicing meditation may give you a sense of renewed self-disciple, concentration, and happiness.
*.Try deep breathing. This is something you can do wherever you are. Simply close your eyes. Exhale completely. Inhale slowly, counting up to four and hold the breath, counting up to seven. Then release the breath very slowly, counting up to eight.

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