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Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by babygirlfl: 10:10am On Jun 09, 2015 |
classicB: Learn how to write your opinion without attacking other people. This is a forum and everybody is allowed to have an opinion. Give your opinion and leave other people alone. Very soon some people will say feminists always attack non- feminists but again and again all I see is non feminists who keep talking about feminists and even attacking them. 10 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Nobody: 10:32am On Jun 09, 2015 |
babygirlfl: I ain't attacking nobody. I just gave you my own opinion 3 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by bukatyne(f): 10:44am On Jun 09, 2015 |
classicB: I thought feminism is men = women are equal so not a woman woman thing? Are the men who commented against it also feminists? What has feminism got to do with 'I can't call someone 10 years younger than me Aunty'? As it occurred to you that it is more of cultural and people (men, women, non-feminists, feminists) who are not Yorubas will find it awkward? Did it actually occur to you that everyone who as said she should do so sited Yoruba culture and are Yorubas? Calm down next time. 12 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by bukatyne(f): 10:46am On Jun 09, 2015 |
@OP: Like a lot of Yorubas here have said, it is a Archaic Yoruba thingy. Most progressive Yorubas have ditched it. You could give her a nick name... I cannot imagine calling someone younger by 10 years Aunty and luckily, my youngest direct in-law is 9years older. 9 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by delpee(f): 12:24pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
Old idea which some people still cherish. Since your MIL considers it important, call her whatever she wants and have peace in your home. Your husband won't be able to do much when the wahala starts. A word is enough for the wise dear sister. 4 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Nobody: 1:19pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
damiso: These are even family. When i was in Uni, i went to the security post to report lost wallet with personal items. Met one man(yoruba), at most (guessed from facial construct) mid thirties. I had said, 'Good morning.' He replied saying, 'you can't even add sir. You should call me DADDY!' 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Vyolet(f): 1:22pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
Lol,this is the smallest issue one can deal with,it is culture and to avoid unnecessary arguments,just call her whatever she likes and move on with your life. That you use 'e' for her doesn't mean you can't send her errands or ask her to do house chores. The way you carry yourself will determine how much she will respect you. 5 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by PassingShot(m): 2:08pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
teekay213:Aunty ko, panti ni. I guess you (your friend) married from "local" family. I am Yoruba and my wife doesn't call my younger sister "aunty" even though there is just about 5-year gap between them. She can call her "Sisi mi" just to oil her ego though. Nonsense! 11 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Nobody: 2:20pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
bukatyne: Thanks for correcting me, i should have said 'dnt allow these people that knows nothing about the culture destroy your marriage' |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by hahn(m): 2:20pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
PassingShot: Its not nonsense o(ok, maybe it is). The yorubas put some kind of specila ranking on greetings and my landlord recently gave me a quit notice simply because me and my wife stop greeting he and his wife. Truly though, its mostly local yorubas that exhibit this trait. My advice is, call her aunty and let peace rain. There a lot less to lose when there is peace in your family as apparent your mil has already taken sides. Men don't take things like that seriously but I'd advice you call your husband's attention to it 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by bukatyne(f): 2:28pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
classicB: You are welcome It is not all feminism/anti-feminism. |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by helovesme(f): 2:35pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
hahn: why would you be living in a rented property and refuse to greet your landlord and his wife whom i guess are much older than you and your wife? isn't that rude? are you not effectively keeping malice with them? well the quit notice you received is in order and well deserved before you turn the old man and his wife to punching bag. 7 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Ewuro4: 2:41pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
helovesme: Hehe I like that. 3 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by hahn(m): 2:47pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
helovesme: Lol. And there you go jumping into conclusions. Why you refused to even ask "why" we stopped greeting them beats me. I won't waste my time explaining. You apparent share the same mindset 6 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by hahn(m): 2:53pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
Ewuro4: Lol. So, you're not also bothered about "why" we stopped abi? Respect is reciprocal unfortunately most people expect it to be one sided 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by helovesme(f): 2:57pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
hahn: Oh, So you and your wife actually have a 'reason' and you agreed between yourselves to stop greeting them. so you will actually see them, pass beside them and not greet them? Chai !!!! i like your landlord oh. Quit notice sharp !!! No time for nonsense. Who needs troublesome neighbours in a house built with one's sweat. Hian!! you can take your malice to another 'compound'. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Ewuro4: 3:03pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
helovesme: Hehe you're too much. My ribs 3 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by hahn(m): 3:06pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
helovesme: Lol. For your mind you don make point abi? We've actually settled the issue and he finally realised that he was the one at fault and apologised. He even admitted that he was surprised by my actions because he's closer to me than any other tenant and even when he's not around I ensure that his property is well taken care of. Unfortunately, he started taking my meekness for weakness and I had to clarify that to him. The only reason why he gave me the quit notice was because he didn't know how to summon me to a discussion and he even begged me not to leave his house when I asked him for my money. So now we're friends again. Stop jumping into conclusions. It doesn't make you seem smart 14 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by helovesme(f): 3:09pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
hahn: I am sure your landlord agrees with you and that is why he has given you quit notice, so that way you can leave him and his wife with their one-sided respect there are somethings you do not do and having a frosty relationship with your landlord is one of them. its impossible not to always agree but it should never get to the stage of keeping malice. I will rather eject myself and find another property. @topic i think its all about individual upbringing and the family one marries into. i call my younger inlaws by their names oh and they call me by my first name too - just the same way the call my hubby by his first name and my siblings call me by my own first name too. everybody is happy with this - i have not noticed any funny attitude or remarks. however, the day anybody makes it an issue, i will fight and make my stand clearly known. i never knew this 'aunty' and 'uncle' ish still existed tho. |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by helovesme(f): 3:13pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
hahn: YIMU Begged you not to leave his house ke When a new tenant will obviously pay more rent in line with the current rate in the rental market? Anyyways, it changes not the fact that he issued the quit notice first and he is currently on the lookout for another tenant . 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by hahn(m): 3:15pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
helovesme: And who needs a bossy ass landlord who keeps monitoring my life after I paid for my rent with my own sweat. How would you feel if your landlord tells you to pour out water you use to wash your clothes from inside your toilet into the gutter outside when you are not living in a face me I face you house? Look, I paid for that apartment. I don't owe him any money and I'm not an armed robber. Irrespective of his age, he needs to understand that he is rendering a service and not offering me a favour. Its people like you that hinder this country's progress with your stone age mentality. Even if I leave that house there are lots of places I can move into. He can send me out of his house and not out of the world 10 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by hahn(m): 3:17pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
helovesme: Smd. And I'm currently on the look out for another apartment 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Ngokafor(f): 3:27pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
helovesme: .....Do you by any chance know the poster from anywhere?? ..cos i fail to see why you are on his neck like this..please respect yourself and do not derail this thread. . 13 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by helovesme(f): 3:28pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
hahn: heheheheheheh what you've explained doesnt justify keeping malice with your landlord and his wife. life is too short. he did the right thing by giving you the quit notice and least you two will have peace and be happy now . |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by hahn(m): 3:35pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
helovesme: My sister, the matter is too long abeg Definitely, the next place I'm moving must come without a resident landlord. I believe you've not had any experience with a crappy landlord and that's why you feel comfortable with taking his side. You might even be a crappy landlord yourself. That's a thought because you seem like the type 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by helovesme(f): 4:17pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
hahn: Tufia I am a lover not a fighter. I am not taking sides. however, rather than keep malice with my landlord, i will rather remain civil and polite and move out jejely at the expiration of my tenancy. |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Nobody: 4:27pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
OP, choose your battles. You don't have to call her aunty, some people give nicknames so as not call their spouse's siblings that are younger aunty. Let me even help you small, orente, idi-ileke, Ayiluko, omo daddy etc 3 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by hahn(m): 4:34pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
helovesme: Apparently, you've never had the experience. When you remain civil and polite and you're taken advantage of then you can come and comment on this topic 3 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Macmilla(m): 6:40pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
cococandy:You beat me to it. Seriously, WORREVER. 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by SAMBARRY: 6:41pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
Vyolet:exactly you can even stylishly send her errands and she won't notice e.g anti kemi ede sare gbe awon Aburo yin kuron school or ede bami ra ata tima se fegbon yin 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Macmilla(m): 6:54pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
classicB:Arrant nonsense. Do you even know the meaning of aunt/auntie? If she is your SISTER-in-law, then what happened to "sister"? 2 Likes
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Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Macmilla(m): 7:00pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
babygirlfl:You are wise joor. It's a partnership, not slavery. And if it's a partnership, the more sensible thing to do is to give my wife all the respect due for me. My mother will know better than to bring up such bullshit. She is my wife, not the family house help. 6 Likes |
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