coogar:
it depends on the kinda woman she is. she could be earning way less than him and still be a rude & choleric wife.

academic history - this is nothing as far as he's intelligent. he doesn't have a masters degree because he hasn't had the time or opportunity to pursue it, not that he is intellectually sterile to cop one.

age - mind over matter. if the couple involved don't mind, it doesn't matter. one can be 30 years of age with the emotional maturity of a prepubescent teen. one may be very young with the wisdom of a senior citizen. this can also be managed.

salary/career - this is the easiest to manage. they both know what they earn. the boss earns more than twice as much as him. it simply means the contribution towards up keep world be ratio 2:1........until the dude gets promoted at the very least.

easy peasy lemon squeezy!

She must have feminist tendencies to agree to this, this is not a traditional setting

Kimoni:



She must have feminist tendencies to agree to this, this is not a traditional setting

madam kimoni, she makes more money. he cannot afford to bear the cost. she's a boss - which means she's high maintenance. feminism doesn't come into play here at all.

coogar:


madam kimoni, she makes more money. he cannot afford to bear the cost. she's a boss - which means she's high maintenance. feminism doesn't come into play here at all.

Coogar, my money is my money; his money is our money. That's the recipe for a good marriage.

If you must marry the boss, you must be ready to maintain the boss

Kimoni:


Coogar, my money is my money; his money is our money. That's the recipe for a good marriage.

i like your honesty.

If you must marry the boss, you must be ready to maintain the boss

she married him.
yes, he made the move. yes, he did the so called toasting but she encouraged him to make the move.

coogar:


i like your honesty.

she married him.
yes, he made the move. yes, he did the so called toasting but she encouraged him to make the move.

She encouraged him cuz she liked him(no crime in that) but it doesn't absolve him of his responsibilities.

Kimoni:

She encouraged him cuz she liked him(no crime in that) but it doesn't absolve him of his responsibilities.

of course, nothing wrong with that....
all i am saying is - she knows his finances before going ahead with him. his resources are limited. i am not saying he should freeload on her completely.....his share shouldn't be more than 33% until he gets promoted.

coogar:


of course, nothing wrong with that....
all i am saying is - she knows his finances before going ahead with him. his resources are limited. i am not saying he should freeload on her completely.....his share shouldn't be more than 33% until he gets promoted.

I still don't agree with this part...or maybe I doubt understand you

he should be responsible for the total upkeep, but of course as far as his salary can go.

If the standard is not up to what she desires(most likely it won't), she is then free to make any adjustments from her personal pay.

Kimoni:


I still don't agree with this part...

he should be responsible for the total upkeep, but of course as far as his salary can go.

If the standard is not up to what she desires(most likely it won't), she is then free to make any adjustments from her personal pay.

hehe!
so if the expenses are about N500k, he should use up his monthly salary of N370k completely before going to ask the wife for the remainder?

coogar:


hehe!
so if the expenses are about N500k, he should use up his monthly salary of N370k completely before going to ask the wife for the remainder?

Now you are talking. God bless you brother!

Kimoni:

Now you are talking. God bless you brother!

chaiiii!
you are a meanie!

coogar:


chaiiii!
you are a meanie!

. ....l know



He won't go and ask for the reminder - that would be demeaning

He would go as far as he can go with his 370k, if she is not satisfied with the standard of what his 370k can afford, she would then support in her personal capacity. Surely, there can't be a more supportive wife than this naa

Kimoni:

. ....l know
He won't go and ask for the reminder - that would be demeaning

i expect this guy to start losing weight once the novelty of the honeymoon wears off. his N370k per month would just disappear like that? are you aware he might have dependent relatives to care for?

He would go as far as he can go with his 370k, if she is not satisfied with the standard of what his 370k can afford, she would then support in her personal capacity. Surely, there can't be a more supportive wife than this naa

however if we reverse the roles, the husband still has to pay up the entire expenses as the highest earner?

i knew what i was saying when i said being a man in the 21st century is a criminal offence. it's lose-lose both ways.

coogar:


i expect this guy to start losing weight once the novelty of the honeymoon wears off. his N370k per month would just disappear like that? are you aware he might have dependent relatives to care for?

however if we reverse the roles, the husband still has to pay up the entire expenses as the highest earner?

i knew what i was saying when i said being a man in the 21st century is a criminal offence. it's lose-lose both ways.

Why does this sound familiar

coogar:


i expect this guy to start losing weight once the novelty of the honeymoon wears off. his N370k per month [b]would just disappear [/b]like that? are you aware he might have dependent relatives to care for?

It didn't disappear, he is taking care of his wife, other half, his family.

And guess what, he won't lose weight, she will be doing all the cooking for him

however if we reverse the roles, the husband still has to pay up the entire expenses as the highest earner?

Definitely! he is the head Coogar, always remember that.

Kimoni:

It didn't disappear, he is taking care of his wife, other half, his family.

And guess what, he won't lose weight, she will be doing all the cooking for him

so what would this woman be doing with her own salary? peruvian hair & fixing acrylic nails?

a man subjected to this kind of torture would lose his appetite permanently. it doesn't matter who cooks......even if it's gordon ramsay.

Definitely! he is the head Coogar, always remember that.

of course, he would have been the head if he's marrying a woman earning N180k per month. in this case, he is not the head, he's a tail.........a tadpole's tail if i may add.

coogar:


so what would this woman be doing with her own salary? peruvian hair & fixing acrylic nails?

a man subjected to this kind of torture would lose his appetite permanently. it doesn't matter who cooks......even if it's gordon ramsay.

What she earns or does with it is a non-issue and nobody's business but hers, as long as she is fulfilling her wifely duties at home

of course, he would have been the head if he's marrying a woman earning N180k per month. in this case, he is not the head, he's a tail.........a tadpole's tail if i may add.

His wife's pay has nothing to do with his headship. His pay and ability to provide is what makes him the head.

Woged, sorry for derailing.

Kimoni:

What she earns or does with it is a non-issue and nobody's business but hers, as long as she is fulfilling her wifely duties at home

and here lies the problem.....
she would be hard pressed to fulfil her wifely duties. staff meetings, AGMs, seminars across the globe, training, etc. so it's lose-lose to the dude.

His wife's pay has nothing to do with his headship. His pay and ability to provide is what makes him the head.

but in this case, he has reached beyond his station. there's no way he can afford the high maintenance wife. his level is honda accord, wife's level is porsche cayenne.

@coogar why surprised?
if you say the one that makes sense I'll agree na.

Kimoni
"My money is my money, HIS money is OUR money"
Words of wisdom

at the exchanges between Kimoni and Coogar.

coogar its true o his money is our money, my money is my money.

But jokes apart it can work depending on both their mindsets going into the marriage. And if she is a cool girl, I think the guy needs more psyching up.

All this salary and degree crap no matter abeg! Na from BEDROOM I go decide

coogaluta:
Kimoni
"My money is my money, HIS money is OUR money"
Words of wisdom

true that

coogar:


and here lies the problem.....
she would be hard pressed to fulfil her wifely duties. staff meetings, AGMs, seminars across the globe, training, etc. so it's lose-lose to the dude.

The higher up you go, the more flexible your time is. Besides, you can afford to outsource some of your duties eg cooking, cleaning, washing

but in this case, he has reached beyond his station. there's no way he can afford the high maintenance wife. his level is honda accord, wife's level is porsche cayenne.

Once he gets to this stage, she supports. In your example, she will buy herself the Porsche cayenne, in addition to the Honda Accord he bought for her.

damiso:


at the exchanges between Kimoni and Coogar.

coogar its true o his money is our money, my money is my money.

But jokes apart it can work depending on both their mindsets going into the marriage. And if she is a cool girl, I think the guy needs more psyching up.

I think this is the key factor. Both of them have to have that understanding that he is the key provider for the home.

One person's to be transferred, I don't see why this should be an issue.

Work is work and home is home.

That marriage is a disaster waiting to happen.

YES I CAN

Oh yes there's no big deal in it I knw u'r d gal