gidjah:
thank u bro , they will never understand, most men would want a woman at home basically for this reason,if I as a man should help with all this lists madam is putting up, then why should I need her in my house?? (though not to say men should not help at home o ,but its like God has conditioned the woman for those things ,but suddenly our women are now doing d work of men and thus they are now getting lazy,they can now wear trousers ,t shirts and 3quatershorts that belong to men.no woman should complain about house chores abeg o, it is never s mans work and will never be

Yeah, the main cause maybe that the girl didnt start doing them at early age,If she did it then ,she wont find it difficult doing it now

crystalgem:
I am married for two year nw with a baby girl, though marriages ave up and down but the one am going through ryt nw,that makes my body aches is the house chores, I do virtually al the work with no help, starting from sweeping the verandah, to the mopping the sitting room,kitchen, and the passage, to clearing the dishes,fetching water and serious u nid to see our well it's rily so deep,i fills the kitchen and toilet with water, wash the toilet, cook den take care of the baby while my husband sit al tru pressing his fone. Av discussed this with him several tyms but no change. I dnt no wot else to do as this is killing me. I alwaz wonder if he love me cos I dnt no ow u ll claim to love ur wife but stil watch her go through stress without you helping ha.....pls advice

seems like its fetching. water that is the bulk of your workcos almost all the chores, you need water. talk to your husband about a bore hole or putting a pumping machine in the well

crystalgem:
I am married for two year nw with a baby girl, though marriages ave up and down but the one am going through ryt nw,that makes my body aches is the house chores, I do virtually al the work with no help, starting from sweeping the verandah, to the mopping the sitting room,kitchen, and the passage, to clearing the dishes,fetching water and serious u nid to see our well it's rily so deep,i fills the kitchen and toilet with water, wash the toilet, cook den take care of the baby while my husband sit al tru pressing his fone. Av discussed this with him several tyms but no change. I dnt no wot else to do as this is killing me. I alwaz wonder if he love me cos I dnt no ow u ll claim to love ur wife but stil watch her go through stress without you helping ha.....pls advice

wait o... only three of you in the house? how dirty can it get?.. reduce the mopping to once in three or two days. this is the rainy season.. there won't be much dust

gidjah:
thank u bro , they will never understand, most men would want a woman at home basically for this reason,if I as a man should help with all this lists madam is putting up, then why should I need her in my house?? (though not to say men should not help at home o ,but its like God has conditioned the woman for those things ,but suddenly our women are now doing d work of men and thus they are now getting lazy,they can now wear trousers ,t shirts and 3quatershorts that belong to men.no woman should complain about house chores abeg o, it is never s mans work and will never be

@bolded, so you're marrying a woman just so she does chores at home? Why don't you hire a maid?

Don't even bring God into this? Where's it written in the bible that chores belong to women alone? What's so big in helping out in YOUR OWN house??

May God save women from men like you....

MarvellousGod:
@bolded, so you're marrying a woman just so she does chores at home? Why don't you hire a maid?

Don't even bring God into this? Where's it written in the bible that chores belong to women alone? What's so big in helping out in YOUR OWN house??

May God save women from men like you....

i really do not know why I should need a woman at home if its just about procreation, I can also get an asshy outside to do dat for me on a coontract base,is it something new ? u marry d man to give him s child n take care his sorroundings too, is her hussy complaining about home financial needs ??may god deliver d men from emancipants of women like you, .Abeg do your home. workings ppretty well , no complsins else d man may go get another woman who is eagerly waiting ing n dying to do it plssssss

Of course it is YOUR house.
And the woman is the tenant who's only needed because she's the glorified housemaid.

If not why else is she needed?

gidjah:
thank u bro , they will never understand, most men would want a woman at home basically for this reason,if I as a man should help with all this lists madam is putting up, then why should I need her in my house?? (though not to say men should not help at home o ,but its like God has conditioned the woman for those things ,but suddenly our women are now doing d work of men and thus they are now getting lazy,they can now wear trousers ,t shirts and 3quatershorts that belong to men.no woman should complain about house chores abeg o, it is never s mans work and will never be

cococandy:
Of course it is YOUR house.
And the woman is the tenant who's only needed because she's the glorified housemaid.

If not why else is she needed?

I had to steal into your profile to be sure about who is making a quote or issue out of what i said. sister coco, your blood too dey hot, you don't not fit into the class of women that would want to be personally responsible for her husband's home keep (or rather matrimony), you look like those that belong to them class washing machine, them cooks, them gardeners ,them house keepers, them baby sitters, and them drivers for mummy and the kids too !and more them and more them them as more needs arises. your super long finger nails would never allow you to think of washing your husbands clothes or even undies ,na so una go dey form until una husband's impregnate the house maids or even the relatives you brought home to come and do your job for you. this op ain't living in 3bedroom ,she is newly married, with a lil baby, she is complaining that d house chores are too rigorous,by the time the second and third child comes,what would be of her ?instead of you ladies to help her out with reasonable advice,some of you are asking her to fold her hands and sit with her phone just like her husband is doing!isn't that ridiculous? She is not even a working mum pks ,she seem to be a full house wife.

gidjah:
I had to steal into your profile to be sure about who is making a quote or issue out of what i said. sister coco, your blood too dey hot, you don't not fit into the class of women that would want to be personally responsible for her husband's home keep (or rather matrimony), you look like those that belong to them class washing machine, them cooks, them gardeners ,them house keepers, them baby sitters, and them drivers for mummy and the kids too !and more them and more them them as more needs arises. your super long finger nails would never allow you to think of washing your husbands clothes or even undies ,na so una go dey form until una husband's impregnate the house maids or even the relatives you brought home to come and do your job for you. this op ain't living in 3bedroom ,she is newly married, with a lil baby, she is complaining that d house chores are too rigorous,by the time the second and third child comes,what would be of her ?instead of you ladies to help her out with reasonable advice,some of you are asking her to fold her hands and sit with her phone just like her husband is doing!isn't that ridiculous? She is not even a working mum pks ,she seem to be a full house wife.

The bold is exactly why she needs help.
I can't imagine having a new baby and bending at the well to fetch water. The same pelvic bone that has been under lots of stress is being stressed more by the bending and lifting.

Are you trying to help her or kill her before she's 50? So asking her to get help is bad advice abi?
I guess if one is not preaching suffering here, they are not making sense.

And in case you don't know, men are physically stronger than women. It doesn't make sense in anyway to say it's her job to do the heavy lifting. Never. And don't even preach traditional roles to me because where I come from, men do the heavy lifting.

There are ways they should complement each other perfectly. For example if they don't have in-house tap, then he does the fetching water.
At least let her do other things.

N/B you also need to stop making up stories. Where did I ask her to sit and fold her arms abi you're high? Anyway for the rest of your post, if you could decipher all that from only one picture, good for you
At least you know there's no award for suffering unnecessarily.

cococandy:

The bold is exactly why she needs help.
I can't imagine having a new baby and bending at the well to fetch water. The same pelvic bone that has been under lots of stress is being stressed more by the bending and lifting.

Are you trying to help her or kill her before she's 50? So asking her to get help is bad advice abi?
I guess if one is not preaching suffering here, they are not making sense.

And in case you don't know, men are physically stronger than women. It doesn't make sense in anyway to say it's her job to do the heavy lifting. Never. And don't even preach traditional roles to me because where I come from, men do the heavy lifting.

There are ways they should complement each other perfectly. For example if they don't have in-house tap, then he does the fetching water.
At least let her do other things.

let her be helped with simple but nice advice, but to ask her to go into competition with her hussy, is just too bad sister. she could get people o help her wit water, but she should be able to do d rest work her self in a two room apartment.

gidjah:
let her be helped with simple but nice advice, but to ask her to go into competition with her hussy, is just too bad sister. she could get people o help her wit water, but she should be able to do d rest work her self in a two room apartment.

Who's asking her to compete with her husband?
You must be indirectly talking to someone else because I didn't say that and why you're quoting me is beyond me.

If you weren't reading the thread with your eyes in your pocket, you'd have seen I already said that.
.

cococandy:


Who's asking her to compete with her husband?
You must be indirectly talking to someone else because I didn't say that and why you're quoting me is beyond me.

If you weren't reading the thread with your eyes in your pocket, you'd have seen I already said that.
.

no ms, my eyes are pretty where they should be, but they are buldgy o see that you do not belong yo d class of the kind of women who see doing simple house chores as solely for women, your husband's should help with this ,help with that, you ladies. should wake up and and accept realities, if married (favored women)are complaining about house chores ,then whose work should that be?,stop been lazy, women, your mum did this things ,our parents in the village,are they complaining, while they where raising u up they did most of this things. but you come o the cities only to become champions over your men. coco you better be a good lady ,laziness and sluggishness will never help you , there's a place for women, that
is where you should sought for. this yanky way of living won't help u .

Married women are favored women?
What are single women? 'Unfavored'

Of course how could I forget. Any man marrying a lady is doing her a favor, so she has to work her back off to be worthy of that favor.

I give up.

How I run my home is not your business by the way. So quit analyzing me.

gidjah:
no ms, my eyes are pretty where they should be, but they are buldgy o see that you do not belong yo d class of the kind of women who see doing simple house chores as solely for women, your husband's should help with this ,help with that, you ladies. should wake up and and accept realities, if married (favored women)are complaining about house chores ,then whose work should that be?,stop been lazy, women, your mum did this things ,our parents in the village,are they complaining, while they where raising u up they did most of this things. but you come o the cities only to become champions over your men. coco you better be a good lady ,laziness and sluggishness will never help you , there's a place for women, that
is where you should sought for. this yanky way of living won't help u .

Whizzcute:



So if you marry tomorrow you will xpect your husband to do house chores for you?

What if the man's job schedule is 6.am - 6pm??


Just get a maid that will help you and stop waiting for your man.


In a true fact sef, a girl that did all these chores when she was at her fathers house will still not find anything difficult to do it at her husband's house.

Chores for me? Is it not his house too? And what If my own schedule is 6am to 6pm too?

Whizzcute:



Yeah, the main cause maybe that the girl didnt start doing them at early age,If she did it then ,she wont find it difficult doing it now

And men don't do chores in their parent's houses right

gidjah:
thank u bro , they will never understand, most men would want a woman at home basically for this reason,if I as a man should help with all this lists madam is putting up, then why should I need her in my house?? (though not to say men should not help at home o ,but its like God has conditioned the woman for those things ,but suddenly our women are now doing d work of men and thus they are now getting lazy,they can now wear trousers ,t shirts and 3quatershorts that belong to men.no woman should complain about house chores abeg o, it is never s mans work and will never be

Any man that wants a wife for this reason doesn't know what he wants. So women now do the work of men and that makes them lazy. Are you even listening to yourself?

Whizzcute:
get a MAID!!



you can't expect a man to come and do all this things you mentioned

Don't get a Maid o.....
That husband of yours will knack her and give her belle o.....

Don't you know he watches porn 24hrs on his phone....
Hang in there jare....

Maybe you should fast for him too.


Poster, I hate women like you walahi!!....
You wanna play good woman abi?
I shudder to think of how tough your body will be with all the manual labour.
Superwoman, continue o.....

Change roles. Case closed.

Whizzcute:
get a MAID!!



you can't expect a man to come and do all this things you mentioned

Excuse me , and y cnt a man do all she jst mention, I mean assist??

cococandy:


And in case you don't know, men are physically stronger than women. It doesn't make sense in anyway to say it's her job to do the heavy lifting. Never. And don't even preach traditional roles to me because where I come from, men do the heavy lifting.
.

I swear I have seen someone here argue the part in bold as part of the feminism argument

cococandy:
Of course it is YOUR house.
And the woman is the tenant who's only needed because she's the glorified housemaid.

If not why else is she needed?

Do you listen to Dr. Olukoya (MFM)?

That's his favorite phrase....

He detests husbands who treat their wives as slaves

Whizzcute:



So if you marry tomorrow you will xpect your husband to do house chores for you?

What if the man's job schedule is 6.am - 6pm??


Just get a maid that will help you and stop waiting for your man.


In a true fact sef, a girl that did all these chores when she was at her fathers house will still not find anything difficult to do it at her husband's house.

What if the woman's schedule is 6:00am - 6:00pm

Whatever works for you sha.

crystalgem:
I am married for two year nw with a baby girl, though marriages ave up and down but the one am going through ryt nw,that makes my body aches is the house chores, I do virtually al the work with no help, starting from sweeping the verandah, to the mopping the sitting room,kitchen, and the passage, to clearing the dishes,fetching water and serious u nid to see our well it's rily so deep,i fills the kitchen and toilet with water, wash the toilet, cook den take care of the baby while my husband sit al tru pressing his fone. Av discussed this with him several tyms but no change. I dnt no wot else to do as this is killing me. I alwaz wonder if he love me cos I dnt no ow u ll claim to love ur wife but stil watch her go through stress without you helping ha.....pls advice

@OP:

Are you a SHM or do you contribute to the finances at home?

There is a school of thought that wives should be 100% responsible for house chores and husbands 100% responsible for funding the home. What school of thought is your husband?

Your response will let you know if

1. You need to change your mode of communication as regards the chores
2. You need to re-arrange your timetable/get people to do some things for you

You need to decide quickly... In the grand scheme of things, the chores are not so important and they are recurring (i.e. never ending). You need to be relaxed enough to spend time with hubby and baby.

bukatyne:


@OP:

Are you a SHM or do you contribute to the finances at home?

There is a school of thought that wives should be 100% responsible for house chores and husbands 100% responsible for funding the home. What school of thought is your husband?

Your response will let you know if

1. You need to change your mode of communication as regards the chores
2. You need to re-arrange your timetable/get people to do some things for you

You need to decide quickly... In the grand scheme of things, the chores are not so important and they are recurring (i.e. never ending). You need to be relaxed enough to spend time with hubby and baby.

Hahahahahhahahahhahaa

Buka Buka, husband's funding in this case of extreme manual labour will include cook, maid and abo.kis' (to carry water from the ground floor to their flat) salaries ooooo

But seriously, in this case, I am not sure the husband can afford all that else they won't be fetching water from ground floor to their skycraper, so it won't work in this case. She has also diccussed severally with the husband, yet he won't help. Wetin she wan talk again? She is going to break down very soon before the husband will realize he needs to take action. So my advice is hinged on that. Rather than wait to truly break down, why don't she "Omotola" or "Genevieve" the sickness before it happens true true

If you are married to an "African" man, you cannot be speaking English all the time o

Kimoni:


Hahahahahhahahahhahaa

Buka Buka, husband's funding in this case of extreme manual labour will include cook, maid and abo.kis' (to carry water from the ground floor to their flat) salaries ooooo

But seriously, in this case, I am not sure the husband can afford all that else they won't be fetching water from ground floor to their skycraper, so it won't work in this case. She has also diccussed severally with the husband, yet he won't help. Wetin she wan talk again? She is going to break down very soon before the husband will realize he needs to take action. So my advice is hinged on that. Rather than wait to truly break down, why don't she "Omotola" or "Genevieve" the sickness before it happens true true

If you are married to an "African" man, you cannot be speaking English all the time o

I am sure if they get a daily help, it would greatly reduce her burden. (which will not be too expensive)

Knowing the school of thought of her husband will help her determine the next steps.

@ 'African men', I reject them

It was My grandma that said work no dey finish. Madam take it easy,do what you can. Stop fetching water(the thing dey disfigure body ooo) let your man pay someone to do it.

bukatyne:

What if the woman's schedule is 6:00am - 6:00pm
Whatever works for you sha.

Thatt's why i suggested they should get a maid

Whizzcute:


Thatt's why i suggested they should get a maid

What if they cannot afford it?

What does it cost the man to join her?

Amhappy:
It was My grandma that said work no dey finish. Madam take it easy,do what you can. Stop fetching water(the thing dey disfigure body ooo) let your man pay someone to do it.

Everyday I close from work, this is what I tell my colleagues - "abeg I dey go my house, work no dey finish"

zaragal:


Excuse me , and y cnt a man do all she jst mention, I mean assist??

because they are not his entitlement,only a jobless will be entitled to those roles

kilode100:



Don't get a Maid o.....
That husband of yours will knack her and give her belle o.....

Don't you know he watches porn 24hrs on his phone....
Hang in there jare....

Maybe you should fast for him too.


Poster, I hate women like you walahi!!....
You wanna play good woman abi?
I shudder to think of how tough your body will be with all the manual labour.
Superwoman, continue o.....

LoL

If they Get a maid and the husband start bleeping her ,then the wife should know her laziness caused it

Whizzcute:



LoL

If they Get a maid and the husband start bleeping her ,then the wife should know her laziness caused it

Wetin make she do?