freecocoa:
I've always known what you mean my sister, it's very obvious.

There's actually a handful of women on here who know what feminism is really about and it's just sad seeing the movement being used as it is on here.

I know you almost don't like feminists btw.

slimmy05:
Read the thread again and type a response that suits.

edwife:


An angel like me? i don't hate people,i just can't stand aggressiveness and pretenders.If i didn't like feminists will i be talking with you?

You can't preach something here and not live by it,some of the stuff you talk about i relate with but there are some that totally parallel to my values.

freecocoa:
I was just messing with you though.

It's almost like to be a feminist means being rude and aggressive towards men and any woman who doesn't agree with you, but that's not it at all, although I must admit that most non-feminist women(let me put it that way) make it very hard to reason with them

I can understand and respect your stand.

FrancisTony:

Number one rude woman in this section is a non-feminist.
That Lolagirl.

Don't be deceived by her pretentious submissiveness. I understand someone not agreeing with people but the way she goes about, abusing other people is an opposite of what she claims; being a good christian.
She exudes frustration....

edwife:


Thanks,i will keep reading and understand what feminism is all about but it's going to take me a while to get there

freecocoa:
Honestly? I don't even know who you are referring to but I'm guessing it's lady who had it out with vicky, I only noticed her that day if that's who you mean.

The main issue is with the so called feminists who don't even know what they are on about, many of them make the movement look like a men hating club, I do understand though that most of the world's problems were and is till being caused by men , however that doesn't mean women don't have faults too, it would be nice if blames be apportioned rightfully according to every case, not twisting everything to blame the man even when it's clear he isn't at fault.

freecocoa:
Honestly? I don't even know who you are referring to but I'm guessing it's lady who had it out with vicky, I only noticed her that day if that's who you mean.

FrancisTony:

Yes, the Vicky girl looked for her trouble.
But I've had my own share of attack from her even though I never mentioned her - she depicts "Angry black woman"....
And I have seen where she attacked some women too.

There's another one that attack Coco..candy both directly and indirectly.
You can see who are the real trouble-makers.

FrancisTony:

Yes, the Vicky girl looked for her trouble.
But I've had my own share of attack from her even though I never mentioned her - she depicts "Angry black woman"....
And I have seen where she attacked some women too.

There's another one that attack Coco..candy both directly and indirectly.
You can see who are the real trouble-makers.

crackhaus:

edwife:



Unfollow thread

Frecocoa was great talking maturely with you,see you

Shollypopzz:
Why are we blaming feminism for people's aggressive nature or character?? A feminist can be ignorant, a murderer, a pedophile, a liar, a christian, an animal rights activist, a doctor, a school teacher, a house wife and a non-feminist can also be all of the above.

How do y'all know who is pretending to be a real feminist on NL and who isn't? Most especially, why the fvck does anyone care about what goes on in other people's personal lives??
I am not a feminist God, neither are any of you, you hold no right on who can claim to be a feminist and who can't.

I don't think I was the one that called freecocoa out on the "superiority whatever" but I'll add my 2 cents anyway. I have seen you say things like, "not all who claim to be feminists on NL are feminist" (And I know you are not talking about trolls). The problem with that statement is that it is divisive and as feminists, we don't need that. Your statement on this thread is different from your usual statements because it doesn't strip anybody of their feminism but it suggest that some feminist can in fact be ignorant. And education can solve ignorance. Give your sisters a little hand instead of telling them they are not worthy to call themselves feminists because that is what it translates to at the end of the day.

edwife:


You see why i say i relate with you? You real and drop it like it is.

This is Nairaland,a cyber space.The real world is way too different from this, and that is the one thing i never understand.

Well as long as there are people like you,we still have hope

FrancisTony:

I think she has a personality disorder.

Preach one on a thread, Preach differently on another.....

Chillisauce:


N'a people wey they take this place serious.
sometimes after my whiskey I type some kin thing I won't even remember I typed until someone quotes me when I'm sober

freecocoa:

Now, I do know that a feminist can be all the above mentioned and more, but when you are championing a course, aren't you supposed to walk in line with what you are supposed to stand for? I don't think anyone has said people shouldn't claim feminist, saying that not all who claim to be is, is actually a statement of fact, just like saying not everyone who claims to be a christian is.

The reason why I seem to have a problem with the people being referred to on here is, that they make it seem their attitude is as a result of being feminists and feminism, is something I am very passionate about.

Try engaging one and you get called names for it. You say the statement is divisive and isn't needed but I disagree as it will be foolhardy and counterproductive to associate oneself with just anyone who calls themselves feminists especially when it's obvious, you don't even stand in the same place on the matter.

You don't expect me to be in cahoots with a pedophile or murder because they go by the title 'feminist' now do you?

freecocoa:
I'll really miss you if you or I ever leave NL, you are one hell of a woman.

Too funny.

Chillisauce:


N'a people wey they take this place serious.
sometimes after my whiskey I type some kin thing I won't even remember I typed until someone quotes me when I'm sober

Shollypopzz:


Unlike normal causes, feminism seem to be a little different because what it does is give women a choice. Someone can be a house-wife and still be a feminist as long as he/she does not believe all women should be constrained to home duties. Someone can adhere to gender roles without believing in it. It doesn't make them less of a feminist.


How do they make it seem that way?? I have never seen a feminist on NL even slightly insinuate that they are aggressive because they are feminists. Do non-feminists make it seem like their attitude is as a result of being non-feminists?? Do anti-feminists make it seem that way too??

You cannot blame people for how YOU choose to interpret their message.


Nobody is asking you to associate yourself with someone who you don't agree with. I am not aware of any feminist cabal or cult on NL. I think you might want to strip yourself of the feminist title too if you think feminists agree on all feminist issues.


I can agree with feminist on feminist issue and still disagree with that same feminist on other issues that does not have to do with gender equality. It's very simple.

Chillisauce:


But it's true Na.
then consider others that smoke ganja, frustrated by life, the dummies (those ones that take 45th position out of 46 in primary schools), the půssy sniffers.
All in this place arguing.
My dear, it's not easy .

crackhaus:

all4naija:

I know she is a model.What is her name?

SirShymexx:
Like seriously, what's so special and difficult in men cooking?

If the man were to have kids, won't he cook for them?

If he's going to cook for them, and cook for himself - then what's special in adding an extra portion for his other half?

Any man that can't cook and doesn't want to cook for his partner should please stay in his parent's house and not get married. He's definitely going to be a terrible dad.