I need help understanding why the man I fell in love with thinks porn is OK. Let me give you a little background:
I'm a Latina living in Seoul, Korea. I meet a Nigerian man who I have been dating for about 3 months. Now, he brags about the fact that I'm different from the typical American girl. What I have noticed is that my background and heritage means nothing, I have an American passport so I'm American. But, when I am able to cook rice and beans and spicy stewed meat that is similar to Nigerian food, then I'm different. He started living with me, not formally, but just not going home. This is when things really changed. The man that waited on me hand and foot, and wanted to please me in any and everyway changed. It became, serve me when ever he felt like eating. Ex: 2:00am "Baby I'm hungry". Telling me when to wash his closes and home often to change the sheets. Now, I come from a Latin background where the men act very macho, and I kinda took a step back from the way of life. I grew up seeing my mother coming home later than my father and still having to serve and pickup after him. But, being open minded and in love, I became submissive and didn't everything he said, with a yes baby response. Getting up out of bed, to feed him when he got home late from the masque or work. One day, I'm making breadfast and he gets on the computer. I serve him and he eats. Later, I look at the computer and he failed to close the tabs on the search engine. What did I find. PORN sites. Now, I got the baby I wont do it again. But what has really hurt me is that he didn't see it as disrespectful to me, my home,my computer and our relationship.

Now, I am always getting crap about how western cultures is messed up. And, how Americans don't have values. He is always getting at me about the fact that African marriages last because of the respect that American families lack. How,the immorality of American culture is destroyed the generation. And I never responded to his point of view negatively. Even though I felt he was putting me down, and my home down. Not that America is perfect, but to the extent he would go was borderline American bashing. I took the submissive stand and let him vent. But, always indicated that you can't single out all families and Americans.

How dare he bad mouth us and then watch porn while I'm cooking for him and they have the nerve to see nothing wrong with it, until I told him it was over.

His response was that I'm too proud and pompous. I don't know how to keep a family together.


Help me to understand, Please

I can deal the fact that he needs to be the king of his castle and world. But, I also have to accept the porn.

hmmm

how did if finally end?

Oh dear

u again?

Did you leave him? He didn't know how good he had it. You don't deserve that kind of disrespect in your own home after everything you do for that worthless guy.

in this case dearie its not just about nigerian men  , i know we can be demanding  but your boy friend is  more demanding and more overbearing than the average nogerian man

yes lots of americans have issues but there are also lots like u  i assume who have excellent upbringing

if he cant figure out that u are different from the average american girl then its his loss , let him go

if he is gonna disrespect you in your house let him go

if he is gonna insult you and your heritage at every turn  let him go

better now than later

Inkie! I am feeling that song! Why are you in my crate of music chile?

I love her music and voice.  She put me to sleep easily (in a good way). 

You are right about what you said.  Well said my sister!  If people are going to date or marry someone that is OUTSIDE of their "circle" then they shouldn't be having issues with the person's culture. 

Why would someone date or marry someone that THEY CLAIMED is bleeped up based on where they come from or resides?   

No offense intended but AS MUCH AS SOME Nigerian men complains and bitches about America culture or Western Culture THEY ARE STILL dating and marrying women FROM America or the West. Contradiction much huh?

aproko ppl

swaggerboi2011:

aproko ppl

she asked ou opinion we have answered , it is u who is aproko for coming here to look without saying anything

Gosh, How irritating can this dude get

Sometimes I marvel at how some ladies chose to take the backseat and let selfish, lazy, undeserving b*stards to take them for a ride. Fancy living in ur own house, bossing u around, talking down on u, and disrespecting u, and u choose to accept all this because u have internal shock absorbers Whew

Anyway, I do hope he pays the bills, because some of these silly guys would slowly suck u dry, and then move to the next girl. Beware!!

You'd better dump his fugly as*s and get on with ur life.

What's with some of these Nigerian dudes anyway?

This thread is 5 years old, for all we know the Poster and the dude may be married now with a multitude of rugrats, we dey here dey condemn. SMH

@ claremont

Lol,  Didn't realize that. Lmao (how embarassing)

whobemumu:


she asked ou opinion we have answered , it is u who is aproko for coming here to look without saying anything

Exactly. I thought this was a FORUM where people will express their thoughts, feelings, emotions, and opinions? If so why SOME people having issues with people utilizing the FORUM AFTER clicking on the thread link to read the contents.

Does that make them aproko as well?

lol

NL Archive week.
Courtsey: Firearm

So men still expect women to spoon-feed them in this century? - - -But OP are you telling or asking? What exactly is your major concern or problem? The indecency movie or his bad mouthing attitude and criticism of American culture? For me I don't find anything interesting in watching porn I prefer acting one myself* Winks*

Lmao @ my computer, my house and our relationship. Maybe you are bed boring and he decided to watch some real action banging

Firearm!!!!!!!
Would you stop this madness of bringing back the dead. Its begining to get annoying