These are the signs that people miss and then get landed with an elephant problem after marriage and when people ask the "victim" they say she/he changed, but infact they never changed. One just didnt take notice of things.

What a stupid and selfish question . . how old is she? 12?

You are also an enabler. Why are you giving your gf the same amount as your mum? When you marry she will tell you to double her own amount and give your mum zero!

Alarm bells are ringing loud and clear now.

Neyoor:

Better.
Just tel her u love her more than ur family, for the fact that she is the one u will spend the rest of ur life with. Just to let peace reign but u knw deep in ur mind that u love ur family most

Are you high on something?
Which kinda peace is that?

pickabeau1:


If I were you, I will stop this in any form.
Are u not a student maga

What you've told her is enough.. if she wants to go.. its better for you

So the OP is a student and he's acting like father christmas? I didn't want to pick on the money thing before I scatter the thread.
Why do some boys think it's their duty to 'finance' a girlfriend though? Is that a guy code in Nigeria or what?

Stillfire:


So the OP is a student and he's acting like father christmas? I didn't want to pick on the money thing before I scatter the thread.
Why do some boys think it's their duty to 'finance' a girlfriend though? Is that a guy code in Nigeria or what?

Yes it is widespread for guys to augment their gf income regularly

It however needs to stop. one time I get ... not regular stuff

Guys need to stop this

Duran2059, you will weep if you marry this girl.

People bringing marine spirits into their home in the name of she's my fiance



Ordinary fiance

asking this kind of question

When you finally marry her what you will hear is choose between me and God who u love most

op, if a lady ask me ds kind question, i go curse her , curse her family.

edwife:


Lol see question!

No be small thing o, this kind woman no be am abeg.

Timbuktou:
Duran2059, you will weep if you marry this girl.

Duran Duran DURAN2059 how many times have I called you??

Use your head not your deek buddy!

pickabeau1:

Yes it is widespread for guys to augment their gf income regularly
It however needs to stop. one time I get ... not regular stuff
Guys need to stop this

As in..

Stillfire:


So the OP is a student and he's acting like father christmas? I didn't want to pick on the money thing before I scatter the thread.
Why do some boys think it's their duty to 'finance' a girlfriend though? Is that a guy code in Nigeria or what?

What planet do you live? Been trending from time immemorial.

Scatter am already jare the dude needs a head shake.

.

An Ex once asked me to choose btw her,and my good friend then,cos my friend and I were very close.

I laughed then,today she's gone,my friend is still there.

Bottom line,she's a fiance,asking such question show she's a dangerous lady when you eventual marry her.

OP, run as fast as your legs can carry you. You are about to be ensnared.

Ewuro4:




As in..

Somehow, they forgot to mention this about being a woman in Nigeria in that funny hashtag campaign of theirs.

Does she love her family less than you? If yes, you should be scared.

Timbuktou:


Somehow, they forgot to mention this about being a woman in Nigeria in that funny hashtag campaign of theirs.

Saw that this morning and thought to myself, some of these woman are responding to NL's call to take the struggle beyond matrimony

naijababe:


Saw that this morning and thought to myself, some of these woman are responding to NL's call to take the struggle beyond matrimony

They will learn the hard way. I laugh when full time housewives come here to preach things they have no intention of practising.

Timbuktou:


They will learn the hard way. I laugh when full time housewives come here to preach things they have no intention of practising.

edwife:

Sup, Eddy. How ya been?

Timbuktou:


Sup, Eddy. How ya been?

Been alright,you?

edwife:

Been alright,you?

I dey o. Tryna make the bank balance more healthy.

Timbuktou:


I dey o. Tryna make the bank balance more healthy.

Lol,man must survive....
More power to your work....

The fact that a guy really loves his mum and sister and it shows, just means he would equally love and cherish his wife. As long as his decisions are not toppled over on every female relative's wimp. And what is this she prefers to talk to your face issue, is that not a communication gap already? As for telling her what you give your parents, with this kind of jealousy, na for her to open thread dey cry, my husband gives all our extra cash to his family. #imo

edwife:

Lol,man must survive.... More power to your work....

Tenk plenty.

Ewuro4:


What planet do you live? Been trending from time immemorial.

Scatter am already jare the dude needs a head shake.

Lol, well what can I say? These things just appear weird to me.

pickabeau1:


Yes it is widespread for guys to augment their gf income regularly

It however needs to stop. one time I get ... not regular stuff

Guys need to stop this

Is it a matter of what Nigerian women expect from their men or what Nigerian men willingly do? Who would have to break the cycle?

Stillfire:


Is it a matter of what Nigerian women expect from their men or what Nigerian men willingly do? Who would have to break the cycle?

I am surprised you are unaware of this.. are you feigning ignorance?

Paying the bills of your gf is an obligation and girls expect it
Making it regular is now at the discretion of the guy

pickabeau1:


I am surprised you are unaware of this.. are you feigning ignorance?

Paying the bills of your gf is an obligation and girls expect it
Making it regular is now at the discretion of the guy

I an not unaware of this. I just find it weird. I want to know if this issue is more of Nigerian woman requiring this and putting so much pressure on the men or the man thinking he must do it? And who should take the blame for being too overzealous on each side? I hear one of the angst of other African men in Nigerian men taking their own women is that Nigerian men spend so much on women. Are Nigerian men to blame for being frivolous? Or is it the women that constitute caring as spending money on them?

Stillfire:


I an not unaware of this. I just find it weird. I want to know if this issue is more of Nigerian woman requiring this and putting so much pressure on the men or the man thinking he must do it? And who should take the blame for being too overzealous on each side? I hear one of the angst of other African men in Nigerian men taking their own women is that Nigerian men spend so much on women. Are Nigerian men to blame for being frivolous? Or is it the women that constitute caring as spending money on them?

I am sure you have heard of statements like this ...

Why are you so stingy
Why cant you be like other men
You are not even caring



I leave the women to answer you

pickabeau1:


I am surprised you are unaware of this.. are you feigning ignorance?

Paying the bills of your gf is an obligation and girls expect it
Making it regular is now at the discretion of the guy

Lord have mercy! Since when? I can't be that old nau

pickabeau1:


I am sure you have heard of statements like this ...

Why are you so stingy
Why cant you be like other men
You are not even caring



I leave the women to answer you

So the women are to blame for the behavior?

naijababe:


Lord have mercy! Since when? I can't be that old nau

Lol, you know I left Nigeria before I started dating, so I have not experienced the dating dynamic over there. So maybe times have changed over there.