mablie:
Goodevening my good man.I log into this site specifically to read only your posts.I'm always enlightened and entertained by them.Thank you for being you sire

Sagamite:


One would have assumed that by using the term "exception" and stating what happens to "most" you would have clicked that it was already stated to her that it is not the norm and only if she was lucky.


Arami92, more details for you from the catalogue of old posts.

https://www.nairaland.com/1204511/what-reasons-high-level-30/9#14566107

Obalende:


sagamite i do apologize i didnt read ur post properly. ur post was spot on too!

andromida:


Israel and Palestine? Was it ever that bad?

Yeah we all prefer people with warm attitude. Sometimes a girl is just having a bad day also it takes some people longer time to warm up.

Be gentle with the gals you might just miss out.

Sagamite:


Considering you have a life mission to convert me into a "Real Man" mugu, it is even worse than Israel taking Palestinian land.

There you go again.

Me? Missing out?

So the girl is the value?

No, trainer. You should know I am the MVP in the relationship. They are the ones missing out.

It seems black girls tend to have a lot of bad days then.

I have a very simple formula for the girls I end up dating:

https://www.nairaland.com/403381/why-nigerian-man-prefer-women/13#6883674

If they have not got the 3As, I am very very good at waka-passing. I don't chase.

Sagamite:


Wow!

You are learning well.

mablie:
No problem.I also apologise for my brash response to your post

andromida:


Hehehehe what if you will enjoy being a "REAL MAN" mugu.

Not that the girl is the only value here i imply that you may miss out on a romantic connection because of your mindset about black girls.

I don't chase, i don't chase, i don't chase hehehe no waka pass the one wey good for you your formula is cool make if better.

Notyourb1tch:
what is the Wow for? I am not a bigot and I always apologize when I know I am wrong. We(black women) are not as bad as you like to portray

Sagamite:


We need to end self over-valuation.

maryhaam:
self over valuation,nice write up,but most time we all have a target to meet,even thou some of us can't combine relationship n our set aside goals,we have desires n dreams,maybe after a while we feel let take a chill n mix the 2 together,thanks for the awakening thou,just tired of having sleeplessness night on what I don't call success.

Sagamite:


Nothing wrong with desires and dreams, darling.

What I mean by self-overvaluation is the attitude of entitlement that many girls (some fine, some barely average) have and that comes across in their interactions with men.

They think he has to drag himself on the floor to be worthy of being with them and/or he should not have his own desires and dreams, he should be focused on their desires and dreams.

Many girls need to understand that on the long term, they are more likely to be at the disadvantage, so they should negotiate and navigate fairly & responsibly while at an advantage.

(Damn! I have been searching for this my old post for weeks now to reference it. I could never find it. I think because of chaircover's editing of all her posts before deactivating. Finally found it. )

https://www.nairaland.com/1012348//4#11752694

You really only need to read the bottom part from "Let me give you a hint of the rudeness of black girls in London" if you don't want to read the whole thing as the top is similar to what I have already said on this thread.

Sagamite:


Lol. I am not a member "Progressive, 21st Century, Politically Correct, Liberal" Police, so no need for the "Hands-up! I am not a bigot" explanation.

Actually those kind of people irritate me.

I am just surprised you quickly apologised to him for thinking wrongly he was a homosexual.

You were not quick to apologise to me when you were wrong. (Not like if I desire or is requesting one)

Are you saying thinking someone is a homosexual than an [indirect] insult on someone's mother?

Yep, not all black girls are bad, I just think majority have poor social skills expecially on first approach. If you can get past that stage, some are decent to date. I tend to focus my interaction to the few with good social skills if I meet them.

https://www.nairaland.com/1089625/worth-reading-white-womans-opinion/1#12827648

Notyourb1tch:
Lol firstly I never insulted your mother and hence that is why I never apologized to you because I felt like I did nothing wrong. It's like me saying all black man are lazy and don't provide for their kids. Now how did I get to that conclusion? It's either through my experiences(brothers, a father, boyfriend etc) or am talking from my anus which was the point I was trying to get you to see.

Notyourb1tch:

I was not explain but merely stating a fact which I wanted you to know. Honestly how you approach a black woman will determine how she will respond to you. I don't like being rude to guys who come up to me. I am not a snob but sometimes some of you men just don't get when a woman is not interested or not in the mood and from personal experience sometimes you just got to give it to them straight in order to be left alone because often times than not they believe we are playing 'hard to get'.

Notyourb1tch:

Anyways its not a must to be or date black girls. When the negative outweighs the positive then go for what you want. Not all black men are destined to be with black women and vice verse. I am just tired of all the constant bashing and pit downs. If we are honest with ourselves out of all the races, black men put down their women the most which is very sad because black people have a lot to deal with already.

maryhaam:
I understand ur point vividly,if we don't have terms and agreement how do we agree,fine it should be balanced so as to be a win win thing,am not advocating for men been pushed to the xtreme,but don't also forget the fact we also bend to make it work attimes,yea we be at loss when we act up excessively,dnt forget we learn everyday and we get experienced everyday,which affect our day to day activity,nobody should pay for the sin of anoda guy, we are just playing safe dear.

Sagamite:


Well said!

If many black women are like this, then we can have a beginning to achieving a change that can lead to relational progress and less bashing.

Sagamite:


As brainy as I am, you think I can enjoy being a mugu?

Especially of the type of a term I have turned derogatory amongst Nigerian men?

Kai! You no comprehend.

You know, because of me, many Nigerian guys would now be irritated when called a "real man"?

If a girl is not competent in interacting with me at the early few stages of our interactions, I am afraid the possibility of a romantic connection between us (at least from my side) is remote.

Reminds me of a black girl I once met and approached, she was all game and we exchanged numbers.

While chatting, meeting up and etc, she now made some comment about me not being invited to her place as no man is ever invited to her place. And she kept on emphasising it. She would not even let me know where she stays. The way she was saying it, it was like if she was saying I was a danger.

Very romantic, init?

I can fully understand when a girl does not want a guy to come to her place because of security or trying to avoid easy lay but I think you have to put it across with class and sense.

You know what my response was?

After meeting her like 4 times, I said "Cool, I don't invite strangers to my place too".

We ended up frequently meeting in neutral public places (I am not going to be paying for restaurant/cinema everytime I want to see a girl and I told her this). She was thinking I was going to break and tell her to come to mine. ................................Fck that.

I was never going to invite her unless she eventually invited me. She was now in a position that she was too proud to reverse her error but was still keen (always available anytime I wanted to meet up and messaging me).

Romantic connection? ..........................................Dead on Arrival.

I bet she was thinking "If you like me, then you will change your position".

Sorry girl, I am not responsible and will not take responsibility for an unnecessary problem you created because you have poor social skills.

mablie:
I like Sagamite because he is intelligent and unique.He really is quite special isn't he?.I truly am in awe of him

Mixty:

SagaMAD, why are you fond of creating several monikers to sing your praise to high heavens? Are you that a deluded niqqa suffering from chronic and deep low self esteem?

I didn't bother reading the long sh*t you put up there. Don't really care abt the whole poo

But you have been playing this dating game since the early days of Nairaland 10 years ago and it's surprising you are yet to hook up with a responsible babe. Who is really losing?

Can't believe that you can still be talking abt the same girlish stories 10 years after, with all the lies abt your acclaimed status.

You sre full of shiiit



I leave you to your silliness so as not to dignify an already dead thread.

Mixty:

SagaMAD, why are you fond of creating several monikers to sing your praise to high heavens? Are you that a deluded niqqa suffering from chronic and deep low self esteem?

I didn't bother reading the long sh*t you put up there. Don't really care abt the whole poo

But you have been playing this dating game since the early days of Nairaland 10 years ago and it's surprising you are yet to hook up with a responsible babe. Who is really losing?

Can't believe that you can still be talking abt the same girlish stories 10 years after, with all the lies abt your acclaimed status.

You sre full of shiiit

I leave you to your silliness so as not to dignify an already dead thread.

Arami92:






So question,

I'm a 23 year old woman... I very much desire to be married one day. Even now at this age my heart yearns to meet that special someone. BUT...my parents and many others keep advising me that now is not the time for love..that I should focus on my career, make sure I'm successful and independent so that I never end up depending on any man...I've heard many say that men want women who are assets not liabilities! So with that advice the options I have is to put chasing love on hold and chase a career, most good careers take much time and dedication. So the average woman who wants to be a ceo,medical doctor, phd holder, lawyer, etc..won't have arrived to her destination until about 30...so now these same women are being punished?! What am I to do..how do you ensure success in your career and still have a successful marriage.

It's like woman are in. Double bind, we are encouraged to be strong independent successful and self reliant while we are young, only to be punished for it later..while men who are encouraged to do the same reap benefits from waiting and establishing themselves before settling down...

I essentially have two groups of friends. My single and driven girls! Who are working very hard to make something of themselves..and my not so driven girls who are dating..many of them living with their boyfriends and mainly supporting His dream hoping he will finally pop the question..

Where is the middle ground??

OmoEziokwu:
LOL

The gospel is finally reaching Nigeria.

Sagamite maybe we could begin a manosphere section on this forum to teach these Nigerian men how to be...teach them the wisdom of the ages HA!