Good day, My people. I am in serious need of good advise. I am set to wed next month. For some reason, I'm not happy, excited or trilled. In fact I'm confused and I am not sure if I am making the right decision. I met my (husband to be) last year while I was in Nigeria on a business trip. I am not based in Nigeria;However I'm home 3x a year on business. While I'm home we always keep in contact with each other, in fact I received two contracts because of him. A few months ago, he asked my hand in marriage. I accepted. I've met his family(great people) and they have met my family. The only thing his mother asked me was to relocate back to Nigeria since his son has a great job with the oil company. Again I accept since I have a flourishing business in P.H. Since last week, I have being contemplating if I have made the right choice. To be honest, A part of me is not ready to settle down despite the fact I am 30 years old. The truth is that I have not being with any man in thepast 10 years. In fact I prefer to have sex with women,I only date women. I don't really care for men, I am not attracted to men in anyway.
The big question is, should I call off the wedding and bear the shame or go ahead with the marriage and learn to love him. Is it possible that I will grow to love him/ be attracted to him.
Your advise is greatest appreciated


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This is one of the reasons why people turn harsh on nairaland



Why accept in the first place when you know u prefer dildos

Take family over work and you will feel extremely excited.

Shouldn't you have sorted your sexual preference before dating to the point of engagement?Have you been having sex with this guy and what has been the experience if at all?

Break off the engagement.If you marry him,both of you will end up frustrated.

you have no business marrying this man! call off the wedding! you know you're not attracted to men in any way, only women and that you only have sex with women. you're going to make the poor guy miserable. this isn't fair to him, call off the wedding and let him find someone suitable for himself!

You have been well washed in oyinbo mentality, an oyinbo husband is what u need. U can't marry an African man it won't work out, period!
I pity that husband to be he doesn't know the fire that awaits him

Here we go again...lesbian....hhmmmm..guys Una own done finish ooo..if all d lady's prefer dem gals dem so soooorry dude...nothing for u ooo

Anyways....baby first of all u need deliverance go to pastor olukoya to paralye dat demon lesbianism spirit from u after which u can decide whether u love him genuinely after your deliverance and hold God ooo...for now post pone the wedding till ur deliverance is complete

I tell you, lesbianism is worse dan fornication because to break frm that kind of attraction/affection, it takes jesus

God ll help u sha

U dont av to marry him. Call d wedding off since u dont av love 4 men. What u nd is deliverance frm d spirit of lesbianism. Acept Jesus into ur life and be set free.

Relocate to the US where you can now legally marry your type. smh

It just pisses me that there is so much discussion about lesbians and co...
We are just advertising a disgusting rebellious act.

Lady, love who or what you like and marry who or what you like.
As far as I am concerned you can fall in love with the cucumber in your fridge !
Sorry, just want my kid`s to grow up in a decent world.

Op u need Jesus Christ in ur life. Repent from ur sinful ways.

Una no dey taya for bs

YOU'RE 30 & A LESBIAN, PERIOD. YOU CAN NEVER LEARN TO LOVE THIS MAN CAUSE OF YOUR SEXUAL INTEREST. PLS. MOVE ON AND LET THIS FAMILY BE AND I WISH YOU WELL

Stop being selfish you prefer women leave the man alone.

ConfessionsNgr:
Good day, My people. I am in serious need of good advise. I am set to wed next month. For some reason, I'm not happy, excited or trilled. In fact I'm confused and I am not sure if I am making the right decision. I met my (husband to be) last year while I was in Nigeria on a business trip. I am not based in Nigeria;However I'm home 3x a year on business. While I'm home we always keep in contact with each other, in fact I received two contracts because of him. A few months ago, he asked my hand in marriage. I accepted. I've met his family(great people) and they have met my family. The only thing his mother asked me was to relocate back to Nigeria since his son has a great job with the oil company. Again I accept since I have a flourishing business in P.H. Since last week, I have being contemplating if I have made the right choice. To be honest, A part of me is not ready to settle down despite the fact I am 30 years old. The truth is that I have not being with any man in thepast 10 years. In fact I prefer to have sex with women,I only date women. I don't really care for men, I am not attracted to men in anyway.
The big question is, should I call off the wedding and bear the shame or go ahead with the marriage and learn to love him. Is it possible that I will grow to love him/ be attracted to him.
Your advise is greatest appreciated


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http://confessionsnigeria.com/post/125/confused-i-need-honest-advise

@ Op i think you need to visit this thread it will solve your problem:
https://www.nairaland.com/2414762/spiritual-warfare-deliverance-casting-out