READ MORE: http://www.naij.com/480870-memo-problems-faced-by-lagos-single-rich-guy.html
A Lagos-based single rich guy has come out to analyze some of the pains associated with being a rich bachelor in the center of excellence.

he single rich guy, Gudrated, took to his time to state 10 challenges faced by every single rich guy in Lagos. Read below:
It’s funny to me when I read online that all that is required to get a Naija gal is money! People exaggerate the influence of money. Many guys automatically assume that once you display some cash, gals will automatically trip for you like mad. While it may be true to some extent (I have experienced that), it is not always the case.
I am not particularly stinkingly rich but I am a very comfortable bachelor working with one of the foremost multinational oil companies in Nigeria. I can afford the basic things of life with ease and with enough to spare. I also have friends & colleagues who are very comfortable and face similar challenges I and others face. Any rich, single guy will possibly identify with some of the challenges I am about to outline, if not all. Some of the challenges are as follows:

1. Many girls automatically assume that you are a player – Drive a nice car, wear
good clothes, smell well and live in a comfortable house and many gals automatically tag you out as a player. Undecided, I have been told so many times by girls. One of my close friend had to quit a relationship because his girlfriend was just too insecure and didn’t trust him. It is also sad that my ex-girlfriends have also accused me of cheating even though I was never caught.

2. Many think you have a girlfriend – You walk up to a girl, chat her up and start off a conversation. You become her friend and eventually ask her out. She tells you to your face that she knows that you already have a girlfriend, and possibly a fiancée. She tells you that it is virtually impossible for you to be single with your current status. For goodness sake, what does my financial status has to do with my relationship life? From that point onward, they hardly take you serious.

3. Some girls are just interested in your money – Yes, many rich guys can testify to this. You meet lots and lots of female fraudster – we call them runs girls. They pretend to like you but all they are interested in is to get a share of your ‘national cake’ – your money. I can not count the number of times that girls (that I am still toasting) will be asking me to pay for their house rent, set up a business for them, etc when I am yet to start dating them. Even at the stage of friendship, some start asking for phones, Brazilian hairs and all kinds of stuff. It’s annoying! Why is it so hard sometimes to meet a decent, good looking girl? I must confess not all girls are like that but many are.

4. You spend more for your girlfriends – Girlfriends who have rich boyfriends expect their guys to spend more for them. You will find out that your broke male friends spend far less for their girlfriends ( and the girls appear to be contented), but in your case, your girlfriends expect that you ‘prove’ your love by spending your cash on them. If you don’t spend lavishly, you risk being tagged as ‘stingy’.



5. Fine girls tend to play more ‘hard-to-get’ with the rich guys than the broke ones – YES! You heard me right. It’s surprisingly ironic, isn’t it? Fine girls tend to play hard to get with the rich guys because they want to been seen as decent and not after money. Many atimes, it’s just sheer pretence. They pretend to be decent, good, domesticated. They may sometimes hide their promiscuous and cheap lifestyle because they assume that they have finally met the serious-minded rich guy. So, they want to appear like a good girl. Some may also play hard-to-get so that you can spend more during the toasting stage. Meanwhile, you find out that these girls keep rolling carelessly and freely with the not-so-rich guys in the neighborhood.

6. You become paranoid –You find it hard to know who really loves you. You also tend to think the girls in your circle are only around because of your money. You become confused and it gets difficult to settle for a choice. It seems best to have settled for someone before you ‘made’ it.

7. You may actually meet fewer number of good girls – You heard me right. You find out that you meet mostly bad and extremely extroverted girls. This is because the richer you get, the more isolated you may become. You drive your car, meaning that you do not meet ladies often in the bus or park. You do mostly online transfer meaning that you also miss out on ladies who visit the banks. You also are too busy to visit near-by higher institutions where you can meet various chicks. We often live in very secured estates where everybody minds his/her own business further isolating us from meeting the real, ‘good’ gals out there. We tend to hang out in bars and clubs where you meet the highly extroverted, possibly bad gals. Gals in church are possibly worse-off too and not much better. Sigh….



8. You spend more than others to get a gal others would easily get with little cash – Another sad truth. Standards are set for you. While the not-so-rich guys will think twice before spending even less than 5k on a girl, you find yourself spending comparatively more for a gal. Due to your class, you have minimum standards for yourself, and you find it hard to go below it as it has become part of your lifestyle. First impression matters a lot for women. When you take a lady on a date within your ‘minimum standard’which may be very ordinary to you, she may become carried away with the lavishness. She often steps up her game so as not to appear cheap. cool

9. Your true personality is often buried beneath your financial strength – Rich guys are one of the most misunderstood persons. Sometimes, we just want to be ourselves. However, friends and hanger-bys tend to be insecure and intimidated around us and think of us only in terms of our money. You jokingly tease a girl, and she is quick to point out to you that ‘is it because you think you have money?’ Not only girls, even fellow friends around you will feel very insecure. Some do not want to introduce you to their girlfriends because they are afraid that you will snatch them away. You find street guys freely talking to these fine young girls, and nobody calls them names. If you do same, people tag you as arrogant, player, disrespectful, etc. All focus is on you. Gossips are directed towards you.

10. You find out the real, hard truth that money can not buy true love – Of course, money plays a very big role as it can fuel and sustain true love but money can hardly get you true love. Money can get you a beautiful woman, but it can’t get you a decent, faithful and loyal girl. Every rich, comfortable or even upcoming guy out there should focus more on building a personality that is attractive to ladies. I have been poor and loved by a lady unconditionally before. I am comfortable and have been hurt by a lady recently. I have been both poor and rich in my life. From my experience, I can very well say that LIKEABLE PERSONALITY COMES BEFORE MONEY.

Bro, rich guys (cute or not) never lack women. That is a fact. The question is "do they have good women around them?"

Yes they do. Cos good women are attracted to rich guys as well. Okay, so it's like looking for a needle in a haystack but that doesn't mean the needle is not there. Finding a woman who'd love you and not your wealth is rare cos your wealth is a prominent part of who you are.

Just try not to "spoil" your ladies all the time. Not every apology should attract a gift or treat. Not every event (birthday inclusive) should involve much spending.

One more thing any girlfriend who has the boldness to call you stingy is not worth it.

Jeez see epistle

na d kind threads wey dey reign now be dis shey?problems of rich guys.. disadv of handsome guys....OK na
*watching in 3D*

Mzdivacious:
na d kind threads wey dey reign now be dis shey?problems of rich guys.. disadv of handsome guys....OK na
*watching in 3D*

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op why so pained.on top joke?..if it makes u feel better...this is my fourth year away from mum n 12th year from dad.grow up.u don't know shiit about me
#unfollowsthread

Mzdivacious:
op why so pained.on top joke?..if it makes u feel better...this is my fourth year away from mum n 12th year from dad.grow up.u don't know shiit about me
#unfollowsthread

Congratulations , clap for yourself

OP this can be avoided if rich guys stop showcasing their wealth everywhere they go

must you drive the highest car all the time? cant you have one for low-key purposes so you don't alienate people

Gurgle:
OP this can be avoided if rich guys stop showcasing their wealth everywhere they go

must you drive the highest car all the time? cant you have one for low-key purposes so you don't alienate people

Money no dey hide. Once you have it you don't need to display affluence for people around to smell it.

Gurgle:
OP this can be avoided if rich guys stop showcasing their wealth everywhere they go

must you drive the highest car all the time? cant you have one for low-key purposes so you don't alienate people

Hahaha isn't that funny? I feign broke, say hello and keep up with a number of discussions that generally should seem interesting to women.

Let me say you survive the heat for the first 10 minutes and maybe I ask for some help with the bus fare, just right after I am asking you out , speak the truth how you respond?

ABEngine:


Hahaha isn't that funny? I feign broke, say hello and keep up with a number of discussions that generally should seem interesting to women.

Let me say you survive the heat for the first 10 minutes and maybe I ask for some help with the bus fare, just right after I am asking you out , speak the truth how you respond?

I have to say Im not interested in dating at all, so I would help you with the bus fare and reject you, but probably keep you as my friend if I found you interesting

not because youre "poor" but because of how I feel at the moment

I cant imagine accepting a date from a guy I just met or who was chatting me up randomly. I don't go for that kind of thing at all

ronald4lif:


Money no dey hide. Once you have it you don't need to display affluence for people around to smell it.

But you know, I don't think so

I have seen plenty of cases of wealthy Nigerians returning home and keeping a very low profile until they are ready to reveal the extent of their wealth

Gurgle:


But you know, I don't think so

I have seen plenty of cases of wealthy Nigerians returning home and keeping a very low profile until they are ready to reveal the extent of their wealth

While I'm not attempting to thwart your assertion I'm also trying to tell you that once someone is wealthy, like way above the normal rich class, people will always know they have money without saying it. Their brand of wears, cars, and charisma will always give them away. Except we're saying that the opulence should shop for wears on the normal high street shops and drive just any brand of cars.

It's near impossible for a man who can afford a Range Rover for instance, without realising he parted ways with money and forgo it for a Honda baby boy. Or shop in Primark or Next stores when he can easily afford to shop designer brands at Prada and Dolge&Cabana. With their wears and cars people will know they're living in affluence without uttering it. Although some still try not to show it but it's an arduous task as money controls the mind and mindset determines lifestyle.

ronald4lif:


While I'm not attempting to thwart your assertion I'm also trying to tell you that once someone is wealthy, like way above the normal rich class, people will always know they have money without saying it. Their brand of wears, cars, and charisma will always give them away. Except we're saying that the opulence should shop for wears on the normal high street shops and drive just any brand of cars.

It's near impossible for a man who can afford a Range Rover for instance, without realising he parted ways with money and forgo it for a Honda baby boy. Or shop in Primark or Next stores when he can easily afford to shop designer brands at Prada and Dolge&Cabana. With their wears and cars people will know they're living in affluence without uttering it. Although some still try not to show it but it's an arduous task as money controls the mind and mindset determines lifestyle.

Ok

well the people im talking about purposely drive sub-par cars, wear cheap clothes and look generally disheveled so as to divert attention and friendship that isn't genuine

but yeah as you said it doesn't even cross most people's minds to do that or they don't see why they should.

especially the charisma part. its quite difficult to suppress confidence founded from the fact that you have made it

but when you wear it on your sleeve like that you can really bring a lot of trouble on yourself sha

shedraq1:
READ MORE: http://www.naij.com/480870-memo-problems-faced-by-lagos-single-rich-guy.html
A Lagos-based single rich guy has come out to analyze some of the pains associated with being a rich bachelor in the center of excellence.

he single rich guy, Gudrated, took to his time to state 10 challenges faced by every single rich guy in Lagos. Read below:
It’s funny to me when I read online that all that is required to get a Naija gal is money! People exaggerate the influence of money. Many guys automatically assume that once you display some cash, gals will automatically trip for you like mad. While it may be true to some extent (I have experienced that), it is not always the case.
I am not particularly stinkingly rich but I am a very comfortable bachelor working with one of the foremost multinational oil companies in Nigeria. I can afford the basic things of life with ease and with enough to spare. I also have friends & colleagues who are very comfortable and face similar challenges I and others face. Any rich, single guy will possibly identify with some of the challenges I am about to outline, if not all. Some of the challenges are as follows:

1. Many girls automatically assume that you are a player – Drive a nice car, wear
good clothes, smell well and live in a comfortable house and many gals automatically tag you out as a player. Undecided, I have been told so many times by girls. One of my close friend had to quit a relationship because his girlfriend was just too insecure and didn’t trust him. It is also sad that my ex-girlfriends have also accused me of cheating even though I was never caught.

2. Many think you have a girlfriend – You walk up to a girl, chat her up and start off a conversation. You become her friend and eventually ask her out. She tells you to your face that she knows that you already have a girlfriend, and possibly a fiancée. She tells you that it is virtually impossible for you to be single with your current status. For goodness sake, what does my financial status has to do with my relationship life? From that point onward, they hardly take you serious.

3. Some girls are just interested in your money – Yes, many rich guys can testify to this. You meet lots and lots of female fraudster – we call them runs girls. They pretend to like you but all they are interested in is to get a share of your ‘national cake’ – your money. I can not count the number of times that girls (that I am still toasting) will be asking me to pay for their house rent, set up a business for them, etc when I am yet to start dating them. Even at the stage of friendship, some start asking for phones, Brazilian hairs and all kinds of stuff. It’s annoying! Why is it so hard sometimes to meet a decent, good looking girl? I must confess not all girls are like that but many are.

4. You spend more for your girlfriends – Girlfriends who have rich boyfriends expect their guys to spend more for them. You will find out that your broke male friends spend far less for their girlfriends ( and the girls appear to be contented), but in your case, your girlfriends expect that you ‘prove’ your love by spending your cash on them. If you don’t spend lavishly, you risk being tagged as ‘stingy’.



5. Fine girls tend to play more ‘hard-to-get’ with the rich guys than the broke ones – YES! You heard me right. It’s surprisingly ironic, isn’t it? Fine girls tend to play hard to get with the rich guys because they want to been seen as decent and not after money. Many atimes, it’s just sheer pretence. They pretend to be decent, good, domesticated. They may sometimes hide their promiscuous and cheap lifestyle because they assume that they have finally met the serious-minded rich guy. So, they want to appear like a good girl. Some may also play hard-to-get so that you can spend more during the toasting stage. Meanwhile, you find out that these girls keep rolling carelessly and freely with the not-so-rich guys in the neighborhood.

6. You become paranoid –You find it hard to know who really loves you. You also tend to think the girls in your circle are only around because of your money. You become confused and it gets difficult to settle for a choice. It seems best to have settled for someone before you ‘made’ it.

7. You may actually meet fewer number of good girls – You heard me right. You find out that you meet mostly bad and extremely extroverted girls. This is because the richer you get, the more isolated you may become. You drive your car, meaning that you do not meet ladies often in the bus or park. You do mostly online transfer meaning that you also miss out on ladies who visit the banks. You also are too busy to visit near-by higher institutions where you can meet various chicks. We often live in very secured estates where everybody minds his/her own business further isolating us from meeting the real, ‘good’ gals out there. We tend to hang out in bars and clubs where you meet the highly extroverted, possibly bad gals. Gals in church are possibly worse-off too and not much better. Sigh….



8. You spend more than others to get a gal others would easily get with little cash – Another sad truth. Standards are set for you. While the not-so-rich guys will think twice before spending even less than 5k on a girl, you find yourself spending comparatively more for a gal. Due to your class, you have minimum standards for yourself, and you find it hard to go below it as it has become part of your lifestyle. First impression matters a lot for women. When you take a lady on a date within your ‘minimum standard’which may be very ordinary to you, she may become carried away with the lavishness. She often steps up her game so as not to appear cheap. cool

9. Your true personality is often buried beneath your financial strength – Rich guys are one of the most misunderstood persons. Sometimes, we just want to be ourselves. However, friends and hanger-bys tend to be insecure and intimidated around us and think of us only in terms of our money. You jokingly tease a girl, and she is quick to point out to you that ‘is it because you think you have money?’ Not only girls, even fellow friends around you will feel very insecure. Some do not want to introduce you to their girlfriends because they are afraid that you will snatch them away. You find street guys freely talking to these fine young girls, and nobody calls them names. If you do same, people tag you as arrogant, player, disrespectful, etc. All focus is on you. Gossips are directed towards you.

10. You find out the real, hard truth that money can not buy true love – Of course, money plays a very big role as it can fuel and sustain true love but money can hardly get you true love. Money can get you a beautiful woman, but it can’t get you a decent, faithful and loyal girl. Every rich, comfortable or even upcoming guy out there should focus more on building a personality that is attractive to ladies. I have been poor and loved by a lady unconditionally before. I am comfortable and have been hurt by a lady recently. I have been both poor and rich in my life. From my experience, I can very well say that LIKEABLE PERSONALITY COMES BEFORE MONEY.

Nonsese copy and paste work by some bloggers.

Poster, about one week ago, a Nairalander working with an oil company composed this piece and it made front page.

Gurgle:


I have to say Im not interested in dating at all, so I would help you with the bus fare and reject you, but probably keep you as my friend if I found you interesting

not because youre "poor" but because of how I feel at the moment

I cant imagine accepting a date from a guy I just met or who was chatting me up randomly. I don't go for that kind of thing at all

Fair enough, the bold comments in itself is contradictory.

ABEngine:


Fair enough, the bold comments in itself is contradictory.

how are they contradictory

maybe I should have added "but even if I were"

but even if I were, I couldn't imagine ....

.ahn ahn!!......AHN AHN!!!!!!

Is it only single lagos rich guys that have problems!!!
Over 3 of these sort of threads in one week......its too much nau!!

Gurgle:


how are they contradictory

maybe I should have added "but even if I were"

but even if I were, I couldn't imagine ....

Feels better now.