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Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by scotteno(m): 12:16am On Jul 18, 2015
Let take a simple poll?
Do you like sex?

No matter your answer there is one or two aspects of sex you may not be interested in and you should be free to communicate it to your partner.

Why do we really pretend about sex? There is too much of pretense when it comes to the issue of sex in marriage. The funny part is that both the christian or non christian have the same feelings when it comes to sex and we run into problems. The reason the divorce stats for both christian marriages and non christian is the same is because the common thing in both marriages is PRETENSE.
But the pretense I will be talking about in this post is in sex.

I am married for five years and I see that when we pretend about sex we will have issues. The moment we start opening up the better it will be.

What is the scope of sex amongst married couple? It is not specified not even in the Bible. You should be free with your partner and ask for anything you want when it comes to sex, and you should be reasonable and wise enough to respect their response. No room should be given to either the man or woman to look outside. There are diverse opinions when it comes to Mouth Action. Truth is it should be between the couples whatever you like you do in your room and leave it there. All of these is Vanity and doesn't change a thing about you. (Will talk more on this some other time)

It becomes a even bigger problem when one of the partner is not sexually active. This should be discussed promptly and addressed and solution should be sought.

The one thing I want establish in this post is Never Pretend especially to your spouse when it come to sex. Don't give the devil room to tempt you wondering what this or that will look or feel like.

Finally remember all is still vanity.
Got to roll. Will continue.....

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Re: Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by Nobody: 12:17am On Jul 18, 2015
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Re: Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by Sexcellency(f): 12:21am On Jul 18, 2015
Not to lie. I do Like sex but .....
Re: Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by Nobody: 12:21am On Jul 18, 2015
typing.....
Re: Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by Nobody: 12:39am On Jul 18, 2015
Oseod wuz ere.....
Re: Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by siegfried99(m): 1:44am On Jul 18, 2015
**climbs ugu tree**
Re: Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by DukeNija(m): 2:33am On Jul 18, 2015
Sexcellency:
Not to lie. I do Like sex but .....

But what?
Re: Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by Nobody: 5:52am On Jul 18, 2015
I don't like sex at all. It is immoral.

Reason I've stayed away from it till date.

#Virgin4life

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Re: Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by kemylarge(m): 6:05am On Jul 18, 2015
Im married now but i dont enjoy sex.my neibo womanizes wt girls of dfft sizes even secondary oboi if u hear d way dey shout.i keep wondering wat d feelings is like.i touch myself wen im wt my husband and i dont think its normal
Re: Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by ofisa247(m): 6:22am On Jul 18, 2015
kemylarge:
Im married now but i dont enjoy sex.my neibo womanizes wt girls of dfft sizes even secondary oboi if u hear d way dey shout.i keep wondering wat d feelings is like.i touch myself wen im wt my husband and i dont think its normal
did you say your *husband*
undecided
kemylarge:
Im married now but i dont enjoy sex.my neibo womanizes wt girls of dfft sizes even secondary oboi if u hear d way dey shout.i keep wondering wat d feelings is like.i touch myself wen im wt my husband and i dont think its normal
did you say your *husband*
Re: Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by markidoo(m): 6:22am On Jul 18, 2015
Sexcellency:
Not to lie. I do Like sex but .....
I equally love sex. My best part is giving a clean girl a clean head. Dat how we roll.
Re: Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by scotteno(m): 7:53am On Jul 18, 2015
kemylarge:
Im married now but i dont enjoy sex.my neibo womanizes wt girls of dfft sizes even secondary oboi if u hear d way dey shout.i keep wondering wat d feelings is like.i touch myself wen im wt my husband and i dont think its normal

I think for you you have to check it because when wondering about sex becomes more real than the actual thing, it could make you think that the one with your husband is not interesting or worse off make you want to try it with different people and this is the root cause of multiple sex partner. Touching yourself when with your husband could mean two things - 1. He doesn't turn you on or 2. Seeing and hearing your neibo with different sex people and screaming is waking the wrong desire in you. Check it, avoid that neibo and their screams not good for you.

Not enjoying sex could mean your husy is not doing it well or getting through to you. I discovered this personlly and change somethings and I was surprise my wife started responding and even said that it was better now> But she never told me all the while. Maybe you should talk to him, suggest to him, increase the pre-intimacy, maybe his mind is always too busy, maybe he too is not enjoying it, the thought goes on.....

Typing
Re: Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by NifemiOlu(m): 2:18pm On Jul 18, 2015
Phema:
I don't like sex at all. It is immoral.

Reason I've stayed away from it till date.

#Virgin4life

Sex is immoral or pre-marital sex is immoral?
Re: Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by Nobody: 2:47pm On Jul 18, 2015
NifemiOlu:
Sex is immoral or pre-marital sex is immoral?

Sex.






tongue tongue tongue
Re: Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by scotteno(m): 3:19pm On Jul 18, 2015
Phema:
I don't like sex at all. It is immoral.

Reason I've stayed away from it till date.

#Virgin4life


O yeah! Here comes the one holier than the creator himself, pure but came into the world through an immoral act. Please wake up! So how do you do when your system act? Or it doesn't? Really I would like to learn more from you.
Re: Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by Nobody: 3:24pm On Jul 18, 2015
scotteno:
O yeah! Here comes the one holier than the creator himself, pure but came into the world through an immoral act. Please wake up! So how do you do when your system act? Or it doesn't? Really I would like to learn more from you.

I grab my bible and holy water. grin
Re: Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by scotteno(m): 3:31pm On Jul 18, 2015
Phema:


I grab my bible and holy water. grin

For real Phema you dodge my question? Am making a list of those who pretend about sex and is like you will top the list..... Typing..........

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Re: Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by Nobody: 4:15pm On Jul 18, 2015
scotteno:

For real Phema you dodge my question? Am making a list of those who pretend about sex and is like you will top the list..... Typing..........

Shuuu! See me see wahala. Na by force to tow the line of immorality with una? grin

I will gracefully top that list. cool
Re: Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by Sexcellency(f): 6:12pm On Jul 18, 2015
markidoo:
I equally love sex. My best part is giving a clean girl a clean head. Dat how we roll.
Hmmm. Ok
Re: Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by KanwuliaJara: 6:15pm On Jul 18, 2015
All these sexually-starved peeps on NL sef? undecided
Re: Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by zeb04(f): 6:28pm On Jul 18, 2015
sex is too be enjoyed by both parties.

I am against selfish sex because I read alot on these forums and I see terrible things.

mouth action for example is not a sin but it shouldn't be forced on one's partner.if you hadn't discussed during courtship, don't expect your husband or wife who is probably new to the idea to go with it and don't threaten because that makes it selfish .so also anal sex.

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Re: Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by vague: 6:33pm On Jul 18, 2015
Sometimes i think some men are probably the most stupid beings on earth. Let me explain why.

You like having sex with a woman but you at the same time expect women to have little or no sex experience before committing or marrying them.

As a result of this women withhold themselves because they don't want to be regarded as loose. Hence they make u suffer before you get that sweet thing.

The funny thing is some guys boast about using a girl when he has spent so much time and money on her and she on the other hand gets a free orgasm without putting in any effort. grin

If society would stop judging a woman by whats between her legs. You fools would be getting it until you die, but no you prefer making life difficult for yourselves grin
Re: Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by An0nimus: 6:43pm On Jul 18, 2015
Just here to read the comments.
Re: Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by Iaz93: 6:50pm On Jul 18, 2015
Waiting for season 2 undecided
Re: Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by scotteno(m): 8:18pm On Jul 18, 2015
zeb04:
sex is too be enjoyed by both parties.

I am against selfish sex because I read alot on these forums and I see terrible things.

mouth action for example is not a sin but it shouldn't be forced on one's partner.if you hadn't discussed during courtship, don't expect your husband or wife who is probably new to the idea to go with it and don't threaten because that makes it selfish .so also anal sex.



Very mature comment I must admit. please more mature comments because there are lots of people too shy to speak up and at the same time they are dieing, their marriages are shaking. Mouth Action (MA) is certainly a selfish act especially if one party is not down with it. Nail right on the head Mouth Action is not a sin but personally I don't envy it neither do I condemn couples who are okay with it. It is their private life.

Like I said at the beginning of this thread, DISCUSS IT with your partner if you are not cool with it, don.t allow it rock or destroy your home.

Caution:
I think the genesis of this MA is addiction to porn. They end up giving you many ideas please guys cut down on it so you don't demand unreasonable Action from your spouse same apply to ladies.

Lastly for today please don't condemn your partner if He / she wants MA help them overcome that desire if you can't give them.

Do I hear you say how?
Still Typing.....
Re: Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by etu1985(m): 12:23am On Jul 19, 2015
I love sex.
Re: Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by zanga420: 4:26am On Jul 19, 2015
Sexcellency:

Hmmm. Ok
o'boi! See endowment, gd manchester n chelsea u've got there bae.
Re: Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by markidoo(m): 5:51am On Jul 19, 2015
Sexcellency:

Hmmm. Ok
do u love giving or being given a head? Give me a contact addy n mayb we cud make out smday.tongue
Re: Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by Qualer: 6:38am On Jul 19, 2015
Sexcellency:
Not to lie. I do Like sex but .....

glaringly obvious!
Re: Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by wisdomiskey(m): 7:30am On Jul 19, 2015
scotteno no mind
am
Phema na
bonafide lair
virgin ko, nun ni
no b she talk diz
yday?



Phema:


I do think you are the "small pikin" here. She made much more sense than you did. Is money good? Hell yea! Does it make life a lil easier? Ofcourse yes! Does it make a happy marriage? Big NO!

Marriage entails much more. My own parents weren't rich, but OMG, I've not seen a happier couple. I used to wonder if my marriage could ever be as happy as theirs. . .

There is just this inward happiness and peace of mind that money cannot give.

OP, to answer your question. . . My single life was very sweet. So sweet I dreaded marriage. Now, I'm married and I got to know a different kind of sweetness. Settled-responsible-family life kinda sweetness. And I totally love it! Much more than the single one.


abi she wan tlk
say she stil dey intact
afta marriage?

liarz boku 4 NL

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Re: Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by Nobody: 7:43am On Jul 19, 2015
wisdomiskey:
scotteno no mind
am. Phema na bonafide lair virgin ko, nun ni. No b she talk diz yday?

Abi she wan tlk say she stil dey intact afta marriage? liarz boku 4 NL

That was my alter ego. grin
Re: Why Do We Pretend About Sex (season 1) by wisdomiskey(m): 7:46am On Jul 19, 2015
Phema:


That was my alter ego. grin


y r not serz cheesy
r yuh male or female?
abi yuh be
caitlin jenner?
jusss confezz now grin

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