forget it o. . .nigerian men just like to decieve themselves all those soldiers with second wives who are the official wives are kitten whipped. why do you think the second wives are fully in control? they pull so much stuff the men would never have taken from the first wife. of course, the men don't see it this way. . .

in 2003, i was at kainji power station with my then boss (first job) on a job. the phcn engineer was used to closing at 5pm, but thata day, we were around, and serious work was going down, and the guy had to be present. the man's second wife (of 12 or so months) did not find it funny. she was calling the man to harass him to come home. see as the man was jumping . it was so funny. the woman thought the guy was scouting for wife no 3. we were working on an alstom opthimo electronic distance protection relay. when the dude told his wife, we are working with optimho, she immediately responded - i sabi the optimho, na ashawo woman!

anyway, back when we were on our own, our boss was yabbing the man, about how the man did not know how to 'handle' women. this is where it gets really funny - my boss also had a second wife. as usual the second wife is correct omoge. and the woman has the man wrapped around her finger. the man is my uncle, so i know that he always had his way with madam no 1. i used to tell my colleagus 'we are not working for oga - it is madam we are working for'. the woman was doing regular yearly SA trips, if her car broke down, we would immediatelty redeploy one of our work cars to her. once(after i had left), when they were about to travel from lagos to the east, her car broke down - and just like that oga handed her the car they were to use, and they took public transport to the east. i could go on and on. . .


Richy also put a major point - naive guys are often the ones who fall prey. another story i remember involved one of the loose chicks we knew in school. gal was HOT, and she was making a half hearted attempt to go straight. she got engaged to this dude, and the dude fell badly. but the gals attempt to go straight was short lived ( i guess inexperienced guys are less than satisfactory in the sack , and not much fun to boot) so she dumped him. the guy would have married her. . myb a poor anaology. . .

all your hardworking nerds, WATCH OUT!!! better let ur er bad boy friends give u the low down on the chicks you are falling for. . .BEFORE you go too far. they usually know . . .though they may be reluctant to tell you. . .

So, from all this your story, women should aspire to be second wives abi?

spikedcylinder:

I could hug you for this. Valid, valid points!

tpia:

I didnt get his point either.

3rd, 4th, 5th and 6th wives nko? How do they handle their spreading property men?

spikedcylinder:

So, from all this your story, women should aspire to be second wives abi?

demystify:

Besides, wouldn't be a bad idea if we hear of the lady's side of the story.

ohaechesi:

i must confess, your thread is interesting but then, the marriage was not ordinary. you or your guy must have been trapped diabolically, take it or you leave it but thats the truth. no doubt about women of such routless and disgusting characters. if you haven't been there, hardly will you know women are the existing devil on earth. unmarried men are thinking of getting married while most of the married ones has cursed the day they got tired with their wives, such is live but God pass them

Bullshit.

~Saruman~:

Only in NIGERIA.
This kinda marriage is made in Nigeria proper.
@ Poster - Your friend needs serious spiritual deliverance and there is an undeniable fact that the wife is DEMONIC.
Since he had slept with her and a spiritual-sexual communion has taken place, whatever curse she pronounced on him will work until he gets a higher spiritual covering.
He needs God and divine wisdom to extricate himself.

REAL TRUTH
People hide under religion to operate a fraudulent marriage.It doesn't matter how religious you are,ons a marriage gets to a point of this nature,it simply means in the first there was love rather it lust that inspired the marriage.The guy in question and based on this story is stupid guy,,the girl is not matured for marriage though she is matured enough for very good sex which she used in holding the stupid guy in question.
I am married and married to a very sweet but tough lady,,,on the hand am also tough so we both had a balance.she is smart and am smart.she is God fearing and I am same.she is beautiful and am also handsome.But all these didn't just come all at a bliss,,we had both had very tough experience with men and women alike as the case may be.At the time we were dating sex wasn't our focus, our focus was defined,it captures everything positive you can think of.My toughness didn't just come all of a sudden but as a function of the relationships i had been into,,thesame applies to her.
Bottomline, what am saying in essence is that, there is more into a relationship,dating or marriage than sex or going to bed.Marriage is simply RESPONSIBILITY,and responsibilty is a function what U ve got in ur HEAD and how to apply those stuff in ur HEAD to daily life challenges.[size=14pt]Most people don't ve business being married[/size].This guy should have simply use this girl as a girlfriend and not a wife.And as we speak here some people would make just thesame mistakes 2mrow.Not all relationships must end in marriage,,it doesn't matter if the girl is an angel or her name is character,,or good girl.Bottomline, No man or any Woman is particularly meant for any man or woman.
If the guy call it quit,both the guy and d girl would have learnt something which they would both take into their subsequent relationship.Its of no good when either party would end up killing the other in the future.

*osisi

@ the poster
If I were you ,I'll be very careful when hanging out with this friend.
Infact,as long as he insists on being with this diabolic woman,I'll advise you not to be seen anywhere around him or else the day her demons charge excessively, na your head and the husband head together.
The woman is a major psycho.
The voices in her head may just whisper your name as the source of their wahala and you won't escape it.
be warned.

oyb:

dem done demote you to lesser wizard again?