Record all she does without her knowing. Play same to your uncle. Simple.

Adamsdelrio:
Everything you are about to read is absolutely true. I seriously need your advice on this issue before I do something I will regret

. I completed my academic recently and I traveled to my uncle's house, on his invitation to look for a job. My mother was against my journey to my uncle's house because she knew that his wife is going to cause me a lot of trouble. I didn't listen to her because I believe I'm a big boy and I can take care of myself in any unfavourable condition.


With great excitement, I arranged my things and headed straight for the longest journey of my life. We travelled for about 9-10hrs! I've never traveled that long. I got to my destination without any stress..


Don't let me bore you with a long story. Ever since I got here, it's been from one trouble to another with my uncle's wife. She complains about everything I do. If I touch anything in the house, she will surely has something bad to say about it. She's so over censorious about anything that concerns me in the house. Sometimes when I'm watching a programme on TV, she will just come and switch it off or change the channel. There are 3 functioning TV in the house but it's the one I'm watching that she likes tampering with.


There was a day she repeated the same thing and I became angry. I couldn't take it that day so I told her about what she's doing. She told me what I will never forget in a hurry that day. She said 'This is my house and I can do and undo'. I was angry that day and I talked back at her. She reported me to my uncle that day. I apologised to her without countering any of her lies because I don't want to disrespect my uncle by arguing with his wife at his presence.


She's been doing a lot of things to provoke me in the house but I always keep quiet. She's a very good liar and a troublemaker. She does all these things when her husband is not around and I don't want to report her to her husband because it's going to look as if I'm bringing trouble into the family. Please, I need your advice. How can I live peacefully with the woman?

Jamean:
Hahaha!

I just laughed because I am experiencing similar thing. Had to move to my uncle's house for proximity to work. It has not been a pleasant experience, in fact this night she sent the cook to tell me that if I come later than 9pm kitchen has closed.

Hehe! Fuuuck your food, I care less. Not when my mum & colleagues force me to eat.

The woman answers my greeting with her nose, utter words loosely, will tell the cook to not keep me dinner (how many I dey chop sef) and all, yet I never challenged her or told my uncle. But I made peace with myself 2 months ago that she can't make me unhappy.

I anticipated her attitude before coming but my dad insisted. Right now I have given her the space she needs, don't even light her cooking gas or watch TV. I am just solo and it makes sense.

All this is for a time, I won't be here forever. So OP respect your self, no be your papa house, women can be very funny. Not watching TV or enjoying other things won't kill you.

BTW, my uncle is such a pleasant angel.

Nice attitude from u..was in d same situation while serving, didn't c any sense reacting to (or reporting) my uncle's wife odd behaviors,I silently went to rent a ''face me I face u'' room (thank God some houses kuku cheap die for Ibadan..15k per anum).. Had to even lie to my uncle that I was staying with a friend close to my PPA, cos he will be so mad at me if I told him I rented a room..but the question remains '' why is d hostility always coming from d woman''

I am not sure if I will ever understand the line of thought of most commenters on this thread. I don't care what or who the lady is, be ready to face serious problems with me if you aren't comfortable with my siblings or parents around you. Girlfriend o, fiancee o, wife oo, you can't tolerate my family, we can't be smooth.

This (my parents and siblings) were d ones that were always there when d hustle was still on and strong, I became who I am on d back of their unflinching support and prayers and you come around to start forming boss while they came to spend some time in my house?? Impossible!

I won't even have u disrespect or act untowardly to my friends, needless say my family. Sorry, but that's just me.

@op I think your uncle has a big problem and he is allowing his wife to dig his grave prematurely. Unless you want to tell me this is how she is going to behave if you were one of her relatives. If my wife could not tolerate my relative she shouldn't bother to tolerate me either. She is very important in my life of course but my relatives are important too and must respect that.

Just leave your uncle to his foolery. I only pray he doesn't cry in hot tears at the end because he could not tell us he didn't know what his wife was up to in his home.

I am not sure if I will ever understand the line of thought of most of d commenters on this thread. I mean[/quote]



That means you are feeling sleepy

bigerboy200:

Nice attitude from u..was in d same situation while serving, didn't c any sense reacting to (or reporting) my uncle's wife odd behaviors,I silently went to rent a ''face me I face u'' room (thank God some houses kuku cheap die for Ibadan..15k per anum).. Had to even lie to my uncle that I was staying with a friend close to my PPA, cos he will be so mad at me if I told him I rented a room..but the question remains '' why is d hostility always coming from d woman''

Hehe..the day I will finally leave I can't imagine the story my dad will come to tell him because he'll feel very bad. Na her tribe people with their bad belle dialect full the house.

Not all women behave this way though.

ade2291:
I am not sure if I will ever understand the line of thought of most of d commenters on this thread. I mean



That means you are feeling sleepy

Oga, Read my post again. No be sleep (Na spacebooking)

@ OP you sef no sabi face ..
Person dey treat/ behave this way to you and you still sit down for there Abi na until the woman pour water for your head bfore you talk to your leg make you waka comot ,when e no b say your mama chase you out ..
Wetin you won make I con do ? Follow you go beg make she dey allow you watch TV ?
Bro go back to your mama house , even if Na transistor radio dey listen to am ..
E better make I dey my house laugh drink garri than dey where I go dey cry chop fried rice and chicken ..
Bro go back home .. No place like home ..
If you like sit down ..

HungerBAD:
I always tell men one thing.

Never go to any home you are related to the man to stay, you will have problems. People that are related to the wive's usually have a smooth sail.

Cos husbands are smooth species no strings attached.

You aint working yet, so, asking you to get your own place is absurd.
Whenever you are home, keep to your room. If offered food, jejely say "thanks" on some and accept some. Leave her TV for her, her kitchen inclusive (food-wise).
Concentrate more on getting a job, however difficult it may seem. This tribulation is only but for a while.

Adamsdelrio:
Everything you are about to read is absolutely true. I seriously need your advice on this issue before I do something I will regret

. I completed my academic recently and I traveled to my uncle's house, on his invitation to look for a job. My mother was against my journey to my uncle's house because she knew that his wife is going to cause me a lot of trouble. I didn't listen to her because I believe I'm a big boy and I can take care of myself in any unfavourable condition.


With great excitement, I arranged my things and headed straight for the longest journey of my life. We travelled for about 9-10hrs! I've never traveled that long. I got to my destination without any stress..


Don't let me bore you with a long story. Ever since I got here, it's been from one trouble to another with my uncle's wife. She complains about everything I do. If I touch anything in the house, she will surely has something bad to say about it. She's so over censorious about anything that concerns me in the house. Sometimes when I'm watching a programme on TV, she will just come and switch it off or change the channel. There are 3 functioning TV in the house but it's the one I'm watching that she likes tampering with.


There was a day she repeated the same thing and I became angry. I couldn't take it that day so I told her about what she's doing. She told me what I will never forget in a hurry that day. She said 'This is my house and I can do and undo'. I was angry that day and I talked back at her. She reported me to my uncle that day. I apologised to her without countering any of her lies because I don't want to disrespect my uncle by arguing with his wife at his presence.


She's been doing a lot of things to provoke me in the house but I always keep quiet. She's a very good liar and a troublemaker. She does all these things when her husband is not around and I don't want to report her to her husband because it's going to look as if I'm bringing trouble into the family. Please, I need your advice. How can I live peacefully with the woman?

record the act and show your uncle shikena

Guy just hang in there and avoid her as much as u can. Same shit my Uncle's wife put me through in a milder way sha when I spent hols with them. Those folks complained about how I wake up late(cousins wake up b4 me),love to eat(reduce my food portion @ a point),don't like chores especially in the kitchen(funny enough her sibling stays with them,wetin I dey go do for kitchen na) and refused to wash my Uncle's clothes(when washing machine dey the house). That was years ago,now husband and wife can't look @me in the eyes cause I'm a little terror in the family. Ya breakthrough go soon land,just chill.

You were advised not to go there but you didn't listen now see how you are being treated. Men! Men!! Men!!! What women see sitting, you guys can't see even when you climb an Iroko. Op, doo! Either you endure or you move out.

Kimoni:
Do you have a room to yourself? Focus on Ur job search.

Spend more time in your room (Internet) or on the street looking for a job

If it gets too uncomfortable, pls leave to your mother's house

the best comment so far I have read @op that's d best thing keep 2 ur room when u at home is it by force 2 watch tv if u want u can do that with ur phone and try 2 make friends around so that u spend more time away from home I guess ur presence bore her, so jst try n avoid her of a truth it is her house oga so whatever she does u shld take it.

angelberton:
Funny film!
You came to look for work in the city, so what are you doing watching TV when everybody is out hustling?

The guy is dumb. He is angry because of ordinary tv.


I was denied food and water for 3 months in my cousin's house while hunting for job and nobody heard about it?

...and this mofo is here whining because of tv.

Everyone is just blaming the woman.

I see things from another perspective based on the experience I had with six in-laws.

Four from my side, I mean my own siblings. Whenever they come around I do all the work, I cook, serve them and wash their plates. Fill my water tank myself. If I don't inform them to do something they won't.

Three from my hubby. I have no problem with two, of which one is a guy and a graduate. He washes my plates and his, cleans the kitchenette, warm my soup. Clean the visitor's toilet after use. Lay his bed always and fold his cover cloth. Same goes to the girl who lived with me, discipline.

Another came and was different, she will sit, eat and also ask me to serve her drink, in fact she asked me to go look for bread for her on the first of January. I don't confront her, I just report her to my husband and he knows what to do.

Hmmm, if you are the example of my siblings, your first visit will be the last be you my blood or water.

If you be like the other two example who make me feel happy and don't behave like chairman in my house, you are always welcome.

Most in-laws behave like chairmen and no woman would like it. I did not read from your post where you said you always assist her with house chores, you sit to watch TV and have the gut to talk back at her?

Be disciplined, you are not there to watch movies or stay glued to your best channel. You will forget your goal and purpose when you are comfortable.

The other two well behaved I described above never sit to drag remote with me in the living room. most times they tune to their preferred channel when am busy or sleeping. When I join them they ask if I would like to change it.

They always want to come around and I don't give them excuses but my siblings I give them 101 reasons why they should not come because they are spoilt kids and I sure will shout on them in no long time when they come. My provisions too will not be excused as they will empty the tin and leave.

Don't go visiting with the notion of being a chairman, be loyal and assist in the way you can.

One word, create scarcity to increase demand. Stay in your room. To increase your value, help her with some little stuffs. When you leave she will miss you.

angelberton:
Funny film!
You came to look for work in the city, so what are you doing watching TV when everybody is out hustling?

...thank you! Dunno why he's being told fa

Adamsdelrio:
Everything you are about to read is absolutely true. I seriously need your advice on this issue before I do something I will regret

. I completed my academic recently and I traveled to my uncle's house, on his invitation to look for a job. My mother was against my journey to my uncle's house because she knew that his wife is going to cause me a lot of trouble. I didn't listen to her because I believe I'm a big boy and I can take care of myself in any unfavourable condition.


With great excitement, I arranged my things and headed straight for the longest journey of my life. We travelled for about 9-10hrs! I've never traveled that long. I got to my destination without any stress..


Don't let me bore you with a long story. Ever since I got here, it's been from one trouble to another with my uncle's wife. She complains about everything I do. If I touch anything in the house, she will surely has something bad to say about it. She's so over censorious about anything that concerns me in the house. Sometimes when I'm watching a programme on TV, she will just come and switch it off or change the channel. There are 3 functioning TV in the house but it's the one I'm watching that she likes tampering with.


There was a day she repeated the same thing and I became angry. I couldn't take it that day so I told her about what she's doing. She told me what I will never forget in a hurry that day. She said 'This is my house and I can do and undo'. I was angry that day and I talked back at her. She reported me to my uncle that day. I apologised to her without countering any of her lies because I don't want to disrespect my uncle by arguing with his wife at his presence.


She's been doing a lot of things to provoke me in the house but I always keep quiet. She's a very good liar and a troublemaker. She does all these things when her husband is not around and I don't want to report her to her husband because it's going to look as if I'm bringing trouble into the family. Please, I need your advice. How can I live peacefully with the woman?

I will advise you toput up with it. Its simply a tryig period. It will oe day end. In future you'd just laugh over it. Thats life.

What would you say of a 10year sent to boarding house and has to cope with hideous bullies. He has to cope for the next 6 years.

You are not a 10 year old.

Simply take your job hunt seriously and when you get good job and can afford to pack out, do so.

Also,try an contribute to the house so you can be seen as an asset and not a liability.

Try and clean the house once in a while and always do things for the kids. She may not even want you to leave.

Create win win situation.

Your husband's wife is just being mean and petty. Pls never go down to her level but hit the higher road. Always be courteous (Col 4:6) and be ready to turn the other chick. This experience will simply build you up. You don't know who you will meet at your new job

Dp

Leave that house but before you leave, tell your uncle that though he has been a great host, you didn't come to toggle power with his wife and then tell him everything she did and said....

Then leave him to know who he married

Guy, put her down for 4-5 hours and everything will be history. I've been there before.

jayfolarin:
I am not sure if I will ever understand the line of thought of most of d commenters on this thread. I don't care what or who the lady is, be ready to face serious problems with me if you aren't comfortable with my siblings or parents around you. Girlfriend o, fiancee o, wife oo, you can't tolerate my family, we can't be smooth.

This (my parents and siblings) were d ones that were always there when d hustle was still on and strong, I became who I am on d back of their unflinching support and prayers and you come around to start forming boss while they came to spend some time in my house?? Impossible!

I won't even have u disrespect or act untowardly to my friends, needless say my family. Sorry, but that's just me.

Are you married?

Firstly, I must say that there is no problem without a solution. Like some people rightly pointed out, it's a smooth sail if you are related to the woman but it doesn't make it a dead end.

The question you should ask is; "What are her likes and dislikes?" Most times, we are highly insensitive to this owing to the fact that we feel people should tolerate us the way our parents do. Wrong!

Some women are natural fastidious and captious; that does not make them evil but for such people assisting in domestic chores could calm them down.
At times they read a script of acrimony silently instituted against your family; this might not be easy to overcome but you should engage in good, well channeled conversation with her and give her credit often e.g. I love your meals...uncle is really enjoying. The kitchen looks dirty, I would make out time to mop it tomorrow and I think you deserve a bigger cabinet etc

Never make it obvious that you are terrified by her actions rather paint a picture of a bold and composed man, who is in full control of his emotions. TV programs and the rest would not be a problem when you win her over by your sleight commitment.

Finally, I wish you a happy stay and don't expect anyone to pity you; be focused always.

BeeBeeOoh:
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laplace12:




The guy is dumb. He is angry because of ordinary tv.


I was denied food and water for 3 months in my cousins house while hunting for job and nobody heard about it?

...and this mofo is here whining because of tv.

You need your own shine too? Oya tell us about your experience.

Adamsdelrio:
Everything you are about to read is absolutely true. I seriously need your advice on this issue before I do something I will regret

. I completed my academic recently and I traveled to my uncle's house, on his invitation to look for a job. My mother was against my journey to my uncle's house because she knew that his wife is going to cause me a lot of trouble. I didn't listen to her because I believe I'm a big boy and I can take care of myself in any unfavourable condition.


With great excitement, I arranged my things and headed straight for the longest journey of my life. We travelled for about 9-10hrs! I've never traveled that long. I got to my destination without any stress..


Don't let me bore you with a long story. Ever since I got here, it's been from one trouble to another with my uncle's wife. She complains about everything I do. If I touch anything in the house, she will surely has something bad to say about it. She's so over censorious about anything that concerns me in the house. Sometimes when I'm watching a programme on TV, she will just come and switch it off or change the channel. There are 3 functioning TV in the house but it's the one I'm watching that she likes tampering with.


There was a day she repeated the same thing and I became angry. I couldn't take it that day so I told her about what she's doing. She told me what I will never forget in a hurry that day. She said 'This is my house and I can do and undo'. I was angry that day and I talked back at her. She reported me to my uncle that day. I apologised to her without countering any of her lies because I don't want to disrespect my uncle by arguing with his wife at his presence.


She's been doing a lot of things to provoke me in the house but I always keep quiet. She's a very good liar and a troublemaker. She does all these things when her husband is not around and I don't want to report her to her husband because it's going to look as if I'm bringing trouble into the family. Please, I need your advice. How can I live peacefully with the woman?

Although you are new in the area but try search for a job on your own in addition to your uncle's efforts even if it is private teaching. This will reduce time spent at home.
Try to depend on the family less.You eat just once at home at evening only since you have gone out since morning.
With your little income buy small things biro pencil etc for her children and help them on their home works.
Spend more time alone reading studying or be alone in your room.
Reduce your time spent with her as much as possible.Endure it is for a while.

drake2:


I advice that you dont get yourself involved in such short sightedness. You and your husband (God forbids though) can loose the so called house and everything in a jiffy. Imagine that!

My brother am in your shoes now presently ,my uncle who used to be loving and caring has suddenly turned a new leaf...POWER OF A WOMAN.....to the men out there never let a woman change you

Op leave that house...There is nothing you can do. These days when there are more news of home wreckage, the only people a married woman can trust in her home are her kids and kids only. Even when you are directly related to her, she'll still treat you as an outcast once she senses that you've overstayed your welcome. By the way, are you the type that will eat and drop the plate without washing it and will just move to the sitting room to spread your legs and watch tv? No one likes to host a relative who isn't 'domesticated'.

angieberry:
She's actually right, it's her husband's house so she can do and undo, so you have no choice than to adhere to her rules. She obviously doesn't feel Comfortable with your presence in her house that's why she's acting up, and it will look very wrong if you keep complaining about her or reporting her. If you can't tolerate her behavior, you should probably leave that house. To live peacefully with her, you should get ready to swallow a lot of shit and I don't know if you're ready to do that.

Jeeez!!!daughter of Jezebel everywhere you go..... Can someone tell this girl to shut her mouth and keep that repulsive advice to herself.

Let's turn the table around and see what your response would be. If the husband was the one treating his wife brother like this, I believe that your advice would be different from this.

Young man, I have been in this situation before and here was what i did in my little wisdom then. I called my uncle one on one and opened up to him; I told him what usually happened whenever he wasn't at home and begged him to leave his wife out of it by not picking issues with his wife. I begged him to have a chat with his wife on my behalf.

He did and my life took a new turn completely after that....... We(wife and myself) later became pals

@Op

Why did you now embolden the statement "its my house, I can do and undo".
Its like you find it painful.

Loooooooool


Well, let me give you something to think about. An African proverb says an unwanted visitor starts to smell like spoilt fish after 2 days.
You are unwanted and have become an irritant. Your own is even better. She doesn't lock you out of the parlour, effectively alienating you in your room after locking up all the food.

You better quit that TV watching, get off your bum and start serious job hunting. Welcome to the real world, not the one where youve been spouting theories for the last 4/5 years.

By the time you're gone all day, you won't be looked down on...as much.

So manage by spending less time and being more helpful as there's no theory that can save you from your uncles angry wife + her trouble. Until you vacate her world.

Adamsdelrio:
Everything you are about to read is absolutely true. I seriously need your advice on this issue before I do something I will regret

. I completed my academic recently and I traveled to my uncle's house, on his invitation to look for a job. My mother was against my journey to my uncle's house because she knew that his wife is going to cause me a lot of trouble. I didn't listen to her because I believe I'm a big boy and I can take care of myself in any unfavourable condition.


With great excitement, I arranged my things and headed straight for the longest journey of my life. We travelled for about 9-10hrs! I've never traveled that long. I got to my destination without any stress..


Don't let me bore you with a long story. Ever since I got here, it's been from one trouble to another with my uncle's wife. She complains about everything I do. If I touch anything in the house, she will surely has something bad to say about it. She's so over censorious about anything that concerns me in the house. Sometimes when I'm watching a programme on TV, she will just come and switch it off or change the channel. There are 3 functioning TV in the house but it's the one I'm watching that she likes tampering with.


There was a day she repeated the same thing and I became angry. I couldn't take it that day so I told her about what she's doing. She told me what I will never forget in a hurry that day. She said 'This is my house and I can do and undo'. I was angry that day and I talked back at her. She reported me to my uncle that day. I apologised to her without countering any of her lies because I don't want to disrespect my uncle by arguing with his wife at his presence.


She's been doing a lot of things to provoke me in the house but I always keep quiet. She's a very good liar and a troublemaker. She does all these things when her husband is not around and I don't want to report her to her husband because it's going to look as if I'm bringing trouble into the family. Please, I need your advice. How can I live peacefully with the woman?

SHE HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO DO WHAT SHE DID.


LEARN TO TOLERATE HER AND LIVE IN PEACE STILL THE RIGHT TIME FOR YOU TO LEAVE THE HOUSE..........

LEARN THE SECRET OF HUMBLENESS