ShortBass:
Hello, beautiful Africans

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PunkyVeer:
I'm also scared to ask a man for money but inside I expect him to give me money. Don't ask why because I also don't know where this expectation/entitlement is coming from. Must be a girl thing, I guess.

Over the weekend I was chatting with one girl who is my neighbour. Some months back she broke things off with the guy she was dating. Anyway, so she was telling me about how much she misses his money lol. The guy works for the air force, so he gets paid on the 15th. She said every 15 he used to deposit R1 500 to her bank account. Religiously. No whining. So I asked how she got him to do that. She said you start with the little things while the relationship is still fresh. Meaning, he's being groomed to give.

She then went on to give me an example about her new boyfriend. They've been dating for like a month or something. She said he asked her to accompany him to Clicks to buy toiletry. She said she let him go through the isles picking up the stuff he needed. While he was busy, she also picked up 4 items of her own & added them to his when they got to the till. I laughed so hard because, I'd be very embarrassed to do that. So I asked what he said when it was clear she expected him to pay for her cosmetics. She said he said nothing, just paid. One of the items was a make up kit worth R180+. Eish! Some girls! The guy is in now, no way out. She has him by the balls lol.

Jollyjoy:
There is ntin wrong in asking but the two partners involve should be on the loosing end,not just a partner, when a partner continue to be on the losing end,the relationship no doubt will lose it glamour,i hate parasitic relationships.

Adaeze003:
If the Man in question aint my dad then it's a complete NO...

Start asking for money n they start expecting you to act as the "wife" and to "take care of them"... lol... I aint yo mama, aint nobody got time for that shii ...

sinestro24:


take care of them??

apart from sex and cooking, which you will be doing anyway. what else?

Adaeze003:


Which I will be doing anyway? Lol that's funny...

PunkyVeer:
I'm also scared to ask a man for money but inside I expect him to give me money. Don't ask why because I also don't know where this expectation/entitlement is coming from. Must be a girl thing, I guess.

Over the weekend I was chatting with one girl who is my neighbour. Some months back she broke things off with the guy she was dating. Anyway, so she was telling me about how much she misses his money lol. The guy works for the air force, so he gets paid on the 15th. She said every 15 he used to deposit R1 500 to her bank account. Religiously. No whining. So I asked how she got him to do that. She said you start with the little things while the relationship is still fresh. Meaning, he's being groomed to give.

She then went on to give me an example about her new boyfriend. They've been dating for like a month or something. She said he asked her to accompany him to Clicks to buy toiletry. She said she let him go through the isles picking up the stuff he needed. While he was busy, she also picked up 4 items of her own & added them to his when they got to the till. I laughed so hard because, I'd be very embarrassed to do that. So I asked what he said when it was clear she expected him to pay for her cosmetics. She said he said nothing, just paid. One of the items was a make up kit worth R180+. Eish! Some girls! The guy is in now, no way out. She has him by the balls lol.

sinestro24:


well am i lying.

that is a stone cold fact.

if you dont, another will definitely will

naijaboiy:
i'm just waiting for the girl that will come here and say. "I'm independent. I don't need to ask my man for anything"

Yet they will still say "I can't date broke guys"

Why the hell are you now dating guy who is financially stable if you won't need his money some day?

Such contradictions.

tpiadotcom:



Who ?

sinestro24:


she is right actually, if a guy fall into that trap the 1st time, he will forever continue, it becomes a norm in the relationship.

my gf tried it, i do understand she is a student and all, she kind of felt entitled, cuz she is hot i will do everything she says to keep her, well, she was shocked at how opposite and stubborn i turned out to be,
(her = babe i need 30k to add to what i have to buy a new phone.
me= NO, NOI, NON, NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO . whats wrong with your S5 that you want an iphone now.).

that was actually the convo we had last weekend

i do give her like an allowance kind of each month cuz she is a student, but nothing excessive.

There is a difference when dating a student and working class with an ok job.

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Hope you ain't over doing that monthly shi,cos if you come online ranting on how women magarize and broke your heart.

I will be the first to take my own pound of flesh from you

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Personally: I'd rather give her when I feel lyk or wen I feel she needs financial assistance.

Than placing her on a monthly allowance,which will make her feel a sense of entitlement and when you slack on the salary ish.
She will start feeling lyk you don't love her,you ain't capable or she isn't important.
When a more competent financial hand,comes around(you know the rest)

In others words,you just spoilt your woman with money,which you made the base of your. relationship.
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naijaboiy:
i'm just waiting for the girl that will come here and say. "I'm independent. I don't need to ask my man for anything"

Yet they will still say "I can't date broke guys"

Why the hell are you now dating guy who is financially stable if you won't need his money some day?

Such contradictions.

ShortBass:


I also expect it, lol, but can't ask. A relative of mine is on her second car and she's never seen the bill of either car. Tjo! Lol, for me it's worse coz my man loves keeping a lot of cash around, I could easilly take and he wouldn't notice. I just can't!!

sinestro24:


well am i lying.

that is a stone cold fact.

if you dont, another will definitely will

cyprus000:

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Hope you ain't over doing that monthly shi,cos if you come online ranting on how women magarize and broke your heart.

I will be the first to take my own pound of flesh from you

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Personally: I'd rather give her when I feel lyk or wen I feel she needs financial assistance.

Than placing her on a monthly allowance,which will make her feel a sense of entitlement and when you slack on the salary ish.
She will start feeling lyk you don't love her or she isn't important.
When a more competent financial hand,comes around(you know the rest)

In others words,you just spoilt your woman with money,which you made the base of your. relationship.
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Adaeze003:


You are not lying, just ignorant but that's cool since you know me not.

Secondly, I live on my own terms and really don't care if "someone else will" .

ShortBass:


My aunt always says that

sinestro24:


typical naija girl.

hypocrite to the core.

enuff said.

(abeg i aint bashing all naija girls o, just this one.)

dont need a sexist war right now

sinestro24:


lol, well there is a lot of background story that made me do that, which i cant go into details here.

dont worry though, when i am heart broken i will block you when i want to rant

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Lol..

Well,I will trust your judgement,since you have the indepth scenerio on that.

About the heart break ish..with the prophetic powers bestowed on me by jah(almighty God)

I declear that love bulldozzerr will not locate your heart to demolish.

I can't make out the last vision on wether you will become a potential maga in future. You have to emberk on 3dayz dry fasting,so I can clearly see into the future
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sinestro24:


she is right actually, if a guy fall into that trap the 1st time, he will forever continue, it becomes a norm in the relationship.

my gf tried it, i do understand she is a student and all, she kind of felt entitled, cuz she is hot i will do everything she says to keep her, well, she was shocked at how opposite and stubborn i turned out to be,
(her = babe i need 30k to add to what i have to buy a new phone.
me= NO, NOI, NON, NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO . whats wrong with your S5 that you want an iphone now.).

that was actually the convo we had last weekend

i do give her like an allowance kind of each month cuz she is a student, but nothing excessive.

There is a difference when dating a student and working class with an ok job.

Adaeze003:


My life is not up for discussion here but you should step out of the ghetto more... meet classy people... that ghetto lifestyle has eaten deep into your mentality

Typical naija guy... shallow (I'm not bashing all naija guys oh... just this one )