As some people know, when I came to NL, I started with my relationship issue, this is a continuation of what I am presently experiencing, and I need yall help/advise on this. As formerly speculated, my girlfriend resumed FUTO as a jambite, 2 weeks after her resumption, she started acting somehow, I laid out the thread on NL here, and some posts were helpful.

To cut the story short, things were stabilized between us, communication was opened and we found it hard to miss each other, then later on, she started changing, no calls no txt, its only when she needs stuff like airtime is when she calls. Its been almost 2 weeks now that we last spoke or exchanged text, before then, she requested for an Ipod as her bday gift, her calls was constant during this time. It took me like 5 days before I actually decide to send her the Ipod, soon as she got it, she stopped calling, I sent her a txt and was expecting a response, bt she didnt.`So ever since then, I had to let her be, neither of us has contacted each other ever since then.

All am trying to ask yall is, since this gurl was not a demanding type when she was back here in Lagos, a committed and convincingly loving gurl. Is it that she has now found another guy and has made me a new MUGU_CLIENT@KEEPONPAYING.BIZ? Or is it just the normal ego placed on her head that might make her feel "oh well just because he has bought me an ipod and other stuffs does not mean I should be the one to keep seeking his attention, instead he should be the one, My pple I just dnt know what to think anymore, cos am still in love with this shawty.

Please best advise/insight needed. Thanks in advance

EYO!

Deji, did you receive ma email?

babez when was that?

wen you get the chance to talk to her again. ask her why she is behaving such way. critically study her replies and responds. you will know if she is trying something funny of maybe she is occupied wit something or the other. u know

eyonigger:

babez when was that?

Somewhere last week naa

@poster,
CONGRATULATION!

my dear, u knowat to do but u dont wanna do it. da gurl in question is FFF (FRIEND FOR FOOD), she calls u only wen she needs sumthing and u will carry and give her, na wahh, why dont ppl use common sense?

Hotstepper:

my dear, u knowat to do but u dont wanna do it. da gurl in question is FFF (FRIEND FOR FOOD), she calls u only wen she needs sumthing and u will carry and give her, na wahh, why dont ppl use common sense?

Because he really really really loves her naaa. Its hard to let go at times with such feelings. . . Poor Deji. . .

Hey ya Deji, pele o.

Hotstepper:

my dear, u knowat to do but u dont wanna do it. da gurl in question is FFF (FRIEND FOR FOOD), she calls u only wen she needs sumthing and u will carry and give her, na wahh, why dont ppl use common sense?

if u read my post well, u'll see that I have every reason to carry along, it aint like she was lyk dat when she was here in Lag.

Gab babez, I got the email, wats up with that?

webpro:

wen you get the chance to talk to her again. ask her why she is behaving such way. critically study her replies and responds. you will know if she is trying something funny of maybe she is occupied wit something or the other. u know

wil do, ty.

guy free the babe and move on with ya life. there's on need wasting your precious n productive thmd on some dum babe.

guy free the babe and move on with ya life. there's on need wasting your precious n productive thmd on some dum babe.

@ op

Whr av u bin?! I'v nt had a gud 'cyber fight' in ages. . .
I hope to get one pretty soon!

@ topic

Ur gal's probably aving a gr8 tym! Meetin' new ppl, makin' a few more friends etc

She's nt meant 2 miss u @ this point. Just ignore her 4 a while & c wat happens. If she doesn't get in touch, I suggest u jump & if she does, u sure know what to do. So, just ignore her. . .

P.S: If she calls & asks 4 sumtin, promise 2 do it ( but fail to). . .

yes ooo Deji, you should follow Czars advice. . . Now why I didnt think of that?

If you must know, I don’t believe in distance relationships. Let me share a little story with you.

In 2006, I once dated a girl, few months later; she gained admission into UI (University of Ibadan) I knew that was the end of our relationship but I decided to remain mute as if nothing was going on.

As usual, she lied and told me how she’s going to miss me; she promised to keep calling and texting, I looked at her and managed to believe her fabricated story.

Just like your story eyonigger, she changed over night, stopped picking my calls, stop texting, stopped calling. I managed to put myself together and get over that mess.

Ever since then, I don’t commit myself to distance relationships.

So if I were you eyonigger, I would just forget about her and move on with my life; look for someone else within your vicinity and date.

WHAT NOOOOOO!!!!!!!


What is happening to this earth WHY!

Poster be correct mugu

The poster is neither a mugu or a smart guy. I think he is truly confused. He is the first on nl that had taken the same problem to and fro the forum. He created threads after threads trying to find out what was wrong and what will be wrong. To his credit, he was sincere about it all. And he, to my knowledge, have not changed ID like many would have done. That is one reason I respect him.

So, rather than join in making fun, I will read the thread and have fun, knowing that those who will attack him are coming, and he won't sit back and watch. . .

I reserve my comment on the topic.

Send her a text & email if she did not pick your call and then wait. If she's yours she will come around especially if she needs something but don't give her any material thing or money till end of semester/session then take her on date, find out what happen read her reaction which should give you an idea whether she's genuine or professing cupboard love. Best of luck!

Yeah eyo i'll advice U 2 leave d chick alone,but b4 U do tell her 2 send bk d iPod, dt U need 2 upgrade it 4 sumthing else,if not U'd ve been a certified MUMU!

All am trying to ask yall is, since this gurl was not a demanding type when she was back here in Lagos, a committed and convincingly loving gurl. Is it that she has now found another guy and has made me a new MUGU_CLIENT@KEEPONPAYING.BIZ? Or is it just the normal ego placed on her head that might make her feel "oh well just because he has bought me an ipod and other stuffs does not mean I should be the one to keep seeking his attention, instead he should be the one, My pple I just dnt know what to think anymore, cos am still in love with this shawty.

All this Ipod, bag business doesn't seem to be a good way to sustain a relationship. In fact it ends it. If you need to buy her something, a classy chocolate would do.

To come to the topic, for some reasons I don't advice you dragging over relationships that seem one sided. Call it an end, there are some on the waiting list. My advise is to have "a reserve you can fall back on".

Czarskit:

@ op

Whr av u bin?! I'v nt had a gud 'cyber fight' in ages. . .
I hope to get one pretty soon!

@ topic

Ur gal's probably aving a gr8 tym! Meetin' new ppl, makin' a few more friends etc

She's nt meant 2 miss u @ this point. Just ignore her 4 a while & c wat happens. If she doesn't get in touch, I suggest u jump & if she does, u sure know what to do. So, just ignore her. . .

P.S: If she calls & asks 4 sumtin, promise 2 do it ( but fail to). . .

Czarskit, ur intelligence is undeniably upright.

gabrywyl:

WHAT NOOOOOO!!!!!!!


What is happening to this earth WHY!

Gab babez, no worry, the earth is still revolving, bebe si nn lo.

olanajim:

The poster is neither a mugu or a smart guy. I think he is truly confused. He is the first on nl that had taken the same problem to and fro the forum. He created threads after threads trying to find out what was wrong and what will be wrong. To his credit, he was sincere about it all. And he, to my knowledge, have not changed ID like many would have done. That is one reason I respect him.

So, rather than join in making fun, I will read the thread and have fun, knowing that those who will attack him are coming, and he won't sit back and watch. . .

I reserve my comment on the topic.

I was given a moment of silence here, I feel u bro, bt I would really appreciate an advise from u, if it be helpful for future reference or not, your message alone has torn through the power of emotional MISERY.

ravenzord:

Yeah eyo i'll advice U 2 leave d chick alone,but b4 U do tell her 2 send bk d iPod, dt U need 2 upgrade it 4 sumthing else,if not U'd ve been a certified MUMU!

ThAnks anyway, i reserve dat as a wayward idea.

Frizy:

All this Ipod, bag business doesn't seem to be a good way to sustain a relationship. In fact it ends it. If you need to buy her something, a classy chocolate would do.

To come to the topic, for some reasons I don't advice you dragging over relationships that seem one sided. Call it an end, there are some on the waiting list. My advise is to have "a reserve you can fall back on".

I'll rhyme to this:

Why should I have a RESERVE that I don't DESERVE/
Havent found a gurl like her that I can love n PRESERVE/
Dnt care about the long DISTANCE, take this for an INSTANCE/
I am CHEATING, and KERMA tells me she is CHEATING/
Dnt think im entitled to a relationship dat is BEFITTING/
I no be mugu, bt gangster like me wont walk away from a love that Is UNRESISTING/

@ poster
abeg forget that babe
she don get another man for sch, we are once a student now
abi no be greatest Nigeria student

@ poster look for another babe way go love you
that one na mugu she they look for
or you still wann they fun mugu

@topup,
Heard you are on fb. Can we link up? I dont have your full name or email. So get mine on my nl profile and work it out.

Oh, not for anything. I just want to find a answer to a question.

@eyonngger,
C U later! I will be off soon.

@ EYO

I have been reading thru all your posts and it all centers on this!

Anyway, leave the girl alone.

She asked you to buy an IPOD for her and you bought it, you be complete M***

Anyway, ignore her.

oluwafemi113:

@ poster
abeg forget that babe
she don get another man for sch, we are once a student now
abi no be greatest Nigeria student

@ poster look for another babe way go love you
that one na mugu she they look for
or you still wann they fun mugu

But yall lets come to think of it, if she is really taking me for a mugu, all those weekly recharge cards that she gets from me, is it possible just to walk away from such Bonuses for no reason? I mean if ur taking some1 for mugu, u'll still keep on being a pretender so that I can still be paying. But I just need to be sure before I make any final step. I don tire!

Eyo,
you are working, right?
2. You have not completed your tertiary education, right?
3. You are not ready to marry now, even if the gal ask for it, right?

olanajim:

Eyo,
you are working, right?
2. You have not completed your tertiary education, right?
3. You are not ready to marry now, even if the gal ask for it, right?

Sir:
1: I am working
2: I have
3: I am not ready, if she ask what sir?

If she ask for marriage.

She don forget you tetey. Stop wasting your resources on her, she is just taking advantage of you.