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Signs That You're In A Relationship With A Narcissist by edward1984(m): 9:27am On Jul 29, 2015
Psychologists write that the narcissist is someone who has “buried his true self-expression in response to early injuries and replaced it with a highly developed, compensatory false self.” This alternate persona to the real self often comes across as grandiose, “above others,” self-absorbed, and highly conceited. In our highly individualistic and externally driven society, mild to severe forms of narcissism are not only pervasive but often encouraged.
Narcissism is often interpreted in popular culture as a person who’s in love with him or herself. It is more accurate to characterize the pathological narcissist as someone who’s in love with an idealized self-image, which they project in order to avoid feeling (and being seen as) the real, disenfranchised, wounded self
Re: Signs That You're In A Relationship With A Narcissist by edward1984(m): 9:27am On Jul 29, 2015
1. Conversation Hoarder. The narcissist loves to talk about him or herself, and doesn’t give you a chance to take part in a two-way conversation. You struggle to have your views and feelings heard. When you do get a word in, if it’s not in agreement with the narcissist, your comments are likely to be corrected, dismissed, or ignored.
Re: Signs That You're In A Relationship With A Narcissist by edward1984(m): 9:28am On Jul 29, 2015
2. Conversation Interrupter. While many people have the poor communication habit of interrupting others, the narcissist interrupts and quickly switches the focus back to herself. He shows little genuine interest in you.
Re: Signs That You're In A Relationship With A Narcissist by edward1984(m): 9:29am On Jul 29, 2015
3. Rule Breaker. The narcissist enjoys getting away with violating rules and social norms, such as cutting in line, chronic under-tipping, stealing office supplies, breaking multiple appointments, or disobeying traffic laws.
Re: Signs That You're In A Relationship With A Narcissist by edward1984(m): 9:30am On Jul 29, 2015
4. Boundary Violator. Shows wanton disregard for other people’s thoughts, feelings, possessions, and physical space. Oversteps and uses others without consideration or sensitivity. Borrows items or money without returning. Breaks promises and obligations repeatedly. Shows little remorse and blames the victim for one’s own lack of respect.
Re: Signs That You're In A Relationship With A Narcissist by edward1984(m): 9:31am On Jul 29, 2015
5. False Image Projection. Many narcissists like to do things to impress others by making themselves look good externally. This “trophy” complex can exhibit itself physically, romantically, sexually, socially, religiously, financially, materially, professionally, academically, or culturally. In these situations, the narcissist uses people, objects, status, and/or accomplishments to represent the self, substituting for the perceived, inadequate “real” self. These grandstanding “merit badges” are often exaggerated. The underlying message of this type of display is: “I’m better than you!” or “Look at how special I am—I’m worthy of everyone’s love, admiration, and acceptance!”
Re: Signs That You're In A Relationship With A Narcissist by BeeBeeOoh(m): 9:31am On Jul 29, 2015
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Re: Signs That You're In A Relationship With A Narcissist by edward1984(m): 9:32am On Jul 29, 2015
6. Entitlement. Narcissists often expect preferential treatment from others. They expect others to cater (often instantly) to their needs, without being considerate in return. In their mindset, the world revolves around them.
Re: Signs That You're In A Relationship With A Narcissist by edward1984(m): 9:32am On Jul 29, 2015
7. Charmer. Narcissists can be very charismatic and persuasive. When they’re interested in you (for their own gratification), they make you feel very special and wanted. However, once they lose interest in you (most likely after they’ve gotten what they want, or became bored), they may drop you without a second thought. A narcissist can be very engaging and sociable, as long as you’re fulfilling what she desires, and giving her all of your attention.
Re: Signs That You're In A Relationship With A Narcissist by edward1984(m): 9:33am On Jul 29, 2015
8. Grandiose Personality. Thinking of oneself as a hero or heroine, a prince or princess, or one of a kind special person. Some narcissists have an exaggerated sense of self-importance, believing that others cannot live or survive without his or her magnificent contributions.
Re: Signs That You're In A Relationship With A Narcissist by edward1984(m): 9:33am On Jul 29, 2015
9. Negative Emotions. Many narcissists enjoy spreading and arousing negative emotions to gain attention, feel powerful, and keep you insecure and off-balance. They are easily upset at any real or perceived slights or inattentiveness. They may throw a tantrum if you disagree with their views, or fail to meet their expectations. They are extremely sensitive to criticism, and typically respond with heated argument (fight) or cold detachment (flight). On the other hand, narcissists are often quick to judge, criticize, ridicule, and blame you. Some narcissists are emotionally abusive. By making you feel inferior, they boost their fragile ego, and feel better about themselves.
Re: Signs That You're In A Relationship With A Narcissist by edward1984(m): 9:35am On Jul 29, 2015
10. Manipulation: Using Others as an Extension of Self. Making decisions for others to suit one’s own needs. The narcissist may use his or her romantic partner, child, friend, or colleague to meet unreasonable self-serving needs, fulfill unrealized dreams, or cover up self-perceived inadequacies and flaws.
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Re: Signs That You're In A Relationship With A Narcissist by UjSizzle(f): 9:43am On Jul 29, 2015
I'm hoping this is one of those 5/10 scenarios, because if one person were to display all these... na die o.

Emotional manipulation and trying to use people to fulfill ones needs though is a common theme among people lately.

Good topic.
Re: Signs That You're In A Relationship With A Narcissist by edward1984(m): 9:43am On Jul 29, 2015
UjSizzle:
I'm hoping this is one of those 5/10 scenarios, because if one person were to display all these... na die o.

Emotional manipulation and trying to use people to fulfill ones needs though is a common theme among people lately.

Good topic.


Thank you
Re: Signs That You're In A Relationship With A Narcissist by Nobody: 10:36am On Jul 29, 2015
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Re: Signs That You're In A Relationship With A Narcissist by edward1984(m): 7:06pm On Aug 04, 2015
Re: Signs That You're In A Relationship With A Narcissist by Nobody: 1:05pm On Aug 05, 2015
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