Welcome to the world of MEN!!!

Truth is, Sex stands as number one or number two desire in the world of men. I think it will always be a mystery to women why sex is thus a major priority to guys. Heck, even some of 'we' guys mellow in this mystery!

Case in point, look @ how guys responds to sex on NL or any other social media. Or look @ the level of rape registered world-wide. Better still, observe the statistics on the percentage (online) of guys' visit to porn sites. It is way-way off the chain.

I guess my point is clear. Sex will ALWAYS be the baseline for most guys relationship, no matter how sincere or 'humble' they seem..,

Except.., except when true love is concerned.

Yeah, underline that word 'True'.

I can 100% state for a fact that if a guy truly loves u, he will find a way to suppress his sex need. Most of us will even be mysteriously be 'free' of this need (wallahi!). I can't explain why, but it is always so. I guess, luv has a way of just eclipsing infatuation or lust.

One thing is obviously true, ladies determines the state of the relationship in the department of sex.


Now, if you're a lady, observe vividly the following;

1. Most relationships ALMOST always faces sex challenges. So, you'll just have to deal with it.
2. A relationship is NOT built on sex, does NOT need sex to survive and should NOT be sex driven. If any of
this exists, then u're in the wrong one.
3. The lady holds the ace on sex. So the ball is ALWAYS in her court, no matter how a guy seem to form 'dictatorship' or control. The day u permit the guy to take control, he uses u constantly for sex till he finds someone else.
4. A lady is relevant (precious, as some would agree) to a guy for as long as she does not allow for sex. Even if he angrily leaves, she will retain her dignity and forever have his 105% respect. That's for sure!

And finally...
5. Any guy, and I mean ENY guy that truly likes or loves a girl will find a way to handle his libido. That doesn't mean he won't want sex. But he will suppress that need just to maintain being with her.

So, for this guy u like, if he truly likes or loves you, won't let sex be the reason to break-up. If he does, then he's amongst the 99.999 guys who aren't ready for a true relationship - they just want free sex.

Summarily;

If you follow through with ur 'no sex-till-marriage' rule, be ready for heartbreaks and headaches in relationships. But in the end, it will always pay off , bountifully if I may add (and trust me when I say so!)

Else, you can be like those girls that compromise in order to keep or retain their relationships and ends up discovering what most ladies latter learn - sex is NOT the life wire of a relationship. In fact, in most cases, it is the reason why it doesn't last.



Guys are difficult to understand. So make it simple.., choose which way u'll follow today.

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Hmmmmm...nice write up dude

there must be one JUDAS

God bless this Op

@op u been wan make sense from your intro, but when u get to the chapters of the book u scored zero

Make I tell u, my first love I dated her for good 8years, and what she always says was that no sex till we get married, which I agreed to all because I loved her with everything I had.
Not knowing she was keeping another relationship and the guy she was dating is sex machine rather than me babysitter,she got banged almost everyday.
My first visiting to Lagos from Ibadan for just a week, I called her that day she was talking nasty to me on phone that those girls over there,which style I'm I giving them is it doggy or 6&9 etc...i was so surprised and shocked of what was coming out of her mouth, I didn't know what to say, on getting back to ibadan I called her to come and see me she said she was busy,for like a month I didn't see her,the day I saw her,... I saw her with a guy she was telling me that all I know is passion no affection,I said but she said no sex till we get married now, she said that's my own problem. I was like... God what the Bleep is this.

So guys wise up,learn from my mistake.

Any girl that loves and want you will always do what will make you happy.

and for girls too,don't be deceived if you truly love him and you know that he also loves you do anything to protect him,if another babe should give him the joy outside he will definitely go for her and say bye to you. #wise up

Remember,we are of age. and if body don over full na wahala for body. Body go ask for am nah

If this thread doesn't nod its head to frontpage, I will hug a wet transformer... No, I will rather join the Igbos in the lagoon, I wont try that transformer stunt now that Buhari has fixed our electricity wahala brought to us by the incompetent leadership of the PDP....

Now to the topic... I think the OP should be hanged under an oak tree... No, a mango tree... Where will you find an oak tree in this part of the world? Your assertion would only be true if this were the 18th and 19th century. I welcome you to the 21st century.

Your theory reeks of contradictions from your own write up. If the 21st century man finds sex the most important factor in a relationship, shouldn't you know that the best way to make him love you more is to give him more of what he likes most, the same way a man gives a woman what she cherishes the most, which are gifts and filthy lucre? Now I will be justified if I stop buying her stuff and stop giving her money for not giving me her punanny and German juice.

Sex in the 21st century strengthens love, create bonds and if you do it well, the man will rush you to the alter in no time, the nuptial knot which is woman's greatest achievement and man's greatest mistake will become inevitable.... *The lord knows I will never cross that rubicon*...

No, I am not saying giving him sex makes him love you, but it makes him love you more if he already loves you. And denying him sex makes him find a way to pleasure himself with another woman who might later win his heart completely with her punny and snatch him from you, and when you turn 39 with no man to marry you, Canaanland of David Oyedepo will be your second home, and of course you will be welcomed so long you contribute to the oiling and servicing of the private jet of the man of God, sorry I mean God of man.

Ladies, follow this guy's advice at your own detriment. (No, I dont wanna use 'peril' cos everyone on Nairaland uses it.. I hate that abused word now)

*Sighs*

Let me go sleep now and wake up tomorrow morning to see this on frontpage with lots of likes to my comment... If you like no like my comment because I talk say I go get likes or because I abuse your pastor, your ill fated party or call you flatty, na your own wahala be that.

MsBliss:
God bless this Op

God bless him?.... SMH

true lov exists between me and bf
nyc 1 op
say no to pre marital sex

When will sex stop being a major topic in Nigerian relationships?

Sm ppl r stvpid. U kw men cnt do without sex. Yet u want a man without sex. Wat else is d dèfinition of stvpidity? Is it a crime if u stay on ur own? Mtcheww

FYI, I didn't read all through that crap,nice write up tho but I've to applaud your ignorance pertaining SEX matter which you're talking about and obviously know nothing about, please read the following carefully and slowly so you'd comprehend. Relationships and marriage ain't shitttt without SEX,i repeat they ain't shittt without SEX,try dating a girl and say u don't want Sex she'll dump ur ass faster than u can say 'duhh!'. Don't enter a relationship if Sex isn't in ur mind, if u ain't ready for the Sex, dont date aight? Just be friends with people,simple! Please OP,if u marry your wife,dont Sex her,wait for love to lead d way,you'd regret it for the rest of ur life.

Chow!


The poster above me,i don't care if you're a boy or a girl,just know that ur post is totally seconded,thirded and fourthed by me!

saasala:

God bless him?.... SMH

yes bless him!

i award your article 0 points
and may God have mercy on ur brain.
#MyopicNonsense

Make i buy plot first,

sex or no sex, Jah knows i'm getting myself another wife, i mean a 9th wife(pls don't believe me)

I think a boy and gal who are dating shouldn't address themselves as boyfriend,girlfriend anymore but sexboy and sexgal. For example: i want to call my sexboy, my sexgirl is lazy.
Cus dating is all about sex and its damn obvious, stay outta relationships for ya own gud. Stay outta relationships if u cant give sex(for the ladies), cus relationships these days moves in hand with sex!

smh