Eyaaa I really feel for this lady sha
How can a young marriage of 5 years be lacking good sex when 25 years old marriage are still banging themselves with crazy styles

Bluetooth2:


Madam

Your husband is a man and he has blood running in his veins. He's neither a virrgin nor a revrend father. I won't want to be cruel but your man is too confident to have you far away which means he may likely be in an affair over there.

The fact that you are loyal to him doesn't mean he's loyal to you. You can ask him how he copes without sex and hear what he will say.

Shoro niyen....pls dont poison this woman mind to entertain negative thougths about her husband committing adultery.there are many descent men out there including me who can abstain from sex for years,mine is close to 3years and i dont self service/watch porn.the man in question even comes home every year...?
This woman better be careful abt what advice u take and read on Nl
NL can make and ruin you.
Life abroad isnt what u see on Tv,better hold ur body,pray that things get better for him...he might decide to relocate back home soon

sonofananimal1:
I HAVE REALLY LEARN MY LESSON WITH THEM.

THERE JUST WANT YOU TO SEE THEM AS PIECE OF SHITTE , NOT THE OTHER WAY ROUND

Its just sad,its always better to keep them as baby mama till you are ready to settle down and the worse is the OP might be spending her husband hard earn cash on their gate man or one okada man

prinwa:
Hi
I am a lady in my late 20, I have been married for 5years now. My husband come back once in a year, I am getting tired of the loneliness and lack of sex, though I have never cheated on him. I just feel I made a huge mistake. I have 2 kids for him, and I try to keep myself busy in order to avoid temptation. My husband. Doesn't have another wife apart from me, recently I asked him about our papers and he said he doesn't want us to come and live there permanently , but we can visit and go. I want to be together with my husband. I am really getting tired of the whole situation. My children are growing up with out him and it is making me unhappy. I need your advice please.

Listen,he is probably secretly married,or an illegal immigrant still trying to get his document right. If he had his Resident Permit,he would have invited you over easily. If he had his permit,your children will automatically be granted a British passport. All indications points to him living a double life or he is hiding something.

If he has his permit,he will be able to at least visit you regularly. I have visited Nigeria almost 3 times this year alone and I spent an average of a month on each visits.

Mind you,I have lots of friends who have wives in London and Nigeria. You might happen to be a victim of such guys.

whuney patrick

Both of you shud talk it out. It is a very serious matter

prinwa:
Hi
I am a lady in my late 20, I have been married for 5years now. My husband come back once in a year, I am getting tired of the loneliness and lack of sex, though I have never cheated on him. I just feel I made a huge mistake. I have 2 kids for him, and I try to keep myself busy in order to avoid temptation. My husband. Doesn't have another wife apart from me, recently I asked him about our papers and he said he doesn't want us to come and live there permanently , but we can visit and go. I want to be together with my husband. I am really getting tired of the whole situation. My children are growing up with out him and it is making me unhappy. I need your advice please.

In this kind of situation you will need extra patience if you still cherish your marriage and love your kids,try give him some time and find out more on what he's doing down there we never can tell children needs both parent by their sides to make up for many things, I'll also advise you consult his parents or family members and above all pray to God

Op I salute ur courage. However for a fact, temptation are meant for humans and it is meant to be overcomed. Even those who have their husbands around are being tempted.
So u must continue to get urself busy and overcome it.
it may not be that easy to relocate all of u at once if he's speaking the truth, but since he said u guys can visit, just take advantage of that.
I know a family friend, their father went to the U.S. And came back after 12 years.
The children were already grown, some had finished their tertiary education San gotten jobs.
Their mom waited and eventually he came back. As I speak they are together now and living happily. Yours may not be like that but try have faith, explore different options with ur husband, do research or ask questions of how relocation can work. Above all, stay connected to him any means possible.
Pls do not entertain bad friends that can influence u badly.
My own piece.

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prinwa:
Hi
I am a lady in my late 20, I have been married for 5years now. My husband come back once in a year, I am getting tired of the loneliness and lack of sex, though I have never cheated on him. I just feel I made a huge mistake. I have 2 kids for him, and I try to keep myself busy in order to avoid temptation. My husband. Doesn't have another wife apart from me, recently I asked him about our papers and he said he doesn't want us to come and live there permanently , but we can visit and go. I want to be together with my husband. I am really getting tired of the whole situation. My children are growing up with out him and it is making me unhappy. I need your advice please.

I don't know that Nigeria has run short of marriage counselors....
But if you actually need the candid advice of mine, have you threatend him with divorce just yet?

bettercreature:
Its just sad,its always better to keep them as baby mama till you are ready to settle down and the worse is the OP might be spending her husband hard earn cash on their gate man or one okada man

Una no well at all

prinwa:
Hi
I am a lady in my late 20, I have been married for 5years now. My husband come back once in a year, I am getting tired of the loneliness and lack of sex, though I have never cheated on him. I just feel I made a huge mistake. I have 2 kids for him, and I try to keep myself busy in order to avoid temptation. My husband. Doesn't have another wife apart from me, recently I asked him about our papers and he said he doesn't want us to come and live there permanently , but we can visit and go. I want to be together with my husband. I am really getting tired of the whole situation. My children are growing up with out him and it is making me unhappy. I need your advice please.

Listen, This is your life.
You can't change it.
If you try Something else, you will make a mistake.
Your special life was designed for us to learn.
Just like the rest of us, you are a stepping stone.
There are people whose condition are far far far (I wrote it three times, just to tell you how much the gap is) worse than yours, one of those people are the 'mad people.'

You are blessed with a marriage, for the issue of sex, find a guy that would be bleeping you sometimes.

Don't see this suggestion through the eye of any religion,
See it in a way that this DEAL is not fair for you...

You may think that I just gave you a bad advice,
But compare my advice with a situation where you wasted your entire youth waiting for someone in oversea without sex. Before you know it, you would be 50Years and by then, Sex will almost mean nothing to you.

"I would chose to cheat, if I were told to chose between sex and sex starvation" Zuby - 2015.

Brandnew2:

I'll strongly suggest you should stay married for better for worse.
How do you get lonely with 2 kids tho'?

Haba, dats not the kind of lonely she is referring to nah, will d kids perform d husbands responsibilities, if u get wat I mean

whizqueen:
Eyaaa I really feel for this lady sha
How can a young marriage of 5 years be lacking good sex when 25 years old marriage are still banging themselves with crazy styles


Please tell your husband you need sex and he shouldn't push you to the wall oh or else

What does a Unilorin student know about marriage affairs?

Talk to your husband again,again n again to knw your plans n his to settle down with him.then, u should knw y he doesn't want u over their yet.then try to understand his plight. Bt u said u have two kids,not One. Hm,pls take care of your kids n don't make that mistake else,not all that glitters is Gold.u pray for husband uve got 1,u pray for kids uve got 2 n without doubt I'm sure u r comfortable as regard your finances, I beg leave d rest n stay content else...

prinwa:
Hi
I am a lady in my late 20, I have been married for 5years now. My husband come back once in a year, I am getting tired of the loneliness and lack of sex, though I have never cheated on him. I just feel I made a huge mistake. I have 2 kids for him, and I try to keep myself busy in order to avoid temptation. [b]My husband Doesn't have another wife apart from me, recently I asked him about our papers and he said he doesn't want us to come and live there permanently , but we can visit and go. I want to be together with my husband. I am really getting tired of the whole situation. My children are growing up with out him and it is making me unhappy. I need your advice please.

My dear, sleep time is over, wake up from your slumber and posses your possession.
you can go and visit him and come back but he wont allow u to stay permanently.

Sorry dear. You deserve better.

Hi. If you get to see my message, i will like you to narrate everything you just narrated here to him. If he doesn't come up with a medium term plan to visit within the next 3-6months and a more permanent plan to come back to Nigeria or for you to join him within the next 12months, that means what you 're thinking is what I 'm thinking. But, be sure of one thing, you will get through this with your head high.

Brandnew2:

I'll strongly suggest you should stay married for better for worse.
How do you get lonely with 2 kids tho'?

come on marriage jst bringing kids into d world,u nid d companionshp of ur best frnd dats ur spouse.

prinwa:

my aunt joined her hubby in the states along with their 5 kids and now the man says hes nolonger interested in her. He insists they can only do certain things only when they are officially separated .they are still together but gud thing is shes educated..she got to the States and trained again to be a nurse and shes doing fine..

Only thing i can say to you is that you gotta still be faithful to him but upgrade yourself very well academically and financially,have investments..gudluck

u jst need smone to encourage u to cheat on him but becarefull of the tinx u are about to do... Dont useless all his efforts rather pray for a great improvement. Cheating in not an option here.. Go down on ur knees and pray dat God shld enlarge his coast... u ar the reason why he is out der

IHate9ja1:

Shoro niyen....pls dont poison this woman mind to entertain negative thougths about her husband committing adultery.there are many descent men out there including me who can abstain from sex for years,mine is close to 3years and i dont self service/watch porn.the man in question even comes home every year...?
This woman better be careful abt what advice u take and read on Nl
NL can make and ruin you.
Life abroad isnt what u see on Tv,better hold ur body,pray that things get better for him...he might decide to relocate back home soon

Don't mind him.

whizqueen:
Eyaaa I really feel for this lady sha
How can a young marriage of 5 years be lacking good sex when 25 years old marriage are still banging themselves with crazy styles


Please tell your husband you need sex and he shouldn't push you to the wall oh or else

U don't have sense

prinwa:
he has his permanent resident. No he doesn't have another wife.

how are you so sure about this? married man that is not keen on taking his family to his place of abode must have a girlfriend or spouse where he is. With the cold weather that is in obodo oyinbo, a woman must be warming his bed as long as he is not the Alhaji Gay or phock animal type.

you better save flight money, apply for visa and pay a surprise visit to him!!!( i assume you have his foreign address!)

Your guy may have a whitey or naija geh that he is shinning her congo there!!!

i suspect he is based in Canada!!!
He is sending money for upkeep ,calls you and visits often so that you don"t raise your eyebrows(if you haven't shaved em off!!
i shouldn't have typed what i wrote!!

seems like i revealed the player's code!!!!

Some of the advice you are getting here are in bad taste. The fact is that to some, abroad is harsh. You understand your husband's circumstances and the reasons why he is unable for you and the kids to join him. No sane person would want to live away from his family. Maybe it is in the best interest of both of you to remain apart at the moment.

Five years is a long time, but we have to be realistic. Coming home for 2 months in a year is a feat. Some people in Lagos whose families are in the village don't see them that often.

My advice is that you should both consider the mitigating circumstances why your husband is unable for you to join him. Could it be that he is subject to the new UK immigration policy (assuming he is in the UK)? Etc.

I pray that in time your husband would be able to bring you over. Good luck as you seek to find a solution to the current stressor.

No be uh na dey find MARRIAGE...?

ONE CHANCE MARRIAGE

I'm going to post my own opinion here base on what you wrote and what others av said, and I'm going to tell you the bitter truth. .. though it's my own opinion...



Your husband have another family over there, I mean a marriage of 5 years, and 2 kids yet he choose to visit ones a year without even thinking of taking you and the kids with him or even planning of relocating?


Smh, I'll advice u call family meeting.. .

whizqueen:
Eyaaa I really feel for this lady sha
How can a young marriage of 5 years be lacking good sex when 25 years old marriage are still banging themselves with crazy styles


Please tell your husband you need sex and he shouldn't push you to the wall oh or else

or else what?

what would happen?

your laptop would be stolen again?

u dey 15years marry?

Every tin need prary er jst prary to God..

I feel your pain, Madam. There are lots of useful advice here already; I needn't say more.
It's well with you!