I will appreciate if this trend can make it to the front page.
HUSBAND SCARCITY!
This may not be the best time for me to write
on this because of misinterpretations, but I
can no longer resist the push.
"Husband Scarcity" has become one of the
challenges faced by many young girls today.
If you go to prayer houses, majority of the
intentions are prayer for a life partner. And
this calls for concern.
Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really
much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem?
Or, maybe there were more men than women
then, or there was an adequate
corresponding
numbers of both genders.
I don't think so.
Maybe then, the women had values and were
prepared to build a home and not park into a
built home. Then, once a young man comes
of age and can at least feed himself and his
wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the
woman really appreciates him and helps him
to build a future.
What am I really trying to say?
We created what we now see as "Husband
Scarcity" for ourselves.
Today, the reverse is the case.
Ask an average girl to define her dream
husband; you get things like "he has to be tall,
handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at
least, and be presentable" and then she adds
"God fearing" in order not to sound so
worldly.
Then, check the number of girls around you
and the number of men that meet that
standard, and
you will see the problem.
You hear girls say,
"I cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man."
What a wonderful dream! What if from the
beginning, you have everything you want and
there is no suffering, and later in the
marriage, the table turns around, then comes
suffering?
Will you run away?
No one prays for suffering, but it
is good to start small and end big, than start
big and end small.
The problem is that the description majority
of girls give of their ideal man is virtually thesame.
When 50 girls want the same kind
of man and the man that fits what they want
is just 1 man, and the man can only pick one.
Then, what becomes of 49 others? They
simply start lamenting of "Husband Scarcity".
Another irony of our time is that it is hard,
due to the face of our economy to find a man
who is of marriage age who possesses all
those things these ladies want, legally (except
those involved in Internet fraud);
even the number of those in Internet fraud is
not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands.
If you look around, majority of
the ladies of substance, of good value and
virtue, who are ready to build a home with a
man who has prospects, are married and not
complaining of husband scarcity. The easiest
way to find a
husband now, is to change your view of who
a husband is.
A husband is that man God made
and then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him,
without a help mate and then made the
woman and gave to him, and he felt complete
and fulfilled.
MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION
PROGRAM.
It is a mission of building the family of God
here on earth.
For those who see marriage as a way out of
poverty, it is a way into bondage.
Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS...
DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS
DESTINY.
Where he is today, may only be a route to
where God has destined
him to be tomorrow.
Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY
FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION.
Join in alleviating "husband scarcity".
PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying
that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials.
What I am saying is that you should stop
setting your standard on material
acquisitions or physical appearances.
Look beyond the physical.
WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT
HE OWNS OR HOW HE
LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF.
And that which he is made of is, most times,
not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen.
Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is
seen is temporal and that which is not seen is
permanent.
Relax and go to God in prayer.
God did not just make Eve for making sake: He made her for Adams need to be met.
God did not just make you for making sake either ( unless he has a special calling on you) he made you to meet a particular man's need AND THAT MAN MAY BE THAT ONE THAT DOESN'T FIT INTO THAT YOUR " EXORBITANT STANDARD". Do not despise or look down on any man because it doesn't take God a second to turn around someone destiny. A Man can be very poor by December, then God might choose to bless him and make him rich by January.
But never marry a man without Gods confirmation, so that you can confidently run back to him whenever Satan wants to raise his ugly head.
A word is enough for the wise. Jidbo4real has said his own it is left for you to either read and change your mindset or read for reading sake.

Expects counter thread...Wife scarcity

Fuel scarcity to Husband scarcity..... It is well

actually, husbands r not scarce o, we jst have acute shortage of senceable girls.

You guys should keep on creating thread to hype una ego. #yeyetic yeye
For una mind#

When a lady comes of age the next agenda is marrige, but due to change in values of ladies and the economic situation of the country, the guys tends to shy away from marriage because they don't have the financial strenght to get married. For instance when a lady gradute from school, the parent especially the mother will call her n tell her she should bring a man home, so the lady thinks more of getting married than having a job,but to guys the most important thing is to secure a good job or means of getting good financial base. With the scarcity of jobs there will be scarcity of husbands. So ladies pray for we guys to get jobs then we will think of marrige.