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We all have contrast views and conclusions on distance relationship.

Distance relationship is costlier in all ramifications because when you need something from your spouse and you don't get it there is tendency of you looking for it else where since you know that the possibility of getting it as fast and urgent as you need it is very slim.

Well, as for me, distance relationship is of different types. We have some that will be far from their spouse but still give the woman/man the necessary attention he/she needs.

There is another type whereby the man/woman will be far from his/her lover for year(s) without coming around nor giving the man/woman the necessary attention.

The funniest thing of this two situations is that the man/woman of the first type i mentioned above are always fulfilling their responsibilities materially, emotionally and what have you.
The manual of the second mentioned type is obviously very far from the woman, the only thing he does is to call and keep warning the woman to stay away from social activities which might cause promiscuity whereas all the benefits the woman should get from you as the man of the relationship are not given and yet you expect her to trust, abide by your rules and still keep your space in her heart.

Also the same goes for the woman. She only calls to ask about the man and the house(if married) without coming home for even a weekend to fulfil other physical/romantic responsibilities with the man and the home.

Women deserves to be treated like a queen, so also men like king if you really know what i mean.

If you must keep a long relationship which at times might be irresistible then you must be ready to be extra protective with all resources.

TO THE MEN:

Yes, you might be protecting yourself from being duped by the one you say you love maybe because you were in one distance relationship prior to her own relationship with you and all you did to make your woman happy proved abortive(that is if u'v been in a relationship before).

The fact is that for you to have agreed to be in distance relationship you must have trusted your man or woman to a certain level which will be enough to sustain your relationship.

Women loves to be proud of their man even to their friends and will always want to prove to their friends or people close to them that their man might be far from them but he carries out his responsibilities more than those that wakes up every morning with their man beside them.

One thing about women is that they protect their man to any extent and can do anything to prove to the world that the man is up and doing.
If you are the type that leaves your woman in another far state or country without given her the necessary resources to take care of herself while you are not around and at the same time you don't go to check on her once in a while then you are determining your relationship.

The question i will ask is that without you supplying her needed resources how do you expect her to look good, take care of your home(if married) and be proud of you?

Without you checking on her once in a while who do you want her to be sharing her secret and romantic moments with?

Forget that a woman should also be working to sustain a family, the fact is that even if a woman is working the man must be giving her some stipends for her to feel the impact of her man in her life.

In any relationship, the man must pretend as if his wife does not have any work fetching her income.
No matter how rich a woman might be the man must still be able to give her from his pocket.

Do you want your woman to be told by her friends how good their man is taking care of them which will definitely happen?

You will only get her depressed when that happens since you cannot compete with her friends' men when she knows that you actually can. And depression and frustration can cause so many unthinkable things which you might not like.

Women needs utmost attention and it is with money you show a woman your role as the man of the relationship.

TO THE WOMEN:

If you are into distance relationship then you have a huge responsibility to carry out on your man and perhaps your home.

With this, your attention is needed by your man and your home once in a while if you don't want someone else to perform your duties on your behalf.
See, my man understands me is totally out of what i am talking here.

When your man truly want you there is nothing like understanding.
If you are not available or he is not expecting you to be available anytime soon then your relationship/home is on the line.

No one is saying you cannot be a career woman, definitely it is career that can make a woman far from her man or home, and it is also when you are helping your man to fetch income to sustain the relationship/home that you might have a long lasting relationship/home, but you must be calculative so as not to trade your man or home for your career which will be longer and successful even without you.
What is the essence of a successful career without a good home?

For the benefit of those that are not married but in a distance relationship, never look back on what your ex did to you.

Don't say because you were duped then the next person will also dupe you and you will make that point the reason why you cannot invest on the one you claim you love.

Have you forgotten that love can make you do things you don't see yourself doing on a normal day?

And have you forgotten life itself is all about risk?

A relationship that is not built on trust will never last. Though the chances of him/her finally settling down with you might be 50/50 but i guess you don't have a choice than to take good care of him/her with all needed resources and hoping that he/she is the one.

I'm indifferent when it comes to distance relationship though, because it has worked and failed at the same time fo so many people, but if you must be in a distance relationship then you must be ready to be super-protective with everything you have so that your man/woman will not look somewhere else.

In distance relationship too much of calls can destroy the affair, though, good morning and good night calls are essential, but excessive calls of hours should be with caution so as not to get easily tired of each other.

http://bamisepeters..com/2015/07/distance-relationship-can-make-or-mar.html?m=1

I just scrolled down... And commented...




There is a sayin dat a gurl is urs only for d moment she is wit u ... Buh wen she is away, she aint urs..

itz not kul is all I can say!

Looks like your write up is majored on the married folks...anyway as a single guy av had my own fair share of the ups nd downs of distance relationship....."everything you can give to a woman would be best given when you're together" by together I mean when you're available and around each other........tho for some couples it's better they stay apart for the marriage to last distance relationship is best for some incompatible couples

Cutehector:
I just scrolled down... And commented...




There is a sayin dat a gurl is urs only for d moment she is wit u ... Buh wen she is away, she aint urs..

Don't make me laugh, thanks for the comment anyways

bamac:



Don't make me laugh, thanks for the comment anyways

lol wat was funny

DJ2HOT:
Looks like your write up is majored on the married folks...anyway as a single guy av had my own fair share of the ups nd downs of distance relationship....."everything you can give to a woman would be best given when you're together" by together I mean when you're available and around each other........tho for some couples it's better they stay apart for the marriage to last distance relationship is best for some incompatible couples

but as it is, let me say stylishly you are saying that women are mostly the cos of the faults encountered from distance relationship

bamac:
but as it is you are let me say stylishly saying women are mostly the cos of the faults encountered from distance relationship

lolz!! no won't say that, it's a 2way drive as it is with the male folks same as the females.........80% of the mar is based on lack of trust......nd that's majorly the problem with the over experienced those who've gotten enough of the sour taste

DJ2HOT:
lolz!! no won't say that, it's a 2way drive as it is with the male folks same as the females.........80% of the mar is based on lack of trust......nd that's majorly the problem with the over experienced those who've gotten enough of the sour taste

i grab. The mar is most times caused by lack of trust truly.

Well said bamac. Trust is the missing ingredient of any distance relationship that didn't work.