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Urgent Help Needed by ojeota(f): 12:26pm On Aug 02, 2015
Hello romancelander,
I dont even know were to start from. Let me just go straight to the point.
I get tired of relationship(sexual) easily.
Once I get involved in a relationship, I feel excited at the beginning but as time goes on, let's say after two to three weeks into the relationship I lose interest. This feeling usually triggers more when I see the person's na*kedness.

Why do I feel this way?
What am I doing wrong that is making me feel this way?
How can I overcome this challenge?

Please, I really need your help.
Re: Urgent Help Needed by misspicy(f): 12:30pm On Aug 02, 2015
Hmmm

Eleyi gidi gan

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Re: Urgent Help Needed by Nobody: 12:39pm On Aug 02, 2015
I can somewhat relate. It could mean you have intimacy issues. You're afraid to form bonds in relationships in case you get hurt. So you sabotage the relationship before it gets any deeper by finding flaws, in your case, their unclothedness is a trigger.

Btw, I once broke up with a guy because I didn't like how he was putting on cream on his legs. He went all the way down low until his @ss was up in the air. It was the most unattractive thing I have ever seen. But now I understand that it's not the men but me. I fear attachments.

It's changeable when you accept you're the problem. Look away. Or when the negativity creeps in, focus on what's good about the person, etc.

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Re: Urgent Help Needed by LogoDWhiz(m): 12:40pm On Aug 02, 2015
Maybe u feel irritated seeing the unclothedness of a guy!
Watching porn might not be the best advice, but u can try it. Watch your reaction. Study it.
Or better still see a psychiatrist

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Re: Urgent Help Needed by LogoDWhiz(m): 12:40pm On Aug 02, 2015
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Re: Urgent Help Needed by cutesmilez(f): 12:44pm On Aug 02, 2015
hmmmm
Re: Urgent Help Needed by kinglekan: 12:45pm On Aug 02, 2015

Quite simple, you had a brief period of emotional rush coupled with your strong urge for sexual gratification.

I think the real question here is why do go into your relationships? If its simply because you want to get intimate with someone then you really cannot avoid what you are going through.

Once you have had few sexual encounters, your partner seizes to excite you and you thus find it boring hanging on to that relationship.

I don't think anything is wrong with you physically, I only think you have to change your approach towards relationships.

Another angle to this would be if you are addicted to porn? Do you self service? If you are addicted to these, there is a likelihood that being intimate with your partner would bore you with time.


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Re: Urgent Help Needed by Gurgle(f): 12:57pm On Aug 02, 2015
Is it boredom or restlessness? Has anybody maltreated you in the past? Or is there somebody you would have liked to be with but you couldn't?
Re: Urgent Help Needed by Nobody: 12:59pm On Aug 02, 2015
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You have a spiritual husband.

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Re: Urgent Help Needed by ojeota(f): 1:00pm On Aug 02, 2015
PunkyVeer:
I can somewhat relate. It could mean you have intimacy issues. You're afraid to form bonds in relationships in case you get hurt. So you sabotage the relationship before it gets any deeper by finding flaws, in your case, their unclothedness is a trigger.
Btw, I once broke up with a guy because I didn't like how he was putting on cream on his legs. He went all the way down low until his @ss was up in the air. It was the most unattractive thing I have ever seen. But now I understand that it's not the men but me. I fear attachments.
It's changeable when you accept you're the problem. Look away. Or when the negativity creeps in, focus on what's good about the person, etc.

Yes, maybe the problem is from me. I will follow your advise keenly. Thanks for your contribution.
Re: Urgent Help Needed by Nobody: 1:04pm On Aug 02, 2015
ojeota:

Yes, maybe the problem is from me. I will follow your advise keenly. Thanks for your contribution.
since ur knw da problem,can we close da thread?
Re: Urgent Help Needed by IamLEGEND1: 1:05pm On Aug 02, 2015
Dem follow you come from village
Re: Urgent Help Needed by ojeota(f): 1:07pm On Aug 02, 2015
Thanks for all your contributions.
Please keep it coming....

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Re: Urgent Help Needed by ojeota(f): 1:12pm On Aug 02, 2015
Gurgle:
Is it boredom or restlessness? Has anybody maltreated you in the past? Or is there somebody you would have liked to be with but you couldn't?

None of the above .
Thanks for your contribution.

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Re: Urgent Help Needed by Cutehector(m): 1:28pm On Aug 02, 2015
I always tell people... Hav a reason for liking somebody... So dat even if d person farts in front of u, u still love him or her

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Re: Urgent Help Needed by Nobody: 1:58pm On Aug 02, 2015
ojeota:
Hello romancelander,
I dont even know were to start from. Let me just go straight to the point.
I get tired of relationship(sexual) easily.
Once I get involved in a relationship, I feel excited at the beginning but as time goes on, let's say after two to three weeks into the relationship I lose interest. This feeling usually triggers more when I see the person's na*kedness.

Why do I feel this way?
What am I doing wrong that is making me feel this way?
How can I overcome this challenge?

Please, I really need your help.

You haven't found love... Its like you once fell in love at a young age,you broke up and haven't loved anyone since then. Not becos you don't want to,but becos you just haven't found anyone that gives you that feeling your first love gave you... You tend to set a standard and no guy has met that standard since your first love.

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Re: Urgent Help Needed by ojeota(f): 6:17pm On Aug 02, 2015
Please I need more contributions.
Relationship expert in the house, let's have your opinion.
Re: Urgent Help Needed by 247notire(m): 8:19am On Oct 13, 2015
ojeota:
Hello romancelander,
I dont even know were to start from. Let me just go straight to the point.
I get tired of relationship(sexual) easily.
Once I get involved in a relationship, I feel excited at the beginning but as time goes on, let's say after two to three weeks into the relationship I lose interest. This feeling usually triggers more when I see the person's na*kedness.

Why do I feel this way?
What am I doing wrong that is making me feel this way?
How can I overcome this challenge?

Please, I really need your help.
See, try changing ur pattern of getting into relationships. Get to know the guy as good frnds at first, get used to him and everything about him before saying yes and frolicking in the sheets.By then u wud have been so attached that it wud last longer than all ur past ones. I'm single if ur open to try in with me. I hope this helps.

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Re: Urgent Help Needed by gunpoint(m): 4:17am On Nov 29, 2015
My dear, you are just a sex addict plain and simple. You have banged one and now wana move on to the next one thats why you bore easily.
Don't beat yourself up over it but don't lie to yourself either

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Re: Urgent Help Needed by anonimi: 12:42pm On Mar 16, 2016
LogoDWhiz:
Maybe u feel irritated seeing the unclothedness of a guy!

Watching porn might not be the best advice, but u can try it.
Watch your reaction. Study it.

Or better still see a psychiatrist

Great advice.
I wonder how many of us would VOLUNTARILY see a psychiatrist except the problem becomes "blown out"!
Re: Urgent Help Needed by firstking01(m): 2:11pm On Mar 16, 2016
Have you been raped before??
Re: Urgent Help Needed by LogoDWhiz(m): 11:00am On Mar 18, 2016
anonimi:


Great advice.
I wonder how many of us would VOLUNTARILY see a psychiatrist except the problem becomes "blown out"!

Lol..

Well, i will if i have the funds
Re: Urgent Help Needed by anonimi: 3:45pm On Mar 18, 2016
LogoDWhiz:
Lol..

Well, i will if i have the funds

I don't THINK that psychiatrists are that expensive.
Re: Urgent Help Needed by LogoDWhiz(m): 4:07pm On Mar 18, 2016
anonimi:


I don't THINK that psychiatrists are that expensive.

oh well.. I will reconsider then

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