Durent:
Thonia u're pretty

Thank you

I Dont know why women always like to condone evil.
Most of those asking the mother not to tell the father are women!
Make una wait till he pregnants someone's daughter and is forced to leave school to fend for her.

Are you kidding us?
So you don't know this is when his interest in sex should be at its peak.
Does Christianity abhor interests in sexual affairs,

Madam what he needs now is guidance and direction not condemnation like his interest is abnormal. You will just push him to learn the negative bits from outside (which he's already doing from porn) probably because you never talked about it with him.

All these immature parents sef.

Durent:
Whats da difference??..aint they all porn

So u don't dont know the different?
#nuffsed

cococandy:
Are you kidding us?
So you don't know this is when his interest in sex should be at its peak.
Does Christianity abhor interests in sexual affairs,

Madam what he needs now is guidance and direction not condemnation like his interest is abnormal. You will just push him to learn the negative bits from outside (which he's already doing from porn) probably because you never talked about it with him.

All these immature parents sef.

If he is interested in sex he should ask his parents or teachers about it not watch porn by 11pm in the night!
Your advice reeks. His act demands condemnation not encouragement. The armed robber of today was also interested in taking things that do not belong to him with a gun most probably as a teenager.
The mum was absolutely right. Watching porn even as an adult is not proper.

I can't believe the OP said she or he actually beat a teenager for watching porn? What kinda parenting is that?

Wasn't it the best time to talk about sex and explain things to him first hand? Must every thing be left in the hands of teachers. Shouldn't she be apologising to the boy on her part for not starting it early enough.

Don't you think God or nature or whatever you believe in blessed you with that kid to be a caretaker?

So as a caretaker if your roof is licking, the first thing you do is take a stick or hammer and hit it before fixing the problem?

Don't you think that your son was curious and really need to know about everything that revolves around him? And the best you can offer was beat him?

I thought moms and dads of this day are Y2K compliant. I never knew some still have very old and analogue mentality. Imagine her saying she raised him in Christian home. So Christians don't have sex....

Me just wondered where it was written be fruitful and replenish the earth.... if you as a parent cannot give him the guide lines on how to go about it, the mistake he's gonna make is doing press up.

Hmm some people still have sense.

Phew. Relief that not everyone is dumb.

Richy4:
I can't believe the OP said she or he actually beat a teenager for watching porn? What kinda parenting is that?

Wasn't it the best time to talk about sex and explain things to him first hand? Must every thing be left in the hands of teachers. Shouldn't she be apologising to the boy on her part for not starting it early enough.

Don't you think God or nature or whatever you believe in blessed you with that kid to be a caretaker?

So as a caretaker if your roof is licking, the first thing you do is take a stick or hammer and hit it before fixing the problem?

Don't you think that your son was curious and really need to know about everything that revolves around him? And the best you can offer was beat him?

I thought moms and dads of this day are Y2K compliant. I never knew some still have very old and analogue mentality. Imagine her saying she raised him in Christian home. So Christians don't have sex....

Me just wondered where it was written be fruitful and replenish the earth.... if you as a parent cannot give him the guide lines on how to go about it, the mistake he's gonna make is doing press up.

cococandy:
Hmm some people still have sense.

Phew. Relief that not everyone is dumb.

Hahaha. Thanks. I don't really understand. They gave him a weapon which was laptop and then they expected him not to go for the kill.

If they wanna be an analogue parents, they should keep smart phones and laptops far from their kids and stick with the words of analogue days"you touch her she will be pregnant "

But since the world is moving so fast technologically,and many parents can afford smart phones and laptops they "parents" got a lot of work to do. They have to monitor what their kids do on social media, and what they watch and be prepared to explain and answer questions.
I feel sorry for the OP because with proper explanation, she would have won the kid over to confind in so many things but the beating has done the damage. I hope she reads this and tell the husband so that he can repair the damage by making him trust and confind in him with good explanation.

The worst thing that can happen to any parent is when their kids cannot confind in them with the fear of beating and tongue lashing etc

Richy4:
I can't believe the OP said she or he actually beat a teenager for watching porn? What kinda parenting is that?

Wasn't it the best time to talk about sex and explain things to him first hand? Must every thing be left in the hands of teachers. Shouldn't she be apologising to the boy on her part for not starting it early enough.

Don't you think God or nature or whatever you believe in blessed you with that kid to be a caretaker?

So as a caretaker if your roof is licking, the first thing you do is take a stick or hammer and hit it before fixing the problem?

Don't you think that your son was curious and really need to know about everything that revolves around him? And the best you can offer was beat him?

I thought moms and dads of this day are Y2K compliant. I never knew some still have very old and analogue mentality. Imagine her saying she raised him in Christian home. So Christians don't have sex....

Me just wondered where it was written be fruitful and replenish the earth.... if you as a parent cannot give him the guide lines on how to go about it, the mistake he's gonna make is doing press up.

Are you for real?
So if a child is curious about sex, watching porn secretly in his room is the way to go?
With this kind of thinking, children are not safe around you!
What happened to asking questions?
When a child begins to watch porn, he is no longer curious he is now learning how to objectify women as sex symbols.
I bet you and cococandy as parents would have gladly finished watching the porn with him and maybe even remove your clothes and perform your love making acts in his presense to satisfy his curiosity!
God save kids from your likes!

Exactly. Kids should feel like they can talk about sexual stuff (at least to an extent with their parents. I know it's not easy but it has to be done) instead of being made to feel dirty and ungodly for having such thoughts.

It makes them retract and do stuff in secret that will harm them.

Richy4:


Hahaha. Thanks. I don't really understand. They gave him a weapon which was laptop and then they expected him not to go for the kill.

If they wanna be an analogue parents, they should keep smart phones and laptops far from their kids and stick with the words of analogue days"you touch her she will be pregnant "

But since the world is moving so fast technologically,and many parents can afford smart phones and laptops they "parents" got a lot of work to do. They have to monitor what their kids do on social media, and what they watch and be prepared to explain and answer questions.
I feel sorry for the OP because with proper explanation, she would have won the kid over to confind in so many things but the beating has done the damage. I hope she reads this and tell the husband so that he can repair the damage by making him trust and confind in him with good explanation.

The worst thing that can happen to any parent is when their kids cannot confind in them with the fear of beating and tongue lashing etc

dinachi:

Are you for real?
So if a child is curious about sex, watching porn secretly in his room is the way to go?
With this kind of thinking, children are not safe around you!
What happened to asking questions?
When a child begins to watch porn, he is no longer curious he is now learning how to objectify women as sex symbols.
I bet you and cococandy as parents would have gladly finished watching the porn with him and maybe even remove your clothes and perform your love making acts in his presense to satisfy his curiosity!
God save kids from your likes!

You really really need some growing up to do.
Stop acting holier than Pope himself. It is your type that preaches super holy and do the otherwise in secret.
And FYI I hated your type with passion.

Here is a kid who really needed information, and the best you can think is beat him up. Don't you know that education is the key? Besides how do you yourself learn about sex. And please don't even say it came naturally.

No wonder people say pastors kids are the worst sets of kids ever produced. Why wouldn't they say that when they have the likes of you putting on the holy robe and ready to pass judgment on a kid who doesn't know why his body is functioning the way it does. Knowing fully well that teenagers are in a confused stage in life and needed guidance.

And as for your comments about kids not being safe with me, I will simply let a low life judgemental person like you pass today because it was the first time you got into my space. And it was your first offence but Make sure it doesn't happen again.

He has comprehension issues.

I've given up trying to reason with him on adult level a long time ago. You might wanna do that and save yourself stress too.

Someone who understands a comment that says you shouldn't beat a child for their natural curiosity about sex as meaning that you would as well practice porn with them is not reasoning on a level you might want to engage.

Richy4:


You really really need some growing up to do.
Stop acting holier than Pope himself. It is your type that preaches super holy and do the otherwise in secret.
And FYI I hated your type with passion.

Here is a kid who really needed information, and the best you can think is beat him up. Don't you know that education is the key? Besides how do you yourself learn about sex. And please don't even say it came naturally.

No wonder people say pastors kids are the worst sets of kids ever produced. Why wouldn't they say that when they have the likes of you putting on the holy robe and ready to pass judgment on a kid who doesn't know why his body is functioning the way it does. Knowing fully well that teenagers are in a confused stage in life and needed guidance.

And as for your comments about kids not being safe with me, I will simply let a low life judgemental person like you pass today because it was the first time you got into my space. And it was your first offence but Make sure it doesn't happen again.

Richy4:


You really really need some growing up to do.
Stop acting holier than Pope himself. It is your type that preaches super holy and do the otherwise in secret.
And FYI I hated your type with passion.

Here is a kid who really needed information, and the best you can think is beat him up. Don't you know that education is the key? Besides how do you yourself learn about sex. And please don't even say it came naturally.

No wonder people say pastors kids are the worst sets of kids ever produced. Why wouldn't they say that when they have the likes of you putting on the holy robe and ready to pass judgment on a kid who doesn't know why his body is functioning the way it does. Knowing fully well that teenagers are in a confused stage in life and needed guidance.

And as for your comments about me, I will just let it pass because it was the first time you got into my space. Make sure it doesn't happen again.

Again you display your embarrassing naivety.
So in your addled brain disciplining a child caught watching porn is passing judgement?
Anyway clowning is allowed! But do your best to steer clear of kids. You have no business anywhere near kids.
Parenting is a lot more than just fooling around as a confused adult which you obviously are.
Sadly at this age in your life you still need a guardian to put you through life. You missed a lot growing up and I am not about to start teaching a man child like you what he needs to know at this age.
You really really need to grow up. Time waits for no man.
If watching porn is OK, why was he hiding?
Why was he begging her to avoid telling his father?
Please go back to your parents and spend another ten years to learn how to train your kids! You are a disaster waiting to happen.
If a child is curious he should ask his parents. Now I bet you would have hugged him if after watching porn he goes out to rape a girl. I am sure will support him and blame it on his curiousity.
The lad knew watching porn was wrong which is why he was hiding!
It is a different kettle of fish if he asked his parents for an explanation on some sex related issues and they beat him up for it.
A curious child would have been watching porn in the full glare of his parents innocently.
If Na my pikin I go flog am well well. After which I will sit him down and have a heart to heart talk.
I won't wait until he starts visiting prostitutes or raping girls before I start disciplining him.
And mind you, pastors children are never the worst.

cococandy:
He has comprehension issues.

I've given up trying to reason with him on adult level a long time ago. You might wanna do that and save yourself stress too.

Someone who understands a comment that says you shouldn't beat a child for their natural curiosity about sex as meaning that you would as well practice porn with them is not reasoning on a level you might want to engage.

My dear he quoted me,wrote a lot of things that meant nothing. I asked him a question he didn't answer instead he was ranting

I guess he is one of the naira land lunatic roaming around every section displaying their ignorance on social media
I have clearly seen between me and him, we are world apart. And I have no time for his kind.
By the way how are you today?

dinachi:

Again you display your embarrassing naivety.
So in your addled brain disciplining a child caught watching porn is passing judgement?
Anyway clowning is allowed! But do your best to steer clear of kids. You have no business anywhere near kids.
Parenting is a lot more than just fooling around as a confused adult which you obviously are.
Sadly at this age in your life you still need a guardian to put you through life. You missed a lot growing up and I am not about to start teaching a man child like you what he needs to know at this age.
You really really need to grow up. Time waits for no man.
If watching porn is OK, why was he hiding?
Why was he begging her to avoid telling his father?
Please go back to your parents and spend another ten years to learn how to train your kids! You are a disaster waiting to happen.
If a child is curious he should ask his parents. Now I bet you would have hugged him if after watching porn he goes out to rape a girl. I am sure will support him and blame it on his curiousity.
The lad knew watching porn was wrong which is why he was hiding!
It is a different kettle of fish if he asked his parents for an explanation on some sex related issues and they beat him up for it.
A curious child would have been watching porn in the full glare of his parents innocently.
If Na my pikin I go flog am well well. After which I will sit him down and have a heart to heart talk.
I won't wait until he starts visiting prostitutes or raping girls before I start disciplining him.
And mind you, pastors children are never the worst.

Could you stop ranting for once and tell the naira land family how you heard or got talked to about sex?
That was the question I asked you but your holiness wouldn't let you comprehend it.

We are just a parallel line that can never meet. But I feel sorry. I mean really sorry for any kid that that will point to you as his or her father. Because your kinda of person is who we see every day. You said one thing and act differently. And when the whole thing got blown open, people will be like " oh we thought he was a good father, "

I'm very well thanks.

Richy4:


My dear he quoted me,wrote a lot of things that meant nothing. I asked him a question he didn't answer instead he was ranting

I guess he is one of the naira land lunatic roaming around every section displaying their ignorance on social media
I have clearly seen between me and him, we are world apart. And I have no time for his kind.
By the way how are you today ?

Richy4:


Could you stop ranting for once and tell the naira land family how you heard or got talked to about sex?
That was the question I asked you but your holiness wouldn't let you comprehend it.

We are just a parallel line that can never meet. But I feel sorry. I mean really sorry for any kid that that will point to you as his or her father. Because your kinda of person is who we see every day. You said one thing and act differently. And when the whole thing got blown open, people will be like " oh we thought he was a good father, "

Have you finished exposing your lack of common sense?
I should be having this conversation with your parents.
Honestly they have a lot of explanations to make about how they raised a deeply damaged person like you who sees porn as a means of sex education for kids.
Please hand over all kids under your care to competent authority before you harm them.
waiting for your parents....

dinachi:

Have you finished exposing your lack of common sense?
I should be having this conversation with your parents.
Honestly they have a lot of explanations to make about how they raised a deeply damaged person like you who sees porn as a means of sex education for kids.
Please hand over all kids under your care to competent authority before you harm them.
waiting for your parents....

I now realised that I was chatting with a local champion. Who thinks beating a kid for watching adult movie was the key for discipline.

I am happy you are only displaying this ignorance on Nigerian social media where no one will take it upon themselves to lecture you on child right and where there are no laws for child protection in place where an adult bully like you in the name of a" father"will beat up a kid for no reason.

Do not think it was a way to go when you step outside the shores of Nigeria. Because it will be a rude surprise for you. Before you knew what was happening, you will be cooling off in jail. That 's just an advice.
I think you should get exposed a little more. Village life is not always good for a man who was born to rant.
Staying with exposed people and how they do their thing will help the narrow minded nature of yours big time.

I am done having this chat with you sir because a narrow minded person thinks in a parallel way. I can't stoop a bit lower than I have already done just to make you understand but your village mentality is just the hendrance here and can not handle it.

Going further with you on this matter will be like watching a paint dry.so Have a good day.

dinachi:

Are you for real?
So if a child is curious about sex, watching porn secretly in his room is the way to go?
With this kind of thinking, children are not safe around you!
What happened to asking questions?
When a child begins to watch porn, he is no longer curious he is now learning how to objectify women as sex symbols.
I bet you and cococandy as parents would have gladly finished watching the porn with him and maybe even remove your clothes and perform your love making acts in his presense to satisfy his curiosity!
God save kids from your likes!

Richy4:


You really really need some growing up to do.
Stop acting holier than Pope himself. It is your type that preaches super holy and do the otherwise in secret.
And FYI I hated your type with passion.

Here is a kid who really needed information, and the best you can think is beat him up. Don't you know that education is the key? Besides how do you yourself learn about sex. And please don't even say it came naturally.

No wonder people say pastors kids are the worst sets of kids ever produced. Why wouldn't they say that when they have the likes of you putting on the holy robe and ready to pass judgment on a kid who doesn't know why his body is functioning the way it does. Knowing fully well that teenagers are in a confused stage in life and needed guidance.

And as for your comments about kids not being safe with me, I will simply let a low life judgemental person like you pass today because it was the first time you got into my space. And it was your first offence but Make sure it doesn't happen again.

You guys have issues

There is no difference between watching porn and looking at a person with lust.

People start having lustful thoughts at a very young age... that means everyone has watched porn at a point in their lives...

The sexual urge is a natural feeling and if you don't teach and control your children about sex.. They will learn it naturally and practise away from home.

Richy4:


I now realised that I was chatting with a local champion. Who thinks beating a kid for watching adult movie was the key for discipline.

I am happy you are only displaying this ignorance on Nigerian social media where no one will take it upon themselves to lecture you on child right and where there are no laws for child protection in place where an adult bully like you in the name of a" father"will beat up a kid for no reason.

Do not think it was a way to go when you step outside the shores of Nigeria. Because it will be a rude surprise for you. Before you knew what was happening, you will be cooling off in jail. That 's just an advice.
I think you should get exposed a little more. Village life is not always good for a man who was born to rant.
Staying with exposed people and how they do their thing will help the narrow minded nature of yours big time.

You were certainly EXPOSED to incompetent parenting! Stay away from kids, sicko!

GodMode:




You guys have issues

There is no difference between watching porn and looking at a person with lust.

People start having lustful thoughts at a very young age... that means everyone has watched porn at a point in their lives...

The sexual urge is a natural feeling and if you don't teach and control your children about sex.. They will learn it naturally and practise away from home.

Wrong! wrong! wrong!
There is a lota difference between watching porn and looking at a woman lustfully. Watching porn makes kids to develop unhealthy sexual appetites. Remember porn is acted.
A kid who starts watching porn at an early age will most likely see women as sex objects not as equal humans that needs to be respected, cared for and nourished in love.
Whe he cant get girls to act out his fantasy, he resorts to rape or starts sleeping with his sisters.

Sighs... This 1 is hard...

Start by praying that was his first time of watching it, else your problem just got bigger cuz he might already be addicted and if he his, no hiding of laptop or phone or changing of school will help... So pray...

Now as to beating him, well u have beat me, now draw him close and explain why you beat him... Be honest with him and tell him all needs to know about sex and how porn is the wrong impression of what sex is meant to be... At this point you have to draw close to him more than ever because he's at the age of experimentation so u need to be deeply involved with him...

As for telling his father, tell it to him only when he's calm den explain to him to be also involved in your son's sex education... Right now he needs you both more than you know...


My 2 cents

dinachi:

Wrong! wrong! wrong!
There is a lota difference between watching porn and looking at a woman lustfully. Watching porn makes kids to develop unhealthy sexual appetites. Remember porn is acted.
A kid who starts watching porn at an early age will most likely see women as sex objects not as equal humans that needs to be respected, cared for and nourished in love.
Whe he cant get girls to act out his fantasy, he resorts to rape or starts sleeping with his sisters.

I'm not wrong... That's my opinion.. Respect it

The sexual appetites are already there without porn.. Stop living in denial

Fourteen y old watching porn.... That's something.... Well, let's face it; for you to have caught him , its not his first time watching it. As we all know once you go black you can never go back, you have a whole lot of work to do If you mean business,
- Step up your parenting game by first being a better example for yo boy
- That act denotes he's not religious upright enough, so you gotta step that up a notch
- It also denotes he has too much time for himself, so, his tasks, domestic and academic needs an upgrade
Before the aforementioned actually;
- He needs lecture, tell him sex is not all that rosy, and the implication of having it is much more than porn artistes paint it.
-dont try to lie to him or create a non-existent myth tho, He knows much more than you can imagine already
In conclusion sha, Get him more life impacting books to read, buy him science-fiction based movies, monitor who his friends are etc. In short be a better parent!

It is not news that teenagers are now addicted to porn. The Solution is not beating, neither is it turning a blind eye. Because you did same things as teenagers does not mean then same habit should be ignored. We have the responsibly as parents, guardians, siblings and relatives to raise our kids/wards in the best manner not withstanding our past mistakes.

Please check this link for practical ways to break this bad habit. It actually works!

[https://teensnest./2015/08/06/porn-addiction-side-effects-and-how-to-quit/]

When I first started computer lessons at 11, I paid the instructor who owned the cafe to let me used the Internet even though I did not know how, the first thing I did was search for "blue film".

It's a normal teen curiosity especially when you hear it from friends or young adults doing/talking about it. You should deal with it by looking back into your own childhood and the things you did back then. Not saying it's right for him to be watching it but the way you guys dey carry matter for una head mehn, chill out. Just talk to him, have you even had the "talk" with him in general?

Durent:
@OP, Durin ur teens didn't u watch it? abeg free dat kid, me am 12Yrs and watch porn nd nobody fit do me anytin, i blame da boi sef, he is nt sharp enough

God bless you my man leave the smal boy na him gt he life wen u be he mate you no dey watch porn but dey Bleep den free de smal boy

carus001:
God bless you my man leave the smal boy na him gt he life wen u be he mate you no dey watch porn but dey Bleep den free de smal boy

Bless u too

Deliverance he needs
Talking from experience cos neeger was once an addict

Op - would you prefer he goes ra...pre some chick to satisfy his urges?

Abeg, return the laptop and start looking for a wife for him!.

Thanks my wife..
I will size the laptop when i come back from my trip...

Jnr ooo ni oro gboo..