This is perfectly normal for a 14 year old boy!

It does no harm whatsoever and this is despite the efforts to prove otherwise by many fake religious zealots etc.

Explain calmly to him that porn is fantasy and not real and while casual sex is fun if done carefully (i.e. with protection) and mutual respect it is much better in a proper relationship.

I would be MUCH more concerned at the beating and mental abuse inflicted on the child.

How is buying the little lad a laptop help in his studies? There are tons of textbooks, dictionaries and pedias to buy for him. In fact, i don't even support buying a secondary school dude a multimedia phone. If u feel like u need to be in contact with him. Buy Nokia touch. Believe me, kids don't need friends to negatively influence them cause the internet has taken the couch. Spend more time with him, be his friend, tell him to invite his friends over so that u will get to know them better. And again, u need to tell ur husband about it. At this stage in the boys life, he's passing through a crucial stage. He needs your support. Changing school won't solve the problem cause evil is everywhere.
Shalom

zinachidi:
free the lil guy na.. Nawah,, pesin dey enjoy himself abeg...

14 YEAR OLD

No time to start lamenting, you should teach him all he needs to know about sex and its implications....then you keep him in prayers. it is well with him.

Instead of you to be happy you saw him watching porn....what if you saw him fucking or masturbating, what will you do, you will tell his great grand parent abi?

Stop dis sign of end times its not pleas its not today bad things started happening. He comited a sin and should be purnished but its not in any way a sign of end tims and as a matter of fact dere is nothing like end times

ConfessionsNgr:
What could have made my teenage son interested in sex at his age when he should be serious with his studies? He is 14-years-old and in SS1. This is a boy brought up in a good Christian home. Maybe the mistake was the laptop his dad bought for him. We had thought it will aid him in his studies but he is using it for something that could destroy his future. I’m so sad about it. That night, I was hearing some sound from his room around 11PM and I could understand what it meant. So I tip-toed to his room and saw him engrossed in the porn movies he was watching. I was so furious; I beat him and seized his laptop. I later got to know he was introduced to porn by a class-mate of his. I told him I’m changing his school. He has been begging me not to tell his dad when he returns from his trip but I feel his father should be aware of the whole thing. Parents out there, how can I check this situation?


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SORRY YOU CAME TO THE WRONG PLACE TO SEEK FOR ADVICE!

Well, he's getting into his adolescence stage in life and has reached his puberty, things like this is common with kids in that age bracket... The world has evolved and this aint fading away, just sit him down and discuss as a friend with him and tell him where he should channel his energy and time to... Kids understand better when issues are related to them in a friendly way.

U don't need to make it public man. Is no crime if u can handle that privately. He doesn't even care how u role on the mother and.......

Just do Wetin ur mind tell u... as a mother u hear d sound of bf from afar and still code its bf to d xtent u tip toe to caught d nigga ... I hail ur sensitivity .. Who knows u must have watched varity of porn when u are at ur youthful age

The society is changing for bad. I didn't use a phone until almost a year after my senior WAEC exams. SS1 boy with a laptop is not bad. It is done in America, but you have to be ready to welcome the morality of the average American in your home. My kid won't use a laptop in SS1, I will get a general desktop for them at that age.

Time end of sign

I just hate this NL when it comes to Advise. ....not NL but some useless comments from useless pples

Try and go to oyinbo website you will learn more....

Thump up to the pple that hv Advise her well

Thoniameek:
Whatever he's doing now is out of curiosity, it's the age. And you have to understand that

They should be some sort of male figure in his life; a father, an uncle, big brother, an older friend (browda), grandpa or even a witty aunt that could help you talk to him about sex in general, but if you can handle it; do it!

Tell him it is not the right time to experiment with that skin dangling in between his legs as that is not what makes him a man..... What makes him a man is being able to defend himself intellectually and physically among his peers and being able to protect what ever is put in his care

Since he's already a good Christian boy, he knows what the bible says already; spare him that, rather give him practical ways to deal with lust and the benefits it brings afterwards. You can as well ask him to study the life of Joseph for instance.

Btw; I recommend this book to you "Modern Parents, Vintage values" by Melissa Trevathan & Sissy Goff.

Nice one here thumbs-up *winkz

Your beautiful tho; miss Thoniameek

This is what happens when parents shy away from teaching their wards/children Sex Education.


He must learn it.....but be the one to teach Him not His Peers.

ConfessionsNgr:
What could have made my teenage son interested in sex at his age when he should be serious with his studies? He is 14-years-old and in SS1. This is a boy brought up in a good Christian home. Maybe the mistake was the laptop his dad bought for him. We had thought it will aid him in his studies but he is using it for something that could destroy his future. I’m so sad about it. That night, I was hearing some sound from his room around 11PM and I could understand what it meant. So I tip-toed to his room and saw him engrossed in the porn movies he was watching. I was so furious; I beat him and seized his laptop. I later got to know he was introduced to porn by a class-mate of his. I told him I’m changing his school. He has been begging me not to tell his dad when he returns from his trip but I feel his father should be aware of the whole thing. Parents out there, how can I check this situation?


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I don't get the hulla balloo, seriously, I don't! You should be thankful that in a 21st century world infused with immoralities,impiety,lewdness,profanity and a lecherous populace. All u caught your 14yr old son doing was watching porn, some 14yr olds are already maestros in the act sef. You must know and consider the probability that for a child well brought up according to You and seeing porn at his age, he prolly has a block-bursting libido and you should help him curtail it by making him BUSY! Moreso, I just think its the perfect time to introduce sex education to your kid. Goodluck and God bless

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Pray about it and talk to the boy, make sure you Lead him to Christ, preach to him and make sure he hears the whole Gospel truth about what he his doing to himself and the Gravity of sin he is committing!

Its apparent that as people grow-up they forget how their earlier stage was. Madam its called. Puberty and combined with d internet=experiments.
What to do:
*put restrictions on the sites the child's fone and laptop can access.
*put restrictions on the type. Of movies and shows they can watch.
*put them in the Right perspective regarding sex. That's y kids ve guidiance nad counselling in school.
SS1 don old so stop fussing cuz I'm sure many ppl here had come across better lover and *colored*movies b4 that stage. Talk with the child after d punishment and find a way to mke it unattractive 4 him to continue. P.s:if u r. Computer savy, check tru the pc to identify how those Files got in I.e, usb blutooth or web. This will enable u knw hw he gets his supply. Also check for hidden folders and u can mke it a habit to tidy up his room with him and borrow His pc so u can check it out

if this has been going on for some time and the child has been clearly warned about using the computer to look at porn and no other efforts at education, training, and guidance have been persuasive than a flogging may be required. Right now it doesn't seem quite the time yet to have to flog him. Probably now what is needed to take the computer away from and if he needs it for school-- supervise him while he is using it and do so until he shows he can be trusted

One thing you must be careful of is that the spanking itself doesn't reinforce the child's attraction to porn.

lagmostkuit:
Give him sex education, talk to him like he's ur son...

Tell him d good side of sex and d bad side, let him know implications of watching porn at his age.



It's not about reporting him to his father..

Meanwhile d father is wondering what website say na orobo or big yansh film.

Porn is like. A drug once taste the urge. Will always be there.

Noting u can do.but threathen him

14 I was in SS1 leading my gang of friends already had two ex-girl friends chasing Taye to make her my date. Today by God's grace residing and working in PH.

Opin aye tide finally, You have to change his school because your talking to his senses might not yield anything due to bad friends in school.

Before you know it he becomes an addict in masturbation.

ConfessionsNgr:
What could have made my teenage son interested in sex at his age when he should be serious with his studies? He is 14-years-old and in SS1. This is a boy brought up in a good Christian home. Maybe the mistake was the laptop his dad bought for him. We had thought it will aid him in his studies but he is using it for something that could destroy his future. I’m so sad about it. That night, I was hearing some sound from his room around 11PM and I could understand what it meant. So I tip-toed to his room and saw him engrossed in the porn movies he was watching. I was so furious; I beat him and seized his laptop. I later got to know he was introduced to porn by a class-mate of his. I told him I’m changing his school. He has been begging me not to tell his dad when he returns from his trip but I feel his father should be aware of the whole thing. Parents out there, how can I check this situation?


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I think you need to ignore his wishes and inform his father. You spanked him for it and took his laptop. Give it back to him. Set clear rules about how and for what he uses it. Supervise him when he uses it; monitor it and don't do it behind his back and as he gains your trust relax the level of supervision

I've said it before and I will still repeat it here. Parents these days are raising a lot of douche bag kids. I mean this present century kids virtually are exposed to violent video games like grand theft auto at 10yrs. By age 12 they've started watching violent porns. Porns that even I as an adult haven't had access to. Am scared of this new generation to be frank.

Durent:
Thonia u're pretty

durent,, i dey scope u oo,,. Na so u dey do ur own neh?

goldfish80:
I've said it before and I will still repeat it here. Parents these days are raising a lot of douche bag kids. I mean this present century kids virtually are exposed to violent video games like grand theft auto at 10yrs. By age 12 they've started watching violent porns. Porns that even I as an adult haven't had access to. Am scared of this new generation to be frank.

or are u sure u are regretting not watching it when u were young

I pity you woman,later he will practice it with his sister or a neighbour who is 2,3,or 4 years old,then you would know the bestthing to do,or would you like if you go visiting him in prison for 14yrs?better advise him,seize laptop,dnt bother to give him again,if you give him later he will still be tempted to watch and he will watch the homosexual ones too,so the destruction is just near you madam,if you dnt want blood pressure from now that wont make you reap your labour caution your boy well and pray hard,that road of perversion is highly deadly and destructive,dnt ever listen to nairalanders telling you he is acting out of curiousity,be warned.