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Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by ModiKen(m): 9:08am On Aug 12, 2015
Bibidear:
Try talking to him abt sex and the harmful aspect

Well said.

Dats the only way, not beating.

However, its her fault he is in this mess.

If she had taught him about sex and d harmful aspects especially watching of porn, when his classmate brought up the mata he would have just laughed and told him, my mum already told me about it and its very very harmful.

Even if his friend tries to convince him that porn isn't harmful, I'm guessing he would rather believe his mum than his friend.

Advice to all parents or potential parents, sex education for kids begins at 2 years of age

Tell you child not to let anyone touch his/her privates except mummy and that should be when she is bathing him/her.

From there, u gradually upgrade the teaching. Every age has what it could be taught about sex and its dangers.

A friend of mine had a very strange experience.

He saw his sperm for the first time on his shorts (nika), out of fear, he ran to the sitting room to show his dad the "strange occurance".

And the dad was entertaining a few friends dat day. You can imagine the embarrassment the dad felt on seeing what his son was showing him.

But if he had taught him about what was to come as he gets into puberty, that incident wouldn't have happened.

Same with mothers.

Some mothers don't talk to their daughters about menstruation and all that comes with it. When the young girl comes of age and out of ignorance gets pregnant, the mother starts swearing heaven and earth.

NOTE: Parents endevour talk to your kids about sex from the moment they can count numbers and alphabets.

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Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by ollysaint(m): 9:10am On Aug 12, 2015
oga oooo.... 14yrs old pikin?
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by litaninja(m): 9:48am On Aug 12, 2015
so you feel he wouldn't have access to porn without a laptop? Also, is watching porn actually "very very harmful"?
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by jeremiah505(m): 9:53am On Aug 12, 2015
Durent:
@OP, Durin ur teens didn't u watch it? abeg free dat kid, me am 12Yrs and watch porn nd nobody fit do me anytin, i blame da boi sef, he is nt sharp enoughgrin

hell fire candidate...
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by 3kay945(m): 9:56am On Aug 12, 2015
Only if guys here can sincerely say exact age they started watching porns lipsrsealed


Well, the dad must be told and together they can instill proper training. The young dude must not get addicted to it now and its difficult stopping guys from watching porns sha.
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by Nobody: 9:59am On Aug 12, 2015
Bibidear:
Try talking to him abt sex
u get sense jare. The boy is a teen not a baby (puberty ish)
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by 3kay945(m): 10:05am On Aug 12, 2015
ollysaint:
oga oooo.... 14yrs old pikin?

Its 14 not 9....
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by Desgidi(m): 10:05am On Aug 12, 2015
He is a boy...whether u spank him or not he will see the movie again and again...changing is school will b the worst of it...he might even indulged in smoking in the next school... just allow the father talk to him about sex..


bottom line::: A man will always b a Man
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by soropee: 10:08am On Aug 12, 2015
@ op, seizing his laptop won't solve the issue at hand but rather a holistic approach will do the needful. If I may ask, have you had a sex education talk with your son lately? If no, it is high time you do so. At this stage, you don't need to hide anything from him, tell him the Pro's & Con's of it all. It is now in his hands to choose between good or bad.

Moreso, do not tell his father for now,since he has being begging you,if you do. You'll betray the trust he has for you, except his father will keep it to his chest. Try to win back his trust by telling him to always confide in you no matter how dirty or bad the issue might be. This will help you in keeping a tab on him & also avoid such heartbreak.
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by statusnet(m): 10:23am On Aug 12, 2015
First of all, changing his school would be a waste of time and energy. No matter which school you take him to, porn or adult contents would still be discussed among his peers. Teenagers are curious and I dont blame them, it's a transition from childhood to adulthood.

Secondly, seizing his computer wont be of much help because porn is everywhere. From magazines to dstv to even DVDs. If you are so concerned about him watching it then I suggest you ppl live like you were in the 1700s, but doing so would push your kids out of the house and this would lead to more harm.

Thirdly, the best advise I can offer you is to talk to him about sex because punishing won't change anything, also tell the father only if he is understanding. He's curious, he needs to know this but also tell him the negative consequences of watching porn at a young age.

ConfessionsNgr:
What could have made my teenage son interested in sex at his age when he should be serious with his studies? He is 14-years-old and in SS1. This is a boy brought up in a good Christian home. Maybe the mistake was the laptop his dad bought for him. We had thought it will aid him in his studies but he is using it for something that could destroy his future. I’m so sad about it. That night, I was hearing some sound from his room around 11PM and I could understand what it meant. So I tip-toed to his room and saw him engrossed in the porn movies he was watching. I was so furious; I beat him and seized his laptop. I later got to know he was introduced to porn by a class-mate of his. I told him I’m changing his school. He has been begging me not to tell his dad when he returns from his trip but I feel his father should be aware of the whole thing. Parents out there, how can I check this situation?


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Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by fredleo95(m): 10:30am On Aug 12, 2015
Truth be told Madame OP, a lot of youngsters fall into this vice just about this age or even younger, but everything has a good and bad side which also reflects that everything happens for a reason..... you shouldn't blame the boy for what has happened... take corrective measures by Coming closer to your son, advice him and let him of the sexual aspect of life (i.e sex education) to prepare him for upcoming sex activities that will come up in time to come.... and from you his Mom>>>he'll adhere to the principles for life....Hopefully
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by macof(m): 10:34am On Aug 12, 2015
missbehave247:
sign of end time

Nonsense. You should learn about the romans who watched porn live on set as earlier as 300BC
Yet world never end

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Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by lurlah2014(f): 10:34am On Aug 12, 2015
I THINK HE IS NOT TOO YOUNG TO KNOW MORE ABOUT SEX, COS I THINK WHAT'S KILLING US NOW IS WE AS YOUTH THEN AS CHILDREN WERE NOT GIVEN THE OPPORTUNITY TO KNOW MORE ABOUT THE GOOD AND BAD OF SEX , AND ALSO WHEN ONE IS SUPPOSED TO START HAVING SEX CHILDREN
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by Desgidi(m): 10:37am On Aug 12, 2015
therealdeal10:
E is passing 2ru a stage in his lyf, u did d ryt tin by spanking him no need 2 tell his Dad cus he might jst do worst n trust me u dnt wnt dat 2 hapn. Seize his laptop 4 a while n change his skull n gv him a very strict warning of telling his dad if he shuld indulge in smtin lyk dat again. Dat shuld keep him grounded
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by conquerorsegun(m): 10:47am On Aug 12, 2015
Are u sure u want porn to be banned?
MzzTega:
Can't porn be banned in Nigeria?
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by greyce: 11:03am On Aug 12, 2015
D pretenders saying he shld be left alone r d same pple who wuld beat up d boy mercilessly if he were 2 be deir son
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by gabicon: 11:56am On Aug 12, 2015
ConfessionsNgr:
What could have made my teenage son interested in sex at his age when he should be serious with his studies? He is 14-years-old and in SS1. This is a boy brought up in a good Christian home. Maybe the mistake was the laptop his dad bought for him. We had thought it will aid him in his studies but he is using it for something that could destroy his future. I’m so sad about it. That night, I was hearing some sound from his room around 11PM and I could understand what it meant. So I tip-toed to his room and saw him engrossed in the porn movies he was watching. I was so furious; I beat him and seized his laptop. I later got to know he was introduced to porn by a class-mate of his. I told him I’m changing his school. He has been begging me not to tell his dad when he returns from his trip but I feel his father should be aware of the whole thing. Parents out there, how can I check this situation?


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What kind of a question is should you tell his father, of course you ought to training your ward is a collective effort of parents. You didn't say anything about giving your boy sex education so I guess u shy away from it, cos if u did porn n its consequences would have come up. Don't dialogue with your child train him if u feel a change of school will be better discuss it with your spouse and implement your decision. Furthermore find a hobby that will take his time and thinking, the less he thinks of porn n sex the less the temptation.
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by hiltino: 12:11pm On Aug 12, 2015
Hello OP,


Kindly follow this link..

[b]http://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/2013562?q=pornography&p=par [/b]


Step 1. Make prints of this article,
Step 2. Carefully read through and digest it with your husband,
Step 3. Let your son study it and have him do a presentation on this for both of you at home.

Check his associates possibly change his school. Be firm and mean it. Correct him lovingly. (*****Nip this vice in the bud while it is still early, else he will be plagued for life.




ConfessionsNgr:
What could have made my teenage son interested in sex at his age when he should be serious with his studies? He is 14-years-old and in SS1. This is a boy brought up in a good Christian home. Maybe the mistake was the laptop his dad bought for him. We had thought it will aid him in his studies but he is using it for something that could destroy his future. I’m so sad about it. That night, I was hearing some sound from his room around 11PM and I could understand what it meant. So I tip-toed to his room and saw him engrossed in the porn movies he was watching. I was so furious; I beat him and seized his laptop. I later got to know he was introduced to porn by a class-mate of his. I told him I’m changing his school. He has been begging me not to tell his dad when he returns from his trip but I feel his father should be aware of the whole thing. Parents out there, how can I check this situation?


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Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by julius2825(m): 12:18pm On Aug 12, 2015
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Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by ussy09(m): 12:40pm On Aug 12, 2015
End time child.
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by simdam500(m): 12:43pm On Aug 12, 2015
MzzTega: Can't porn be banned in Nigeria?

Seriously

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Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by Chestar5(f): 12:50pm On Aug 12, 2015
I wonder what in the world would have made me view porn even now, when am not crazy.....

The point is training really matters, real training ...parents should always teach their children about sex even at a tender age cos this world is developing fast and nothing is new under the sun....... Teach them to be internet safe, some of them unknowingly click on a porn site and den become captivated and trapped....so teach them to act wise in such situation.... My parents taught me well and am grateful to them... Buying a laptop for a 14yr old is not that bad as far as u ve trained him well to keep his morality stand firm.....

Thats my advice cool
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by daresimon(m): 12:53pm On Aug 12, 2015
Let the father be aware....but it doesn't have to come to Beating sha talk to him
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by Ruby2015: 2:31pm On Aug 12, 2015
wash his eyes with soap, he would never do it again. shocked
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by Bakass(m): 2:43pm On Aug 12, 2015
U AR A SHAME, U FAIL YOUR SON AND DISGRACE YOUR SELF, AND YOU THINK BRINGING IT TO NAIRA LAND IS THE BEST THING TO DO?
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by Israel5(m): 2:57pm On Aug 12, 2015
Kill it
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by RoyaleR(m): 2:57pm On Aug 12, 2015
ConfessionsNgr:
What could have made my teenage son interested in sex at his age when he should be serious with his studies? He is 14-years-old and in SS1. This is a boy brought up in a good Christian home. Maybe the mistake was the laptop his dad bought for him. We had thought it will aid him in his studies but he is using it for something that could destroy his future. I’m so sad about it. That night, I was hearing some sound from his room around 11PM and I could understand what it meant. So I tip-toed to his room and saw him engrossed in the porn movies he was watching. I was so furious; I beat him and seized his laptop. I later got to know he was introduced to porn by a class-mate of his. I told him I’m changing his school. He has been begging me not to tell his dad when he returns from his trip but I feel his father should be aware of the whole thing. Parents out there, how can I check this situation?


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ConfessionsNgr:
What could have made my teenage son interested in sex at his age when he should be serious with his studies? He is 14-years-old and in SS1. This is a boy brought up in a good Christian home. Maybe the mistake was the laptop his dad bought for him. We had thought it will aid him in his studies but he is using it for something that could destroy his future. I’m so sad about it. That night, I was hearing some sound from his room around 11PM and I could understand what it meant. So I tip-toed to his room and saw him engrossed in the porn movies he was watching. I was so furious; I beat him and seized his laptop. I later got to know he was introduced to porn by a class-mate of his. I told him I’m changing his school. He has been begging me not to tell his dad when he returns from his trip but I feel his father should be aware of the whole thing. Parents out there, how can I check this situation?


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Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by Codyt(m): 4:35pm On Aug 12, 2015
MzzTega:
Can't porn be banned in Nigeria?
See her mouth there.. Yes grin
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by babadee1(m): 4:35pm On Aug 12, 2015
ConfessionsNgr:
What could have made my teenage son interested in sex at his age when he should be serious with his studies? He is 14-years-old and in SS1. This is a boy brought up in a good Christian home. Maybe the mistake was the laptop his dad bought for him. We had thought it will aid him in his studies but he is using it for something that could destroy his future. I’m so sad about it. That night, I was hearing some sound from his room around 11PM and I could understand what it meant. So I tip-toed to his room and saw him engrossed in the porn movies he was watching. I was so furious; I beat him and seized his laptop. I later got to know he was introduced to porn by a class-mate of his. I told him I’m changing his school. He has been begging me not to tell his dad when he returns from his trip but I feel his father should be aware of the whole thing. Parents out there, how can I check this situation?


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For goodness sakes how can any responsible parent give a 14 year old his own laptop? Any computer and internet usage must be out in the open at that age. He's just growing into puberty and naturally will start getting curious about sex. It is your responsibility as a parent to guide him and educate him about the positive side of it. A laptop plus internet is a clear doorway to porn at any age. You should have educated him about sex before he found out about it from schoolmates in a negative way.

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