Toks2008:


come to think of it.

A maid washes my cloths and that of the baby

makes my food

runs errands for me

Always at my beck and call

makes the bed
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.will it be out of place if i start admiring her?

Yes and Yes its wrong let's look @ it dis way a man is never around nd de maid is a guy who does all de above mentioned and madam starts admiring him is it justifiable? U are just jusstifying. Cheating any man who can sleep. With his hux help can sleep with hi wifes sister sshikena

Haaa that one is a veeerrrrrryy big deal o

in Africa The mentality is still 1600 but it starts from you and I. Thank God you said your sons are domesticated.my brothers too are except the last born. No thanks to our mother aka don't touch him o.dont stress him o.his my baby. If you tell him to sweep he will be doing hand like Cray fish

Bottom line is if all mothers can think like you the world will be a better place

tearoses:


My dear, thats why I said we need to encourage a totally different approach
These same men in Nigeria, suddenly develop pecs when they travel out and you see them pushing buggy and shopping for chicken and bokoto at the market.
How many of us here have housemaids?
At most people have cleaners who come once a week for a few hours . . and thats even a luxury.
How do we survive here? We survive because all hands are on deck

yesterday during my evening walk, a man drove past us. A few metres up the road, he was getting his baby out of the car and carrying baby in car seat and balancing babys bag. Maybe his wife is at work. Baby needs to be picked up, so who else to do it but him?

Its the mentality that needs to change.
Train the boys to be useful and house trained. If they have been trained well from the onset, then they wont have a problem rolling their sleeves up and starting dinner if their wives are stuck in traffic.
its a vicsious circle and we need to stop it. Charity begins at home and a boy brought up to be tidy, can cook and be houseproud, will not put his feet up on the table while his wife is sweeping unfer his feet.

SexyStrawberry:
OP God bless u, I have seen a deacon in the church who is bleeping his wife's best friend! u can imagine that! So why can't men bleep their house helps if the opportunity sets itself, I must say the ladies out their who thinks their husband wouldn't do such are gullible! Men are moved by what they see, no matter how saintly he is, women are moved by what they hear! Men and women are not the same! unless ur trying to say that ur husband is Jesus Himself! as in no be normal human being. A woman can see and appreciate a good looking man, but that is as far as it gets as long as her hubby is satisfying her all round, unless he is falling short in some ways b4 she will start misbehaving, I am talking about a well mannered woman o, not the loose ones, but for men, no matter how many styles u give him in bed tonight, as long as he is seeing a well shaped Ukwu moving around d house untouched, he would want to have a taste of that one as well! And God punish u that Ukwu is tighter than urs, ur own don finish be that! Men with a very very strict self control are like 1 out of 500. And as for employing house helps, me personally don't think I need them, even if I have a thousand kids, I am not a lazy woman! what can the house help do in my house that I can't do?! huh?

....Shush please!!...what are you even saying??.you are blessing the op yet your assertions about men are actually downright degrading,like they are some kind of unstable being with no self-control whatsoever..
..besides why dont you wait till you marry and have kids before blabbing on how you will be a super woman.Except you intend to sit your pretty bum at home waiting for him to provide for every single thing,i can assure you that it is impossible to work,take care of the children and the home and attend to your husbands needs..all alone.Thats how some of you will involve yourselves in tasks and situations you clearly cannot cope with only to start wailing later that you are overwhelmed..

...@topic,i am not surprised by the op's assertions,no be @Toks2008 again?..ladies really get time for the dude and his upside-down logic about women and relationships...onto the next thread biko.

Should we also stop employing 'mature' male drivers?

Lol...

I think y'all should just employ whoever you want to employ as long as he/she isn't a child - then deal with the my husband is a saint/my wife is like mother Mary theatrics after that.

If you don't employ a mature maid so as not to tempt your husband, are you also going to sack all the female colleagues your husband will most likely have a one to one contact with everyday in the course of working ? Most people spend far more active hours at work than in the house so what is one going to go about that one? Those ones will even look hawt,with Brazilian hair and smelling on point. And if you want to add the food part some don't mind cooking or getting lunch with him?abi is it not on NL that a lady was 'feeling sorry ' for her boss as his wife was not 'taking care of him'?

All these excuses for under age labour.if you want to go the 'helping pay the child's school fees' route there is no law that says they have to serve you as well leave them with their parents while you carry out your 'charitable ' work .If you also want to go down the 'paying for a service ' route just pay an adult a living wage.

OP is right on one thing though ,a maid is a human being too and I don't get why they should be seen as sub human just because you employ them?

We need to change our mindset on how we treat maids,nannies,drivers,security men and most domestic workers.

Ngokafor:






....Shush please!!...what are you even saying??.you are blessing the op yet your assertions about men are actually downright degrading,like they are some kind of unstable being with no self-control whatsoever..
..besides why dont you wait till you marry and have kids before blabbing on how you will be a super woman.Except you intend to sit your pretty bum at home waiting for him to provide for every single thing,i can assure that it is impossible to work,take care of the children and the home and attend to your husbands needs..all alone.Thats how some of will involve yourselves in tasks and situations you clearly cannot cope with only to start wailing later than you are overwhelmed..

...@topic,i am not surprised by the op's assertions,no be @Toks2008 again?..ladies really get time for the dude and his upside-down logic about women and relationships...onto the next thread biko.

[b]I'm glad that it was a lady that made the comment you responded to.

If you are married please do me a favor and save yourself the unneeded rhetorical masturbation.

If you are a man just go ahead and ask your wife to employ a sumptuous looking maid and if you are a lady just go ahead and do your hubby that favor of testing his morality and employ a sweet looking maid that will take over the key responsibilities of a wife and wait for a year or two before making comments here.

Yes its toks again and trust me, all my articles are very factual,realistic and unbiased and as i have reiterated many times that those who juxtapose my write ups with my personal life can as well believe that actors and actresses lifestyle is exactly the role they play in movies.

I am a prolific writer with a no holds bar mindset and whatever i write is MY OWN OPINION and contrary opinions should be expressed without any form of grudge or sentimentality towards any other opinion.That is the true text of intelligence.[/b]

Mumu thread! This family section is gradually turning into a joke section

Imagine someone portraying men as childish, weak,senseless;that cannot control himself once he is not given attention.

In short, with this your thread men are the weaker being with fish brain.

At Op, don't quote the bible upside down abeg,so if is your wife's siblings or even your daughter doing all those things you listed, you will pounce on her abi? Or because she is a helpless maid now,you must sleep with her, because you are visual being .This your thinking no make sense at all.

Blade21:
Yes and Yes its wrong let's look @ it dis way a man is never around nd de maid is a guy who does all de above mentioned and madam starts admiring him is it justifiable? U are just justifying. Cheating any man who can sleep. With his hux help can sleep with hi wifes sister sshikena

Of-course we have seen countless madams sleeping with male servants or maids,drivers.cook.gateman and even oga mechanic so its not gender specific.

However we all know except we want to pretend that its a cruel world of men where men do stuffs like philandering and get a pass mark for it while a lady does same and is ridiculed big time.

So trying to reverse the case is not the point here and any woman who see it as a good thing to sleep with the aforementioned should have a swell time but my point in this write up does not stop at just employing a lady house-help but transferring your wify duties to her.

Imagine me eating a sumptuous meal from a maid regularly and enjoying,apparently the way to a man's heart remains through his stomach

marbee:
Mumu thread! This family section is gradually turning into a joke section

Imagine someone portraying men as childish, weak,senseless;that cannot control himself once he is not given attention.

In short, with this your thread men are the weaker being with fish brain.

At Op, don't quote the bible upside down abeg,so if is your wife's siblings or even your daughter doing all those things you listed, you will pounce on her abi? Or because she is a helpless maid now,you must sleep with her, because you are visual being .This your thinking no make sense at all.

Please read carefully again and stop making bias comments. Learn to read and comprehend.

Toks2008:


Please read carefully again and stop making bias comments. Learn to read and comprehend.

I've read all what you are saying, so you will approach a helpless maid for se.x because she cooks delicious food?so when you impregnate her or she leaves you will also continue with d next maid abi?

Some maid will only agree because they are scared and helpless.You are thereby preying on the poor and needy which is wrong.

Stop giving reasons for cheating or adultery Or do you prefer the wife sits at home and not work because you want to be attended to like a child?

Exactly.... Imagine the nonsense.

Mindfulness:
So the solution is to employ kids instead of sending them to school so that men are not tempted because they are weak polygamous by nature?

marbee:


I've read all what you are saying, so you will approach a helpless maid for se.x because she cooks delicious food?so when you impregnate her or she leaves you will also continue with d next maid abi?

Some maid will only agree because they are scared and helpless.You are thereby preying on the poor and needy which is wrong.

Stop giving reasons for cheating or adultery Or do you prefer the wife sits at home and not work because you want to be attended to like a child?

All these sermons does not change the fact that a wife who allows a maid take over her kitchen should not cry foul if she takes over her bedroom.

Toks2008:


[b]I'm glad that it was a lady that made the comment you responded to.

If you are married please do me a favor and save yourself the unneeded rhetorical masturbation.

If you are a man just go ahead and ask your wife to employ a sumptuous looking maid and if you are a lady just go ahead and do your hubby that favor of testing his morality and employ a sweet looking maid that will take over the key responsibilities of a wife and wait for a year or two before making comments here.

Yes its toks again and trust me, all my articles are very factual,realistic and unbiased and as i have reiterated many times that those who juxtapose my write ups with my personal life can as well believe that actors and actresses lifestyle is exactly the role they play in movies.

I am a prolific writer with a no holds bar mindset and whatever i write is MY OWN OPINION and contrary opinions should be expressed without any form of grudge or sentimentality towards any other opinion.That is the true text of intelligence.[/b]

..Mr man what does being a prolific writer has to do with anything?the thing is stop propagating falsehood and giving silly excuses for adultery.

...This country is already riddled with stories of rape,molestation of female adults and minors alike by your gender..it is getting really worrisome,embarassing and pathetic.Your lame excuses on why men mis-behave is why these bad behaviour are increasingly more common..

..Instead of dissipating energy on women lecturing them on how to pamper,baby and nurse an out-of -control men whom your kind encourage...educate your fellow males on the virtues of self-control as ordained by God and man..Our morally-bankrupt soceity will be better for it.

..Gooday.

SexyStrawberry:
OP God bless u, I have seen a deacon in the church who is bleeping his wife's best friend! u can imagine that! So why can't men bleep their house helps if the opportunity sets itself, I must say the ladies out their who thinks their husband wouldn't do such are gullible! Men are moved by what they see, no matter how saintly he is, women are moved by what they hear! Men and women are not the same! unless ur trying to say that ur husband is Jesus Himself! as in no be normal human being. A woman can see and appreciate a good looking man, but that is as far as it gets as long as her hubby is satisfying her all round, unless he is falling short in some ways b4 she will start misbehaving, I am talking about a well mannered woman o, not the loose ones, but for men, no matter how many styles u give him in bed tonight, as long as he is seeing a well shaped Ukwu moving around d house untouched, he would want to have a taste of that one as well! And God punish u that Ukwu is tighter than urs, ur own don finish be that! Men with a very very strict self control are like 1 out of 500. And as for employing house helps, me personally don't think I need them, even if I have a thousand kids, I am not a lazy woman! what can the house help do in my house that I can't do?! huh?

Im surprised that haters of truth have not accused you that you are a man faking to be a woman.

Sometimes when i write deep articles like this im usually tempted to tag it for only married people and not people with little or no experience to just come in and start cursing and making mockery of themselves.

When i write im always careful never to generalize but because some people can noy comprehend that the word..MOST..means there are few ezxeptions,they will start rewriting exactly what i wrote thinking they are making sense.

Ngokafor:






..Mr man what does being a prolific writer has to do with anything?the thing is stop propagating falsehood and giving silly excuses for adultery.

...This country is already riddled with stories of rape,molestation of female adults and minors alike by your gender..it is getting really worrisome,embarassing and pathetic.Your lame excuses on why men mis-behave is why these bad behaviour are increasingly more common..

..Instead of dissipating energy on women lecturing them on how to pamper,baby and nurse an out-of -control men whom your kind encourage...educate your fellow males on the virtues of self-control as ordained by God and man..Our morally-bankrupt soceity will be better for it.

..Gooday.

I really enjoyed your super story.

I repeat..a woman who allows a maid takes over her kichen should be ready to also give up her bedroom for her.Shikena

Toks2008:


Im surprised that haters of truth have not accused you that you are a man faking to be a woman.

Sometimes when i write deep articles like this im usually tempted to tag it for only married people and not people with little or no experience to just come in and start cursing and making mockery of themselves.

When i write im always careful never to generalize but because some people can noy comprehend that the word..MOST..means there are few ezxeptions,they will start rewriting exactly what i wrote thinking they are making sense.

U know, I don't really care what they think of me here, when I see the truth, I would stand with it no matter what, most times I just read n stop myself from commenting cox its like when I comment, I see myself telling a 1yr old that there is chewing gum inside that stick of lollipop and she doubts and give me reasons why I don't know what I am saying or tell me that I am just blabbing. If u understand what I mean, that's how it is when u comment on Nairaland, that's y most times I stick to the fun sides of the forum. The ladies can say all they want, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, they can't shove their opinion down my throat just as I can't shove mine down their throats as well. OP, next time try to post things that aren't that serious, matured minds are not really much here. I am a woman, I had a mother who thought me to be a woman, we are 7 in my family, my mother never employed a house help, I have siblings who are twins, yet my mother never employed a house help, she did well in her family, and when it came to financial burden, my mother provided for her family more than my dad ever did, unfortunately I am not from a rich home, I am not ashamed to say it, not everyone are born lucky to come out from a wealthy family, werrin my papa been dey work sef? So my dear ladies who are saying I am blabbing till I get married, even if I am not married, I can learn from my mother how to be independent and hard working. Thank you.

SexyStrawberry:



U know, I don't really care what they think of me here, when I see the truth, I would stand with it no matter what, most times I just read n stop myself from commenting cox its like when I comment, I see myself telling a 1yr old that there is chewing gum inside that stick of lollipop and she doubts and give me reasons why I don't know what I am saying or tell me that I am just blabbing. If u understand what I mean, that's how it is when u comment on Nairaland, that's y most times I stick to the fun sides of the forum. The ladies can say all they want, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, they can't shove their opinion down my throat just as I can't shove mine down their throats as well. OP, next time try to post things that aren't that serious, matured minds are not really much here. I am a woman, I had a mother who thought me to be a woman, we are 7 in my family, my mother never employed a house help, I have siblings who are twins, yet my mother never employed a house help, she did well in her family, and when it came to financial burden, my mother provided for her family more than my dad ever did, unfortunately I am not from a rich home, I am not ashamed to say it, not everyone are born lucky to come out from a wealthy family, werrin my papa been dey work sef? So my dear ladies who are saying I am blabbing till I get married, even if I am not married, I can learn from my mother how to be independent and hard working. Thank you.

Hmmm honestly im short of words...

this is one of the most reasonable and mature posts i have ever read on nairaland.

Unleess Seun introduces age sections on nairaland we just have to cope with different age groups and their idiosyncracies.

If you pay the mother or father for the child to work for you, it is still child labor. Regardless of whether you hit them or not.

Child labor is using kids to make money.

It is different from just taking a ward that you want to look after not because you want the child to work for you. There must be no agreement that the child will work for you in any way.
The child should be like yours. No money should exchange hands. And no chores beyond her age as you would give your own child should be given to the child.

The primary aim in that is to take the child under your care. Whereas in child labor the primary aim is for the child to come and work for you. Even if you treat them well, it is still child labor as he or she is there to work for you.

SAMBARRY:
Child labour is when you slave under aged children and abuse them.

Some mothers are aware that their teenage sons are raping the house Maids and will turn a blind eye to it but the moment she gets pregnant they evict her without giving her 5naira or care about her welfare. That one is child abuse

but in a situation where you have an agreement between the parents of the child that I want your daughter to work for me from age 11-17.ill send the monthly salary to the parents and the parents help the child to save money for school fees and other things she will need in school. So as soon as she turns 18 she can leave your house and go to school. That is a form of employment not labour and you treat her like a worker including feeding her.

However you know nigerians like abusing things a lot. It was nigerian mothers that basterdized this house help thing that now made it look like child labour especially those who press hot iron on the back of children or pour pepper in their vaginas

Omo that peculiar society needs to do something about itself. Exploiting kids won't solve their problems.

SAMBARRY:
And you're talking as if you are not a Nigerian living in Nigeria

1.how many husbands will WILLINGLY join their wives in doing the house chotrs without the I'm the head of the home How dare you
2.coming back from work and having to deal with traffic and other hassles before you get home nko? At least the house maid will have prepared something for you to eat a bi will you start microwaving food you kept in the freezer
I'm not against house helps . It's not wrong as long as you pay them and treat them with dignity. They are also employed workers. It's child labour when you use them, don't pay for their services, abuse them and throw them out when they start developing hips etc

however they're necessary evils. You can't do without them in our own peculiar society

Nor be say they force the child or say you must work here whether you like it or not. Them no drag the child by force. The parents and the person will ask him or her. Do you want to work for me. They will break it down the way the child will understand. Eg if you work for me I'll pay your mummy and daddy and they will be able to help you pay your school fees immediately you leave my house. You will basically let the child know the terms and conditions

so if she says yes I will follow you fine but if she says no and you still drag her and bundle her into the car because you see she's small and helpless then that's wickedness

if you take care of her the way you should I don't see anything wrong however WITH HER CONSCENT not with coercion or threats

cococandy:
If you pay the mother or father for the child to work for you, it is still child labor. Regardless of whether you hit them or not.

Child labor is using kids to make money.

It is different from just taking a ward that you want to look after not because you want the child to work for you. There must be no agreement that the child will work for you in any way.
The child should be like yours. No money should exchange hands. And no chores beyond her age as you would give your own child should be given to the child.

The primary aim in that is to take the child under your care. Whereas in child labor the primary aim is for the child to come and work for you. Even if you treat them well, it is still child labor as he or she is there to work for you.

cococandy:
Omo that peculiar society needs to do something about itself. Exploiting kids won't solve their problems.

it is exploitation when you exchange kids to use to settle their parents debts and then turn the child into a slave
it is when you don't treat the child well and pay for his services. My mom had a house help who agreed to stay with us when we were young but she didn't dehumanise her . The parents often come to check on her to see whether ory not my mom was treating her well

another form of child exploitation is deceiving children with the knowledge of the parents and then you carry them into lagos and force them into prostitution. You put them in a small room, lock the door and be collecting money from men before you allow them sleep with 10year olds and then use the money to raise your own kids. Those are what I know as child exploitation IN MY OWN DICTIONARY.

Why should a child that is not yours come and live with you? For what. If he comes he will wash pots taya and his parents might not be aware. His hosts are likely to abuse him.

But that's the thing.

Can a minor legally give consent?

You think if their parents want to send them and they don't want to go, they have a will to say no to the parents and they will do as they say. They will mostly agree to whatever their parents say regardless of how they feel about it. That's why a child's consent is void. They mostly give consent even if they don't want to because an influential adult in their life is asking something of them.


And what kind of chores will a minor do that's supposed to relieve the household of stress anyway?
Cook? Na thirteen yr old wan cook the delicious meals to feed the whole family? I wonder how it will taste. Or do all the laundry? I couldn't even do that myself I won't lie. Much less a child.
Or send them to fetch water with heavy jerry cans on their head straining their fragile necks. (My mommy calls it reducing children's height )

a 14-15 yr old can babysit properly but that's just about it. Or sweep the house and do dishes.

Minors are still on their formative yrs. taking one under your roof is like adding a child to the number you already have. It's not supposed to relieve the family of work stress. If it does, that means the child is being given more that his fair share of chores.

SAMBARRY:
Nor be say they force the child or say you must work here whether you like it or not. Them no drag the child by force. The parents and the person will ask him or her. Do you want to work for me. They will break it down the way the child will understand. Eg if you work for me I'll pay your mummy and daddy and they will be able to help you pay your school fees immediately you leave my house. You will basically let the child know the terms and conditions

so if she says yes I will follow you fine but if she says no and you still drag her and bundle her into the car because you see she's small and helpless then that's wickedness

if you take care of her the way you should I don't see anything wrong however WITH HER CONSCENT not with coercion or threats

Let's agree to disagree kulyie.


But pls if you know anyone whose done anything like what you typed there, pls call the cops on them immediately. That one pass exploitation.
It's downright evil beyond words.

SAMBARRY:
it is exploitation when you exchange kids to use to settle their parents debts and then turn the child into a slave
it is when you don't treat the child well and pay for his services. My mom had a house help who agreed to stay with us when we were young but she didn't dehumanise her . The parents often come to check on her to see whether ory not my mom was treating her well

another form of child exploitation is deceiving children with the knowledge of the parents and then you carry them into lagos and force them into prostitution. You put them in a small room, lock the door and be collecting money from men before you allow them sleep with 10year olds and then use the money to raise your own kids. Those are what I know as child exploitation IN MY OWN DICTIONARY.

Why should a child that is not yours come and live with you? For what. If he comes he will wash pots taya and his parents might not be aware. His hosts are likely to abuse him.

The only thing he'll do is just sweep, and wash the dishes, run little little errands like collecting clothes from the dry cleaners and emptying the bin

if I cook all the soups down his own is to warm it before I come now that is not too much for a 12 year old to do.haba

cococandy:
But that's the thing.

Can a minor legally give consent?

You think if their parents want to send them and they don't want to go, they have a will to say no to the parents and they will do as they say. They will mostly agree to whatever their parents say regardless of how they feel about it. That's why a child's consent is void. They mostly give consent even if they don't want to because an influential adult in their life is asking something of them.


And what kind of chores will a minor do that's supposed to relieve the household of stress anyway?
Cook? Na thirteen yr old wan cook the delicious meals to feed the whole family? I wonder how it will taste. Or do all the laundry? I couldn't even do that myself I won't lie. Much less a child.
Or send them to fetch water with heavy jerry cans on their head straining their fragile necks. (My mommy calls it reducing children's height )

a 14-15 yr old can babysit properly but that's just about it. Or sweep the house and do dishes.

Minors are still on their formative yrs. taking one under your roof is like adding a child to the number you already have. It's not supposed to relieve the family of work stress. If it does, that means the child is being given more that his fair share of chores.

SexyStrawberry:



U know, I don't really care what they think of me here, when I see the truth, I would stand with it no matter what, most times I just read n stop myself from commenting cox its like when I comment, I see myself telling a 1yr old that there is chewing gum inside that stick of lollipop and she doubts and give me reasons why I don't know what I am saying or tell me that I am just blabbing. If u understand what I mean, that's how it is when u comment on Nairaland, that's y most times I stick to the fun sides of the forum. The ladies can say all they want, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, they can't shove their opinion down my throat just as I can't shove mine down their throats as well. OP, next time try to post things that aren't that serious, matured minds are not really much here. I am a woman, I had a mother who thought me to be a woman, we are 7 in my family, my mother never employed a house help, I have siblings who are twins, yet my mother never employed a house help, she did well in her family, and when it came to financial burden, my mother provided for her family more than my dad ever did, unfortunately I am not from a rich home, I am not ashamed to say it, not everyone are born lucky to come out from a wealthy family, werrin my papa been dey work sef? So my dear ladies who are saying I am blabbing till I get married, even if I am not married, I can learn from my mother how to be independent and hard working. Thank you.

Believe me, a whole lot of these young women here have almost the same story as yours regarding their upbringing - but trust NL, the foremost site for users who thrive on make-believe... they want to come off as people born into families of privilege where they had 10 house helps growing up, when in actual fact they had mothers who worked, raised kids, and kept the home-front without employing any maid nor bitching about having to do too much chores.

Folks from less-than-average backgrounds want to come here and act like Nigerian women only just started working long hours and still managing their home in this decade.

Love your piece.

cococandy:
Let's agree to disagree kulyie.


But pls if you know anyone whose done anything like what you typed there, pls call the cops on them immediately. That one pass exploitation.
It's downright evil beyond words.

there were people who used to do that as a thriving business till naptip got wind of it and arrested All those involved and in any case that's what nigerian child traffickers do.deceive the parents of the child


carry the child to lagos and force them into prostitution and then give their parents fake non existent address so they can't easily trace them and then the kids are forever lost in lagos with no one to help or anyone to run to because everyone around them are strangers

however reporting them to police will not make any difference because if you call the police and they get this child traffickers arrested, some of their people will still come and settle the police officers with money and then release these criminals and before you know it they've swept the matter under the carpet. That's why people don't report

even when you are trying to probe they will say which one be ya own. Your pikin dey among

LaRoyalHighness:
Exactly.... Imagine the nonsense.

the he females are already on the loose o

Toks2008:


All these sermons does not change the fact that a wife who allows a maid take over her kitchen should not cry foul if she takes over her bedroom.

yet you say that your little member down there doesn't work as your brain

this is the most senseless thread I have ever had the misfortune to come across in years.

I guess those women in the office should be sacked because the work with men with no self control.

how did your brain get so fvcked up

damiso:
If you don't employ a mature maid so as not to tempt your husband, are you also going to sack all the female colleagues your husband will most likely have a one to one contact with everyday in the course of working ? Most people spend far more active hours at work than in the house so what is one going to go about that one? Those ones will even look hawt,with Brazilian hair and smelling on point. And if you want to add the food part some don't mind cooking or getting lunch with him?abi is it not on NL that a lady was 'feeling sorry ' for her boss as his wife was not 'taking care of him'?

All these excuses for under age labour.if you want to go the 'helping pay the child's school fees' route there is no law that says they have to serve you as well leave them with their parents while you carry out your 'charitable ' work .If you also want to go down the 'paying for a service ' route just pay an adult a living wage.

OP is right on one thing though ,a maid is a human being too and I don't get why they should be seen as sub human just because you employ them?

We need to change our mindset on how we treat maids,nannies,drivers,security men and most domestic workers.

zeb04:
this is the most senseless thread I have ever had the misfortune to come across in years.

I guess those women in the office should be sacked because the work with men with no self control.

how did your brain get so fvcked up