melodies:
If the tables were turned and you were the one needing forgiveness and a listening ear, would you ask these questions? You r not the first man with an older wife in Africa! Don't subject your wife to mockery for nothing. Be kind!

Please in this situation, childbearing could b risky, adoption remains d option. Some biological kids turned out to murder their parents, while some adopted became d cornerstone of the parents. I wish you all d best in your decision.

Sagamite:


If I was Seun and owned this site, I would have given you like a month's ban for this your moronic and constant "Its LadyF again" in every first post you make on a thread.

Something tells me you are not mentally sound upstairs or you are one of those useless kids this junk site is attracting nowadays.

deadZONE:
U dey chop age?
my guy if e dey pain u divorce am
make we hear word....

EVILFOREST:

MY man, it depends entirely on, why u got married to her and what is obtainable....
PEOPLE get married for several reasons
1)companionship /help mate.
2)procreation.
3)Sociopolitical reasons.

Now these reasons have respective age groups accrued to them.
... For COMPANIONSHIP and PROCREATION... pls, go for a Very young lady, if possible VIRGIN at 22.
They are less likely to come down with subfertility maladies.

... For SOCIOPOLITICAL... The social class of the lady in question matters and not really how viable she is.
For e.g some matured men may crave to have patience ozokwor, just boost their political profile.

... For PROCREATION SOLELY... u must settle for a very young lady.

So my man, U made your choice, on the background of what you want. U just have to LIVE WITH HER, then consider ADOPTION..

Since she LIED to u, u can also keep a mistress and have your kids without informing her.

kpolli:


But this lie is something else, was she expecting to get away with it?

Dannyabu:
My Wife Lied About Her Age

Four years ago at 35, I married my wife, who I thought was 35. We both wanted children, but unfortunately, she had miscarriage in the second year and stillbirth in the third year. We began consulting a fertility specialist.

After she started asking questions, my wife admitted she is actually eight years older than she had led me to believe. She's 47 years old! She's cried and cried, begging for my forgiveness.

She's gone to try fertility treatments to get pregnant, but I don't want her to continue that for health reasons. I have forgiven her but as an African man; I'm NOT willing to consider the adoption option. She says, of course, that she feared I would walk away if I knew the truth, but she must have known it would come out sometime, somehow. I think I still love her, she is really a wife material, respectful, lovable and very industrious lady but I feel so betrayed! Letting a husband believe you're years younger than you are with all the implications for child-bearing, is a grotesque deception. Sometimes, I'm always wondering if some things she says are the truth. Moreover, after all the wahala and years in-between, her beauty has really waned. She now looks old! We have become butts of joke from neighbours and even strangers when they see us walking together. I look way younger than she is.

I think of getting another wife, but that has not been my person. I think of divorce, but where do I start? Have I wasted 4 years of my life just like that? We still have faith that miracles do happen. Our pastor has asked me to forgive her and move on, that my ability to forgive her will make her more loyal and obedient to me. She is a naturally good person, but for this act of deception.

Maybe if my wife had been honest with me from the beginning, knowing her age I would have adjusted my planning and expectations for children. But she lied. Should I prove her right in her assumption that when I found out the truth, I would walk away? Any thoughts on helping us get through this? I have given all my resources to make this marriage work.

I need matured and sincere advice please!

Sagamite:


If I was Seun and owned this site, I would have given you like a month's ban for this your moronic and constant "Its LadyF again" in every first post you make on a thread.

Something tells me you are not mentally sound upstairs or you are one of those useless kids this junk site is attracting nowadays.

Sagamite:


If I was Seun and owned this site, I would have given you like a month's ban for this your moronic and constant "Its LadyF again" in every first post you make on a thread.

Something tells me you are not mentally sound upstairs or you are one of those useless kids this junk site is attracting nowadays.

Sagamite:


If I was Seun and owned this site, I would have given you like a month's ban for this your moronic and constant "Its LadyF again" in every first post you make on a thread.

Something tells me you are not mentally sound upstairs or you are one of those useless kids this junk site is attracting nowadays.

chigoizie7:
Why has people refused to see the real life here?

This marriage was built on lies from the onset. And nothing built on lies can last.

How could she?

Pastor or no pastor, oga abeg find one pino pino sharp bae and knack her better belle.

If ur wife can lie to u all these while, then she should be ready to live with the consequences of her actions.


8yrs no be 8hrs bro, abi she no reason am say she gats bear kids for u?

enoqueen:
1. Forgive her and start making her feel love again like before. Stress make women age quickly.
She is now looking old cos she is sorry for the lies and afraid of what might happen later.

2. Get a young lady to marry and explain everything to her. Still treat her well.

Dannyabu:
My Wife Lied About Her Age

Four years ago at 35, I married my wife, who I thought was 35. We both wanted children, but unfortunately, she had miscarriage in the second year and stillbirth in the third year. We began consulting a fertility specialist.

After she started asking questions, my wife admitted she is actually eight years older than she had led me to believe. She's 47 years old! She's cried and cried, begging for my forgiveness.

She's gone to try fertility treatments to get pregnant, but I don't want her to continue that for health reasons. I have forgiven her but as an African man; I'm NOT willing to consider the adoption option. She says, of course, that she feared I would walk away if I knew the truth, but she must have known it would come out sometime, somehow. I think I still love her, she is really a wife material, respectful, lovable and very industrious lady but I feel so betrayed! Letting a husband believe you're years younger than you are with all the implications for child-bearing, is a grotesque deception. Sometimes, I'm always wondering if some things she says are the truth. Moreover, after all the wahala and years in-between, her beauty has really waned. She now looks old! We have become butts of joke from neighbours and even strangers when they see us walking together. I look way younger than she is.

I think of getting another wife, but that has not been my person. I think of divorce, but where do I start? Have I wasted 4 years of my life just like that? We still have faith that miracles do happen. Our pastor has asked me to forgive her and move on, that my ability to forgive her will make her more loyal and obedient to me. She is a naturally good person, but for this act of deception.

Maybe if my wife had been honest with me from the beginning, knowing her age I would have adjusted my planning and expectations for children. But she lied. Should I prove her right in her assumption that when I found out the truth, I would walk away? Any thoughts on helping us get through this? I have given all my resources to make this marriage work.

I need matured and sincere advice please!

ladyF:
Chai dis one worse pass football age scam

Its [size=20pt]LadyF[/size] again