Am I alone in this? Or has anyone else also noticed the frequency at which marriages and relationships fail before they even start?

I mean, it's surprising how u love someone one minute, u decide to marry d person, and the next thing u are falling apart.

It's simple. Aside pride and ego, the biggest problem is lack of communication. When you don't communicate u leave room for assumptions and then wrong conclusions.

You can not have a relationship with someone and have a best friend who knows you better than your partner. Once in a relationship, your partner should become your best friend, while you can have a second best if you wish.

What do you guys think?

*TheTruth*

very true. . Lack of communication between partners really affects relationships.. You think you both are in love but then you don't even know anything about your partner. .

People who engage in long distant relationships are really really strong.. Can't see my self into one.. .

Well aside communication which also a strong determinant.....there are other things that might seem trivia but can cause a relationship/marriage crumble like a pack of cards...take for instance clash of values and believe systems...incompatibility in certain areas...interference by friends and families...and a host of others...it's well.

Many people are now focused on what's in for them in a relationship than what they can contribute to it success. People don't want to commit as much as they expect or actually receive.

Relationships take a lot of work, compromise, and understanding. A lot of people are misled into thinking that the best way to avoid having to deal with dispute is to end the affair, not realizing that they will have to deal with the same issues in the next relationship.

We'd form much stronger bonds with one another if we each could show our partners that we cared so much for them that we'd be willing to experience anything as long as we experienced it together with them.

The foremost issue is for one to sought for inner happiness of one's self other than waiting for someone to provide them happiness. Everyone is responsible for their happiness so if you can't derive happiness within yourself no one else can secure it for you.

Lack of communication comes only when there's lack of trust

Relationships take a lot of work, compromise, and understanding. A lot of people are misled into thinking that the best way to avoid having to deal with dispute is to end the affair, not realizing that they will have to deal with the same issues in the next relationship.

You are very wise.

IMHO there are so many things that contributes to today's failing in r/ships and marriage, and sadly, lack of communication is far from the main culprit.

FIRST AND FOREMOST, the main reason why unions are failing today is because people today are going into r/ship and marriage for the WRONG reasons. family/religious/social/peer pressures have a big part to play in this madness. Nigerian society will be quick to celebrate marriages as the epitome of HAPPINESS, and therefore so many miserable people want to get married at ANY cost (even with the worst partner out there), foolishly believing that it would change their miserable state.

SECOND, in today's age, people live different lives, faster lives with different priorities. we cant compare the old days with today, its a different era. now more women AND men have the right to be themselves, are not afraid to be themselves, and go for what they desire without any care in the world what society believes. some women today are independent/liberated, they have good jobs and can take care of their own selves, unlike before when they had to stick to a man and depend on him for LIFE, or be viewed as "soiled good" (as soon as she was divorced) and rejected by society.

THIRD, i also blame society because men have never been better than these women, but "society" has for a long time accepted that men could fool around and not be judged for it. so it was all ok for these men to have mistresses and fool around (with total disregard for their union), just because their wives/gfs unwillingly accepted it as a way of "mens" life. now this same society has evolved and women today aint afraid to COPY what men have always been doing for all these years, but now it is a big deal, and most men cant take it.
many women of today have role models such as Rihanna, Beyonce, Kim K and Nicki Minaj, so what do you expect? lol

LAST BUT NOT LEAST, we can all see that the FOUNDATIONS used today in order to get into a r/ship or marriage are crooked, and therefore no wonder they dont stand the test of time.

MRBrownJ:
IMHO there are so many things that contributes to today's failing in r/ships and marriage, and sadly, lack of communication is far from the main culprit.

FIRST AND FOREMOST, the main reason why unions are failing today is because people today are going into r/ship and marriage for the WRONG reasons. family/religious/social/peer pressures have a big part to play in this madness. Nigerian society will be quick to celebrate marriages as the epitome of HAPPINESS, and therefore so many miserable people want to get married at ANY cost (even with the worst partner out there), foolishly believing that it would change their miserable state.

SECOND, in today's age, people live different lives, faster lives with different priorities. we cant compare the old days with today, its a different era. now more women AND men have the right to be themselves, are not afraid to be themselves, and go for what they desire without any care in the world what society believes. some women today are independent/liberated, they have good jobs and can take care of their own selves, unlike before when they had to stick to a man and depend on him for LIFE, or be viewed as "soiled good" (as soon as she was divorced) and rejected by society.

THIRD, i also blame society because men have never been better than these women, but "society" has for a long time accepted that men could fool around and not be judged for it. so it was all ok for these men to have mistresses and fool around (with total disregard for their union), just because their wives/gfs unwillingly accepted it as a way of "mens" life. now this same society has evolved and women today aint afraid to COPY what men have always been doing for all these years, but now it is a big deal, and most men cant take it.
many women of today have role models such as Rihanna, Beyonce, Kim K and Nicki Minaj, so what do you expect? lol

LAST BUT NOT LEAST, we can all see that the FOUNDATIONS used today in order to get into a r/ship or marriage are crooked, and therefore no wonder they dont stand the test of time.

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ronald4lif:
Many people are now focused on what's in for them in a relationship than what they can contribute to it success. People don't want to commit as much as they expect or actually receive.

Relationships take a lot of work, compromise, and understanding. A lot of people are misled into thinking that the best way to avoid having to deal with dispute is to end the affair, not realizing that they will have to deal with the same issues in the next relationship.

We'd form much stronger bonds with one another if we each could show our partners that we cared so much for them that we'd be willing to experience anything as long as we experienced it together with them.

The foremost issue is for one to sought for inner happiness of one's self other than waiting for someone to provide them happiness. Everyone is responsible for their happiness so you can't derive happiness within yourself no one else can secure it for you.

this about sums it up

TheTruth618:


Relationships take a lot of work, compromise, and understanding. A lot of people are misled into thinking that the best way to avoid having to deal with dispute is to end the affair, not realizing that they will have to deal with the same issues in the next relationship.

You are very wise.

I tell you

It's simple, the black man wants a "grown lady" (a reasonable female, a logical lady) and not this population of emotional crazy bittches that are eeverywhere nowadays. THERE ARE TOO MANY OVER GROWN BABIES IN AGED BODIES AND GUYS TRY TO TOLERATE IT BUT END UP NOT BEING ABLE TO TAKE IT ANY MORE.

ronald4lif:
Many people are now focused on what's in for them in a relationship than what they can contribute to it success. People don't want to commit as much as they expect or actually receive.

Relationships take a lot of work, compromise, and understanding. A lot of people are misled into thinking that the best way to avoid having to deal with dispute is to end the affair, not realizing that they will have to deal with the same issues in the next relationship.

We'd form much stronger bonds with one another if we each could show our partners that we cared so much for them that we'd be willing to experience anything as long as we experienced it together with them.

The foremost issue is for one to sought for inner happiness of one's self other than waiting for someone to provide them happiness. Everyone is responsible for their happiness so you can't derive happiness within yourself no one else can secure it for you.

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icedbeatz:
MY MY, can't you for once not say some real correct ish?? huh? you always making sense all the fking time man........hahahaahahaha no one could have opined it better. #realniggatalk thumps up G

I see you my G.