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Master Manipulators: How To Deal With Emotional Blackmail. by thankyouJesus(m): 9:43pm On Aug 28, 2015
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Emotional blackmail (psychological manipulation) is a very common occurrence in relationships - and some people are very good at it. These are the so called, "Master Manipulators" ... or "the wolves in sheep's clothing". Emotional Blackmail is a form of psychological manipulation, employing a mixture of threats, appeals and emotionally punitive behavior to control an intimate [relationship]. It may occur between parents and children, husbands and wives, siblings or close friends. (Wikipedia)
Psychologists and psychiatrists have many clients who are dealing with manipulation from their husbands, wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, parents, siblings, friends and others. Some of it is very severe manipulation, which can cause low self- esteem, anxiety, and depression. The question is, what do you do about it if you're the one being "blackmailed" by one of these master manipulators?
What to do...
First, it's important to realize that manipulators are experts at convincing their "victims" to give them more than they give in return. You may even feel good, at first, to have someone who treats you special, encourages you to share your deepest thoughts, and reveal your weaknesses. It's just natural to want (and need) someone who listens when we are down, vulnerable and in need of "connection". But, you must be able to recognize and admit there’s a problem before you can begin to find a solution. Here are some signs that you're being manipulated:
1. When you feel an imbalance in the level of self-disclosure between you and the other person in the relationship.
2. When you feel like you are always “on call” to assist your partner, spouse, friend, or sibling but he or she is not there for you when you are in need.
3. When you realize that his or her needs take precedence over your own.
4. When other friends begin to make pointed observations about the equity in your relationship with this person.

So, first – become aware you are being manipulated. Examine your relationships. Is there someone who is constantly pushing their agenda and trying to get you to side with them? Is there someone who always highlights how much they have done for you and how safe you are if you remain on their side? Perhaps someone who always badmouths others but swears they are only trusting you because you are so special? Are you may be doing things for other people you are not entirely comfortable with? Are you nervous if you sever the relationship with someone, it might cause you to lose on something or hurt you in any way? Dealing with manipulative people is difficult regardless of whether they are aware of their actions or not. The first step to dealing with these manipulators is to recognize that you are being manipulated, which is not always easy.
The next key, according to experts, is to set personal boundaries for yourself. Once you set a boundary, then it’s a matter of sticking to those boundaries and not wavering.
Blackmail types each with their own mental manipulation style:
1. Punishers - 'My way or the highway' is the punisher's motto. No matter what you feel or need, punishers override you
2. Self-punishers - "self-punishers cast their targets in the role of the 'grown- up' - the only adult in the relationship... supposed to come running when they cry"
3. Sufferers - sufferers take the position that "if you don't do what I want, I will suffer, and it will be your fault" (victim playing)
4. Tantalizers - Tantalizers are the most subtle manipulators, they offer nothing with a free heart.
6 major signs of manipulation in relationships:
1. A demand
2. Resistance
3. Pressure
4. Threats
5. Compliance
6. Repetition.

Again, the first key is to recognize the manipulator and the type of manipulation or emotional blackmail.
Then, it's critical to do something about it. The type of behavior you accept from people in life is entirely up to you and you must take control of your life and circumstances. If you need professional help to make it happen, then get it.
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Re: Master Manipulators: How To Deal With Emotional Blackmail. by popesam1(m): 9:53pm On Aug 28, 2015
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