bolajioginni:
Omo na beating your spouse sure passs ooo......

Your wife is in trouble

I use any of the above. As the spirit leads.

Am not married but i know that the bible gives the best advice for christian couples in resolving issues....so whatever the bible says we will do ...millions have done so and succeeded am sure it will benefit all

I allow her to fume and calm down, then give her some time and educate or enlighten her as a man. She happily accepts my opinions and apologies thereafter.


Just me and her. We talk it quietly. Why raise a voice on your spouse.?

kennynelcon:
Forgiveness
Tolerance
and Communication.


I'm not married anyway.

Well said.
Raised voices and apologies and then great sex. Damn! I LOVE my boyfriend

Basically, we practice open communication over every issue whether sweet or bitter, we don't keep malice, we have learnt to be humble to say sorry if one of us offends the other. We resolve all issues before the next day. Finally, Christ is the bedrock of our marriage, since we pray together in morning devotions and bedtime prayers in the night; We must resolve issues before we can pray.

lonelydora:
Just me and her. We talk it quietly. Why raise a voiceon your spouse.?

Usually raised voices means a lot of things.
1, expressing your pain or anger.
2, demanding to be heard.
3, raising your voice and controlling your body from physical fights.
4, etc. Thats for me tho. Dunno about others

Hmmmmmm, some men are not easy to pls no matter how hard you try. He will be at fault and still blame you and if you respond agrily, he will say look at you, you are just going to church for fun just because he is a muslim. I am usually fed up most times despite trying to take it easy, will i go dump all because i profess christ i dont get it but even right now aam very frustrated.

This is just a joke anyway.
But seriously, each couple know their best moment to resolve their issues. But like someone rightly said it's based on LOVE, TOLERANCE AND UNDERSTANDING.
Some issues can be left to hang over while some are ironed out immediately. But those 3 factors must be played when resolving disagreements.
Some people's best time could be late at night, while others could be early in the morning.
But my best time is during our FAMILY DEVOTION

Hmmmm. I usually get so angry when I know he is the cause of the conflict. I will do the initial female gragra bu sulking but before the end of the day, I usually call for a dialogue meeting where I bring up theissue and discuss it. I will point out why I feel wronged and then give him an opportunity to discuss his side. We both try and see things from the other's perspective. The wrong side is normally obvious at the end and there will be apologies. I have always maintained the promise of not going to bed with anger. It is not easy but it helps in the long run to swallow one's pride in family affairs. Need I Say more that we end the day with you know what.

lol...that thing works like shiit.

runzlord:
The children does not us. Looking at them, u can't just have issues.

This is just cool.

Lateralmaths:
Hello Niaralanders.

How do you resolve conflicts/disagreements in your marriage?

Do you discuss it quietly or with raised voices?
Do you listen so as to know what to say or do you listen to understand him/her?
Do you involve third parties?
Can people look at your face and discern that there is an issue between man and wife?
Do you approach conflict resolutions from 'my' or 'our' perspective?
At what point do you pray about the issue?

Pls let's discuss. You never know how helpful your comment could be to someone.

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Its simple... mind your business

Whichever way but he dares not raise his voice at me o......if not na double wahala

evegran:


Usually raised voice means a lot of things.
1, expressing your pain or anger.
2, demanding to be heard.
3, raising your voice and controlling your body from physical fights.
4, etc. Thats for me tho. Dunno about others

She detest raised voice no matter what the situation is for fear of neighbors hearing our voice, which i sometimes capitalises on to get my way.

It depends on the kind of spouse you have

What works for Mr A might not work for Mr B
So you need to study ur spouse very well to know what works for u.
Some men prefer you express ur anger /instead of keeping silent , while some men even encourage their wife to play mute,
With time u'll understand what works for your partner , that's why they say marriage is a school in which no one has ever graduated .
But communication is still the key

Avoiding 3rd party and saying am sorry in a solemn way with a hot smooch that will eventually lead to s...

you can finish it for me if it's ya business!

timilehing:
Some people don't just want to be happy in any relationship. No matter how hard you try to settle conflicts or minimize its occurrence, they won't yield. I do wonder if they're from Mars.

Taking from experience

Bro so true , some don't and won't admit their wrong doing instead they make it worse , I really do not understand what kind of soul they have , it's really not worth it to be in that situation only to just get out .its sickening

Once there is misunderstanding btw me and my hubby is either I keep silent because I know that he will surely come to apologize [i][/i]

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by ADR...mediation...or by dissolution....period

lonelydora:


She de-taste raised voice no matter what the situation is for fear of neighbors hearing our voice, which i sometimes capitalises on to get my way.

LOL! Funny man.

And it's "detest".

Seconded.... Quickly turned off the gas.... Waiting for the elders.

tchidi:


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what I do is simply stay clear from her at least for a week and then come back and settle the dispute








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Good suprising Se***xxxx!!!

...if you can make marriage work for 1-25years, living under the same roof. You're sure to be heaven bound....

Would leave d house wen she's barking like a....

Return leta wen she's calm.... Take her in and apologize (even tho she's at fault).

Then on d process of apologizing, would hold and kiss her (while she strugle to push me away firmly)

Then would carry her to bed, move her skirt or gown up, move d pant by d side and giv her a hot sex.....

Sumtyms wud hold her 2hands on d wall wit 1hand, hold her one leg on ma arm as she's standing on d wall then wisper into her ears (I'm sorry lov) then screw her on d wall. Case closed....

As tym passes, she enjoyed it and I noticed dat she wud deliberately provoke me so dat we wud quarrel and I would appologize and giv her such a romantic sex...


It was fun though....


But she was my babe and nt my wife.

A wise man once said : "I allow my wife decide on the 'big' issues while I decide on the 'small' ones". I then asked, which is 'big' and 'small'? He said: ' anyone I think is, there no particular one'. But most times anyone that my wife wants to make a meal of, is what I then regard as a 'big' issue. In that way, I reduce trouble to the minimal'. Another thought is from my pastor who said: "anything that is spiritual matter is decided by me and every other by my wife, so everyone knows their role". We can also disagree in some cases but ultimately, one person decides if it is their part".

Thank's for this opportunity.1.quietly. 2.listening. 3.third party!NO.4.NO!that's immature. 5.'our' of course.6.constantly.

I am sorry If I sound rude to interfere in your marital affair. Is your husband a Muslim or Mumeen ? Muslims are people who answered islamic names, claimed to be a muslim but never follow the instruction of Almighty Allah. While Mumeen are the one who follow the Almighty Allah with all their mind without compromising.
If your husband his a muslim then advice him to move closer to the hulla" I mean the muslim scholar " to enlighten him more. Saying such words to someone spouse is totally against the teaching of islam. My sister, here is a link to a post I created here on NL last year, please pass it to your husband and I hope he will find it useful. May God bless your home.

https://www.nairaland.com/1807790/being-romantic-sunnah

BCJAY:
Hmmmmmm, some men are not easy to pls no matter how hard you try. He will be at fault and still blame you and if you respond agrily, he will say look at you, you are just going to church for fun just because he is a muslim. I am usually fed up most times despite trying to take it easy, will i go dump all because i profess christ i dont get it but even right now aam very frustrated.

evegran:


LOL! Funny man.

And it's "detest".

Don't mind my typo. It was caused by my auto correct. Thanks for the correction anywhere. Meanwhile you are pretty.