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| An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by misspicy(f): 3:06pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
[b]In an article edited by the APA (American Psychological Association): The 21st century woman is more aggressive and assertive than the 70's or 80's woman - i.e the Ladies of our Generation are not docile like our parents time and they take no nonsense from men or even women of their peers. That being said, my question remains, is it okay for a woman to retaliate or step out on her boyfriend or husband if he is unfaithful? In most cases in Nigeria, men are most likely to cheat, flirt and have 2 or more side chicks. This puts a lot of strain and emotional/cognitive weight on the woman in this situation who most times have dedicated their time and efforts to make the relationship work and they keep seeing signs of their boyfriend or husband's infidelity. Different women have different coping mechanisms to help them through the situation 1) some women go on a eating spree, some confront the sidec-chick 2)some burn or trash her boyfriend's clothes or Cars 3)others decide to step out on their man as well as have their own affair. In my opinion, if you love your man, this is not the best approach or solution to the problem because it is not going to stop the unfaithful man but compound issues. Let's also note that there is double standard in cheating which makes it a "swag" or "ego boaster" for men who cheat and "taboo" or "slut effect" for women who cheat. Society has classified women who cheat as "Bad Eggs" no matter the circumstance. The best and Universal approach is to access and do a damage control in your relationship and if it's not worth it, leave the relationship. Not all men are cheats.[/b] -Article written by a psychologist @Joroolunmofin on IG -pic-google images So ladies, how do you react when you find your boyfriend or man cheating on you? Do you keep letting it slide or you retaliate? What's your own coping mechanism  Note: ur responses will go a long way in helping women whose marriages and relationship is on the venge of collapse http://www.stelladimokokorkus.com/2015/09/an-eye-for-eye-or-not.html?m=1 Cc INTROVERT LADYF GURGLE PUNKYVEER TRYPA AMINAT208 ADEH39 COCOCANDY JOLLYJOY FARANO TWACI TOPHAZ MISSMARY CRYSTAL5 CLASSICB ZEYNEY FLORBLU TOSYNOMOLARA YOURMAIN ESOSA993 DUCHESS25 HALFRICA ELEKTRA RUTHIA FRANASOAN RITABABE FLORENA QUEENCANDACE TRAPQ MISSCLASSY MRSCHIMA NUTARIOUS OREOFELUWA DELECTABLEGYAL SPAXON ONYIIELLA HARYBYGIRL HARSTEIN CHUBBYPEARL KASSYCHUKS JOSPHINE4GOOD MISSBRONZY BEVY12 OLATB23 ZOE41 OMOTAYOR123 MZZTEGA MIZMYCOLI LALASTICLALA
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| Re: An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by adedayourt(m): 3:07pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
ok ama kip off |
| Re: An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by INTROVERT(f): 3:07pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
I don't do boyfriend's but if my hubby cheats on me (which I hope and pray he wont) the best form of retaliation is to hand him over to God. Running your own side show achieves nothing and you expose yourself to all sort of unforseen circumstances. The emotional intelligence to handle a cheating husband is difficult and I don't think I am qualified to try and explain it.  2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by Nobody: 3:14pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
Cheating is a very sensitive issue for me, so I'd never waste my energy going after the other woman or try to get even. I'd simply leave the relationship. Once my trust is broken, there's no turning back. 3 Likes |
| Re: An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by Bevy12(f): 3:18pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
If he is my boyfriend then I'll leave him but if he's my husband then I'll confront him because since he decided to marry me, he should be able to keep his zip up. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by falconey(m): 3:24pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
If guys don't comment I don't think this thread will get pass page 0 2 Likes |
| Re: An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by IamRespected: 3:25pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
See them; claiming superwomen that they will not go after the other lady, truth be said, most Nigerian lady will first deal with the lady before diverting to their lovers Sorry Op I just can't help but to comment |
| Re: An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by Nobody: 3:25pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
It depends on what you mean by ''cheating'' becos on my own part i think cheating encompasses more than just sleeping with another partner..... It has to do with giving all the attention,love,care you ought to give to your partner to someone else.... I seriously dnt think i will end my affair with a guy becos i caught him sleeping with another lady, who knws?the paul i will be running to might be worse,..so? On such cases just get naturally angry if he really cherish me he will apologise and turn a new leaf but if no change is eminent...hmmmm i will slowly genoflect and take my leave, life is too short.... 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by Behira(f): 3:26pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
All this headache abt men......dey are just good to be kept as JUST FRIENDS notin more. 1 Like |
| Re: An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by Nobody: 3:28pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
IamRespected:not all women jare,deal with which lady ,the lady is not at fault,who knws the kinda expensive lies the guy might have tell just to win her heart...I dnt even mind colaborating with the lady just to teach him a lesson... 2 Likes |
| Re: An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by Nobody: 3:30pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
PunkyVeer:cant help but wonder the number of exes you already have... 17 and still counting Lolll. |
| Re: An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by IamRespected: 3:33pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
Jollyjoy:well you might be an exception but eh the one I saw, dm no even touch the guy, they were just fighting as if d guy carry gold 4 dvck |
| Re: An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by pweedyuz(f): 3:33pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
INTROVERT:How do u hand it over 2 God ?? Is it 2 send him straight 2 heaven 2 b taught a lesson d way we send our stubborn children 2 soldiers 2 b disciplined |
| Re: An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by chudidonas(m): 3:34pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
Behira: Just friends?? Even your husband? |
| Re: An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by Nobody: 3:39pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
IamRespected:same way some guys die like chickens cos of woman as if she carry silver for to.to...... Remember abacha and the two women...lollll 1 Like |
| Re: An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by Behira(f): 3:39pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
chudidonas:Men and dia wahala is like ice-cream flavours so many trouble....so its beta dey stay in da friendzone and do not extend dat level. |
| Re: An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by nairalife2013(m): 3:52pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
PunkyVeer:u never jamb a real guy yet...pray for luck to come yur way...and bring a loaded good looking young dude yur way that would love and spoil u, I MEAN SPOIL U and render u helplessly in love in return...yur perception abt life will change. Without much experience, some few ladies still tell when a seed is a peascot and act right in comment and action. 1 Like |
| Re: An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by misspicy(f): 3:53pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
falconey: Noted and corrected  Buh I dont know why our ladies or girls find it so hard to express themselves,for christsake its a faceless forum and this is the reason why decided to mention then all |
| Re: An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by vizkiz: 4:01pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
INTROVERT: so you don't do boyfriends abi? So you will just tell God you need a husband and "your hubby" will just fall down from heaven abi?  |
| Re: An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by MzzTega(f): 4:01pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
Bf has not cheated, Insha Allah he wont. Neither would hubby. I just can't fathom the best way to deal with a cheating partner. All you can do is PRAY. And its also possible that whosoever is a victim of a cheating partner might be suffering from what he/she might have sown in the past. |
| Re: An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by IamRespected: 4:02pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
Jollyjoy:  , na true sha |
| Re: An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by shizzy7(f): 4:04pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
KID PRESENT OP WHAT YOU GONNA DO?? |
| Re: An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by shizzy7(f): 4:04pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
KID PRESENT OP WHAD YOU GONNA DO?? |
| Re: An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by misspicy(f): 4:07pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
adedayourt:You are free to come back please |
| Re: An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by adedayourt(m): 4:08pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
| Re: An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by misspicy(f): 4:09pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
INTROVERT: Bae I would sure love to be like you |
| Re: An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by ladyF(f): 4:09pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
Revenge is just going to make matters worse. Like they say....an eye for an eye will make the whole world blind. I really dont know what I'll do in the situation. You never know till it happens to you. Just pray for wisdom sha..and the grace not to be the cheat. |
| Re: An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by misspicy(f): 4:13pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
PunkyVeer:I love the way you reason it buh dont u tink that is too harsh? Atleast for a 1st timer who also apologise and will u do same in marriage considering the way many men become randy this days |
| Re: An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by misspicy(f): 4:16pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
ladyF:Where af u been girl I wanted you to take the first sit |
| Re: An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by Agimor(m): 4:16pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
So are kids not male or female.perhaps they are robot. Back to topic |
| Re: An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by RedCard1(m): 4:17pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
INTROVERT:He's already cheating on you with Lady F and SUGERBEE. What will you do about that? But then again, there's sense in what you said |
| Re: An Eye For An Eye Or Not? (ladies and guys only....kids keep off) by Omotayor123(f): 4:18pm On Sep 12, 2015 |
Pity when it comes to relationships, ladies can't give an eye for an eye as it will definitely backfire. Patience, Preservation And Prayer is the key.! (The 3ps for women). |
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