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S*x Isn’t The Only Form Of Infidelity In Relationships These Days…see How by Davijunson: 2:01am On Sep 20, 2015
It’s 5:30 am, and your alarm goes off. You open your eyes, and your mind starts racing. Meetings, conference calls and project deadlines all loom. Why is there always so much to do and never enough time to get it done? You grab your phone and scroll through your notifications as you walk into the shower, half awake. Knowing she’s not up, you send her a text message: “Good morning, baby. I hope you have a wonderful day.” This text serves as two reminders: You want her to know she’s the first thing on your mind. And, more importantly, she needs to realize that, regardless of how stressful or busy your days are, she’s the priority. It sounds so perfect, but that’s not reality. Instead, you’ll log into Instagram or Facebook, nosing into everyone else’s life, and maybe, just maybe, you’ll send that text to your woman on the way to work. Relationships these days lack direction. People “date,” but what the hell does that even mean anymore? Is it hanging out twice a month? Texting all day? Kissing here and there? Something is missing. What’s causing relationships to falter at the rate they are? Relationships thrive on communication. Our most intimate emotions are reserved for the person we love, so how is it acceptable to never show them? We’ve accepted so many unacceptable things: sitting at the dinner table with our phones out, arguing over text, publishing every minute of our lives on social media. Do you know what trumps all that? That society has accepted relationships in which we are being cheated on every day. When you think of cheating in the traditional sense, having s*x with another person comes to mind. It’s an intimate situation in which the person you love is connecting with another while you are going about your life, loving and caring for said person. Once you find out, all trust is lost. But think about the concept for a minute. Webster’s Dictionary defines cheating as the deprivation of “something valuable by the use of deceit or fraud.” Sure, s*x is cheating and may be the most hurtful case, but have you ever stopped to think you’re being cheated out of your relationship every day? We experience a lack of communication, attention, passion, intimacy and even lack of love. Why are we okay with this and all the communication shortcuts that have become so common? This type of cheating causes much more damage than that of any s*xual affair. You’ve given your heart to someone and love him or her with every bone in your body, but you have to beg for his or her attention. You sit back and watch this person post status updates about useless things, or post pictures just so people can comment. You need to take a minute to tell her she’s beautiful. Call her after work to say, “Get dressed in 30 minutes. I’m picking you up and taking you somewhere special.” Make an effort. Old-fashioned love needs to make another round. The days of holding hands, opening the car door, taking her out “just because,” sending her flowers just to get a smile and leaving her notes on her car should never be gone. We have to be children when it comes to love. We have to be vulnerable and free. That can’t happen when we’re preoccupied with the details of everyone else’s lives. Focus on each other. When it’s all said and done, that’s all you really have. Appreciate her, and show her how much she means to you. But, most importantly, put your phone down, and dial into what’s in front of you.
Re: S*x Isn’t The Only Form Of Infidelity In Relationships These Days…see How by hYpErbOi: 2:10am On Sep 20, 2015
Question or Advise?

Op Like I need to read this over again to get ur shot.
Re: S*x Isn’t The Only Form Of Infidelity In Relationships These Days…see How by tobe4real(m): 2:12am On Sep 20, 2015
geez is this a novel sad undecided
Re: S*x Isn’t The Only Form Of Infidelity In Relationships These Days…see How by 1miccza: 2:13am On Sep 20, 2015
Wow that's a nice perspective there

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Re: S*x Isn’t The Only Form Of Infidelity In Relationships These Days…see How by Jadonaldson(m): 2:15am On Sep 20, 2015
Davijunson:
It’s 5:30 am, and your alarm goes off. You open
your eyes, and your mind starts racing.
Meetings, conference calls and project
deadlines all loom.
Why is there always so much to do and never
enough time to get it done?
You grab your phone and scroll through your
notifications as you walk into the shower, half
awake.
Knowing she’s not up, you send her a text
message: “Good morning, baby. I hope you
have a wonderful day.”
This text serves as two reminders: You want
her to know she’s the first thing on your mind.
And, more importantly, she needs to realize
that, regardless of how stressful or busy your
days are, she’s the priority.
It sounds so perfect, but that’s not reality.
Instead, you’ll log into Instagram or Facebook,
nosing into everyone else’s life, and maybe, just
maybe, you’ll send that text to your woman on
the way to work.
Relationships these days lack direction. People
“date,” but what the hell does that even mean
anymore? Is it hanging out twice a month?
Texting all day? Kissing here and there?
Something is missing. What’s causing
relationships to falter at the rate they are?
Relationships thrive on communication. Our
most intimate emotions are reserved for the
person we love, so how is it acceptable to never
show them?
We’ve accepted so many unacceptable things:
sitting at the dinner table with our phones out,
arguing over text, publishing every minute of
our lives on social media.
Do you know what trumps all that? That society
has accepted relationships in which we are
being cheated on every day.
When you think of cheating in the traditional
sense, having s*x with another person comes to
mind.
It’s an intimate situation in which the person
you love is connecting with another while you
are going about your life, loving and caring for
said person.
Once you find out, all trust is lost. But think
about the concept for a minute.
Webster’s Dictionary defines cheating as the
deprivation of “something valuable by the use
of deceit or fraud.”
Sure, s*x is cheating and may be the most
hurtful case, but have you ever stopped to think
you’re being cheated out of your relationship
every day?
We experience a lack of communication,
attention, passion, intimacy and even lack of
love. Why are we okay with this and all the
communication shortcuts that have become so
common?
This type of cheating causes much more
damage than that of any s*xual affair.
You’ve given your heart to someone and love
him or her with every bone in your body, but
you have to beg for his or her attention.
You sit back and watch this person post status
updates about useless things, or post pictures
just so people can comment.
You need to take a minute to tell her she’s
beautiful. Call her after work to say, “Get
dressed in 30 minutes. I’m picking you up and
taking you somewhere special.”
Make an effort. Old-fashioned love needs to
make another round.
The days of holding hands, opening the car
door, taking her out “just because,” sending her
flowers just to get a smile and leaving her
notes on her car should never be gone.
We have to be children when it comes to love.
We have to be vulnerable and free. That can’t
happen when we’re preoccupied with the details
of everyone else’s lives.
Focus on each other. When it’s all said and
done, that’s all you really have.
Appreciate her, and show her how much she
means to you. But, most importantly, put your
phone down, and dial into what’s in front of
you.

Una nor dey sleep?

Hmmmm undecided

1 & Only Jadon
Re: S*x Isn’t The Only Form Of Infidelity In Relationships These Days…see How by Davijunson: 2:23am On Sep 20, 2015
tobe4real:
geez is this a novel sad undecided
Take your time to read and comprehend.
Re: S*x Isn’t The Only Form Of Infidelity In Relationships These Days…see How by tobe4real(m): 2:26am On Sep 20, 2015
ok bro
Davijunson:

Take your time to read and comprehend.
Re: S*x Isn’t The Only Form Of Infidelity In Relationships These Days…see How by ademega(m): 2:27am On Sep 20, 2015
good
Re: S*x Isn’t The Only Form Of Infidelity In Relationships These Days…see How by Egwuda33: 2:30am On Sep 20, 2015
quite an Eye Opener.... Ever wondered how the rate of cheating has increased since the introduction of social Media?? it all boils down to the fact that a lot of ppl Pay more attention to their phones rather than to their spouse. and it's so easy getting another person's attention over social media. once you begin to connect with someone else on social Media, Watch it..!!! it's jes the beginning of a long road to something you don't want. if Only ppl will learn to set priorities..
lots of situations will be avoided.

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Re: S*x Isn’t The Only Form Of Infidelity In Relationships These Days…see How by Nobody: 2:34am On Sep 20, 2015
Till the modern man re-embraces polygamy, Cheating will continue to escalate .


Chikena!

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Re: S*x Isn’t The Only Form Of Infidelity In Relationships These Days…see How by Davijunson: 2:41am On Sep 20, 2015
Sabrwahaqqo:
Till the modern man re-embraces polygamy, Cheating will continue to escalate .


Chikena!
going by what you are saying, gals should embrace Polyandry too to curb cheating habit abi? Some ppl sha

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Re: S*x Isn’t The Only Form Of Infidelity In Relationships These Days…see How by Nobody: 2:49am On Sep 20, 2015
Davijunson:

going by what you are saying, gals should embrace Polyandry too to curb cheating habit abi? Some ppl sha


Girls should re-embrace the ethics values and morals the African culture propagates instead.
Re: S*x Isn’t The Only Form Of Infidelity In Relationships These Days…see How by Davijunson: 2:54am On Sep 20, 2015
Sabrwahaqqo:



Girls should re-embrace the ethics values and morals the African culture propagates instead.

Now I agree with you.... But I don't see that ever Happening. that era is gone. that's not to say there aren't ppl with such morals and ethics. they are jes Scarce. hard to really find.
Re: S*x Isn’t The Only Form Of Infidelity In Relationships These Days…see How by delishpot: 3:04am On Sep 20, 2015
Davijunson:
It’s 5:30 am, and your alarm goes off. You open
your eyes, and your mind starts racing.
Meetings, conference calls and project
deadlines all loom.
Why is there always so much to do and never
enough time to get it done?
You grab your phone and scroll through your
notifications as you walk into the shower, half
awake.
Knowing she’s not up, you send her a text
message: “Good morning, baby. I hope you
have a wonderful day.”
This text serves as two reminders: You want
her to know she’s the first thing on your mind.
And, more importantly, she needs to realize
that, regardless of how stressful or busy your
days are, she’s the priority.
It sounds so perfect, but that’s not reality.
Instead, you’ll log into Instagram or Facebook,
nosing into everyone else’s life, and maybe, just
maybe, you’ll send that text to your woman on
the way to work.
Relationships these days lack direction. People
“date,” but what the hell does that even mean
anymore? Is it hanging out twice a month?
Texting all day? Kissing here and there?
Something is missing. What’s causing
relationships to falter at the rate they are?
Relationships thrive on communication. Our
most intimate emotions are reserved for the
person we love, so how is it acceptable to never
show them?
We’ve accepted so many unacceptable things:
sitting at the dinner table with our phones out,
arguing over text, publishing every minute of
our lives on social media.
Do you know what trumps all that? That society
has accepted relationships in which we are
being cheated on every day.
When you think of cheating in the traditional
sense, having s*x with another person comes to
mind.
It’s an intimate situation in which the person
you love is connecting with another while you
are going about your life, loving and caring for
said person.
Once you find out, all trust is lost. But think
about the concept for a minute.
Webster’s Dictionary defines cheating as the
deprivation of “something valuable by the use
of deceit or fraud.”
Sure, s*x is cheating and may be the most
hurtful case, but have you ever stopped to think
you’re being cheated out of your relationship
every day?
We experience a lack of communication,
attention, passion, intimacy and even lack of
love. Why are we okay with this and all the
communication shortcuts that have become so
common?
This type of cheating causes much more
damage than that of any s*xual affair.
You’ve given your heart to someone and love
him or her with every bone in your body, but
you have to beg for his or her attention.
You sit back and watch this person post status
updates about useless things, or post pictures
just so people can comment.
You need to take a minute to tell her she’s
beautiful. Call her after work to say, “Get
dressed in 30 minutes. I’m picking you up and
taking you somewhere special.”
Make an effort. Old-fashioned love needs to
make another round.
The days of holding hands, opening the car
door, taking her out “just because,” sending her
flowers just to get a smile and leaving her
notes on her car should never be gone.
We have to be children when it comes to love.
We have to be vulnerable and free. That can’t
happen when we’re preoccupied with the details
of everyone else’s lives.
Focus on each other. When it’s all said and
done, that’s all you really have.
Appreciate her, and show her how much she
means to you. But, most importantly, put your
phone down, and dial into what’s in front of
you.



True talk

Dabriggs
Re: S*x Isn’t The Only Form Of Infidelity In Relationships These Days…see How by Nobody: 3:17am On Sep 20, 2015
Davijunson:

Now I agree with you.... But I don't see that ever Happening. that era is gone. that's not to say there aren't ppl with such morals and ethics. they are jes Scarce. hard to really find.

Maybe you're right. The society is to a great extent decayed and contaminated with the White man's way af life smiley

However, I do strongly feel that we (the men) lost our respect when we started over burdening our women with rizponsibilities that are not theirs . The modern man that ought to be the head af the family, has started looking for excuses to share rizponsibilities solely designed to be taken care af by him with his woman. Consequently, losing his right to fully acclaim that right to designing the 'structure' he wants for his home. That feeling af guilt you feel as the man and that feeling af 'I'm jilted and cheated' she feels as the woman will be cancelled out/ minimized to a great extent when u decide as the man af ur home to go polygamy instead af cheating on her .

I mean , When the head wakes back up to his duties with full sense af responsibility , he sure should have the guts to reclaim his manly right to absolute control and the woman will have no choice but to stay put being the supporter she's meant to be grin . Do'u agree?
Re: S*x Isn’t The Only Form Of Infidelity In Relationships These Days…see How by GboyegaD(m): 4:09am On Sep 20, 2015
Sabrwahaqqo:

Girls should re-embrace the ethics values and morals the African culture propagates instead.


We men ought to lack ethic values and morals right? Although polygamy was allowed, men were not sleeping around as though it was an achievement. They were bold enough to say they were taking on a second Wife and they had the financial and all other wherewithal. How many men of late posses these attributes?
Re: S*x Isn’t The Only Form Of Infidelity In Relationships These Days…see How by Davijunson: 12:25pm On Sep 20, 2015
Sabrwahaqqo:


Maybe you're right. The society is to a great extent decayed and contaminated with the White man's way af life smiley

However, I do strongly feel that we (the men) lost our respect when we started over burdening our women with rizponsibilities that are not theirs . The modern man that ought to be the head af the family, has started looking for excuses to share rizponsibilities solely designed to be taken care af by him with his woman. Consequently, losing his right to fully acclaim that right to designing the 'structure' he wants for his home. That feeling af guilt you feel as the man and that feeling af 'I'm jilted and cheated' she feels as the woman will be cancelled out/ minimized to a great extent when u decide as the man af ur home to go polygamy instead af cheating on her .

I mean , When the head wakes back up to his duties with full sense af responsibility , he sure should have the guts to reclaim his manly right to absolute control and the woman will have no choice but to stay put being the supporter she's meant to be grin . Do'u agree?
NO... I do not agree. God created Eve for Adam alone. if there was a need for more than one woman in a man's life, God would have made two or more Eves for Adam. Even the Wisest King to have ever lived (King Solomon) after his numerous escapades with Woman came to a conclusion that it's all a waste of time. Culture May permit Polygamy, but that doesn't mean that the Universe does.
Re: S*x Isn’t The Only Form Of Infidelity In Relationships These Days…see How by Nobody: 12:58pm On Sep 20, 2015
Davijunson:

NO... I do not agree. God created Eve for Adam alone. if there was a need for more than one woman in a man's life, God would have made two or more Eves for Adam. Even the Wisest King to have ever lived (King Solomon) after his numerous escapades with Woman came to a conclusion that it's all a waste of time. Culture May permit Polygamy, but that doesn't mean that the Universe does.

Haha Yeye submission!

The thing u fail to understand here is that after the eyes got opened everything refused/ cease to follow the original plan.

Let's take Abraham for e.g, how many wife has he? His he the man of faith no more ? Did God reprimand him

David, how many? Was his 'glorious' son, Solomon birthed by his first wife? -God did reprimand him cos he did his polygamy on a base so illogical and criminally inclined...


Solomon 'overdid' his polygamy grin . He even married from other nations, an act against God's instruction, which led him to worshiping 'gods' . The main why the Lord got angry with him


The fact is going polygamy is not the curse, 'handling' it is the issue. Max of 4 women should do I feel ...


Anyway,
To answer your Universal inclined argument ,

Just look at your church and compare men : women.

Compare the number af women looking out for men to marry to men looking for women to marry

In my family af 5 , I'm the only son. So it is for most of the family I know ; girls outnumber boys grin

The fact is, at every point in time in the population curve, the male population continues to decline when compared to the female's .

At the marriageable age of say 20-35 yrs . What do we have ? Excess of females !

Hence, tallying man to woman 1 to 1 , who'll marry the excess in the female population How won't the man be tempted to cheat when the girl next door is dead ho.rny seducing him?

So, bro I do feel the design af nature is more positively inclined to polygamy than to monogamy or polyandry.

Mind u, the original plan was designed to suit the atmosphere in Eden.
Alas! This is Earth not Eden grin

Nice Sunday bro!
Re: S*x Isn’t The Only Form Of Infidelity In Relationships These Days…see How by peedeeasobie(m): 1:21pm On Sep 20, 2015
Davijunson:
Take your time to read and comprehend.



Don't you know how to paragraph?
Re: S*x Isn’t The Only Form Of Infidelity In Relationships These Days…see How by Davijunson: 12:30am On Sep 21, 2015
peedeeasobie:




Don't you know how to paragraph?
Sorry, I wasn't thought that in sec sch.

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