Fragile relationship÷ 93k shoe= where is common sense?

Timbuktou:
If he can pay back why doesn't he just send the money at christmas time so you can buy and bring it over? Unless this loan is for an indefinite period of time and has a 36 month payback period or till Jesus comes, perhaps!!!

Don't buy the shoes, and tell him why; you don't have the money. Period. I think you're scared of losing this guy, maybe because of your investments in time, emotion, and money already?. But I think going further with someone this selfish and inconsiderate is an even bigger mistake. The more time you spend with this fella, the harder it'll be to leave.

I'm only telling you this because I would do the same if a girlfriend had behaved like your boo. I'd have laughed her to scorn and told her to fvck off. My $0.02.

I'm not scared. Just asking incase there is a 0.1% chance I'm being inconsiderate and uncaring. No money has ever been involved in this relationship. Emotions?, yes. Thanks, I appreciate your your advice.

guccidriver93k:


Am not scared. Just asking incase there is a 0.1% chance I'm been inconsiderate and uncaring. No money has ever been involved in this relationship. Emotions?, yes. Thanks, I appreciate your advice.

If you don't have the money, then you don't. He's in no position to tell you to save for a gift for him. He's the one being inconsiderate and uncaring in this situation. Good luck

Whether una dey check profile before una comment i nor know.......

Timbuktou:


If you don't have the money, then you don't. He's in no position to tell you to save for a gift for him. He's the one being inconsiderate and uncaring in this situation. Good luck

Pls one more thing: after I read the message on the last screenshot, I felt like giving him the insult of his life and walking out. But I also thought of talking a quiet walk out. Which do you think is better?

That young man, for no reason, has really insulted me twice like this before.

I think there are instances where you don't need anyone's advice to know if you are inconsiderate or uncaring. This is one of such.
I also hope you addressed his rudeness except the love dey 'over-shark' you

guccidriver93k:


Pls one more thing: after I read the message on the last screenshot, I felt like giving him the insult of his life and walking out. But I also thought of talking a quiet walk out. Which do you think is better?

That young man, for no reason, has really insulted me twice like this before.

Hehehe. I know you wanted to insult him because you felt hard done by, but you really don't need to. There's been no physical contact in a while so, lyou should make the break up as casual-sounding as possible. This should leave him shocked more than anything else . That's the best way to handle entitled people.

However, he might come back forming Mr. Remorseful, I would advise that you do not rekindle the relationship. Old habits die hard and, at best, he'll keep them dormant till he has no use for you any longer or you could be walking into an abusive and manipulative marriage.

Again, good luck in whatever path you choose.

Timbuktou:


Hehehe. I know you wanted to insult him because you felt hard done by, but you really don't need to. There's been no physical contact in a while so, lyou should make the break up as casual-sounding as possible. This should leave him shocked more than anything else . That's the best way to handle entitled people.

However, he might come back forming Mr. Remorseful, I would advise that you do not rekindle the relationship. Old habits die hard and, at best, he'll keep them dormant till he has no use for you any longer or you could be walking into an abusive and manipulative marriage.

Again, good luck in whatever path you choose.

Thanks so much. The thread can end now. I got all I needed while creating this thread. God bless

@op my advice RUN or sorry Raned
dat guy aint serious at all expecting 93k gift frm u
Now lets go to my 2nd advice 4 u
do u knw a place call onitsha market or alaba ..1).download a picture of the original shoe design when u get to nigeria go straight to those places i mentioned ...2) when u get there ask 4 either Emeka,chukwudi or any name dat rhymes with that shw him d downloaded pic nd ask him to produce 2 pairs of exactly that design 3)tell him u need it in a hurry 4)wait for 2-3hrs nd u have ur gucci driver shoe 4) go meet ur bf nd presnt it to him 5)dnt forget to thank me oooo
NB) it shouldnt cost more than #9,300

5minsmadness:

What's there to advice Your boyfriend said u should buy him something and he'll pay u back when u enter naija. You should have even offered to tell him not to bother paying back and bring it as a gift but that aside what's wrong with it?

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Well maybe a girl should answer this. As a guy I see nothing wrong with it, we give girls gifts all the time. Even when they say they'll pay back and deep down we know they won't we give them anyway. If u don't trust him then u Ave no buisness calling him your boyfriend. If you can afford the n97k but don't want to give him cos you think it's too expensive then politely tell him so.

Abi ladies Wat do you think? Tearoses, MarvellousGod?

She cannot afford it at the moment that is the key issue here!!!

babythug:


She cannot afford it at the moment that is the key issue here!!!

You came late to the party.
It's only now we are getting the full story
Op has modified her post like a zillion times now.

guccidriver93k:


Pls one more thing: after I read the message on the last screenshot, I felt like giving him the insult of his life and walking out. But I also thought of talking a quiet walk out. Which do you think is better?

That young man, for no reason, has really insulted me twice like this before.

Hmmm.
You sound familiar...

5minsmadness:

You came late to the party.
It's only now we are getting the full story
Op has modified her post like a zillion times now.

Sorry about that

babythug:


Sorry about that

Ba wahala

guccidriver93k:

Thanks so much. The thread can end now. I got all I needed while creating this thread. God bless

dear friend run away from dt guy. he is so rude u deserve better

Don't discuss the matter anymore with him, when he brings it up, change the topic. and you may want to take it easy on the relationship. The guy is obviously childish and inconsiderate. Those are traits that will cause a lot of problems in future. He is also unrealistic. Does he expect you to shoplift. A man that is serious about you will not put you under such pressure and make you feel bad while you are going through your own struggle. Because he wants to portray a life that he obviously can't afford. Maybe he has seen that you are desperate?

Buy the drivers and sell it to someone else for 150k

Vikky014:
dear friend run away from dt guy. he is so rude u deserve better

Thanks dear. Your advice is soothing and priceless

baby124:
Don't discuss the matter anymore with him, when he brings it up, change the topic. and you may want to take it easy on the relationship. The guy is obviously childish and inconsiderate. Those are traits that will cause a lot of problems in future. He is also unrealistic. Does he expect you to shoplift. A man that is serious about you will not put you under such pressure and make you feel bad while you are going through your own struggle. Because he wants to portray a life that he obviously can't afford. Maybe he has seen that you are desperate?

Lol ma, Nothing to be desperate for o. I'm not. I'm excellent in every other area of my life. Just happened to be dating a guy who has no respect for anybody, not just me. Well, I'm no longer interested in the relationship. Thanks for your advice.

Timbuktou:
If he can pay back why doesn't he just send the money at christmas time so you can buy and bring it over? Unless this loan is for an indefinite period of time and has a 36 month payback period or till Jesus comes, perhaps!!!

Don't buy the shoes, and tell him why; you don't have the money. Period. I think you're scared of losing this guy, maybe because of your investments in time, emotion, and money already?. But I think going further with someone this selfish and inconsiderate is an even bigger mistake. The more time you spend with this fella, the harder it'll be to leave.

I'm only telling you this because I would do the same if a girlfriend had behaved like your boo. I'd have laughed her to scorn and told her to fvck off. My $0.02.

u nailed it

Don't buy it.
Imagine his tone self
Na so dem dey take ask person for something?

OP , you are just a desperado.
After all said and done you will buy the gucci shoe.
N'a today?

You are even calling him your husband when he hasn't proposed to you.

Chai.
N'a so to get man hard reach you?
Abeg he is not even your boyfriend.
Get a real boyfriend wey go pet you abeg.
Even if na Chinese man.
Which country you dey sef. Man no reach Dia.

Chillisauce:
OP , you are just a desperado.
After all said and done you will buy the gucci shoe.
N'a today?

You are even calling him your husband when he hasn't proposed to you.

Chai.
N'a so to get man hard reach you?
Abeg he is not even your boyfriend.
Get a real boyfriend wey go pet you abeg.
Even if na Chinese man.
Which country you dey sef. Man no reach Dia.

That won no work o...
Chinese men get small prick o

5minsmadness:

That won no work o...
Chinese men get small prick o

How you carry know. Na we suppose tell you the size .
Meanwhile small ones better pass big ones oh.
Make the thing no shift person womb.
Wetin person wan carry oversize do.

Rubbish stories making Frontpage

[size=18pt]if you (Dantata's love child) no fit afford 93,000 Naira shoe....then go ask your mama who your real papa be!!!!!....we may need to go to the Murray Show! [/size]

guccidriver93k:
My boyfriend said I should buy him Gucci Driver shoes worth N93k when I am coming home for Christmas break, said he will give me the money when I come back. This is going to be the first time we will meet since we started our fragile relationship 9 months ago, we knew a bit in University few years ago.

Severally, I have told my boyfriend prior to now that I cannot afford it. Last before now, he said "but you can start saving now and you will get the money before your arrival". So this time, to be the virtuous girlfriend, I had to go all out and check up the prices for this shoe.
I think he assumes that because I am a self-sponsored student abroad, I am Dantata's love child.
Anytime i debunk this claim, he goes like "haba!" and

Lol


Tell him to PayPal you the money first or put it in your naija account

I hate gold digging dudes but if you are expecting the D, then maybe even get it for him for free

After all that's how you womenfolk do us dudes

Ur a one a long thing miss, y nt buy him a car

@guccidriver93k:


He is a gold digger. He is not going to pay you back. If you like buy and send it to him at your own risk. If he is interested in the shoe, then he should wire the funds to you. Period !

You need a Donate Button, period.

Ur aka gum boy friend is not going to pay sh1t..

With that msg I saw, pls get sense, u don't have a boy friend.
No true boy friend will b sounding that way

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bukatyne:


1. Do you know how much his salary is? This would help you know the kind of man he is. If he has vision or not.
2. Since the 93K is your savings, it is not wise to use it for a frivolous want. He might not 'pay' back

Girlfriend, be wise. Tell him you cannot afford it and if he can send 70% or 80% of the money, you would not mind adding up the balance to purchase it. This way, you safeguard your hard earned savings if he doesn't pay back.

Shine your eyes... a man who wants a 93k shoes which he cannot afford at once is suspect.

Goodluck

What else does one expect from a woman that believes a man is created to only spend on his girl and not the other way around..All these immature hungry chicken heads all over the place..but you will expect him to do the same.. He might as well be testing the chic sef.. i hate small-minded women!