Vinshu:
First of all.. this is what we, the feminists are fighting against. In the Nigerian environment there is discrimination against women. African men in general have the Alpha-like feeling that they are the boss of the boss.

And they present it in a way that women are lesser than they are. It's true. Even in the economy, the top positions in offices are run by Men, even major paying jobs are run by Men. Women are mostly traders (Petty) why?

All government offices are headed by Men. In fact I heard a news that a state in South East Nigeria appointed a Man to head women affairs. How long would this continue?

A guy does a favor for you, he expects a Mouth Action. Why?

They feel when they marry you they are doing you are favor. WTF?

If a girl express her feelings towards a guy she cares about.. she is cheap.

I was at an event last week and a guy requested my contact info and I was hesitant in releasing it to him then he offered me money. Why? Like I'm some LovePeddler? Most men have the idea that all women are prostitutes. .direct and indirect that we all love money. It's rude and disrespectful but who cares? It's Men's world.

A girl is raped they blame the girl for her dressing and no one blames the guy. Continue.. there is God.

No one cares about a girl's opinion in a conversation once 3 guys have spoken.. whether it's good or bad it's settled.

I do not blame these men because women are in the shadows. It's time to start fighting for our place in the society and stop feeding them that ego or giving them the chance to feel on top.

So @Op, not Nigeria alone. .it's everywhere.

If you want to get married make sure you use brute force.

emperorchedda:
Not to me nor the guys I know. I even value a girl when she offers to take away some responsibility from the man's shoulders. It brings respect to her

A mature guy will understand this

Vinshu:
First of all.. this is what we, the feminists are fighting against. In the Nigerian environment there is discrimination against women. African men in general have the Alpha-like feeling that they are the boss of the boss.

And they present it in a way that women are lesser than they are. It's true. Even in the economy, the top positions in offices are run by Men, even major paying jobs are run by Men. Women are mostly traders (Petty) why?

All government offices are headed by Men. In fact I heard a news that a state in South East Nigeria appointed a Man to head women affairs. How long would this continue?

A guy does a favor for you, he expects a Mouth Action. Why?

They feel when they marry you they are doing you are favor. WTF?

If a girl express her feelings towards a guy she cares about.. she is cheap.

I was at an event last week and a guy requested my contact info and I was hesitant in releasing it to him then he offered me money. Why? Like I'm some LovePeddler? Most men have the idea that all women are prostitutes. .direct and indirect that we all love money. It's rude and disrespectful but who cares? It's Men's world.

A girl is raped they blame the girl for her dressing and no one blames the guy. Continue.. there is God.

No one cares about a girl's opinion in a conversation once 3 guys have spoken.. whether it's good or bad it's settled.

I do not blame these men because women are in the shadows. It's time to start fighting for our place in the society and stop feeding them that ego or giving them the chance to feel on top.

So @Op, not Nigeria alone. .it's everywhere.

If you want to get married make sure you use brute force.

pryd:
When your male colleague offers you his seat on a bus because he considers you weak to stand for too long; though there are other guys standing, do you reject the seat? no you gladly accept his offer.
Tomorrow at work an issue springs up and you're trying to lecture the same colleague on gender equality; do you think he'd take you serious?

What you "feminists" want is not equality, what you actually want is selective equality.

BeastOfNoNation:


Why are you swearing anyhow? Did anybody swear at you? Besides, a feminist is someone who believes a woman can do what a man can do. So if you see a woman in power then that supports the idea of feminism. Nigeria is an oppressive society for women. It's not impossible to become successful but it's much harder than it needs to be.

BeastOfNoNation:


Is being feminist a bad thing?

AfroKnight:
When a lady wants to reap where she did not sow and a guy resists her she calls him a misogynist, uncaring, stingy, etc. When a guy treats you like his equal by asking you to pay your share of the bill, you say he is not a gentleman that he should pick up the bill LIKE A MAN. When it's time to move heavy furniture or switch on the generator or fix a simple gadget in the office or at home, the women ask the men to do "their job". The weirdest is when two lovers are walking on the road and the woman expects the man to shield her from traffic with his body.

Women are the champions of gender-based roles yet they blame men for inequality. What do you women really want?

BUTCHCASSIDY:


I'm swearing, sue me. Thats the way I talk deal with it.
You want to do what a man can do, then do it dont come here telling us what you ca n or cant do
the world today belongs to the doers male or female.
You just want things handed to you because youre a woman.
It doesnt work that way hun. you get off your lazy ass and achieve something. thats how shìt works
No man gets handed down a top position or money hecause he is a man. as men we are supposed to work
sweat, kill ourselves to prove ourselves. you dont see us complain.
you ever heard of 'no food for lazy man', ' or 'to be a man is not a day's job'?
yeah we dont get handouts, or time outs, and the best part is we cant cry about it either.
the world is just as fùcked up for men as it is for women.
If you have a problem about rising incidents of rape and violence against women, then lets talk about that.
That to me is a more realistic problem. dont come with that feminist baloney

BeastOfNoNation:
Hello Nairaland! This is my first post I've been on Nairaland for a long time but I've never real felt the need to post anything before but this topic was paining me and confusing me at the same time.

As a bonefide Naija babe (REPRESENT), I made up my mind that when I am ready to marry, I MUST marry a Nigerian guy or I would rather die single (nothing wrong with this sha). The only issue I'm encountering thus far is that the Nigerian guys I've met are very misogynistic I don't even understand why. Growing up I was told that as a child of God I could do ANYTHING but I suppose that Nigerian male ego trumps God's word

So this is a question to all the Alpha-Males out there! Why do you believe that women are less than you? I didn't grow up with this ideology at home and neither did my brothers so I would like some clarification!!

Please remember to be respectful in your answer pleeease! No insults because it's not necessary for healthy discussion. patiently waiting for answers!

ilobasama:
am sorry to say but you need to have an open mind and stop generalisation about guys.

why would a man do you a favor and expect a mouth action. is it all guys that behave this way.........if you dont want to find yourself in such situation, then stop accepting favors.

why will you say when a lady is raped , the blame goes to her for indecent dressing.......if you go through the threads about rape on NL, no one ever blames the lady because rape is babaric and should never be condoned. everyone here(guys and ladiez) condems rape

you dont need to be bias about this. ladies have a good place in this modern society, maybe not enough but a good place.

the make up and roles of a woman/mother/wife sometimes makes it difficult for her to find herself in some very high/stressful/tasking/time consuming positions men occupy.

Etetejake:


I think she is trying to incite something else on them womenfolks so they can together fight for their ultimate goal, kx I don't think equality is the ultimate goal they are fighting for. maybe they want to dominate us. all these reasons she has given are nothing but lies.

gj22:
Honestly, I don't blame guys that think this way. It's their parents I blame and the parents before them.

As a guy growing up, I was always taught basically that girls are inferior. It's as I grew up I realised that that is very wrong.

Even girls are taught to be inferior by their parents.

It's sad really. It's very difficult to change an idea that you grew up believing in.

Nigeria is a very backward country and we still hold on to traditions and culture that are very archaic. Tell me how a man will not see his wife as inferior after he technically BOUGHT her from her parents.

emperorchedda:
If women want to be given the same privileges as men then y'all have to start paying the bills after meals, wooing guys, opening car doors for guys, paying your bills, quit asking for money from him all because he's your boyfriend and using your salary to take care of the family together with him

I bet there are women who can do these because i've met one but they are in VERY FEW proportion

BeastOfNoNation:


Please, is there a problem with being feminist?

gj22:


No, don't get me wrong, I am not saying there is an excuse to rape someone.

I am saying in other to avoid getting raped, you need to take precautions. If you don't take precautions and get raped, you have yourself to blame.

You as a human being have a responsibility of protecting yourself from danger. If you don't protect yourself, who is to blame?

Etetejake:


u said u have meet one? there is something u are yet to know about that one u met bkx didn't study her well, if u did u would have finishes your observations. I haven't seen any woman that contributes finacialy without constant fight with the husband about how he is not man enough. Men, always try to be richer than your wife, if not, your name na dede Lambert.

emperorchedda:
LOL
Brother chill. There are. I can authoritatively tell you that. But getting one is like counting a bag of beans; difficult but possible.

I say this because I have seen a few.

BeastOfNoNation:
Hello Nairaland! This is my first post I've been on Nairaland for a long time but I've never real felt the need to post anything before but this topic was paining me and confusing me at the same time.

As a bonefide Naija babe (REPRESENT), I made up my mind that when I am ready to marry, I MUST marry a Nigerian guy or I would rather die single (nothing wrong with this sha). The only issue I'm encountering thus far is that the Nigerian guys I've met are very misogynistic I don't even understand why. Growing up I was told that as a child of God I could do ANYTHING but I suppose that Nigerian male ego trumps God's word

So this is a question to all the Alpha-Males out there! Why do you believe that women are less than you? I didn't grow up with this ideology at home and neither did my brothers so I would like some clarification!!

Please remember to be respectful in your answer pleeease! No insults because it's not necessary for healthy discussion. patiently waiting for answers!

Etetejake:


Bro, I didn't say there is none, I only say it is at the detriment of the husband's respect and pride. If u see them quarreling u will doubt your ears on what she will be saying. I have seen lots and lots of them.

emperorchedda:
You have a point

But there are still respectful ones...Just with a lesser proportion. When you see one, hold her tight cos you might not meet another in your lifetime.

They are reducing by each passing day

Vinshu:
First of all.. this is what we, the feminists are fighting against. In the Nigerian environment there is discrimination against women. African men in general have the Alpha-like feeling that they are the boss of the boss.

And they present it in a way that women are lesser than they are. It's true. Even in the economy, the top positions in offices are run by Men, even major paying jobs are run by Men. Women are mostly traders (Petty) why?

All government offices are headed by Men. In fact I heard a news that a state in South East Nigeria appointed a Man to head women affairs. How long would this continue?

A guy does a favor for you, he expects a Mouth Action. Why?


If a girl express her feelings towards a guy she cares about

I was at an event last week and a guy requested my contact info and I was hesitant in releasing it to him then he offered me money. Why? Like I'm some LovePeddler?

tosyne2much:
Ooooh my God !!!
I so much love this
Will you marry me ?

Etetejake:
If u want to know what women really want go and read ANIMAL FARM BY GEORGE ORWELL. I won't be surprised to see some women being treated as inferior by other women when they finally overthrow us.

BeastOfNoNation:

So essentially, being feminist won't land me a husband?

pryd:
When your male colleague offers you his seat on a bus because he considers you weak to stand for too long; though there are other guys standing, do you reject the seat? no you gladly accept his offer.
Tomorrow at work an issue springs up and you're trying to lecture the same colleague on gender equality; do you think he'd take you serious?

What you "feminists" want is not equality, what you actually want is selective equality.

Vinshu:
First of all.. this is what we, the feminists are fighting against. In the Nigerian environment there is discrimination against women. African men in general have the Alpha-like feeling that they are the boss of the boss.

And they present it in a way that women are lesser than they are. It's true. Even in the economy, the top positions in offices are run by Men, even major paying jobs are run by Men. Women are mostly traders (Petty) why?

All government offices are headed by Men. In fact I heard a news that a state in South East Nigeria appointed a Man to head women affairs. How long would this continue?

A guy does a favor for you, he expects a Mouth Action. Why?

They feel when they marry you they are doing you are favor. WTF?

If a girl express her feelings towards a guy she cares about.. she is cheap.

I was at an event last week and a guy requested my contact info and I was hesitant in releasing it to him then he offered me money. Why? Like I'm some LovePeddler? Most men have the idea that all women are prostitutes. .direct and indirect that we all love money. It's rude and disrespectful but who cares? It's Men's world.

A girl is raped they blame the girl for her dressing and no one blames the guy. Continue.. there is God.

No one cares about a girl's opinion in a conversation once 3 guys have spoken.. whether it's good or bad it's settled.

I do not blame these men because women are in the shadows. It's time to start fighting for our place in the society and stop feeding them that ego or giving them the chance to feel on top.

So @Op, not Nigeria alone. .it's everywhere.

If you want to get married make sure you use brute force.